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"Now I have been on here for a while now under different profile names ( change when bored ) but what I have noticed within these times that people have a misconception to what this site is about now that Covers All , so I wonder if there is others out there like me who like to talk there mind or forever hold there peace , it's beyond me .yae or nae . Naughty step awaits " Huh? | |||
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"Now I have been on here for a while now under different profile names ( change when bored ) but what I have noticed within these times that people have a misconception to what this site is about now that Covers All , so I wonder if there is others out there like me who like to talk there mind or forever hold there peace , it's beyond me .yae or nae . Naughty step awaits " What you smokin there mate | |||
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"Now I have been on here for a while now under different profile names ( change when bored ) but what I have noticed within these times that people have a misconception to what this site is about now that Covers All , so I wonder if there is others out there like me who like to talk there mind or forever hold there peace , it's beyond me .yae or nae . Naughty step awaits Huh? " I’d also like clarification on the question OP? | |||
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"I think what he means is some folk see it as a hook up sex site rather than a swingers site. I think so anyway " An oft discussed topic... the internet has exploded since fab started so yes it’s changed. Some still use it as was (swinging as a lifestyle) others as a hook up site... everyone uses it for their needs, horses for courses I’m sure you’ll agree. (Still would like the OP to clarify though) | |||
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"42! Do I win? Is that the right answer? " It’ll do for me | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban " There’s been lots of threads the same so would hope you don’t get a ban... see above my response | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban " Have you ever even had a ban op? R | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R " yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang " And how long ago was that? R | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R " why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough " Just being nosy. Wasn't aware you'd been using the forums long enough to get a ban ..... or say anything that bad. R | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban " Everyone uses fab for different reasons! Each to their own | |||
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"42! Do I win? Is that the right answer? It’ll do for me " What's my prize? Only thing I've ever won was a bucket and a mop at bingo. And my Maw claimed it! | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough Just being nosy. Wasn't aware you'd been using the forums long enough to get a ban ..... or say anything that bad. R " been here a good few years now and if you had been here as long you might have remembered the member I mentioned in my post what a person straight taller no Arse n Grace's , | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough Just being nosy. Wasn't aware you'd been using the forums long enough to get a ban ..... or say anything that bad. R been here a good few years now and if you had been here as long you might have remembered the member I mentioned in my post what a person straight taller no Arse n Grace's , " You have no idea how long I've been here for. I just choose not to name drop. R | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough Just being nosy. Wasn't aware you'd been using the forums long enough to get a ban ..... or say anything that bad. R been here a good few years now and if you had been here as long you might have remembered the member I mentioned in my post what a person straight taller no Arse n Grace's , You have no idea how long I've been here for. I just choose not to name drop. R " ah well at least we av something in common cheers | |||
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"There's no misconception if people are using the site in a way that suits them " This | |||
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"42! Do I win? Is that the right answer? It’ll do for me What's my prize? Only thing I've ever won was a bucket and a mop at bingo. And my Maw claimed it!" I’ll babysit the sprogs for a night so you and Mr can go on a date night | |||
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"The man above is correct in his assumption off what I mean and covers all means I am not picking on one sex so open to all sexes . Naughty step awaits as usually these post get you a ban Have you ever even had a ban op? R yip and that was for speaking my mind let's say it was a gagging order . I always mind The View saying totally agree but don't see this going far . Bang And how long ago was that? R why all the interest I said I had been on the Naughty step is that not enough Just being nosy. Wasn't aware you'd been using the forums long enough to get a ban ..... or say anything that bad. R " You can also get bans for discussing bans | |||
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"Now I have been on here for a while now under different profile names ( change when bored ) but what I have noticed within these times that people have a misconception to what this site is about now that Covers All , so I wonder if there is others out there like me who like to talk there mind or forever hold there peace , it's beyond me .yae or nae . Naughty step awaits " I think people use the site in different ways, and I don’t think there’s necessarily a ‘wrong’ way (unless it breaks site rules obviously) Just you do you | |||
