FabSwingers.com forum: Winks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many of you actually pay attention to them ?

How many have I offended by ignoring them lol at least 165 !

I don’t really get many messages these days which is a bonus but I alway try to read them when I do and I always just delete friends requests but I always seem to forget about winks ! I don’t think I’ve ever winked anyone in all the time I’ve been on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not hard to pay attention to winks I getting as I've gotten 3 since I've joined lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im Interested in them il wink back.

If not il just delete.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Only sometimes look at them but the best meet i ever had on here started with a wink. He was gorgeous and too good to pass by.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only sometimes look at them but the best meet i ever had on here started with a wink. He was gorgeous and too good to pass by."

Maybe if the dashboard was smaller with less on it it might jump out at me

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By *tevej1111Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I send a wink to show I have read the profile and interested, if I get a wink back then send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to love a little wink, it’s like giving someone a little cheeky smile with a dirty look in the eyes while out and about. It always makes you feel good.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I check them now and then mostly gay or bi guys sometimes i will thank them and confirm im straight as i delete and dont want them sending again......if they do i block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if I was a guy I'd just send winks rather than a message.

If I get a wink back then I'd message.

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

We wink first, if we get a wink back then we message. It saves time.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I dont wink back i just message if im interested.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I like winking ... and I agree with blue one of the best meets I’ve had started with a wink, then I winked back and the rest ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost always acknowledge winks and reply with a thank you even if I've looked at the profile and I know I've no interest in chatting to them.

However it does strike me as a lazy way to try and grab someone's attention rather than having the confidence to send a message because it's my reply that will prompt any conversation essentially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I almost always acknowledge winks and reply with a thank you even if I've looked at the profile and I know I've no interest in chatting to them.

However it does strike me as a lazy way to try and grab someone's attention rather than having the confidence to send a message because it's my reply that will prompt any conversation essentially. "
i disagree the majority of guys on heres messages go unread or just mass deleted according to many forum posts so why waste your time on writing a message when an initial wink can do the job 1st to suss any interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I almost always acknowledge winks and reply with a thank you even if I've looked at the profile and I know I've no interest in chatting to them.

However it does strike me as a lazy way to try and grab someone's attention rather than having the confidence to send a message because it's my reply that will prompt any conversation essentially. i disagree the majority of guys on heres messages go unread or just mass deleted according to many forum posts so why waste your time on writing a message when an initial wink can do the job 1st to suss any interest?"

Well I imagine trawling through a pile of winks is more mind numbing than a pile of messages and furthermore they say absolutely nothing about the person that sent it. Least you can delete or reply to someone's message based on the premise that it gives you an indication of what they may be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

No. Winks with face pics far easier and i never feel as bad if i dont respond but i do if i dont reply to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

No. Winks with face pics far easier and i never feel as bad if i dont respond but i do if i dont reply to messages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

Look I said imagine as I don't have to trawl through anything.

What does a wink tell you about the person? Makes you look at their profile perhaps and you like their pics or their profile blog. Message then and they reply and they're a complete balloon!!

On the other hand get a message, read said message and nip on bud right there an then as their balloon status is obvious from their message.

Are you really saying you put more emphasis on a wink than a sensible message? Because you don't know what anyone's like that winks you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But maybe 1 Outa 10 are sensible.

Winks you look at the profile see if it interests you send a message or a wink back take it from there.

If there a balloon leave it there if not bobs yer auntie result!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

Look I said imagine as I don't have to trawl through anything.

What does a wink tell you about the person? Makes you look at their profile perhaps and you like their pics or their profile blog. Message then and they reply and they're a complete balloon!!

On the other hand get a message, read said message and nip on bud right there an then as their balloon status is obvious from their message.

Are you really saying you put more emphasis on a wink than a sensible message? Because you don't know what anyone's like that winks you?

Yes. Because an exciting profile can lead to exciting messaages which have lead to a very exciting meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But maybe 1 Outa 10 are sensible.

Winks you look at the profile see if it interests you send a message or a wink back take it from there.

If there a balloon leave it there if not bobs yer auntie result!"

Well look at the profile that's messaging you then before you even read the message and do the same. Except you will have further information in the form of the message that you already received in order to formulate your opinion.

Am I missing the point here?? Is there some hidden or subliminal message that accompanies a wink that I haven't been told about or simply don't grasp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

Look I said imagine as I don't have to trawl through anything.

What does a wink tell you about the person? Makes you look at their profile perhaps and you like their pics or their profile blog. Message then and they reply and they're a complete balloon!!

On the other hand get a message, read said message and nip on bud right there an then as their balloon status is obvious from their message.

Are you really saying you put more emphasis on a wink than a sensible message? Because you don't know what anyone's like that winks you?

Yes. Because an exciting profile can lead to exciting messaages which have lead to a very exciting meet."

But surely an exciting message in the first place trumps a wink??

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

Look I said imagine as I don't have to trawl through anything.

What does a wink tell you about the person? Makes you look at their profile perhaps and you like their pics or their profile blog. Message then and they reply and they're a complete balloon!!

On the other hand get a message, read said message and nip on bud right there an then as their balloon status is obvious from their message.

Are you really saying you put more emphasis on a wink than a sensible message? Because you don't know what anyone's like that winks you?

Yes. Because an exciting profile can lead to exciting messaages which have lead to a very exciting meet.

But surely an exciting message in the first place trumps a wink??

