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So, what does a wink mean to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apologies if this has been done to death, but it's a question Nina and I ask ourselves quite often.

We get very little mail (sob sob!), but we do get winks from people, and we're often left wondering "And?...."

SO - winks - are they a "tap on the shoulder" saying "hows about it?" ? Is it the case that the "winker" just wants to see if we're interested, or are they just too lazy to send a message? And if someone can't be bothered writing a message, why should we? Or is that being a little too harsh?

Sooo many questions - answer them, damnit, answer them!!! lol

D

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take them as being just a little note of interest from the other party & a way of saying "hey guys, we like your profile- check us out". If we don't respond then they'll hopefully take that as being a polite "no thanks" without us actually having to say so.

.... can't believe you two sexy people don't get much mail tho!

rushes off to wink

Mr.Classy xxx

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Sw Scotland

I'd have to agree with you's there Mr Classy, i don't see the problem with winks. They serve a purpose on here, however i understand they can be abused.

Surely it's an opportunity to say, i have looked at your profile AND i HAVE read it. How about having a look at our/my profile. If, like you say, there's no reponse, then that can be taken as a polite "Thanks but no thanks" without having to chance offending anyone else directly.

If on the other hand both parties are happy take things a step further then i feel there would have to be some effort put into the correspondence between both parties (especially the initial sender of the wink) to prove they can hold a decent conversation and weren't being lazy by sending a wink in the first instance. Just my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol ....

I think complete waste of time.. and a lazy way of saying hi..

if a profile is attractive why not say by message, ' looked at your profile, really liked it, happy for you to have a look at ours and if you like, please get in touch, if you we aren't what you are looking for, that also cool and wishing you well' ..

again only my opinion, same as gadge's.

never proactively winked, never will lol

life's too short for all this winking and winking... just spit it oot I say ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to agree with miss classy's comment,,

we dont get alot of mail either, but we do get alot of winks,

zoe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have to agree with miss classy's comment,,

we dont get alot of mail either, but we do get alot of winks,

zoe"

check yur winks lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aw view you winked at me, and made me blush lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"aw view you winked at me, and made me blush lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind winks, take it that whoever winks at us has hopefully looked at our profile and liked what they've seen and send this as an invite to look at theirs. If we like we'll get in touch, if not we just delete. Must say though we hardly ever wink at anyone, much prefer to chat or send a message. L

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Sw Scotland

Not big on sending winks either, if i'm honest, but surely its nice to recieve a wink from a nice member (pardon the pun) every now and then.

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By *rouble and strifeCouple
over a year ago

Nr Glasgow

ive found that some shy peeps use winks as a way of breaking the ice.some folk like some folk dont and some get excited that peeps are showing an interest

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Sw Scotland

Am gonna regret makin that last pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not big on sending winks either, if i'm honest, but surely its nice to recieve a wink from a nice member (pardon the pun) every now and then. "

cause you a good lad gadge.... will let you off with that one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good at being baaadddd you mean view lol

auds xx

and _adgee,,,,il wink at yer member anyday babe lol

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooooh auds..u naughty girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha - cool - was just seeing what everyone elses opinion on it was.

So, the message is that it's a kinda sorta shy, wee bitty lazy way of saying "ooooooooooooo - hellllooooooo"?

;-)

ya buncha winkers

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i personally think winks are a load of crap.

Just my opinion tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never winked at anyone & rarely check whos winked at me! Pretty much a waste of time if you ask me, if someone has read my profile & likes it why don't they say hi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are the same nina & d. very very little mail but tons of winks. i think its due to some people not really knowing what to say. we get lots from guys which i think are sent to suss us out a little as we dont have looking for guys on the page.

its like a wee flirt that we normally send back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I think winks are okay too. Just a way of saying Hi and is there any interest. I suppose if you get a wink back it is then up to you to reply with a message. Being a single male I do not get a lot of messages, so winks are a nice way of breaking the ice sometimes. To summarise no harm in them, Ian.