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"Now I have been on here for a while now under different profile names ( change when bored ) but what I have noticed within these times that people have a misconception to what this site is about now that Covers All , so I wonder if there is others out there like me who like to talk there mind or forever hold there peace , it's beyond me .yae or nae . Naughty step awaits I think people use the site in different ways, and I don’t think there’s necessarily a ‘wrong’ way (unless it breaks site rules obviously) Just you do you " For example, people use it for dating, and to begin with I thought ‘well that’s odd’ but I guess it makes sense - if you’re looking for a swinging type relationship, what better place to look than a swinging site? I know of a few couples who have met on here. | |||
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"OP, just forget you asked the question, as proven by one of the replies if you are not an hourly poster in the Scottish forums those whom unofficially police and believe they are the king/queen of forums will berate you with passive agressive replies. And yes; the member you mentioned did indeed speak his mind as did his sadly missed female friend. M " First time I've ever been given that title! And those that really know me would definitely not describe me as such. R | |||
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"OP, just forget you asked the question, as proven by one of the replies if you are not an hourly poster in the Scottish forums those whom unofficially police and believe they are the king/queen of forums will berate you with passive agressive replies. And yes; the member you mentioned did indeed speak his mind as did his sadly missed female friend. M First time I've ever been given that title! And those that really know me would definitely not describe me as such. R " You have chosen to believe that reply was aimed at yourself,there are numerous people whom have replied to the OP's initial post. | |||
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"Well I'm with the OP on this. Its a swinger's site not a dating site unless you find a date then want to have some swinging fun lol . Its affiliated with cjs and other swinger's clubs NO ? Not as many swinger's sites compared to 1000s of dating sites. So it's understandable why the swinger's get annoyed that there's people on here only looking to date straight and not want the fun to which it is intended by the name in which this site belongs . Its called fab swinger's for a reason. Correct me if I'm wrong but come on. Daters have loads more options and meeting grounds than swinger's do. Thus reason why swinger's are getting frustrated ." It's a site for people to use in a way that suits them. If swingers are getting frustrated then perhaps they should reflect on how they go about things | |||
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"Well I'm with the OP on this. Its a swinger's site not a dating site unless you find a date then want to have some swinging fun lol . Its affiliated with cjs and other swinger's clubs NO ? Not as many swinger's sites compared to 1000s of dating sites. So it's understandable why the swinger's get annoyed that there's people on here only looking to date straight and not want the fun to which it is intended by the name in which this site belongs . Its called fab swinger's for a reason. Correct me if I'm wrong but come on. Daters have loads more options and meeting grounds than swinger's do. Thus reason why swinger's are getting frustrated . It's a site for people to use in a way that suits them. If swingers are getting frustrated then perhaps they should reflect on how they go about things " This. | |||
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"Well I'm with the OP on this. Its a swinger's site not a dating site unless you find a date then want to have some swinging fun lol . Its affiliated with cjs and other swinger's clubs NO ? Not as many swinger's sites compared to 1000s of dating sites. So it's understandable why the swinger's get annoyed that there's people on here only looking to date straight and not want the fun to which it is intended by the name in which this site belongs . Its called fab swinger's for a reason. Correct me if I'm wrong but come on. Daters have loads more options and meeting grounds than swinger's do. Thus reason why swinger's are getting frustrated . It's a site for people to use in a way that suits them. If swingers are getting frustrated then perhaps they should reflect on how they go about things This. " +1 | |||
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"Well I'm with the OP on this. Its a swinger's site not a dating site unless you find a date then want to have some swinging fun lol . Its affiliated with cjs and other swinger's clubs NO ? Not as many swinger's sites compared to 1000s of dating sites. So it's understandable why the swinger's get annoyed that there's people on here only looking to date straight and not want the fun to which it is intended by the name in which this site belongs . Its called fab swinger's for a reason. Correct me if I'm wrong but come on. Daters have loads more options and meeting grounds than swinger's do. Thus reason why swinger's are getting frustrated . It's a site for people to use in a way that suits them. If swingers are getting frustrated then perhaps they should reflect on how they go about things This. +1" +2 | |||
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"Dating sites aren't something people keep private unlike swinger sites , swinger's if you have noticed want discretion well most I've come across do ,where as when you mix both there is more chance that descretion becomes void and can become a topic for conversation. Just don't think the two should be mixed . As it is there is already so many fake people on here . The two should be seperate as people are looking for different aspects of things in the swinging world and I can guarantee alot of straight singles only looking to date opposite sex are and have been shocked at some messages and this again becomes up for discussion in open world . Maybe all should take the descretionary option off their profiles because you just can't mix the two. My opinion and I can assure you its not only me who thinks this. " So your saying singles can’t be swingers and aren’t discreet... rather rude actually! | |||
