FabSwingers.com forum: Trust

By *ittle_missknowitall OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt say its about trust.

I'd say it's about honesty but why would I tell all on a dodgy sex site all my business?

I think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone asks you a question that's important to them then either

(A) answer it truthfully and don't lie

(B) decline to answer if you feel uncomfortable or it's none of their business, but don't mislead the person and move on.

Different individuals are on fab for different things, that's their right. And just because others lie or someone lied to you doesn't make it the done thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it you could meet anyone anywhere and never know their past so why would swinging be any different?

I live in the here and now and judge a person and our compatibility by attraction and chemistry. I'm here for fun and not a relationship so why would it matter if his name isn't really Dave and his high powered managerial position is in McDonalds. If I'm digging his role play then I'll go with it.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Its all dependant on what your looking for from the site so there is no one answer

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have over 100 verifications. I display them all as a high percentage of them are from socials & non playing. This is because the majority of silly little boys (aka grown men!) that you politely decline, suddenly feel it appropriate to make some vile comment regarding the amount, without taking the time to check/read them.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

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Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

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By *randMrsTeaseCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I find that people with 100's of verifications tend to have them from social meets at club's, not from shagging half of fab.

Though as good as it is to be upfront and honest, everyone will lie and withhold because it's human nature.

Just saying

Mr Tease.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

On the site always be candid about yourself, especially if you chat a lot. If you meet someone outside of the site either socially or more then yes I think it only mannerly you tell someone your name.

80% of people on here though like to and are best to keep their fab life and normal everyday life in two separate district ways of life and never the twain shall meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People should only share as much or as little personal info as they're comfortable with. Someone will always take the huff with something you've said or not said, or judge you for too many/too few verifications. But they're allowed to do that too.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm a very open person until someone decides to be a snake, then they don't exist to me, I don't even head them when they speak but they'd have to break my trust for that to happen, nothing worse than someone who forgets that trust is a two way thing. It's even funnier when you know they try and tell others why you aren't talking and make other excuses when they know fine well how it happened and they are the cause of it

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification for me is simply one more tool in the box to help avoid scammers & fakes. They help me decide whether or not I want to take the time to get to know and possibly meet someone, that's all.

They don't determine whether or not I'll engage in intimacy with anyone - that is something to be decided face to face and has a hell of a lot more to do with attraction, chemistry and trust than it does with anything on here.

As for names, I don't care if someone uses a false name here but if we meet I expect them to be truthful from that point on. Les face it, many of us have many different reasons why we wouldn't want to be readily associated with a site like this - personal, professional and societal pressures all play a part.

There's also the 'the internet is forever' issue - while it may not cause a problem for you to be known as a swinger right now, if you make that info public on a site like this it's there forever. Stuff like that can and has come back to bite people many years later when changing careers or jobs so it pays to be careful what you put online about yourself.

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By *ittle_missknowitall OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

I don’t feel it is but was told it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

I don’t feel it is but was told it was "

If you don't feel it is , then what does it matter that someone told you it is

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By *ittle_missknowitall OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

I don’t feel it is but was told it was

If you don't feel it is , then what does it matter that someone told you it is"

Who said it mattered ?

Was simply posing a question about Trust and honesty and looking for views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

I don’t feel it is but was told it was

If you don't feel it is , then what does it matter that someone told you it is

Who said it mattered ?

Was simply posing a question about Trust and honesty and looking for views "

I used to be a lot more open on here than I am now. Had my fingers burned.....you live and learn and all that.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I used to be a lot more open on here than I am now. Had my fingers burned.....you live and learn and all that."

This... always thought I was a good judge of character but had my fingers burned on a few occasions now. Moral of my story is listen to John

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has their own idea of honesty and trust

We are adults and we select what we tell others but how open and honest should we be with meets on here

Should we divulge our real name or is that irrelevant and it’s more how many sexual partners we have had what positions we like to fuck in and stuff like if we partake in group fun/ clubs

If we have been verified 100+ times should we be displaying them all?

I’m sure a lot have fucked a lot more people than they have on here and yet no requirement to display numbers but if we don’t show all the ones we have had on here are we misleading others

What really are verifications for

Simply to verify someone is real So we all only need one or perhaps two with no information on them

Or are they a means to find out as much as you can in order to make an informed choice before you sleep with someone

Im not sure how we are misleading people if we choose not to display veries?

I don’t feel it is but was told it was

If you don't feel it is , then what does it matter that someone told you it is

Who said it mattered ?

Was simply posing a question about Trust and honesty and looking for views

I used to be a lot more open on here than I am now. Had my fingers burned.....you live and learn and all that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a lot more open on here than I am now. Had my fingers burned.....you live and learn and all that.

This... always thought I was a good judge of character but had my fingers burned on a few occasions now. Moral of my story is listen to John

K x"

I listen to Mr more too now.

The immortal words " He/She is a cunt" muttered from the hairy arsed one have come back to haunt me more than once

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

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By *ittleMizzNaughty88.Woman
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

I've no interest in who has met who on here or outside fab.

Who we meet on here it's by mutual attraction.

Regardless of how many partners they have had.

