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By *hodoyounicka OP   Man
over a year ago

Glas

What is it with some people on this site. You pay them a compliment and they do not take it well then bang blocked profile. This place would be better if people on it were less of a C**t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a whole lot better if people didn’t throw toys out the prank all time, if you’re not their type then block and then won’t make mistake of contacting them again, if you’re inundated with messages regardless of politeness you would be there for ages replying to everyone even if just to say thanks and there’s a limit on the number of messages per day you can send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be a whole lot better if people didn’t throw toys out the prank all time, if you’re not their type then block and then won’t make mistake of contacting them again, if you’re inundated with messages regardless of politeness you would be there for ages replying to everyone even if just to say thanks and there’s a limit on the number of messages per day you can send "

*pram

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By *hodoyounicka OP   Man
over a year ago

Glas

Common courtesy costs nothing. I should reword what I wrote. Why when someone pays you a compliment do you reply being a pure C**t then block. Why not just say sorry not for me or not reply at all. I am a bit too think skinned to be throwing toys out my pram. I am however a decent person with manners and respect others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common courtesy costs nothing. I should reword what I wrote. Why when someone pays you a compliment do you reply being a pure C**t then block. Why not just say sorry not for me or not reply at all. I am a bit too think skinned to be throwing toys out my pram. I am however a decent person with manners and respect others. "

You're not doing a great job of showing any of that with this rant

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Compliments from a random can often appear creepy or insincere.

Especially if you thred a hun or a babe or a gorgeous in too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common courtesy costs nothing. I should reword what I wrote. Why when someone pays you a compliment do you reply being a pure C**t then block. Why not just say sorry not for me or not reply at all. I am a bit too think skinned to be throwing toys out my pram. I am however a decent person with manners and respect others. "
best send a wink next time see if they get back if not move on.some folk are so far up their own behinds they forget what this site is for.

You can send a polite message and they still prob would act like twats lol.

Good luck in your next minefield lol

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By *hodoyounicka OP   Man
over a year ago

Glas


"Common courtesy costs nothing. I should reword what I wrote. Why when someone pays you a compliment do you reply being a pure C**t then block. Why not just say sorry not for me or not reply at all. I am a bit too think skinned to be throwing toys out my pram. I am however a decent person with manners and respect others. best send a wink next time see if they get back if not move on.some folk are so far up their own behinds they forget what this site is for.

You can send a polite message and they still prob would act like twats lol.

Good luck in your next minefield lol

"

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with some people on this site. You pay them a compliment and they do not take it well then bang blocked profile. This place would be better if people on it were less of a C**t "

You need to remember that Fab is just a wee mini version of the real world....and there are cunts a plenty out there too. Don't sweat it.

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

I guess it depends on what you class as a compliment. If i said to a female, "hey yer tits are huge , just the type of tits that float my boat , actually big enough to float the titanic" then thats how i charm the knickers aff a wumin, but she may not like her big tits and take it as a negative.

You gotta get inside her head before getting inside he knickers.

Before i get all the misogyny comments , im joking .

OP for feck sake dont take my advice .

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By *ail_forceTV/TS
over a year ago

Dundee

I block people who get angry that I have not responded in the way that they expected or think they are entitled to. I like adult relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is unfortunately full of weirdos which is one of the reasons we deleted our last profile but came back to give it another go. My best advice is don’t take things personally on here. At the end of the day, everyone had their own agendas so just be aware of that, ignore the rude ones, they’ll never get far with that attitude anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with some people on this site. You pay them a compliment and they do not take it well then bang blocked profile. This place would be better if people on it were less of a C**t "

An example would help with any constructive criticism OP. For example did you read and ignore what a profile asked for. As stated above how was your "compliment" worded. Also the site rules explain that women get many many messages so men in particular should take a no response as a polite no thanks. That's because when females reply with a polite no thanks they either get abuse or a stream of questions as to why they refused. Not saying women can't be horrid sometimes too but at the end of the day no one is entitled to anything here. Good luck on site though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab lacks manners and common courtesy unfortunately,

Some are plain rude if they do bother to reply, others go in a strop because you haven't bothered to read their 30 page story of a profile.

People expect you to read it, but if it was short simple and straight to the point you would but when you get rejected for no apparent reason and move onto the next and so on how many profiles are you expected to read

People on fab don't give you enough, how they can summarise you from one message without any response I just don't get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab lacks manners and common courtesy unfortunately,

Some are plain rude if they do bother to reply, others go in a strop because you haven't bothered to read their 30 page story of a profile.