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"Dating sites aren't something people keep private unlike swinger sites , swinger's if you have noticed want discretion well most I've come across do ,where as when you mix both there is more chance that descretion becomes void and can become a topic for conversation. Just don't think the two should be mixed . As it is there is already so many fake people on here . The two should be seperate as people are looking for different aspects of things in the swinging world and I can guarantee alot of straight singles only looking to date opposite sex are and have been shocked at some messages and this again becomes up for discussion in open world . Maybe all should take the descretionary option off their profiles because you just can't mix the two. My opinion and I can assure you its not only me who thinks this. " There are thousands of profiles on here so I honestly don't understand the frustration. Scanning through profile blurbs, verifications and the club reviews (which could all be shite), I'd argue that couples looking for other couples (I.e genuine swingers) have the most choice and options on the site. | |||
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"No singles with no intentions of swinging . The ones who only want a relations with no intentions to swing. " I don’t think that’s very common though? Any singles I have met have no interest in dating.. neither do I, if I did I would go to pof or tinder tbh | |||
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"No singles with no intentions of swinging . The ones who only want a relations with no intentions to swing. I don’t think that’s very common though? Any singles I have met have no interest in dating.. neither do I, if I did I would go to pof or tinder tbh" Why shouldn't single people seek a relationship here? After all having open conversations about sexual interests and needs is important to a relationship. A lot of people are unhappy in relationships because that element is missing? | |||
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"No singles with no intentions of swinging . The ones who only want a relations with no intentions to swing. I don’t think that’s very common though? Any singles I have met have no interest in dating.. neither do I, if I did I would go to pof or tinder tbh Why shouldn't single people seek a relationship here? After all having open conversations about sexual interests and needs is important to a relationship. A lot of people are unhappy in relationships because that element is missing?" I never said they shouldn’t? Just I don’t know anyone that wants to ... | |||
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"Well when myself and hubby discussed swinging . We decided to look for a site that would enlighten us and give us opportunities in the swinging world. So search swinger's groups and Fabswingers came up. Its a swinging site!!! . Not a dating site and it's affiliated with swinging clubs . So thought great , descretion, fun bonus. But discover it's not just a swinger's site its also a dating site for singles who don't swing lol.so got to understand some unease for us . There are singles and it's no wonder some couples feel uneasy as can cause alot of insecurities with husband's or wives as there is potential for the singles who are not into swinging to actually approach a couple ( say for instance the wife who is in chat and single guy wants to chat without hubby present ) and disrupt the couple by causing issues . These things have been known to happen This is not me I'm secure as hell in my marriage but in general . So those couples who came to join a swinging site find out it not actually just that , yea there is disappointment in that aspect of it. " Yet there are many couples looking for a male or female to join them, surely a single person works in that scenario? It's a shame that some couples have this elitist attitude that their way is the only way... | |||
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"Well when myself and hubby discussed swinging . We decided to look for a site that would enlighten us and give us opportunities in the swinging world. So search swinger's groups and Fabswingers came up. Its a swinging site!!! . Not a dating site and it's affiliated with swinging clubs . So thought great , descretion, fun bonus. But discover it's not just a swinger's site its also a dating site for singles who don't swing lol.so got to understand some unease for us . There are singles and it's no wonder some couples feel uneasy as can cause alot of insecurities with husband's or wives as there is potential for the singles who are not into swinging to actually approach a couple ( say for instance the wife who is in chat and single guy wants to chat without hubby present ) and disrupt the couple by causing issues . These things have been known to happen This is not me I'm secure as hell in my marriage but in general . So those couples who came to join a swinging site find out it not actually just that , yea there is disappointment in that aspect of it. " also when the husband just wants to chat to the single female when wife is out. | |||
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"Well when myself and hubby discussed swinging . We decided to look for a site that would enlighten us and give us opportunities in the swinging world. So search swinger's groups and Fabswingers came up. Its a swinging site!!! . Not a dating site and it's affiliated with swinging clubs . So thought great , descretion, fun bonus. But discover it's not just a swinger's site its also a dating site for singles who don't swing lol.so got to understand some unease for us . There are singles and it's no wonder some couples feel uneasy as can cause alot of insecurities with husband's or wives as there is potential for the singles who are not into swinging to actually approach a couple ( say for instance the wife who is in chat and single guy wants to chat without hubby present ) and disrupt the couple by causing issues . These things have been known to happen This is not me I'm secure as hell in my marriage but in general . So those couples who came to join a swinging site find out it not actually just that , yea there is disappointment in that aspect of it. " At the risk of sounding like an argumentative wee boot (yes...me...shockeroonie) I've heard the exact same story between 2 couples. When one partner approaches another half of the couple to pursue some extra curricular activities. Being a "bona fide" swinger guarantees fuck all in terms of discretion or anything else. Where sex is involved, there is always there is always the potential for things to go tits up. | |||
