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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

Is it something you discussed beforehand?xx

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By *oolsGoldxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way "

Uh oh! You have to tell her..

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Have you had any conversation other than about fun?

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way "

6 hours +!! I'd be wiped out!

Probably best to have a discussion with her though, get it all out in the open.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way "

Better say before the fun stops.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it something you discussed beforehand?xx"

Yes and I was told she was only after sex ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way

Uh oh! You have to tell her.. "

I can’t tell her that again

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"So few weeks ago I said I was going to meet my ex......anyway 100 climaxes later (for her) we are still only meeting for fun. I can now tick the 6 hours + box as well ??

Only problem is I now realise I still love her, Im fucked either way

Uh oh! You have to tell her..

I can’t tell her that again "

If you can't tell her just take it as fun and move on.

It could just be a bit of fun for her also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit late now but i think a whole forum thread of people told you to tread carefully here it wasnt worth the hurt

Hope the sex was good enough to get you through heartbreak round 2

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Is it something you discussed beforehand?xx

Yes and I was told she was only after sex ??"

If you can accept it as fun then enjoy!!

However if your feelings are that strong and bearing in mind she left when things were tough before thenyou need to seriously consider if you can cope with the rejection again.

If something happens where you need support and she runs again how bad are you going to feel then? You will feel you have wasted your time again!

Ultimately though you are the only one who can decide, best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've told her you love her.

She's told you shd only wants sex.

So you've been honest with one another at least. I see heartbreak ahead OP. Look aftet no1 here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it something you discussed beforehand?xx

Yes and I was told she was only after sex ??"

So you know she doesn’t want more you know that you love her yet you still put yourself there to be used by her, I know people on here tend to use each other for a means to an end but here on fab generally feelings are left at the door, you know yourself it’s going to end up in heartache when she decides she’s scratch that wee itch and is ready to look for someone else to fill the relationship gap, might be months years down the line but she’s made it clear you’re not the one going to fill that position, I’ve been there done that holding out hoping and end up feeling like the fool after. So what’s more important to you ? Long term health and happiness or the short term fix she’s giving you

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By *illy7239Man
over a year ago

Stenhousemuir

She is an ex for a reason move on and don't go there again

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

Personally if i had feelings for someone and it was clear they werent reciprocated I'd stop meeting them... even if it was guaranteed sex. That only works when both agree where you are with each other.

If one has more feelings than the other it always ends up someone being hurt. And if it was Me that had the feelings id stop shagging them as that wouldnt lessen my feelings, quite the opposite in fact. Id rather stop and be a wee bit miffed for a wee while instead of being hurt more later down the line.

Plus investing my time and emotions on someone who wouldnt appreciate it would be a waste and i couldnt be arsed with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit late now but i think a whole forum thread of people told you to tread carefully here it wasnt worth the hurt

Hope the sex was good enough to get you through heartbreak round 2 "

This. In these situations sex can be great but you absolutely must keep your heart out of it.

You need to be honest tell her how you feel. If she doesn't reciprocate then you need to either walk away or deal with the emotional turmoil that will only get worse.

If she cared at all and knew how you were feeling, she should do the decent thing and leave you alone too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fairly confident if she said- I love you to,your sexual performance would reduce 100 fold! Keep up the physical and remind her how good your chat is between erections... you might win this yet. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings are a strange thing and not always as clearly defined as black & white.

The questions you need to ask yourself are 1-can you survive the heartache you may ultimately have to face if/when it all goes tits up (only you know how it made you feel last time) and 2-if this was one of your pals putting themselves in this situation and you knew it wasn't going to end well, what would you say to them?

Only you can decide how you want to play this. But as hard as it may be to walk away, that'll be easier than the pieces you have to pick up later x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny this thread appears the day I meet up with my ex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Funny this thread appears the day I meet up with my ex lol"

Hope it went well and you don’t have the same confusion as our guy here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny this thread appears the day I meet up with my ex lol

Hope it went well and you don’t have the same confusion as our guy here x"

It went very well going to meet up again and within 10 minutes afterwards in came the FB friend request

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Funny this thread appears the day I meet up with my ex lol

Hope it went well and you don’t have the same confusion as our guy here x

It went very well going to meet up again and within 10 minutes afterwards in came the FB friend request"

Great fingers crossed it goes well. Ex’s are there because of a positive and negative so as long as you can work Through the negative then you will soon enjoy the positive again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We broke up because of things that were an issue at the time, work and location etc

Weget on brilliant, have best sex ever and I can’t walk away or say no.

Thanks for the (good) advice.

I don’t think I am the only honest person on here. Would be easier if I was a heartless player

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