FabSwingers.com forum: Hello from some swinging virgin's...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi every one, we are absolute brand spanking newbies to the scene so need guidance!!

We are working out where and how to proceed, if at all!! It's something that we both enjoy talking about and roleplaying but reality seems bloody scary!

We have both had 3ways in the past before we were married but that's almost 17years ago and never done anything like this physically with each other

From my point of view (And hubby is absolutely happy with my boundaries) I'd like to explore my bi side, but not up at all for full swap. I'm still on the fence about him being involved with the female, but for the minute actual intercourse is a no.

I'd be happy with him fucking me whilst I play with her though (obv! haha )

We were planning on going to Cjs in Glasgow as a stepping stone to see if we both feel comfortable, with no expectations!

Just thought we would say hello!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. Don't let anyone tell you how you should swing as a couple. I think most couples have rules set out, however little or large that list of rules is, but fundamentally it has to be what both of you are comfortable with.

For example me and my wife are open sexually but due to some factors she has decided to not participate in swinging at the minute even though she is very happy for me to do so, including me accommodating while she is home. We have a fee other small rules that suit us also.take things at your own pace and never let anyone make you feel pressured to do anything. It's your sex life, have it your way.. But above all have fun x

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By *he FiftiesCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hi tried to message you as we’re not big forum posters but we are out with your age preferences!

We went to clubs in different cities for the first couple of times to see how we felt about it all and it’s taken us nearly 3 years to start dipping our toe closer to home...! Take things at your own speed and if you are upfront with what you’re looking for, you’ll find someone who is for you guys. Most people we have come across are super respectful. Clubs allowed to us to observe the scene and see what floated our boat! Good luck! Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi tried to message you as we’re not big forum posters but we are out with your age preferences!

I seen your pics last week and thought they were hot! But you say in your bio that you like gym fit people, and that's not me haha

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By *he FiftiesCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Hi tried to message you as we’re not big forum posters but we are out with your age preferences!

I seen your pics last week and thought they were hot! But you say in your bio that you like gym fit people, and that's not me haha "

“Gym fit” is a very loose term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First and foremost welcome xx

I’m not a swinger I just enjoy the scene and the people in it, when I’m single I’ll meet single men and always do socials first, I’m straight and don’t get involved with cpls, at the minute I’ve got a bf so I’m not meeting guys for fun just coffees and gossip lol

Take your time, go along to a club or a social event chat to folk listen to their experiences, there’s a fairly regular all female social called redshoebox which is mostly bi/lesbian women looking to socialise and experiment but also open to others to go along just to socialise, like everything though no means no and there should never be any pressure to get involved, stay away from alcohol or at very least limit alcohol intake so you go into anything sober and in control at all times, discuss your boundaries and limits, be open and honest at all times with your partner, don’t rush into anything there’s no need, take your time dip your toes in the water first, even advertise a social meet just to get to know folk first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi tried to message you as we’re not big forum posters but we are out with your age preferences!

I seen your pics last week and thought they were hot! But you say in your bio that you like gym fit people, and that's not me haha

“Gym fit” is a very loose term

In my case this is a true story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Above all else remember that not everyone gets on with everyone, make your own judgements about people, obviously people will warn you about certain individuals but that’s not to say they won’t be your new best friend, chat to different people as there’s lots and lots of amazing people on the site, but over years people do have their fall outs. Again this is why being sober is key to being able to have better judgement when out and about

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By *pinCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Hi. Don't let anyone tell you how you should swing as a couple. I think most couples have rules set out, however little or large that list of rules is, but fundamentally it has to be what both of you are comfortable with.

It's your sex life, have it your way.. But above all have fun x"

Best bit of advice as people will try and tell how you “should” swing.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

"Hi every one, we are absolute brand spanking newbies to the scene so need guidance!!

We are working out where and how to proceed, if at all!! It's something that we both enjoy talking about and roleplaying but reality seems bloody scary!

We have both had 3ways in the past before we were married but that's almost 17years ago and never done anything like this physically with each other

I'd be happy with him fucking me whilst I play with her though (obv! haha )

We were planning on going to Cjs in Glasgow as a stepping stone to see if we both feel comfortable, with no expectations!

Just thought we would say hello!! "

Have fun and enjoy your travel into this weird world wee have .

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Good luck to you both. Decide on rules and stick to them, don't let anyone try and change your mind on the rules you two are comfortable with

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

I hope you enjoy Fab and the scene as much as we do. We’ve met some lovely people and have new great friends, of course there are a few that may not be your cup of tea and vice versa but just take everyone on their on merit x

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you enjoy Fab and the scene as much as we do. We’ve met some lovely people and have new great friends, of course there are a few that may not be your cup of tea and vice versa but just take everyone on their on merit x

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Welcome to the madhouse.