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"No singles with no intentions of swinging . The ones who only want a relations with no intentions to swing. I don’t think that’s very common though? Any singles I have met have no interest in dating.. neither do I, if I did I would go to pof or tinder tbh Why shouldn't single people seek a relationship here? After all having open conversations about sexual interests and needs is important to a relationship. A lot of people are unhappy in relationships because that element is missing? I never said they shouldn’t? Just I don’t know anyone that wants to ..." While I'm not particularly looking for a relationship on here or in general, my experience is that the men on here are more interesting, more intelligent, more appealing than any I've ever encountered on a traditional dating site. That in itself makes it a good place to look if I was seeking something more . Combined with my previous comments about that open communication about sex , hopefully without judgement, why wouldn't you? | |||
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"Dating sites aren't something people keep private unlike swinger sites , swinger's if you have noticed want discretion well most I've come across do ,where as when you mix both there is more chance that descretion becomes void and can become a topic for conversation. Just don't think the two should be mixed . As it is there is already so many fake people on here . The two should be seperate as people are looking for different aspects of things in the swinging world and I can guarantee alot of straight singles only looking to date opposite sex are and have been shocked at some messages and this again becomes up for discussion in open world . Maybe all should take the descretionary option off their profiles because you just can't mix the two. My opinion and I can assure you its not only me who thinks this. There are thousands of profiles on here so I honestly don't understand the frustration. Scanning through profile blurbs, verifications and the club reviews (which could all be shite), I'd argue that couples looking for other couples (I.e genuine swingers) have the most choice and options on the site. " I would say ..Couples looking for Couples must be really difficult ..Im sure theres 4 people needing to hit it aff or its a dead parrot x | |||
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"Absolutely , that would be classed as swinging. If single wants to mingle with the couple. Ffm/ mmf / mfmf ffffmmmmm all swinging or comes under same umbrella but singles not wanting to mingle. There are many singles male and female who love a challenge of stealing a married man or woman. Its appealing to some. It obviously doesn't apply to all but most definitely some." Seriously???!! R | |||
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"I think you are misreading what I'm saying if you joined as couple but now single . That's totally different to joining single with no intentions of swinging whatsoever. " I was more shocked at your generalisation that a lot of singles are out to break up relationships. R | |||
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"I think you are misreading what I'm saying if you joined as couple but now single . That's totally different to joining single with no intentions of swinging whatsoever. I was more shocked at your generalisation that a lot of singles are out to break up relationships. R " I'm with you on this littlemiss the generalisation on people looking to break up marriages. My understanding I see quite alot people won't meet attached/ married males.. But as a married women & being bi couples disregard that because they are looking for their fantasies being fulfilled.. I had I was a married woman it didn't stop said people contacting me. | |||
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"I think you are misreading what I'm saying if you joined as couple but now single . That's totally different to joining single with no intentions of swinging whatsoever. I was more shocked at your generalisation that a lot of singles are out to break up relationships. R " | |||
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"I've had plenty married men in my time and it is not my intention to break up relationships. Infact I've probably kept them together! I'm still offended by your comment that single people are out to break up marriages. Maybe you've had a bad experience that's left you bitter? Or is it that you've approached a single person and they have turned you down? I think your arguments are pretty flawed. Regardless of the name of the site , people will use it to meet their own needs. Rather than moaning about it, use it as a filter to find what you are looking for. It's not like it's not obvious if it's a single profile or a couple profile? Set your filters and use the tools of the site. There are far too many people obsessed with what others are doing , then wonder why they are missing out? Go figure!" That last paragraph though... | |||
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"So what happens if you originally join as a couple then become single? Should you give up swinging then? R " Not unless you want to. Deleting the Couples profile and creating a Singles profile would be a good start. | |||
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"So what happens if you originally join as a couple then become single? Should you give up swinging then? R Not unless you want to. Deleting the Couples profile and creating a Singles profile would be a good start. " Exactly what I did do. & it's worked well for me & still does. R | |||
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"Notice how it's all the singles who all up in my comments . Go figure . " Maybe because some of us singles have been here for a number of years & are absolutely nothing like the singles you have encountered. R | |||