People expect you to read it, but if it was short simple and straight to the point you would but when you get rejected for no apparent reason and move onto the next and so on how many profiles are you expected to read

People on fab don't give you enough, how they can summarise you from one message without any response I just don't get. "

People on fab don't give you enough??? What should they give you exactly??? A response to any message is not and entitlement - wouldn't it be easier to use it as a filter and be glad you didn't meet someone so rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. "

Perhaps it's just the way you're wording it but if I was to reply to every single message then I'd need a secretary. That's even with my profile reading quite plainly to save folk wasting their time messaging at all. Again it sounds like you expect replies by virtue of the sites nature. Alas you don't no more than I do. I do agree there are rude on both sides though too. Alas all you can do is persevere or vote with your feet - good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people on Fab treat people in a way that they wouldn’t in real life. There’s a percentage who are just rude and self-centred. It’s just a fact on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a lady from here and we compared inbox messages. I was at 1. She was at about 84, and that was in an hour

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. "
You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The problem is that people come at this from different viewpoints.....

The decent guys know that ladies get loads of messages... so they read the profile first and spend time thinking about what to say. When they get no reply they cant help think... maybe they were busy and read it...or something else caught their eye at that point. As mentioned above sometimes it is a second message that gets a reply because it does show you arent just sending blanket messages to everyone.

Most guys just send blanket messages hoping for a response. Thus being part of the problem for the decent guys as the women get so many messages.

The d"ckheads are just rude and spoil it for everyone by annoying women.

On the flip side because ladies get so many messages and because of the d*ckheads they sometimes dont think about the fact a guy might have put some thought into making sure it was an individual message and be trying to make a real effort. Therefore they treat them like every other guy which may be to not reply or to block.

Personally, I would love it if there were woman who were able to reply (at least to say no thanks) to messages where the guy had made an efort....ignore most messages that are clearly just a copy paste.... and block guys as soon as they are rude. If you do reply and they start being rude...you can always block them then....

Would also love it if ladies didnt just rely on men messaging them and were more proactive in looking and sending the 1st message .... but hey..why should they... lol

Obviously all of the above is a massive generalisation and there are no clear boundaries so everyone sometimes needs to take a deep breath, dont take it too seriously and relax a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem is that people come at this from different viewpoints.....

The decent guys know that ladies get loads of messages... so they read the profile first and spend time thinking about what to say. When they get no reply they cant help think... maybe they were busy and read it...or something else caught their eye at that point. As mentioned above sometimes it is a second message that gets a reply because it does show you arent just sending blanket messages to everyone.

Most guys just send blanket messages hoping for a response. Thus being part of the problem for the decent guys as the women get so many messages.

The d"ckheads are just rude and spoil it for everyone by annoying women.

On the flip side because ladies get so many messages and because of the d*ckheads they sometimes dont think about the fact a guy might have put some thought into making sure it was an individual message and be trying to make a real effort. Therefore they treat them like every other guy which may be to not reply or to block.

Personally, I would love it if there were woman who were able to reply (at least to say no thanks) to messages where the guy had made an efort....ignore most messages that are clearly just a copy paste.... and block guys as soon as they are rude. If you do reply and they start being rude...you can always block them then....

Would also love it if ladies didnt just rely on men messaging them and were more proactive in looking and sending the 1st message .... but hey..why should they... lol

Obviously all of the above is a massive generalisation and there are no clear boundaries so everyone sometimes needs to take a deep breath, dont take it too seriously and relax a little. "

There are other ways to catch someone's eye though than a well crafted message. I appreciate that only a small % of folk use the forums but the content of posts and the personality conveyed in them is a bigger deterrent or attraction to me.

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"The problem is that people come at this from different viewpoints.....

The decent guys know that ladies get loads of messages... so they read the profile first and spend time thinking about what to say. When they get no reply they cant help think... maybe they were busy and read it...or something else caught their eye at that point. As mentioned above sometimes it is a second message that gets a reply because it does show you arent just sending blanket messages to everyone.

Most guys just send blanket messages hoping for a response. Thus being part of the problem for the decent guys as the women get so many messages.

The d"ckheads are just rude and spoil it for everyone by annoying women.

