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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

so... your messaging back and forth for 3 weeks, every day like a couple of school kids , then she asks to meet, .

so everything arranged, then she pulls out at the very last minute!

ok , im thinking it could be a genuine reason,rearange another date for a week later still chatting all week then blocked on the morning of the meet.

now i understand to some its all about the chase.... but ffs really!!

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Has she got many meet veris?

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"so... your messaging back and forth for 3 weeks, every day like a couple of school kids , then she asks to meet, .

so everything arranged, then she pulls out at the very last minute!

ok , im thinking it could be a genuine reason,rearange another date for a week later still chatting all week then blocked on the morning of the meet.

now i understand to some its all about the chase.... but ffs really!!"

Chalk it down to experience mate, happens to the best of them.

You were obviously engaging enough to get chatting and keep it going for that time, so it'll come round again.

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"Has she got many meet veris? "

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked"

Annoying but nowt you can do. Chin up

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked"

More likely that she was a he

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked

More likely that she was a he"

What I was thinking

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked

More likely that she was a he

ha ha me to

its no funny really tho

What I was thinking "

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked

More likely that she was a he

ha ha me to

its no funny really tho

What I was thinking "

it is a little

I would double check next time

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, I've been ghosted loads and had lots of excuses for people cancelling or just not showing. One of the downfalls I'm afraid

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

Personally i have found , using my 6th sense on who to chat with has kept me out of the same situation as the OP. Exchanging numbers is always a good sign of the person being genuine but it is a huge risk for the female giving out her number to guys on Fab. It shows a lot of trust too in my opinion.

There are loads of genuine women on Fab OP, dont be disheartened by one disappointing experience.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel. "

Oh god I will need to remember never to arrange to meet you for coffee!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been stood up for a meet yet.

I have person I have met on more on one occasion who has cancelled a few times but I know she has other commitments that come before getting her hole I must just be lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me last week. Then deleted gut feeling its some gadgie at the other end with his dick out, we've been had. Move on and put it down to experience.

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Think is I know so much about her

Where she works , when she works ( shifts ) all about her family I even know here phone number m she has sent me face pictures .

This is niggling away at me

You guys have planted a doubting seed in my head , is this a man been playing me??.

I now feel I need to confirm it is at least a woman , you guys have turned me into a creepy stalker lol

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?"

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side"

I would use it as a learning tool and move on. Its happened to so many people on here don't be feeling like you're the only one

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Think is I know so much about her

Where she works , when she works ( shifts ) all about her family I even know here phone number m she has sent me face pictures .

This is niggling away at me

You guys have planted a doubting seed in my head , is this a man been playing me??.

I now feel I need to confirm it is at least a woman , you guys have turned me into a creepy stalker lol"

Lot of effort if it was a man. I applaud the commitment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens often on fab !!! Been on and off fab for years and recently got on fantastic with a couple but only the female wanted to meet me (spice ) for FF , so chatted for months on fab also on the phone . She asked to meet so we arranged this and all went well . Lots of hot naughty messages back and forwards with pictures for weeks was hoping to arrange our next fun play !!! Then boom gone off fab !!!

But we just move on things happen x

Spice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has she got many meet veris?

none

should also say she was married but didnt say on her profile

she told me everything about herself even where she worked

More likely that she was a he"

Firstly, just move on.

Secondly, no joke about pulling out! Very disappointed.

Lastly, he was a she, I think you could write a song about that!

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By *ukewhoistalkingMan
over a year ago

walthamstow


"I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel. "

Wow these guys must be mental who wouldn’t want to meet you !!??

Actually these cancellations maybe genuine and there is a bluebell curse lol

But seeing your vers your doing ok

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side"

Your in danger of losing any moral high ground bud.

You start talking of checking facts and info you have been given by this person and that is serious stalker traits coming to the fore. Lets just assume for a minute it is a woman and she genuinely trusted you to part with all that personal info , what are you thinking about doing with that personal info now. ? Maybe she never turned up and blocked you for a reason thats now coming to fruition. Just a thought.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel. "

I could list reasons meets have been cancelled and they were genuine. Thought I was jinxed st one point lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you believe everything she's told you about work family?

It's been a bloke all along most likely.

Why I don't meet anyone unverified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side"

You seam to be using alot of energy worrying about it just put it down to experience and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side

You seam to be using alot of energy worrying about it just put it down to experience and move on"

Definitely this, however I would say may well not have been a man posing as a woman. There could be lots of very personal reasons she's backed out. None are really your business and it may be too difficult to explain them. The gentlemanly thing to do would be accept, learn and move on. Next time you will be more careful and hopefully have a better experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you believe everything she's told you about work family?

It's been a bloke all along most likely.

Why I don't meet anyone unverified."

