FabSwingers.com forum: Organising a party

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been toying with the idea of a small gangbang party for A's birthday at end of Sept, we have rented a house with hot tub near Blairgowrie but not quite sure how to go about it. As we have all found out, people dont always show up when they say they will, for genuine reasons or not. Ideally we would like 3-5 guests so any tips how to judge how many to actually agree to invite? Dont want noone to show up but also wouldnt be comfortable with 10+, (or have room to accomodate!)

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By *ecorumtvTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

I've always found with group events that you can guarantee at least a 50% attrition rate.

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

Well you have 2 recent veris so you are already halfway there possibly if you invite them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no one did turn up least you can have fun together.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I certainly wouldn't be inviting anyone into my hot tub without meeting them previously but good luck

John

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I used to host large parties and spent ages meeting people I didn't already know that were interested in coming to make sure everyone would get on and have fun.

Start with your friends list and people you've already met and work from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for the advice. recent veris are unable to make it, appreciate the logic though. we are probably too early on to have the network to arrange this comfortably, so will see what happens. unfortunately dont have the free time to meet up for socials with people before the date so thats always a risk. just have to go on gut instinct and chat, maybe speak on phone, and hope judgement sees us right.

as you say, if all else fails and we spend the weekend just the two of us together in a nice place with a hot tub, not exactly a hardship is it

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Sausage rolls

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would search for profiles in the area that take your fancy and ask them if they are interested.

I personally think advertising it and hoping genuine will respond will increase the fools, fantasists & no shows on the night.

Put the effort in, reap the rewards

Good luck

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Plus less than 1% of profiles use the forums so not many will see your post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah gathered that the forums are not widely _iewed. we put up a status and will put up a scheduled meet when it allows, cant yet as its over a month away still.

got to wonder how people did stuff like this years ago, before modern technology

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"yeah gathered that the forums are not widely _iewed. we put up a status and will put up a scheduled meet when it allows, cant yet as its over a month away still.

got to wonder how people did stuff like this years ago, before modern technology

Car keys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Car keys

car keys and sausage rolls, nailed it :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Car keys n sausage rolls?

I'd go

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The second anyone asks ‘what will we do’ or ‘what will you be wearing’

Block

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The second anyone asks ‘what will we do’ or ‘what will you be wearing’

Block

took us a while to figure out the fantasists' banter!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"The second anyone asks ‘what will we do’ or ‘what will you be wearing’

Block

took us a while to figure out the fantasists' banter!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get video chat going. Much better

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

If you have time meet them for a non sex meet first that will help with if genuine or not

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"yeah gathered that the forums are not widely _iewed. we put up a status and will put up a scheduled meet when it allows, cant yet as its over a month away still.

got to wonder how people did stuff like this years ago, before modern technology

Letters in the mags

Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe worth having a look for historic posts from the area on the forums where folk have tried to arrange social events and parties or have actually attended them and see if any are of interest, at the very least if it’s people who genuinely attend similar events and then if there’s fun to be had all the better

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"The second anyone asks ‘what will we do’ or ‘what will you be wearing’

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Totally this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hold parties in Hull have done for years now. It’s very hard work and takes a lot of time to get up and running. Start of with people you know and build from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love be to attend ,I think you guys would hold a great party

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By *olmeyMan
over a year ago

Koh Lanta

"We hold parties in Hull have done for years now. It’s very hard work and takes a lot of time to get up and running. Start of with people you know and build from there. "

I second that, with me hosting the second Borders Farmhouse Bash Party on Saturday night where 60+ guests are expected at my place that certainly wouldn't be happening without the hard work that Pringles and a group of great local friends have put in plotting and organising things with me.

Best advice I can give?

If it's a big party you're planning, don't even think of doing it all yourself, make it a joint effort, with to me the party I'm hosting on Saturday not being "my" party, but a FAB Borders Community Party that just happens to be held at my place as it's so ideal for parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have our next party in two weeks if anyone is interested in attending.

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Feel free to pm or our party profile Hull Parties if you would like any more info or search Summer BBQ in the party section on the forum.

Pm to get on the guest list and join Hulls Biggest Swingers Parties this September.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Meet guess first for a social and you'll be able better to pick the right ones as well as determine reliability, than just relying on remote chats.

Set clear rules and ensure they are understood. Having assistants who supervise may be really good too. Having a contribution in advance could help to sort the wheat from the chaff.

Discuss thoroughly what you all want, to help everyone be there for the right reasons, with the focus on it being your party.

If it's single men - assess whether they are truly single as partners could restrict them!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"yeah gathered that the forums are not widely _iewed. we put up a status and will put up a scheduled meet when it allows, cant yet as its over a month away still.

got to wonder how people did stuff like this years ago, before modern technology

I'd post earlier for you to get to meet them beforehand. It will also increase the potential numbers, as some will get diaries booked, as it gets closer to the date. . Arranging socials is extra work - and there's plenty to do, as you realise - but could improve the suitability of guests and give you confidence that more will follow through.

It's worth having a plan B too.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Go to After 8 or CJs and meet potential people. You’ll meet more people in one night or go on a greedy girl night to meet lots of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to a couple now and the guy who hosts asked for £10 PayPal transaction that would be refunded once you arrived, kick's out the time wasters

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Just see it for what it is/will be, your first go at hosting a party.

If its a success and great fun it will spur you on to do it again, even if its not as you hoped,weigh up the positives v negatives from it.

You can use various theories that might guarantee attendance, "only verifieds,people been on site for over a year",you'll still get a percentage that last minute cancel on you.

I found straightforward,minimal info asked type people were dependable but the "20 questions/multimessaging" people never had any intentions of attending.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry forgot about this thread, thanks for all the advice, taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we hosted our last party we invited people we had met before and got recommendations from them on who to invite then the people recommended to us recommended more people if that makes sense and that made up the bulk of the party.

The others had messaged and we checked their veris, spoke a bit and got a feel for who would and who wouldn’t show up. We also had a pre party group chat.

Good luck with organising it, hopefully it is a success. There’s not enough parties on fab now in my opinion

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