On the flip side because ladies get so many messages and because of the d*ckheads they sometimes dont think about the fact a guy might have put some thought into making sure it was an individual message and be trying to make a real effort. Therefore they treat them like every other guy which may be to not reply or to block.

Personally, I would love it if there were woman who were able to reply (at least to say no thanks) to messages where the guy had made an efort....ignore most messages that are clearly just a copy paste.... and block guys as soon as they are rude. If you do reply and they start being rude...you can always block them then....

Would also love it if ladies didnt just rely on men messaging them and were more proactive in looking and sending the 1st message .... but hey..why should they... lol

Obviously all of the above is a massive generalisation and there are no clear boundaries so everyone sometimes needs to take a deep breath, dont take it too seriously and relax a little.

There are other ways to catch someone's eye though than a well crafted message. I appreciate that only a small % of folk use the forums but the content of posts and the personality conveyed in them is a bigger deterrent or attraction to me."

Very true.... although there is a very small % in the forums and they do tend to be the same people most of the time. Having said that i did recently receive a message from a lady who had read some of my posts in the forum so decided to message me. I nearly fell off my seat when i got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem is that people come at this from different viewpoints.....

The decent guys know that ladies get loads of messages... so they read the profile first and spend time thinking about what to say. When they get no reply they cant help think... maybe they were busy and read it...or something else caught their eye at that point. As mentioned above sometimes it is a second message that gets a reply because it does show you arent just sending blanket messages to everyone.

Most guys just send blanket messages hoping for a response. Thus being part of the problem for the decent guys as the women get so many messages.

The d"ckheads are just rude and spoil it for everyone by annoying women.

On the flip side because ladies get so many messages and because of the d*ckheads they sometimes dont think about the fact a guy might have put some thought into making sure it was an individual message and be trying to make a real effort. Therefore they treat them like every other guy which may be to not reply or to block.

Personally, I would love it if there were woman who were able to reply (at least to say no thanks) to messages where the guy had made an efort....ignore most messages that are clearly just a copy paste.... and block guys as soon as they are rude. If you do reply and they start being rude...you can always block them then....

Would also love it if ladies didnt just rely on men messaging them and were more proactive in looking and sending the 1st message .... but hey..why should they... lol

Obviously all of the above is a massive generalisation and there are no clear boundaries so everyone sometimes needs to take a deep breath, dont take it too seriously and relax a little.

There are other ways to catch someone's eye though than a well crafted message. I appreciate that only a small % of folk use the forums but the content of posts and the personality conveyed in them is a bigger deterrent or attraction to me.

Very true.... although there is a very small % in the forums and they do tend to be the same people most of the time. Having said that i did recently receive a message from a lady who had read some of my posts in the forum so decided to message me. I nearly fell off my seat when i got it "

Well there ye go then....see....am always right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been messaged a few times by entering the forums. I find it’s where all the dirty people hang out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few messages from the forum and messaged a few as well and had positive responses from both. The most common responses I get are, "I thought about messaging first but... I was too scared. or I'd have messaged first but most guys think if a woman messages first then theu are a sure thing.". Which I totally understand. Fab is fab if you make it fab yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped cold messaging people nor just message people I talk to on the forum and pleasantly surprised at how many people message me about my post, usually to correct me or tell me am wrong but am still counting that as a win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stopped cold messaging people nor just message people I talk to on the forum and pleasantly surprised at how many people message me about my post, usually to correct me or tell me am wrong but am still counting that as a win "

Agreed. If they see we are arseholes on the forum... At least they know what they are getting.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I stopped cold messaging people nor just message people I talk to on the forum and pleasantly surprised at how many people message me about my post, usually to correct me or tell me am wrong but am still counting that as a win

Agreed. If they see we are arseholes on the forum... At least they know what they are getting. "

Oh only one person pulls me up for being an arse on the forums. Clearly need to make more effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stopped cold messaging people nor just message people I talk to on the forum and pleasantly surprised at how many people message me about my post, usually to correct me or tell me am wrong but am still counting that as a win

Agreed. If they see we are arseholes on the forum... At least they know what they are getting.

Oh only one person pulls me up for being an arse on the forums. Clearly need to make more effort."

Who's that?

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I stopped cold messaging people nor just message people I talk to on the forum and pleasantly surprised at how many people message me about my post, usually to correct me or tell me am wrong but am still counting that as a win

Agreed. If they see we are arseholes on the forum... At least they know what they are getting.

