FabSwingers.com forum: What in your opinion is the definition of a 'real' man

By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.

Thoughts ???

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Another question should there be such a thing as a "good man" ahould it not be a good person ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?

For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.

Very little to do with physical appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quietly confident but social if that makes sense.

Feels no need to prove himself to others or beg.

Enjoys the Fab ride and looks to give rather than just receive.

I think anyway ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah seen this a lot,

"looking for a real man"

copy and paste forwarded.. followed by uncontrollable sobbing when i look at myself in the mirror and they don't reply.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Another question should there be such a thing as a "good man" ahould it not be a good person ?"

What's wrong with "Man" if the person you're talking about is male

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

"Quietly confident but social if that makes sense.

Feels no need to prove himself to others or beg.

Enjoys the Fab ride and looks to give rather than just receive.

I think anyway ha ha"

If there is such a thing as a real man, this would be a good definition of him i think.

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?

For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.

Very little to do with physical appearance.

What about off Fab, obviously, well hopefully

you see Mr Doggy as a real man so whats his strengths then. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so to hedevil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?

For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.

Very little to do with physical appearance.

What about off Fab, obviously, well hopefully

you see Mr Doggy as a real man so whats his strengths then. ?

He can rein me in and isn't afraid to kick my arse when required! Playful, very funny, and a quality ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man who knows when to take control, one who could look after me but allows the freedom to look after myself, is confident enough they don’t have to as said before join in a pissing contest and respects women, someone who is mature in personality and not acting like a little boy needing looked after or a teenager getting all stroppy and moody. Lots of things make a man just as lots of things make a woman, a good woman and a good man are both pretty equal tbh

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Another question should there be such a thing as a "good man" ahould it not be a good person ?

What's wrong with "Man" if the person you're talking about is male

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nothing whatever imo.

the problem is what "real man" equates too is usually gender devisive.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?

For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.

Very little to do with physical appearance.

What she said

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Depends on context

On fab I would think a lady looking for a real man wants a man that will take charge

In life - someone who can make me laugh through the tears, treat me like a princess or a sex goddess and have the ability to know when each is required, enjoys life with me and enjoys me enjoying life with others too as I would him, knows when to discuss and when to agree, and above all lives in a different house from me (not sure I could share again!)

I’m thinking there may be a reason I’m still single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.

Thoughts ???

I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation

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By *ittleMizzNaughty88.Woman
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

Is there actually such a thing?

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

"Depends on context

On fab I would think a lady looking for a real man wants a man that will take charge

I’m thinking there may be a reason I’m still single

Haha , you want it all. And your quite right as well. Dont think anyone, man or woman should settle for 2nd best. X

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

Thoughts ???

I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation "

Ooooooh big statement Karen , definitely requires a little more exploration or explanation about your post. Only if you want to of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A real man after doing a #2 will always flush the toilet once and walk away never once looking back to see if it's gone or not, no waiting on the toilet cistern to fill back up before plunging the damn thing away for good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real man ? Fuck I still get called boy on here hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had the delight of being married to a the complete opposite of a “real man” for too long, then being wonderfully single and now with the divine Mr Switch I would say a real man lets you be you and genuinely fucking adores you for it.

But hey maybe I’m still bitter

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

I met a few girls in thailand that were "real men" does that count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he identify as a man?

There we go. A ‘real’ man

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Badly

. Short

...wee tubby belly

......over 50

That's a real man ladies

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Badly

. Short

...wee tubby belly

......over 50

That's a real man ladies "

Bit of self promotion does no harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts ???

I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation

Ooooooh big statement Karen , definitely requires a little more exploration or explanation about your post. Only if you want to of course.

Priorities in the right place and old school values

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Badly

. Short

...wee tubby belly

......over 50

That's a real man ladies "

You've kissed the blarney stone though ...(and a few other things along the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real man or manly?

I like manly men.

Hate guys in skinny jeans and tight t shirts that's just walked out of the tanning salon.

I want a guy that's confident in his own skin can go fix my car or put some Ikea wardrobes up lol.

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

I think this is a very cultural thing, and also quite gender stereotypical.

I can when called on build wardrobes, rewire houses, fix cars, cook ok meals, climb mountains, go on expeditions, help oldies cross the road, kiss well, cuddle up as needed, go with red, white or beer, have a good political debate and make folk laugh.

I'm also a grumpy git, far too opinionated, skint permanently through having some kids, carrying a stone too much, like documentaries, own two Coldplay albums and get garlic breath that cold strip wallpaper...

So I'm real.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I think this is a very cultural thing, and also quite gender stereotypical.

So I'm real.

See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership

This causes issues.

I love a good morning sex session.

I love a good cuddle.

I'd never remember to bring toothbrush or where I left my clean pants at...

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership

This causes issues.

I love a good morning sex session.

I love a good cuddle.

I'd never remember to bring toothbrush or where I left my clean pants at..."

I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch

Plenty cuddles in between

I have spare toothbrushes

Go commando

Issues? what issues?

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch

Plenty cuddles in between

I have spare toothbrushes

Go commando

Issues? what issues?

I'll go start the car - what's your address..?

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"Badly

. Short

...wee tubby belly

......over 50

That's a real man ladies

You've kissed the blarney stone though ...(and a few other things along the way)

Yip I have the certificate

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch

Plenty cuddles in between

I have spare toothbrushes

Go commando

Issues? what issues?

I'll go start the car - what's your address..?

Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm I seek the same qualities in a man as a woman - intelligent, direct, open minded and a killer sense of humour is essential. In terms of looks I’ve never judged a guy on physical appearence. Tall, short, quirky, hunky, lean, good looking, great physique or dad bod has been secondary to having that X factor. Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmmm I seek the same qualities in a man as a woman - intelligent, direct, open minded and a killer sense of humour is essential. In terms of looks I’ve never judged a guy on physical appearence. Tall, short, quirky, hunky, lean, good looking, great physique or dad bod has been secondary to having that X factor. Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals.

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

" Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals.

Talk about decribing me to a T.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

" Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals.

Talk about decribing me to a T.

If you have personal chemistry does that mean you fancy yourself??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch

Plenty cuddles in between

I have spare toothbrushes

Go commando

Issues? what issues?

I'll go start the car - what's your address..?

Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty

I ts 21:42 now have they left yet

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch

Plenty cuddles in between

I have spare toothbrushes

Go commando

Issues? what issues?

I'll go start the car - what's your address..?

Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty

I ts 21:42 now have they left yet

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

If I saw a woman on a dating site looking for a 'real man' I'd be staying well clear

Maybe I'm not real?

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By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago

Blantyre

" Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals.

Talk about decribing me to a T.

If you have personal chemistry does that mean you fancy yourself??

Definitely dont fancy myself, i wouldnt even go for a coffee with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a poor turn of phrase. Much like real woman. Both make me roll my eyes .

However I do think that people are likely referring to personality qualities, or at least that is how I define it. Someone with compassion, conviction, courage and who shows respect. Someone who owns who they are and doesn't just want to conform . Someone who isn't afraid of their feelings and is open about their flaws. Humility. It should be standard practice but I think now it's becoming less .

Perhaps that is why it seems an impossible ideal

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