I'm not on here to find a relationship. So the only time I expect trust from someone while meeting is that my boundaries are respected /discretion assured at all times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets"

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

Ye think?

Thought it was straight to the point and delightful maself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've no interest in who has met who on here or outside fab.

Who we meet on here it's by mutual attraction.

Regardless of how many partners they have had.

I'm not on here to find a relationship. So the only time I expect trust from someone while meeting is that my boundaries are respected /discretion assured at all times.

"
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By *olly90Woman
over a year ago

Arbroath

I like the comments where they say it's a dodgy sex site .... if u think it's dodgy should u actually be on it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup why shouldn't I?

I'm here for actual sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

Ye think?

Thought it was straight to the point and delightful maself lol "

"If yer fanny's seen more traffic than the M8...."

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

Ye think?

Thought it was straight to the point and delightful maself lol

"If yer fanny's seen more traffic than the M8...."

True but. No one wants the cream cake in Greggs that’s been fingered by all the workers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

Ye think?

Thought it was straight to the point and delightful maself lol

"If yer fanny's seen more traffic than the M8...."

True but. No one wants the cream cake in Greggs that’s been fingered by all the workers

"
right ffs iv no had my dominos pizza yet

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I’ve been on and off here a few times and the same people here as last time still telling the same lies.

I’m honest, I’ll tell ye my name no bother and show my face but am no about to tell folk my inner most secrets

Your profile is brutal! I thought I was harsh

Ye think?

Thought it was straight to the point and delightful maself lol

"If yer fanny's seen more traffic than the M8...."

True but. No one wants the cream cake in Greggs that’s been fingered by all the workers

right ffs iv no had my dominos pizza yet

Tbf your opinion is void for liking dominos lol pure rotten. Get yerself down the Indians for a calzone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ehe boak!

Texas BBQ sat night bliss

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"Ehe boak!

Texas BBQ sat night bliss

Wits wrong with your taste buds??? Next you’ll be putting a sneaky wee bit of pineapple on it

Putting a note on yer profile to say ‘weird pizza lover’ lol

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By *olly90Woman
over a year ago

Arbroath

I love bbq chicken with pineapple pizza... you're an alien

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ham n pineapple my 2nd fav

Seriously if you hate pineapple on a pizza you should be on some sorta list

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Right that’s two profiles getting noted as weird pizza lovers!! There’s just some boundaries ye canny cross man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like rocket on mine.

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine."

Ffs man!! Ye don’t put healthy stuff on pizzas!! That’s now three pizza weirdos. God sakes am gonny need to order 4 calzones tonight now to restore the earths balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right that’s two profiles getting noted as weird pizza lovers!! There’s just some boundaries ye canny cross man "
nothing wrong with a bit of out the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Ffs man!! Ye don’t put healthy stuff on pizzas!! That’s now three pizza weirdos. God sakes am gonny need to order 4 calzones tonight now to restore the earths balance "
bet your a hoggie man too..which looks like the contents of a food bin on a nan bread

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine.

Ffs man!! Ye don’t put healthy stuff on pizzas!! That’s now three pizza weirdos. God sakes am gonny need to order 4 calzones tonight now to restore the earths balance bet your a hoggie man too..which looks like the contents of a food bin on a nan bread

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Ffs man!! Ye don’t put healthy stuff on pizzas!! That’s now three pizza weirdos. God sakes am gonny need to order 4 calzones tonight now to restore the earths balance "

Rocket = euphemism for big fat sausage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf "

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many a rocket on here!!

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine.

Ffs man!! Ye don’t put healthy stuff on pizzas!! That’s now three pizza weirdos. God sakes am gonny need to order 4 calzones tonight now to restore the earths balance

Rocket = euphemism for big fat sausage.

Don’t be sticking up for a pizza weirdo mate we all know she means the leafy green shit.

She’s worth a watching

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many a rocket on here!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

Birds dream topping for the "money shot"

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over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

"
ffs its joey from friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

My fanny looks a bit like a tightly packed calzone actually.

You'll be relieved to hear there is no green, rocket like, vegetation hanging out it though

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

ffs its joey from friends

Nah I’m no where near as suave as that

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By *amsay BoltonMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I like rocket on mine.

Got it in one doll lol there’s no much I couldn’t smash out the take away tbf

Do you treat your women like uou treat your carry oot then?

Never mix women and food. Golden rule!

Al have ye know I’m a pure sensual lover, think cheesy soft porn and dry humping and yer half way there

My fanny looks a bit like a tightly packed calzone actually.

You'll be relieved to hear there is no green, rocket like, vegetation hanging out it though

All am saying is pic or it didn’t happen lol

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By *olly90Woman
over a year ago

Arbroath

"Right that’s two profiles getting noted as weird pizza lovers!! There’s just some boundaries ye canny cross man "

Like I said you're an alien

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To Brin it back to the OP (shock I know

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Tell people as much or as little as you feel comfortable.. If they don't like it then move on. Might be an idea to keep pineapple and pizza preferences to yourself though.. It seams to be a "field narrower"

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

You should do what you want to do, say what you want to say end of ... I think folk worry too much about what others say or do

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