Oh only one person pulls me up for being an arse on the forums. Clearly need to make more effort.

Who's that?"

Some weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no...."

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I think you’re all very sexy. Take a ticket ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted "

Glad you found what works for you but there’s no way women should be obliged to answer everything from a courtesy viewpoint. One - there’s far too many (we do have lives). Two - my profile couldn’t be clearer to say don’t mail yet I get mails everyday - who’s discourteous me for not replying or them for ignoring my profile utterly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted

Glad you found what works for you but there’s no way women should be obliged to answer everything from a courtesy viewpoint. One - there’s far too many (we do have lives). Two - my profile couldn’t be clearer to say don’t mail yet I get mails everyday - who’s discourteous me for not replying or them for ignoring my profile utterly. "

That would be males fault as you have a decent profile to read and not a short story lol.

On another note message filters are there for age and sex restrictions etc and plenty dont use them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then theres guys that message guys looking for straight guys, sorry thats nit straight in any sense. just blocked a "couples" profile that just mailed me saying its only him.

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Then theres guys that message guys looking for straight guys, sorry thats nit straight in any sense. just blocked a "couples" profile that just mailed me saying its only him.

"

Amen. I get messages saying “wanna play with a straight cock!” Then I logically argue that they can never get that wish because the moment they do... it’s a bisexual cock. I’ve been blocked by quite a few people who aren’t fans of facts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then theres guys that message guys looking for straight guys, sorry thats nit straight in any sense. just blocked a "couples" profile that just mailed me saying its only him.

Amen. I get messages saying “wanna play with a straight cock!” Then I logically argue that they can never get that wish because the moment they do... it’s a bisexual cock. I’ve been blocked by quite a few people who aren’t fans of facts "

Lol delusional people in the fab world.

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted

Glad you found what works for you but there’s no way women should be obliged to answer everything from a courtesy viewpoint. One - there’s far too many (we do have lives). Two - my profile couldn’t be clearer to say don’t mail yet I get mails everyday - who’s discourteous me for not replying or them for ignoring my profile utterly. "

Block guys from messaging you then and it saves having to block everyone.

Personally you've better chance of getting a reply from me if you keep messaging, I don't check my messages all the time so they can be missed

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Compliments are nice to receive but my pet hate is the ‘hun’ or ‘babe’ that goes with them.

Also the ‘I think your worth it’ to travel hundreds of miles, cheat on my partner, etc. Do they think I’m some sex expert that will give them a fantastic time? Some compliments are cringeworthy.

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Oh I've got one, guys that message saying 'hello trouble, what have you been up to' for a start they don't know me but are talking like they do and I'm not some 9 year old kid that always gets up to mischief.....it really rips my knitting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted

Glad you found what works for you but there’s no way women should be obliged to answer everything from a courtesy viewpoint. One - there’s far too many (we do have lives). Two - my profile couldn’t be clearer to say don’t mail yet I get mails everyday - who’s discourteous me for not replying or them for ignoring my profile utterly.

Block guys from messaging you then and it saves having to block everyone.

Personally you've better chance of getting a reply from me if you keep messaging, I don't check my messages all the time so they can be missed "

My point exactly, hope you ain't being distracted from your knitting

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

The other night something confirmed I’m right to not always reply.

I’d received a message so as usual, I had a peek at the profile and he really wasn’t my cup of tea. Rather than ignore I just sent a simple “thanks but no thank you”

The reply I got was “ah well you look like a fat old saggy c**t anyway”

This isn’t common I know, but so often you’ll get smart assed or downright rude replies just for turning them down.

This is why I normally just delete messages from those I’m not interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were to use it as a filter i wouldn't have anyone close to home to meet at all lol.

Folk just delete without paying attention, some that i have met have actually been ones I've mailed on more than one occasion to get a response, I've even met ones that have blocked me previously on another profile lol so it goes to show how much effort people put into reading and replying. You mail females more than once? If they dont respond what is that telling you? No one owes anyone anything on this site! You do not need to reply if you do not wish too i personally block men who msg me and i have no interest in them reason being ive had abuse because ive dared to say not for me! If you had messaged me numerous time id have reported you for annoyance as fab states a non reply is a no....

"Nobody owes anything" sick of that quote. Its not owed its common courtesy. Im not rude when someone mails me so why should anyone else. And if you read everything i had wrote it states yes i mail more than once and thats the only way i have gotten anywhere on here so sometimes persistence pays off.