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"Well I'm with the OP on this. Its a swinger's site not a dating site unless you find a date then want to have some swinging fun lol . Its affiliated with cjs and other swinger's clubs NO ? Not as many swinger's sites compared to 1000s of dating sites. So it's understandable why the swinger's get annoyed that there's people on here only looking to date straight and not want the fun to which it is intended by the name in which this site belongs . Its called fab swinger's for a reason. Correct me if I'm wrong but come on. Daters have loads more options and meeting grounds than swinger's do. Thus reason why swinger's are getting frustrated ." not being funny you are entitled to your opinion but yet you are looking for single guys ! This site has evolved over the years and people join for a multitude of reasons all looking for something different. Just because it doesnt suit certain members needs doesnt mean certain groups of people shouldnt be here ! | |||
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"Sorry wrong person we are not looking for single guys. I think you'll notice on my profile it's states no single guys, only single females who are into swinging / threesomes. Big difference " you are right my apologies but the rest of my comment still stands plenty room on here for all kinks | |||
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"Its a forum where people come to discuss their opinions, concerns etc.... This happens to be mine and quite a few couples issues and fears. However I don't fear this but others do. Facts say while still single people are unknown commodities , the food on someone else’s plate always looks tastier. If someone else wants them, they must be worth wanting. Plus married people are more experienced reason for the attraction to married people. The site is not what it says it is . Misleading to say the least due to people who are not into swinging and only use it as a dating site to meet the opposite sex . " The site isnt misleading.Its a swinging site for consenting adults.Its the people who change it. | |||
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"Its a forum where people come to discuss their opinions, concerns etc.... This happens to be mine and quite a few couples issues and fears. However I don't fear this but others do. Facts say while still single people are unknown commodities , the food on someone else’s plate always looks tastier. If someone else wants them, they must be worth wanting. Plus married people are more experienced reason for the attraction to married people. The site is not what it says it is . Misleading to say the least due to people who are not into swinging and only use it as a dating site to meet the opposite sex . " nonsense i cant believe your trying to pin singles as marriage wreckers theres only two folk can wreck a cpl and thats the cpl. Married are more experienced lol sorry some of the most sexually repressed folk ive met are married you need to take if those rose tinted glasses im single through choice and i certaily aint intrested in feeding of anothers plate as you put it | |||
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"Sorry wrong person we are not looking for single guys. I think you'll notice on my profile it's states no single guys, only single females who are into swinging / threesomes. Big difference " the old single fems are swingers single males are chancer line classic | |||
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"Its a forum where people come to discuss their opinions, concerns etc.... This happens to be mine and quite a few couples issues and fears. However I don't fear this but others do. Facts say while still single people are unknown commodities , the food on someone else’s plate always looks tastier. If someone else wants them, they must be worth wanting. Plus married people are more experienced reason for the attraction to married people. The site is not what it says it is . Misleading to say the least due to people who are not into swinging and only use it as a dating site to meet the opposite sex . nonsense i cant believe your trying to pin singles as marriage wreckers theres only two folk can wreck a cpl and thats the cpl. Married are more experienced lol sorry some of the most sexually repressed folk ive met are married you need to take if those rose tinted glasses im single through choice and i certaily aint intrested in feeding of anothers plate as you put it " Agreed Kola ... Anyway.. i wouldnt let anyone eat Macaroni n Cheese aff my plate.. | |||
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"Oh deer. Why taking it so personal. Let's speak on a percentage basis 45% of singles men and woman are more attracted to a married person. Now this doesn't apply to ALL but a percentage of the population in UK , so absolutely no need to take it as a direct personal attack you probably won't be in that 45% . You are now having an opinion on married people who you've met being more repressed,so basically generalising , but thats what you think and ofcorse it's your opinion which you are entitled to but Isn't that a bit double standards. Don't know what married couples you've been meeting " nobodys taking it personal you cant just make up percentages to suit what you say. Ive not seen one singleton agree with what you say.....i will correct that one single person. Thats along way short of the 45% your claiming. Your attempting to push your opinion as fact otherwise show us how wrong we are with the source of your data. | |||
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"Well if you seperate single woman from single men . You have The eight reasons 90% of women are attracted to a man who is taken (and why only half avoid acting in it) The percentage is lower for men attracted to married woman ,( some refuse to act on impulse due to the drama and upset it may cause all involved) however the more narcissistic type male will act on this as a prize of possession , winning trophy . Study done since 2009 in UK through to present day . In one study, 60 per cent of men, compared to 38 per cent of women, admitted to attempting to sleep with someone who was already taken. Men are far less discriminating in their search for sexual partners generally and will pursue women regardless of their relationship status. So that's been taken directly off not one but 3 different websites based on the physcology of both make and female and studies done to date. Now just because it doesn't apply to you or half the people on fabswingers doesn't make it untrue because you say so." Yawwwwn! Your just getting really boring now... you do you and us singles will keep on keeping on trying to steal your hubbies ok | |||