Of course but exciting messages do not mean they have an exciting profile or pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But maybe 1 Outa 10 are sensible.

Winks you look at the profile see if it interests you send a message or a wink back take it from there.

If there a balloon leave it there if not bobs yer auntie result!"

Guess I am a balloon, winks are a complete waste of time and only ever get the odd wink from a bi guy trying his luck lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But maybe 1 Outa 10 are sensible.

Winks you look at the profile see if it interests you send a message or a wink back take it from there.

If there a balloon leave it there if not bobs yer auntie result!

Am I missing the point here?? Is there some hidden or subliminal message that accompanies a wink that I haven't been told about or simply don't grasp?

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oh beleive me when I get a message iv looked at the profile before iv opened the message and made up my mind if I'm interested or not so the message is really secondary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...trawling through messages is quicker than trawling through winks?

Look I said imagine as I don't have to trawl through anything.

What does a wink tell you about the person? Makes you look at their profile perhaps and you like their pics or their profile blog. Message then and they reply and they're a complete balloon!!

On the other hand get a message, read said message and nip on bud right there an then as their balloon status is obvious from their message.

Are you really saying you put more emphasis on a wink than a sensible message? Because you don't know what anyone's like that winks you?

Yes. Because an exciting profile can lead to exciting messaages which have lead to a very exciting meet.

But surely an exciting message in the first place trumps a wink??

Of course but exciting messages do not mean they have an exciting profile or pics. "

Neither does a wink!!! This argument is just daft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But maybe 1 Outa 10 are sensible.

Winks you look at the profile see if it interests you send a message or a wink back take it from there.

If there a balloon leave it there if not bobs yer auntie result!

Am I missing the point here?? Is there some hidden or subliminal message that accompanies a wink that I haven't been told about or simply don't grasp?

oh beleive me when I get a message iv looked at the profile before iv opened the message and made up my mind if I'm interested or not so the message is really secondary."

Well then, what you're sayin is it the exact same as a wink!!! But potentially slightly better if you like both the profile and the message.

I win!! This is daft!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you don't!

Even tho beleive it or not it's not a competition?

A wink or a message to me anyway is not different because I look at the profile before any communication is made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you don't!

Even tho beleive it or not it's not a competition?

A wink or a message to me anyway is not different because I look at the profile before any communication is made

Exactly, so a profile view married with a good message is already off to a head start over a wink!! That's my point!!! Thank you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you don't!

Even tho beleive it or not it's not a competition?

A wink or a message to me anyway is not different because I look at the profile before any communication is made

Of course it's about winning!!!

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't look at them, I'd rather get a message than a wink. To me it's lazier than a 'fancy a fuck' message.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you don't!

Even tho beleive it or not it's not a competition?

A wink or a message to me anyway is not different because I look at the profile before any communication is made

Of course it's about winning!!!

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If you say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t ..."
So it seems

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

I don't take winks seriously to be honest. Wade will respond if we like the look of a profile though and he sends the odd one.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't look at them, I'd rather get a message than a wink. To me it's lazier than a 'fancy a fuck' message. "

Exactly my point!

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I don't look at them, I'd rather get a message than a wink. To me it's lazier than a 'fancy a fuck' message.

fancy a fuck? "

Yeah... Do you know a guy?

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

What happens if you can’t wink ? I know someone who when they wink shuts both their eyes .

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Think the bottom line is i know what i like. Contact through wink or messages is irrelavant. If you excite, appeal or intrigue me then i will contact you or respond to you.

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By *esssDanMan
over a year ago

Dundee

"I think if I was a guy I'd just send winks rather than a message.

If I get a wink back then I'd message.

This is my thoughts also. Sometimes feel like you're being lost in the crowd doing this, but ultimately there's not much point further clogging up mailboxes if the person on the other end isn't interested.

It's kind of like what OKC did with their updated policy a while back - both sides show interest, THEN message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well looks like I’m kinda on my own with the whole not even paying attention to winks I’m still of the opinion though fab need to move the buttons to the bottom of folks profiles so people at least need to scroll past before selecting the button of choice ie send a message hotlist or wink

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By *esssDanMan
over a year ago

Dundee

That's a good suggestion.

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Whoever designed Fab thought the winks were a good idea. I suppose it depends on how many messages/winks you are getting. I just counted our winks since I last cleared them out and it’s 129, if they were messages there is no way would could reply to them all and we don’t like ignoring anyone, but don’t feel so bad not responding to winks.

There was a single girl put up a screen shot of her account and she had over 4000 unread messages and was deleting them all. I think the winks make it easier, but each to their own.

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Winks are good tool to start a convo. If we receive a wink and think there might be a possibility of a meet we will wink back. It's then up to them to message and get chat started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two winks make a...fun time hopefully.

I know some see it as lazy way of communicating but lets face it...your in the pub or nightclub and see someone across the dancefloor....do you smile and wink at first before getting up to dance/bar/etc?

I know I do - all flirtatious fun.

But then I know the online flipside - a wink is often a one handed male communication tool - dread to think what the other hand is doing.

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

We quite like to see someone has winked at us, usually always acknowledge them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wink first, if we get a wink back then we message. It saves time. "

Exactly. Don't know why folk say winking is lazy.....

Times precious enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am looking at a profile and it interests me, or excites me, I will usually fab any photos that I like and accompany it with a wink... Then I go about my normal day and never receive any acknowledgement

But I have been on and off here for long enough to accept that it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t check them all the time but the ones we like always wink back

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