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By *unCpl1003 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Whos had a bad experience on here? Did it ever put you off abit? Last one i had was abit of a put off.Does it get better? Whats the best way to get over it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunate enough over the years never to have had a bad experience. Some better than others granted but never a bad one.

Sort the wheat from the chaff and you’ll bounce back

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Yep. Put us off from accommodating without meeting for a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would massively depend on the experience tbh

Try to figure out what it was that caused the experience was there anything that could have been done to prevent it, was there any tell tale signs you missed, did you put yourself in an unsafe environment, or simply just something totally unavoidable and it’s a lesson learned, don’t let the bad experiences put you off but don’t feel like you have to continue on if you don’t feel safe or emotionally equipped, stick to socialising for a while, have a break

No hard and fast answers but most folk will have something that wasn’t quite right and fortunately I’ve not heard any real serious incidents happening in years

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By *unCpl1003 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Would massively depend on the experience tbh

Try to figure out what it was that caused the experience was there anything that could have been done to prevent it, was there any tell tale signs you missed, did you put yourself in an unsafe environment, or simply just something totally unavoidable and it’s a lesson learned, don’t let the bad experiences put you off but don’t feel like you have to continue on if you don’t feel safe or emotionally equipped, stick to socialising for a while, have a break

No hard and fast answers but most folk will have something that wasn’t quite right and fortunately I’ve not heard any real serious incidents happening in years "
thank you helps a lot xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No everyone has generally been very pleasant. I'm a good judge of character and choose the people I meet wisely so don't see this ever being a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are you defining bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are you defining bad?"

Yes what actually happened OP

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there


"How are you defining bad?"

I would be intrigued also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few bad experiences on here over the years and ended up leaving the site through it .. I am a lot more cautious now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arranged for a guy to come to ours. Nice pics, all ok. Came in to the house, a good 10 years older than the pics, sweaty, stank of curry. Bye bye

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

Never had a bad experience, a few unusual experiences and lots of amusing experiences though. Long may they all continue.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Had a few not so good meets at the start of my Fab journey but that was mainly due to me being naive. Im stronger and more confident now so all has been good recently but i am much more cautious with who i choose to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sexually assaulted by someone here. My gut instinct was warning me a bit but I thought I'd push myself. Never ever again.

The sad thing is that even as a hardcore feminist with radical politics I never reported it back then as I already had so much stigma attached to my sexual life.

Now I might have as I imagine he'd do the same to other women.

Totally put me off FS for a while. Sometimes men don't understand why women take safety precautions and get abusive. That's an immediate red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way to get over it? Be extremely cautious and listen to your gut. I only have socials with this I have great chemistry to begin with, but I'm sticking to my current lovers anyway.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

A bit of a negative experience but nothing as awful as some. I think we're probably just far more cautious now and not in any rush. All lessons learned!

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit of a negative experience but nothing as awful as some. I think we're probably just far more cautious now and not in any rush. All lessons learned!

V x"

Well if you had brought the cakes as promised, I would have went mental!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place really isn't that different from any other area of life. Good guys and wanks. Try not to let the latter get to you too much and you should be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This place really isn't that different from any other area of life. Good guys and wanks. Try not to let the latter get to you too much and you should be fine."

Unless your a good guy getting a wank then crack on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had any bad meet experiences..a few keyboard warriors, fantasists and those looking for the ego boost or time wasters. . But it's getting easier to spot them.

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By *ust looking!Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

Had a bad experience with a woman, met at her house, walked in and the house looked like a bomb had went off, went to her bedroom, clothes everywhere piled high, then when we got down to it, she hadn't showered or wash in ages, I made my excuses got dressed and left. She is not on here anymore, thank God. So a lot to be said for a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a bad experience with a woman, met at her house, walked in and the house looked like a bomb had went off, went to her bedroom, clothes everywhere piled high, then when we got down to it, she hadn't showered or wash in ages, I made my excuses got dressed and left. She is not on here anymore, thank God. So a lot to be said for a social meet. "

You still got naked in spite of all that though

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By *ust looking!Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

I didn't want to judge her by the state of her house. Don't judge a book by its cover and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't want to judge her by the state of her house. Don't judge a book by its cover and all that."

Just come here and moan about her afterwards

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By *ust looking!Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

I thought we were all sharing bad experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought we were all sharing bad experiences. "

Sharing isn't always caring

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

We know a girl who was on Fab who was into bdsm. (We knew her before Fab). She met a guy who she let tie her up, he then ignored her safe word and burned her with cigarettes and cut her with a knife. We persuaded her to go to the police, which she did.

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"I didn't want to judge her by the state of her house. Don't judge a book by its cover and all that.

Just come here and moan about her afterwards "

# Yawn

Nothing to do with the thread again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't want to judge her by the state of her house. Don't judge a book by its cover and all that.

Just come here and moan about her afterwards

# Yawn

Nothing to do with the thread again. "

Away to bed if you're tired

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By *unCpl1003 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"How are you defining bad?"
wasn't who he said he was then did not know what he was doing was a massive turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are you defining bad? wasn't who he said he was then did not know what he was doing was a massive turn off "

You played with him even though he wasn't who he said he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I was sexually assaulted by someone here. My gut instinct was warning me a bit but I thought I'd push myself. Never ever again.