Totally agree

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

to be honest , now that ive taken a step back, i realise i missed the first rule of fab.... no verifications.

i understand everyone has to start some place but a woman who has been on here 5 months with no verifications isnt serious about meeting anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even verified accounts can be fake

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"Even verified accounts can be fake "

can they.... whats the point . sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even verified accounts can be fake "

Yes they can but if they are verified by other well verified people then their safer. A profile verified by another profile with one reciprocal veri is a bit suspect.

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By *oyeur 777Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Think is I know so much about her

Where she works , when she works ( shifts ) all about her family I even know here phone number m she has sent me face pictures .

This is niggling away at me

You guys have planted a doubting seed in my head , is this a man been playing me??.

I now feel I need to confirm it is at least a woman , you guys have turned me into a creepy stalker lol"

Personally I think she was genuine. Maybe got in a bit too deep and realised that she had a lot to lose, if she was married with kids and stuff, for the sake of a bit of sex on the side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Jim! You going to be hanging around outside his work?

No got the time for that bollox, ..... but it does bring out the nasty side

You seam to be using alot of energy worrying about it just put it down to experience and move on

Definitely this, however I would say may well not have been a man posing as a woman. There could be lots of very personal reasons she's backed out. None are really your business and it may be too difficult to explain them. The gentlemanly thing to do would be accept, learn and move on. Next time you will be more careful and hopefully have a better experience "

Plus them bitchies be crazy

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"Think is I know so much about her

Where she works , when she works ( shifts ) all about her family I even know here phone number m she has sent me face pictures .

This is niggling away at me

You guys have planted a doubting seed in my head , is this a man been playing me??.

I now feel I need to confirm it is at least a woman , you guys have turned me into a creepy stalker lol

Personally I think she was genuine. Maybe got in a bit too deep and realised that she had a lot to lose, if she was married with kids and stuff, for the sake of a bit of sex on the side."

if she was genuine she could have just said she didnt want to meet, but the abrupt halt in conversation is a difficult one to take

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Think is I know so much about her

Where she works , when she works ( shifts ) all about her family I even know here phone number m she has sent me face pictures .

This is niggling away at me

You guys have planted a doubting seed in my head , is this a man been playing me??.

I now feel I need to confirm it is at least a woman , you guys have turned me into a creepy stalker lol

Personally I think she was genuine. Maybe got in a bit too deep and realised that she had a lot to lose, if she was married with kids and stuff, for the sake of a bit of sex on the side.

if she was genuine she could have just said she didnt want to meet, but the abrupt halt in conversation is a difficult one to take"

Maybe she is embarrassed as she can’t see through what she started and finds it easier to appear rude.

Nowt as queer as folk (myself included )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are up for it and get cold feet last minute get cold feet. Not much you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I'm a bit rubbish at telling people im no longer interested so tend to just go silent

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel. "

I think you are arranging to meet the wrong guys!! Sounds like guys want to meet you but then worry that they arent going to be good enough and so freak out in the day or so before meeting.

I have only once cancelled.... I gave 2 days notice and had to due to work commitments that changed on the monday morning. I got a bit of a rant at for being a timewaster and didnt get a look in again. Still they were a couple and she was very hot. Am sure they had a long list of potential guys and I just missed my chance.

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"I have to admit I'm a bit rubbish at telling people im no longer interested so tend to just go silent "

lack of comunication is never a good thing tho

even making an excuse up is better than nothing.

its not like shes left fab, shes still on, just not talking to me

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I have to admit I'm a bit rubbish at telling people im no longer interested so tend to just go silent

lack of comunication is never a good thing tho

even making an excuse up is better than nothing.

its not like shes left fab, shes still on, just not talking to me"

Better to have closure than left hanging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As one guy from fab said to me when I had a similar grievance a few years ago "This is fab - get over it!"

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"As one guy from fab said to me when I had a similar grievance a few years ago "This is fab - get over it!" "

Hear that a lot...

And it is so true. Lots and lots of people on here who are looking for different things and might have different manners.

I tend to go for the attitude ...i will be polite and treat people the way i would like to be treated. If they dont...such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As one guy from fab said to me when I had a similar grievance a few years ago "This is fab - get over it!"

Hear that a lot...

And it is so true. Lots and lots of people on here who are looking for different things and might have different manners.

I tend to go for the attitude ...i will be polite and treat people the way i would like to be treated. If they dont...such is life. "

Agreed, never drop your standards to those below yours... or... never argue with an idiot, he’ll only bring you down to his level and beat you with experience

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"As one guy from fab said to me when I had a similar grievance a few years ago "This is fab - get over it!"

Hear that a lot...

And it is so true. Lots and lots of people on here who are looking for different things and might have different manners.

I tend to go for the attitude ...i will be polite and treat people the way i would like to be treated. If they dont...such is life.

Agreed, never drop your standards to those below yours... or... never argue with an idiot, he’ll only bring you down to his level and beat you with experience "

i like this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be a jinx as everytime i arrange to meet someone i will guarantee there will be a death or illness in their family which causes them to cancel. "
you need to message me are they blind why would they stand you up xx

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