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

We agree, A wink or a mail is a hello. We have had so many winks & mails, sometimes we reply with phone number to take things further, zero resonse, it's par for the course.

Swing is a good meal best tasted and ejoyed, never rushed.

Good luck MT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far i have had 2 winks,much prefer 40 to tell you the truth..both winks were from bi guys and my profile says i am a straight male so i take it there winks was there way of sounding me out to see if i fancy sword fencing some time..pork sword fencing...stripped to the waist...covered in baby oil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far i have had 2 winks,much prefer 40 to tell you the truth..both winks were from bi guys and my profile says i am a straight male so i take it there winks was there way of sounding me out to see if i fancy sword fencing some time..pork sword fencing...stripped to the waist...covered in baby oil "

Ooooooeeerr you know you want too lol

Am gonna wink you for the fun of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had bout 5 in all the time i been a member, 2 have lead to sumthin real positive, the rest were either mincing around or, the best one was sent seconds before the couple departed the whole friggin site, lovely,lol

T xx

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By *ojomanMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond

A wink is a wink on here or down the pub, i don't see anything wrong with them, infact they are a compliment to say mmmm yes please, just as i would wink at a woman in a bar or on the street its mearly a sign of i like what i'm seeing

Its a pitty alot of people don't see them as just that but then thats probably down to this being the kind of site it is with the kind of people on it, would there opinion of winks be different if it was in a bar or club on a Friday night? Rather than this site?

Wank away oops wink away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is a good way to say,i like you ,and if thay wink back , you know there interested,bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont mind getting winked at....think its a compliment, make the winks continue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with most of the above...... a wink is a way of letting someone I am interested in knowing that I am here.

I know that people get fed up with messages from single guys, so when I wink its a wee, hello.

This lets the other person/couple decide if they are interested (hopefully) without being pushy or intrusive.

Here's winking at you all!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wonders if stunna took hers aff coz she thought it said wanks lol pit yur glasses on wumin lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have to agree with you's there Mr Classy, i don't see the problem with winks. They serve a purpose on here, however i understand they can be abused.

Surely it's an opportunity to say, i have looked at your profile AND i HAVE read it. How about having a look at our/my profile. If, like you say, there's no reponse, then that can be taken as a polite "Thanks but no thanks" without having to chance offending anyone else directly.

If on the other hand both parties are happy take things a step further then i feel there would have to be some effort put into the correspondence between both parties (especially the initial sender of the wink) to prove they can hold a decent conversation and weren't being lazy by sending a wink in the first instance. Just my humble opinion"

WINK WINKL WINK gadge Nice profile lol

Debbs xxxx

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Never really sure what a wink means so we don't really bother with them. Always reply to messages though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to say I use winks to say

'Hi, I'm interested but too shy to contact you'

I don't use winks, I think they're pointless.

I think people hope that you will add them as a friend. Having said that it is always nice to recieve a wink.

God I'm confused!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to say that winks can be useful - the scenario

You spot a nice cpl has looked at your profile at least twice

You send them a wink

They reply

We then mail them saying Hi

They respond saying hi back

and from that you can either arrange a drink, a phone call or whatever you do before the fun starts.

OK you could skip to parts but it does work so why not use it

Just ma 2 bobs worth as I'm waiting for the chat room door to be left open so I can slip in xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say that winks can be useful - the scenario

You spot a nice cpl has looked at your profile at least twice

You send them a wink

They reply

We then mail them saying Hi

They respond saying hi back

and from that you can either arrange a drink, a phone call or whatever you do before the fun starts.

OK you could skip to parts but it does work so why not use it

Just ma 2 bobs worth as I'm waiting for the chat room door to be left open so I can slip in xx"

jst checked back how many times u have looked at our profile....134...can we wink u now or skip straight to the meet lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interest or plain old short term memory loss? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont really send winks and havent really recieved any . but if a girl winked at me and i liked her id send a message back . kinda a good way for a girl to get a guys attention tho as yet its all just theory lol

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