The sad thing is that even as a hardcore feminist with radical politics I never reported it back then as I already had so much stigma attached to my sexual life.

Now I might have as I imagine he'd do the same to other women.

Totally put me off FS for a while. Sometimes men don't understand why women take safety precautions and get abusive. That's an immediate red flag."

Really sorry to hear this, I actually had a similar experience many years prior to fs when my ex was trying to encourage me into the scene and allowed me to be assaulted with him in the room but both the relationship and the incident made me more cautious and why there’s so many precautions I’ve taken over the years, taking photos of car reg sending friends address and names I know this kinda goes above the protocols of discretion but I’ve got at least one good friend will always know where I am and who I’m with, it shocks me even now the amount of young girls out drinking on a night out disappearing home with guys from clubs and no one bats an eye making sure they share a taxi etc to see where their pals disappear to yet everyone thinks sites like this are unsafe !! Health problems stop me from drinking these days but that’s also a major factor in putting yourself at risk so many folk don’t seem to take seriously I’ve had a few calls in middle of night to drive hundreds of miles to pick “friends” up when they’ve sobered up and realised they’ve put themselves at risk and suddenly don’t feel as safe anymore

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By *unCpl1003 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"How are you defining bad? wasn't who he said he was then did not know what he was doing was a massive turn off

You played with him even though he wasn't who he said he was "
to an extent yeah obviously was a mistake but spoke to him before hand was a nice guy just wasn't good

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By *ittle_missknowitallWoman
over a year ago

glasgow


"We know a girl who was on Fab who was into bdsm. (We knew her before Fab). She met a guy who she let tie her up, he then ignored her safe word and burned her with cigarettes and cut her with a knife. We persuaded her to go to the police, which she did. "

Omfg my jaw has dropped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been robbed and I have picked up a couple of obsessives here too.

I rarely meet these days but I've learnt a lot here.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"We know a girl who was on Fab who was into bdsm. (We knew her before Fab). She met a guy who she let tie her up, he then ignored her safe word and burned her with cigarettes and cut her with a knife. We persuaded her to go to the police, which she did. "

That's genuinely jail bait ...scary very very scary

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By *oolsGoldxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We know a girl who was on Fab who was into bdsm. (We knew her before Fab). She met a guy who she let tie her up, he then ignored her safe word and burned her with cigarettes and cut her with a knife. We persuaded her to go to the police, which she did. "

Fucking hells bells

Is she ok? I’d be traumatised x

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"We know a girl who was on Fab who was into bdsm. (We knew her before Fab). She met a guy who she let tie her up, he then ignored her safe word and burned her with cigarettes and cut her with a knife. We persuaded her to go to the police, which she did. "

That is one nasty piece of work. He basically just used her as a piece of meat, fucking evil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met up with a Woman that had a single female profile. Came to day of meet and she was saying her flatmate might be there, as he was on night shift. Then started asking if it was OK if he stayed to watch.

Alarm bells rang and I cancelled meet. Found out through a mutual friend that they're actually a couple and coerced other women into unwanted threesomes.

They deleted their single women's profile, made a couples one. Blocked them and reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly another bad meet.

Turned up to meet a woman, everything went well until we met face to face. Nothing like her pictures, didn't sound the same as on the phone and threw a shit fit when I walked away.

I cancelled the hotel we were meant to stay at and went home. She asked if I could give her the booking instead for free, so she could try meet other people that night. I refused and reported her profile.

Turns out she was using her sisters pictures, her friend was speaking to people on the phone for her.

Last I heard she robbed a guys wallet from a meet, spread an sti and was pregnant from a gang bang.

All arranged via tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies I should add, I arranged to meet her via fab. Her latest antics were arranged via tinder

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By *reamguy78Man
over a year ago

central

I know a guy that went to Cj’s and was accused of assaulting a woman from here. It was all bullshit and she was just jealous he wasn’t intrested, luckily there was two other females who said he was with them when it happened. Nasty woman and a few from here bought her lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just use club's now as I feel being a single female it's alot more safer and makes for a better time, as you get to socialize and speak to some lovely people and if anything else happens that is simply a bonus

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just use club's now as I feel being a single female it's alot more safer and makes for a better time, as you get to socialize and speak to some lovely people and if anything else happens that is simply a bonus "

I think am going to do the same as you. Need to pluck up the courage alone.

Stupid me forgot I was logged into our couples account. Need more caffeine today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just use club's now as I feel being a single female it's alot more safer and makes for a better time, as you get to socialize and speak to some lovely people and if anything else happens that is simply a bonus

I think am going to do the same as you. Need to pluck up the courage alone.

Stupid me forgot I was logged into our couples account. Need more caffeine today. "

I always attend myself and always have felt welcome by everyone, I just prefer doing it this way now due to a few bad experiences which I stupidly put myself Into last year suppose you live and learn

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