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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So theres guys here who are playing without permission and alot of women will be judgemental about it but when it's the other way about are guys the same or does a married women playing without permission bother you ?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I think because its harder for men to get meets they are just grateful to anyone who says yes so not really bothered if they are single or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I would have to say No I wouldn't if I could avoid it.

Had a couple of separate socials at my place and during message exchange etc.. I did asked if they were married or have a boyfriend etc.. and they said no.

But during the social one let slip that she was married and one said she had a BF and both didn't know. I ended the socials there and then.

I'm on a swinging site and suppose I don't want to play behind any hubby's or BF's back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing here "bothers" me in particular. Everyone here is here for what they want and that is their business. In regard to your question though, men in general care less about a woman's status. At least that's my observation, others may have found differently

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Suppose it’s individual but I know guys who are not interested in married or attached and they stick to their principles

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character


"Suppose it’s individual but I know guys who are not interested in married or attached and they stick to their principles "

Thank god for that, I was beginning to think this was turning into a single men -bashing thread.

I wouldn't entertain a female cheating behind their partner's back. Perhaps that's because I am an actual single male.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Mostly no the power of the jita for many means they can do no wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there's double standards on here...silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't meet a married chick without her fella ,I'd much rather meet them together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own.

I don't judge as you never know what the full circumstances are.

But always did find it odd that some women wont play with a married guy... full stop.... but will with a married woman.

Another of fabs quirks... lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose I would have to say No I wouldn't if I could avoid it.

Had a couple of separate socials at my place and during message exchange etc.. I did asked if they were married or have a boyfriend etc.. and they said no.

But during the social one let slip that she was married and one said she had a BF and both didn't know. I ended the socials there and then.

I'm on a swinging site and suppose I don't want to play behind any hubby's or BF's back"
defo heard this story before...multiple times actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own stories but personally I don’t believe in cheating and wouldn’t meet someone knowing they were cheating and lots of guys I know have the same moral standards when it comes to the women they meet. I know lots of people who play away from home and some I don’t agree with their reasons for doing so but others I can totally understand why they do what they do. I don’t think men and women are that different, if it’s just a random hook up and you’re never going to see someone again and have no intention of learning anything about that person then it can be easier to not care but you can do that on a night out far easier than a swinging site !

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

I wouldn't meet a Male or female playing without permission ethical non monogamy is alot different than cheating

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I try not to judge anyone as no one knows their circumstances but I prefer everything to be above board.

However there are some on here who seem to revel in the fact that they are cheating, those people get a wide berth.

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By *enovo2018Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Had several conversations with ladies who have no indication of married or BF on their profile and they have read my profile that states clearly no married or with bf only to confess it after hours/days of chatting.. be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had several conversations with ladies who have no indication of married or BF on their profile and they have read my profile that states clearly no married or with bf only to confess it after hours/days of chatting.. be honest! "

If it's a deal breaker, ask them straight off if they have a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We need a "I smell shite" emoji for 99.9% of the single guys who claim they wouldnt play with a married woman give half a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We need a "I smell shite" emoji for 99.9% of the single guys who claim they wouldnt play with a married woman give half a chance. "

My finger would rarely press anything else

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

It’s all about your own standards

I think both are wrong and I’ve never felt it’s ok for either sex to cheat

I don’t want to harm anyone’s partner and it defiantly does when if it gets found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We need a "I smell shite" emoji for 99.9% of the single guys who claim they wouldnt play with a married woman give half a chance. "
or cpls who say they wouldn't meet a married fem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem in theory with meeting attached men. It's not my place to judge and nor is it my place to feel guilty.

However the practicalities of that usually mean that it's all on their terms eg not weekends or evenings because they are at home and that doesn't work for me.

I'm here for my own wants and needs,no one else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago I would have agreed with no cheating. But I've learned that life isn't so simple.

But I'm up front about my situation and fully respect everyone individual choices and decisions.

Never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few years ago I would have agreed with no cheating. But I've learned that life isn't so simple.

But I'm up front about my situation and fully respect everyone individual choices and decisions.

Never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes."

I used to be pretty judgemental before I came on here and started chatting to folk to be honest. Fab has been good for me in that respect.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour


"A few years ago I would have agreed with no cheating. But I've learned that life isn't so simple.

But I'm up front about my situation and fully respect everyone individual choices and decisions.

Never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes."

Then when you have walked a mile in their shoes you will find out ,yep your a Mile away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very much married, but we're on here together so we both see all messages.

We started off only meeting couples, then dabbled a bit individually.

Current circumstances are that only I'm meeting for the time being.

I'm not cheating as have full consent, but everyone is entitled to their opinion and if it bothers them, then I get that.

But I won't judge anyone on their reasons for being here, we all have them. And I'm not looking for a relationship, I already have one.

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few years ago I would have agreed with no cheating. But I've learned that life isn't so simple.

But I'm up front about my situation and fully respect everyone individual choices and decisions.

Never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes.

Then when you have walked a mile in their shoes you will find out ,yep your a Mile away "

What if you walked in a circle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few years ago I would have agreed with no cheating. But I've learned that life isn't so simple.

But I'm up front about my situation and fully respect everyone individual choices and decisions.

Never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes.

Then when you have walked a mile in their shoes you will find out ,yep your a Mile away "

...and you have their shoes

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Technically,if a womans info had it included in profile,the "im attached so need to be uber secret squirrels",i would not even dare an attempt at contacting.

If even with all the principles in the world,you were to stumble across someone you liked the look of, connected,got on real well with yet had no idea they were married/attached.

Not sure what anyone then does in that situation,seen others put themselves in the situation.

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