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"Well if you seperate single woman from single men . You have The eight reasons 90% of women are attracted to a man who is taken (and why only half avoid acting in it)" I believe a study also said it was mostly younger possibly inexperienced girls who felt the most attraction to a married man, and the biggest reason for any woman being attracted to a taken man is because in some way he has been verified as safe I wonder if the same applies to all the verified men on fab | |||
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"Move alone and don't read or reply it's that simple. And good luck with what you said lol" Um no? You have been talking pish this whole thread and I’m not allowed to? Lol ok, ps I was being a wee bit sarcastic mate | |||
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"Mostly yes but not all. But you are correct. I think most female think a married man kids etc is their safest bet. Who knows but obviously this isn't always the case. " I get the idea behind the attraction just not the logic Because realistically if you "steal" someone else's man then surely its logical that someone else will come along and "steal" him from you In my eyes once a cheat always a cheat | |||
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"Mostly yes but not all. But you are correct. I think most female think a married man kids etc is their safest bet. Who knows but obviously this isn't always the case. " put it to a poll on here and I think ul find the numbers differ as most single fems will avoid married or attatched like the plague | |||
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"Not everyone will agree to most things in life but to assume someone is talking pish or making up shit . Can be taken as a direct insult to an well educated person.so have your opinion as is your right and have an arguement over the opinions which is everyones right but without the ignorance and nastiness that comes with it" Well consider me scolded miss! Your not a school teacher by any chance? Lol | |||
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"I don't disagree . When I mentioned about percentages it was whole of UK not little old fab swinger's. There is prob only a small percentage on fab swinger's that would come under that umbrella. But still couples will have the fears especially if there is insecurities, body/ relationship issues etc that's why alot don't last , go away and come back years later bit stronger. " why mention statistics for the whole of the uk tho when most are replying in responce to the Ops question not outwith fab ! | |||
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"Well if you seperate single woman from single men . You have The eight reasons 90% of women are attracted to a man who is taken (and why only half avoid acting in it) The percentage is lower for men attracted to married woman ,( some refuse to act on impulse due to the drama and upset it may cause all involved) however the more narcissistic type male will act on this as a prize of possession , winning trophy . Study done since 2009 in UK through to present day . In one study, 60 per cent of men, compared to 38 per cent of women, admitted to attempting to sleep with someone who was already taken. Men are far less discriminating in their search for sexual partners generally and will pursue women regardless of their relationship status. So that's been taken directly off not one but 3 different websites based on the physcology of both make and female and studies done to date. Now just because it doesn't apply to you or half the people on fabswingers doesn't make it untrue because you say so." so you want to change the bar to will sleep with them lol yup misconception right enough | |||
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"Jeezo this is hard going! Can I just point out that I'm exactly the type of single person that a certain couple have said repeatedly shouldn't be on fab. I'm also, shock horror that woman that will sleep with a married man. That doesn't make me some cold black hearted cow by the way. I know I'm repeating myself here but I ask again, why are people so concerned with what others do on here? Unless of course they are looking for excuses as to why they can't find what they are looking for. How's that for a theory? Lastly, I'm here and there are many others just like me. And you know what I'm having a great time. Suck it up buttercups " Always thought you were a bad'un | |||
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"Jeezo this is hard going! Can I just point out that I'm exactly the type of single person that a certain couple have said repeatedly shouldn't be on fab. I'm also, shock horror that woman that will sleep with a married man. That doesn't make me some cold black hearted cow by the way. I know I'm repeating myself here but I ask again, why are people so concerned with what others do on here? Unless of course they are looking for excuses as to why they can't find what they are looking for. How's that for a theory? Lastly, I'm here and there are many others just like me. And you know what I'm having a great time. Suck it up buttercups Always thought you were a bad'un " Ssssssshhhhh! Only sometimes... The rest of the time I'm positively angelic | |||
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"Jeezo this is hard going! Can I just point out that I'm exactly the type of single person that a certain couple have said repeatedly shouldn't be on fab. I'm also, shock horror that woman that will sleep with a married man. That doesn't make me some cold black hearted cow by the way. I know I'm repeating myself here but I ask again, why are people so concerned with what others do on here? Unless of course they are looking for excuses as to why they can't find what they are looking for. How's that for a theory? Lastly, I'm here and there are many others just like me. And you know what I'm having a great time. Suck it up buttercups Always thought you were a bad'un Ssssssshhhhh! Only sometimes... The rest of the time I'm positively angelic " We can confirm your certainly angelic xx | |||
