FabSwingers.com forum: affair

By *outhside42 OP Man
over a year ago

shawlands

hi, been married 8yrs and when first got together knew she had low drive, but we got/get on great and have fantastic life. she had accident few years back and since then no interest, and have supported and told her how sexy she is. I joined this site thinking she may just not fancy me and maybe physical part of relationship could be shared together but separately which I would be happy with but never broached subject.

we had uncomfortable conversation yesterday (I think because so honest on her part) where she said she loves me and wants me, but has no interest in that side of things with anybody. she said that happy for me to have affair as long as she does not know, and not in our marital home.

feel kinda confused and lost, as feel like I can now fulfil the part missing in my life, and have good friend with intimacy but don't know where to start (e.g sites), as this new to me and just want to feel wanted regularly with same partner in similar situation

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By *nox.Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

See that would be a bit more believable had you not been on for 7 months and been verified by meets.... Bet she doesnt know about that so obviously your not new to the whole cheating thing.

Do what you want to do but dont see the point in a sympathy thread when iy smells awfully bullshity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you tell her that you didnt want an affair and you either want her or want someone who wants you entirely?

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Didn’t have a problem according to your verifications???

as someone said had you just joined might have had some sympathy but afraid it’s not coming across like that!

Also you say in this thread that your wife says not in marital home but your profile says Can accommodate? Think it’s time for a re think OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So she joined the site too when you first joined ? Or you tried to encourage her to go off and do her own things with other men ? I don’t understand what you mean by your post, is it a case of you thought you were both doing your own thing and then the discovery is actually it was only you that was out having fun ? I’m trying to read between the lines here but struggling not to sit in judgement like the posts above. The way I see it personally if it makes you feel guilty/hurt/whatever then perhaps it’s better to just leave, I understand not everyone shares my views but regardless of her health both of you deserve a truly fulfilling relationship, if hers is with someone that purely platonic then there’s plenty people out there happy for that kind of relationship just as you can find someone who will share a friendship and sexual relationship. It can be easy to cheat when you feel you’re both doing it and you can justify it but without knowing all the facts it just sounds like you’re feeling guilty now you’ve realised you’ve been cheating while she’s been the dutiful wife at home

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By *azzle DazzleCouple
over a year ago

strathaven

"See that would be a bit more believable had you not been on for 7 months and been verified by meets.... Bet she doesnt know about that so obviously your not new to the whole cheating thing.

Do what you want to do but dont see the point in a sympathy thread when iy smells awfully bullshity. "

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

The green arrow never lies.

“I just enjoy the variety and fun swinging brings, than just a vanilla relationship,” said the OP, six weeks ago.

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