Always take things at your own pace and make sure both of you want/agree to anything that yous are going to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha"

Welcome. You shouldn't have any worries.. There are lots of people who see things that way... I would say after all I have managed to get a meet... But someone on the thread would give me a "virtual" ass kicking.. So I won't.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

In response to your status update... it’s perfectly acceptable to go to a club without getting involved, any clubs we’ve visited have lots of social areas and usually away from the rooms where the other stuff is happening

You’ll find a lot of people who use CJ’s go only to socialise.

As has already been said set your own boundaries and only do what your both comfortable with.

K x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha

Yeah horses for courses and all that

Jack, where are you? It says you are half a mile from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha

Yeah horses for courses and all that

Jack, where are you? It says you are half a mile from us

I prefer to answer that in a more, hmm.. Private setting.

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha

Yeah horses for courses and all that

Jack, where are you? It says you are half a mile from us

I prefer to answer that in a more, hmm.. Private setting.

It's alright were not listening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

Absolutely, we are way more into a chemistry and connection than j7st physical appearance

I'm hoping others are the same or I'll never get a meet haha

Yeah horses for courses and all that

Jack, where are you? It says you are half a mile from us

I prefer to answer that in a more, hmm.. Private setting.

It's alright were not listening

Aye but you have a special talent for interpreting vibrations.. Or so I hear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha"

*covers his ears as requested*

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Hi every one, we are absolute brand spanking newbies to the scene so need guidance!!

We are working out where and how to proceed, if at all!! It's something that we both enjoy talking about and roleplaying but reality seems bloody scary!

We have both had 3ways in the past before we were married but that's almost 17years ago and never done anything like this physically with each other

I'd be happy with him fucking me whilst I play with her though (obv! haha )

We were planning on going to Cjs in Glasgow as a stepping stone to see if we both feel comfortable, with no expectations!

Just thought we would say hello!! "

Try not to be overwhelmed with the attention you’ll receive as you’ve stated your newbies. Take your time in selecting playmates to interact with and most importantly keep communicating with each other!

Always do your due diligence once you have selected a partner for a social or play meet and NEVER be coerced or tricked into any situations that don’t suit both of your desires

So in short, play it safe, doubt your gut feelings(not in a bad way) and basically keep a common sense approach

Oh, and have fun!

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By *unseekers87Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow ish

Remember this experience is to enhance your relationship , not to diminish it in any way. Sort out your ground rules 1st and speak about what you both want to get out of it and most of all have fun. That's what we are all here for at then end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*"

So funny

Clearly not you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here as part of a couple for several years, if I can give you any advice as a couple it is to set your boundaries together and don’t be pressured to deviate, take your time and don’t rush into any meets, if possible try and exchange face pics prior to meeting as people are not always as the appear, clubs and socials are a good way to meet like minded people, this place is full of fakes and time wasters so tread carefully, it you have a gut feeling you’re probably correct, hope you guys have fun together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*

So funny

Clearly not you

Sorry.. Couldn't hear you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*

So funny

Clearly not you

Sorry.. Couldn't hear you.

Haha wido

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*

So funny

Clearly not you

Sorry.. Couldn't hear you.

Haha weirdo

Fixed.. It for you. Hehe.. If you want to know shoot me a message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*

So funny

Clearly not you

Sorry.. Couldn't hear you.

Haha weirdo

Fixed.. It for you. Hehe.. If you want to know shoot me a message.

Hahaha wideo? Wido? Who gives a fuck haha

Not weirdo anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone cover your ears!! Jack dude, are you from the shire haha

*covers his ears as requested*

So funny

Clearly not you

Sorry.. Couldn't hear you.

Haha weirdo

Fixed.. It for you. Hehe.. If you want to know shoot me a message.

Hahaha wideo? Wido? Who gives a fuck haha

Not weirdo anyway

I mihht be.. You never know. Hehe.. It's been a long time since I was called a wido.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You can take the burd out of Hamilton....hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can take the burd out of Hamilton....hahaha

Sounds about right.. Bet the back of the Palace would have a few tales to tell about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can take the burd out of Hamilton....hahaha

Sounds about right.. Bet the back of the Palace would have a few tales to tell about you.

Absolutely haha since I was 14! (Shame)

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

Just be natural with who you meet. Make sure that if anyone days no to something, it isn't a criticism of anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can take the burd out of Hamilton....hahaha

Sounds about right.. Bet the back of the Palace would have a few tales to tell about you.

Absolutely haha since I was 14! (Shame)

I'm going to ask the Palace walls then

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Welcome. CJs is a great place to socialise and have fun if you want to indulge.

As others have said do what you feel comfortable with. Everyone should be respectful of boundaries.

There are socials that you may find a good way to meet people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try enjoy yourselfs guys dont get along to socials and drinks nights you will meet some lovely ppl and take it from there ,good luck and have a blast x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do get along to socials lol

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Hey guys. You’ll love this place. Wasn’t that long ago we were in your position and nearly everyone on here made us feel really welcome and comfortable.

Enjoy x

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