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"You are aware non of what I said applies to you. Your profile states bi curious and open to new adventures , so open minded about things. Totally opposite from what I was saying. I said straight people with absolutely no intentions of swinging or being open-minded in any shape or form. So no need to defend yourself .but yes you do seem like a bad yin but that's good at least your open minded ." I'd say some swingers are the most closed minded people I've encountered if their views on here are anything to go by | |||
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"You are aware non of what I said applies to you. Your profile states bi curious and open to new adventures , so open minded about things. Totally opposite from what I was saying. I said straight people with absolutely no intentions of swinging or being open-minded in any shape or form. So no need to defend yourself .but yes you do seem like a bad yin but that's good at least your open minded . I'd say some swingers are the most closed minded people I've encountered if their views on here are anything to go by" | |||
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"42! Do I win? Is that the right answer? " 42 is my oh atleast until nxt week | |||
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"Totally agree before considering swinging ,Couples definitely need to be secure.Swinging isnt going to fix a marriage /relationship. I think with most and what I was trying to get across was sometimes swinger's want to go to a place that only swinger's are minus any insecurities that could rear their heads. I also think people should be confident and comfortable with who they are body and mind before doing something like this. I like to be the voice for people who dont have the courage to have a voice especially with a post like this where all jump on bandwagon and shoot down someone with a difference of opinion , so the couples who agree refuse to comment on fear same thing will happen to them . So people should agree to disagree because we all have rights to our own opinions on things " From the discussions here I take it you mean for swingers to be secure in swinging they only want other swinging couples on the site. Surely there must be cases where couples have separated due to, for instance, the hubby of one couple and the wife of another getting together therefore nothing to do with singles. It’s not just singles that can feel the grass is greener on the other side. Being the voice for others while can be commendable can also cause your opinions to be misconstrued as you have tended to focus on singles being the negative on fab however are happy for single women to join you. I know you have defended this by saying as long as they are swingers but I’m sure there will be cases of single swingers falling for one half of a couple this can happen in any situation fab related or not. The comment about your length of time on fab wouldn’t be meaning you have no right to comment more you maybe haven’t experienced as much as some of the others who have been here a long time therefore your comments considered a bit naive. | |||
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" Close minded people think they are always right. Which the majority of singles on this post have suggested . Please correct me if I'm wrong " Open minded people are less likely to be as vocal about how anyone else chooses to go about their way on here | |||
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"Totally agree before considering swinging ,Couples definitely need to be secure.Swinging isnt going to fix a marriage /relationship. I think with most and what I was trying to get across was sometimes swinger's want to go to a place that only swinger's are minus any insecurities that could rear their heads. I also think people should be confident and comfortable with who they are body and mind before doing something like this. I like to be the voice for people who dont have the courage to have a voice especially with a post like this where all jump on bandwagon and shoot down someone with a difference of opinion , so the couples who agree refuse to comment on fear same thing will happen to them . So people should agree to disagree because we all have rights to our own opinions on things " I know you probably feel like you're getting it from angles here but to be honest the comments about folk being scared to post on here always make me think "wtf". This forum is moderated with a rather firm hand I would say, especially of late. And if an adult (not you, those others you referred to) can't handle some comments from a bunch of strangers then they've got bigger issues than finding a shag on a swinging site! | |||
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"Well ofcorse cause it's aimed at singles who go it straight dating without the swinging . I had 3 messages about this from couples with Thier views . Couples that don't want to be shot down by singles who are closed minded to the fact that they have opinions too about how they feel the site misleadingly drew them in with the assumptions it was for SWINGER'S and then boom it's a site for all !!!! So quite contradictory when you mentioned swinger's are close minded . Open minded people choose to see things from both points of view, understanding why people have the views they do . So being open to understanding all opinions and points of views and getting additional information to support ones opinion. Close minded people think they are always right. Which the majority of singles on this post have suggested . Please correct me if I'm wrong " the biggest problem with your argument is what is a swinger. when the word was first concieved your profile would not be considered a swingers profile.so the first thing you need to accept is that very few share your opinion of what a swinger is. You cant just claim things and expect folk to agree (i will never agree that singles are out to wreck marriages in the numbers you believe) contrary to popular belief on here you can and should give your opinion and also expect critique on its merits and downfalls. Lots need to learn to suck it up buttercup and not be butthurt at the slightest disagreement | |||
