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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There seams to be a fine line between being to pushy and showing no interest? Is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so?

Your either hounding someone to meet

Or your ignoring and showing no interest?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I show as much interest as I can. But I really don't want to come across pushy. It's not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone says no thanks or no reply take it there not interested and best not to message again.

If you do..That's being pushy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't msg twice. But have sent a reply then a few hours later been accused of not being interested.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"If someone says no thanks or no reply take it there not interested and best not to message again.

If you do..That's being pushy."

Women are inundated with messages and some, if not most delete en masse without even reading. So I suppose another a few weeks later wouldn't be deemed as too pushy.

If still no reply, or it's been deleted again, then take the hint and maybe block them so that they don't show up on your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse "

If you read the message and went back to the chat room without replying, yeah you'd most likely be in the bad book (not mine btw, I don't expect instant replies).

If someone is online and hasn't read the message yet I assume they're busy with other things / people, so no biggie x

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy


"If someone says no thanks or no reply take it there not interested and best not to message again.

If you do..That's being pushy."

Thats been a bit yes and no for me over the years, had people read but not reply for a time but then got back to me later.

Think if you message with a fun idea or option/suggestion that matches up to their interests,sometimes a good response happens.Think folks get quite bored with standard "hi your profile/pics are great"messages and you just get binned for being the same as the last 100 messages they got.

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By *ad bod000Man
over a year ago

Evanton

If they have read your message & haven't replied I don't bother whoever I've messaged & just move on

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By *ittle_missknowitallWoman
over a year ago

glasgow


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse "

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy "

Yeah I agree.

Being too pushy is showing desperation in my book, which is never attractive. Sometime you can’t always answer there and then and you really shouldn’t have to for it.

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

there is no fine line, pushy is pushy.

For example pushy is messaging someone every time “passing through” despite fact you’ve been told that A: the person doesn’t do last min meets and B: the person doesn’t meet people “just passing through”

What world do people live in that a female is going to drop everything at 11pm on a saturday night and meet someone who randomly messages, who has very little on profile, no pics and no veri’s???

Sorry but I value my life far to much and hope to not end up in a ditch and then when pointing that out they still don’t get it and still message!!!

Sorry for rant but feel much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy

Yeah I agree.

Being too pushy is showing desperation in my book, which is never attractive. Sometime you can’t always answer there and then and you really shouldn’t have to for it. "

Oops missed out ‘apologise’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy "

Oh the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy

Oh the irony! "

Is that directed at me or little missknowitall ?

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Sometimes I might read a message but get interrupted before replying it doesn’t mean I am ignoring it but usually go back and reply when I have time.

I think if someone has ignored your message, deleted without reading or said no thanks then you shouldn’t message again. Apart from it looking like you are hounding someone it is about having self respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse

Think you dodged a bullet there be happy

Oh the irony!

Is that directed at me or little missknowitall ?"

Not you!

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