Yes the ratio of males to females/ couples is overwhelming and a lot of the times that likely why you just get deleted and no response but i havent got any the veris i have unless i have persisted

Glad you found what works for you but there’s no way women should be obliged to answer everything from a courtesy viewpoint. One - there’s far too many (we do have lives). Two - my profile couldn’t be clearer to say don’t mail yet I get mails everyday - who’s discourteous me for not replying or them for ignoring my profile utterly.

Block guys from messaging you then and it saves having to block everyone.

Personally you've better chance of getting a reply from me if you keep messaging, I don't check my messages all the time so they can be missed

My point exactly, hope you ain't being distracted from your knitting "

I could block guys but then I’d miss all those lovely messages I get from the nice ones. Oh yes there are many gents out there. Ones who perhaps I knew in a previous life or who wish to exchange views on forum posts etc. Just like real life there’s good and annoying things here, observing them, chatting about them and discussing viewpoints on them is part of it all. Hopefully all the different viewpoints enlighten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night something confirmed I’m right to not always reply.

I’d received a message so as usual, I had a peek at the profile and he really wasn’t my cup of tea. Rather than ignore I just sent a simple “thanks but no thank you”

The reply I got was “ah well you look like a fat old saggy c**t anyway”

This isn’t common I know, but so often you’ll get smart assed or downright rude replies just for turning them down.

This is why I normally just delete messages from those I’m not interested in"

And don’t I know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night something confirmed I’m right to not always reply.

I’d received a message so as usual, I had a peek at the profile and he really wasn’t my cup of tea. Rather than ignore I just sent a simple “thanks but no thank you”

The reply I got was “ah well you look like a fat old saggy c**t anyway”

This isn’t common I know, but so often you’ll get smart assed or downright rude replies just for turning them down.

This is why I normally just delete messages from those I’m not interested in"

Unfortunately there is always one twat, but then you get it both ways too. Sometimes a headache on here and frustrates the hell out of u lol

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"The other night something confirmed I’m right to not always reply.

I’d received a message so as usual, I had a peek at the profile and he really wasn’t my cup of tea. Rather than ignore I just sent a simple “thanks but no thank you”

The reply I got was “ah well you look like a fat old saggy c**t anyway”

This isn’t common I know, but so often you’ll get smart assed or downright rude replies just for turning them down.

This is why I normally just delete messages from those I’m not interested in"

What a duck

Oops typo. Should have been an i in there x

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

Ah just delete, block and move on. There’s plenty who are just lovely so it’s more good than bad I think round these parts

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

Bloody hell, self entitlement,trolls ,people up there own arse ,folks thinking they better than they are ,bleating sheep ,shepherds leading the flock .genuine folks ,ungenuine folks ,sex gods ,site bikes ,the list is endless ,fab is like real life ,if you click you click if you dont you dont ,some folks would poke the mantle peice without looking at the fire ,its life just go with the flow if it happens it happens if it doesnt it doesnt ,in the grand scheme of things sex is sex ,but life is life chill out and enjoy the ride

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Bloody hell, self entitlement,trolls ,people up there own arse ,folks thinking they better than they are ,bleating sheep ,shepherds leading the flock .genuine folks ,ungenuine folks ,sex gods ,site bikes ,the list is endless ,fab is like real life ,if you click you click if you dont you dont ,some folks would poke the mantle peice without looking at the fire ,its life just go with the flow if it happens it happens if it doesnt it doesnt ,in the grand scheme of things sex is sex ,but life is life chill out and enjoy the ride "

God i hate cliches..... but good effort trying to get so mant in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab lacks manners and common courtesy unfortunately,

Some are plain rude if they do bother to reply, others go in a strop because you haven't bothered to read their 30 page story of a profile.

People expect you to read it, but if it was short simple and straight to the point you would but when you get rejected for no apparent reason and move onto the next and so on how many profiles are you expected to read

People on fab don't give you enough, how they can summarise you from one message without any response I just don't get. "

For us personally, if you can't be bothered to read our profile, regardless of length, then we can't be bothered to reply to your message. Simple as that tbh.

As for OP - some women on here think they are god's gift because they outnumber men, when in real life you probably wouldn't even look twice at them.

For me personally (Mrs) I prefer messages that are either relating to a status, or something cheeky lol. Compliments on here from most don't always seem genuine, even when they may well be.

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