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"I’m aware this thread has gotten somewhat confusing along the way but here’s my pennies worth... Fabswingers.com is over 15 years old now. In its infancy a large proportion of us joined here after being members of some other ‘swinging’ sites. In that time the internet has grown into a gigantic monster and allowed the swinging/sex world to be more accessible. This encouraged an influx of all kinks/fantasies/desires to be sought via Fabswingers. Everyone is welcome and everyone should be made to feel welcome. (As long as they keep it legal lol) I no longer class myself as a swinger as I think labels can be so unnecessary. I’m very clear with my intentions here currently. I can speak as having been a couple on here previously also. I’ve ticked all the boxes I wanted to tick along the way and Fabswingers has been a fabulous help :0). It’s a place to enjoy chat, adventures and sex! Oh and admire amazing fit young men!!! It shouldn’t be so complicated really. Maybe the name should change to fablife xx" Love this K | |||
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"I’m aware this thread has gotten somewhat confusing along the way but here’s my pennies worth... Fabswingers.com is over 15 years old now. In its infancy a large proportion of us joined here after being members of some other ‘swinging’ sites. In that time the internet has grown into a gigantic monster and allowed the swinging/sex world to be more accessible. This encouraged an influx of all kinks/fantasies/desires to be sought via Fabswingers. Everyone is welcome and everyone should be made to feel welcome. (As long as they keep it legal lol) I no longer class myself as a swinger as I think labels can be so unnecessary. I’m very clear with my intentions here currently. I can speak as having been a couple on here previously also. I’ve ticked all the boxes I wanted to tick along the way and Fabswingers has been a fabulous help :0). It’s a place to enjoy chat, adventures and sex! Oh and admire amazing fit young men!!! It shouldn’t be so complicated really. Maybe the name should change to fablife xx Love this K" Me too. Exactly how i feel. | |||
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"I am single, 40+ & I have children too!!! I have more couples on my friend's list than I do single guys, & I can guarantee that none of them will have ever been concerned that I'm out to split them up. I also only ever message both as a pair & never individually. I will add too, that I am also a single who absolutely does not "pair up" with single guys to gain them access to couples & single females nights, or access to the couples & single females room. R " You still also have eyes that look as if they could look into a mans soul and hold it prisoner for eternity, stillman top 3 with those lady | |||
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"I am single, 40+ & I have children too!!! I have more couples on my friend's list than I do single guys, & I can guarantee that none of them will have ever been concerned that I'm out to split them up. I also only ever message both as a pair & never individually. I will add too, that I am also a single who absolutely does not "pair up" with single guys to gain them access to couples & single females nights, or access to the couples & single females room. R You still also have eyes that look as if they could look into a mans soul and hold it prisoner for eternity, stillman top 3 with those lady " I thought I was no.2?! Have I dropped in your league table? R | |||
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"I am single, 40+ & I have children too!!! I have more couples on my friend's list than I do single guys, & I can guarantee that none of them will have ever been concerned that I'm out to split them up. I also only ever message both as a pair & never individually. I will add too, that I am also a single who absolutely does not "pair up" with single guys to gain them access to couples & single females nights, or access to the couples & single females room. R You still also have eyes that look as if they could look into a mans soul and hold it prisoner for eternity, stillman top 3 with those lady I thought I was no.2?! Have I dropped in your league table? R " 1st 2nd 3rd all swap places depending on who on line ha | |||
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"I am single, 40+ & I have children too!!! I have more couples on my friend's list than I do single guys, & I can guarantee that none of them will have ever been concerned that I'm out to split them up. I also only ever message both as a pair & never individually. I will add too, that I am also a single who absolutely does not "pair up" with single guys to gain them access to couples & single females nights, or access to the couples & single females room. R You still also have eyes that look as if they could look into a mans soul and hold it prisoner for eternity, stillman top 3 with those lady I thought I was no.2?! Have I dropped in your league table? R 1st 2nd 3rd all swap places depending on who on line ha " Top 3 is still pretty good odds I'd say R | |||
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"I’m aware this thread has gotten somewhat confusing along the way but here’s my pennies worth... Fabswingers.com is over 15 years old now. In its infancy a large proportion of us joined here after being members of some other ‘swinging’ sites. In that time the internet has grown into a gigantic monster and allowed the swinging/sex world to be more accessible. This encouraged an influx of all kinks/fantasies/desires to be sought via Fabswingers. Everyone is welcome and everyone should be made to feel welcome. (As long as they keep it legal lol) I no longer class myself as a swinger as I think labels can be so unnecessary. I’m very clear with my intentions here currently. I can speak as having been a couple on here previously also. I’ve ticked all the boxes I wanted to tick along the way and Fabswingers has been a fabulous help :0). It’s a place to enjoy chat, adventures and sex! Oh and admire amazing fit young men!!! It shouldn’t be so complicated really. Maybe the name should change to fablife xx" Well said x . | |||
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