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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I love my controversial debates so thought I would create an interesting one?? (Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Please consider the true meaning of 'Swinging' before responding.

If couples or people with permission are on here but only one of them actually engages with other people for sexual activities is this basically the dominant person in the relationship manipulating their partner/couple/other half for their own individual pleasures/activities?

Thoughts below please.

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By *ictiiWitchCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh


"Ok so I love my controversial debates so thought I would create an interesting one?? (Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Please consider the true meaning of 'Swinging' before responding.

If couples or people with permission are on here but only one of them actually engages with other people for sexual activities is this basically the dominant person in the relationship manipulating their partner/couple/other half for their own individual pleasures/activities?

Thoughts below please. "

Not in my relationship, we are both dominant and had a good long conversation before we started. If we sense an "abusive" relationship in prospective play partners, we will not play with them no matter what. We also wont play with married people that don't have permission from their SO, because no one wants a distraught person turning up on their doorstep questioning why you were sleeping with their OH.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Thoughts below please. "

The very best of luck on your thread here that doesn’t descend into someone getting upset or being offended

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm married I meet and my husband doesn't. He has done in the past and might one day again but for a while he hasn't bothered with it. That's his decision.

Your question isn't going to get a true reflection of these type of relationships. Who's going to come on and admit they are controlling and manipulating their oh into letting them meet other people so your only going to get good stories where it works for both parties or people's opinions that haven't tried it before so are in no way experienced in that sort of thing to give a true answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

We have gone through us both meeting, just me meeting, just him meeting, us both meeting solo but not as a couple and everything in between.

It’s all been about what was right for us at the time

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok so I love my controversial debates so thought I would create an interesting one?? (Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Please consider the true meaning of 'Swinging' before responding.

If couples or people with permission are on here but only one of them actually engages with other people for sexual activities is this basically the dominant person in the relationship manipulating their partner/couple/other half for their own individual pleasures/activities?

Thoughts below please.

Not in my relationship, we are both dominant and had a good long conversation before we started. If we sense an "abusive" relationship in prospective play partners, we will not play with them no matter what. We also wont play with married people that don't have permission from their SO, because no one wants a distraught person turning up on their doorstep questioning why you were sleeping with their OH. "

True.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"(Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Thoughts below please.

The very best of luck on your thread here that doesn’t descend into someone getting upset or being offended "

Other people's opinions don't accept me even if I don't agree with them.

I'm hopeful that I can get a range of views without causing upset.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm married I meet and my husband doesn't. He has done in the past and might one day again but for a while he hasn't bothered with it. That's his decision.

Your question isn't going to get a true reflection of these type of relationships. Who's going to come on and admit they are controlling and manipulating their oh into letting them meet other people so your only going to get good stories where it works for both parties or people's opinions that haven't tried it before so are in no way experienced in that sort of thing to give a true answer. "

Totally see your point but I suppose the positive responses and stories still give me an idea on other people's view.

You never know they maybe some singles or people who have experienced something but are no longer with their previous partner that may share??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope

We have gone through us both meeting, just me meeting, just him meeting, us both meeting solo but not as a couple and everything in between.

It’s all been about what was right for us at the time "

The good thing here is you both had the respect to not all talk things through but then experience them and everything in-between before dismissing them to figure out what is right for you both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No."

Fair-enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

We have gone through us both meeting, just me meeting, just him meeting, us both meeting solo but not as a couple and everything in between.

It’s all been about what was right for us at the time

The good thing here is you both had the respect to not all talk things through but then experience them and everything in-between before dismissing them to figure out what is right for you both.

"

If something didn't sit right with my head then there's no way I'd feel the need to experience it just to be sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I love my controversial debates so thought I would create an interesting one?? (Not intendeding to upset or offend anyone, just like to see other people's views on life situations).

Please consider the true meaning of 'Swinging' before responding.

If couples or people with permission are on here but only one of them actually engages with other people for sexual activities is this basically the dominant person in the relationship manipulating their partner/couple/other half for their own individual pleasures/activities?

Thoughts below please.

Not in my relationship, we are both dominant and had a good long conversation before we started. If we sense an "abusive" relationship in prospective play partners, we will not play with them no matter what. We also wont play with married people that don't have permission from their SO, because no one wants a distraught person turning up on their doorstep questioning why you were sleeping with their OH. "

this I like, morals matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Well not for me and my husband.

We both play as a cpl we both play alone.

Make of that what you will?

Works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree Mrs Fab

I don’t think you will ever find two couples with the same agenda on fab. People come in a massive range of likes and dislikes, playing with or without permission...it’s called life

As for dominant and manipulative well i am sure they are out there. I’ve come across a few like that and steer a wide course away. No one should be abused or used.

Happy to elaborate or discuss if anyone wants to...I like a debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree Mrs Fab

I don’t think you will ever find two couples with the same agenda on fab. People come in a massive range of likes and dislikes, playing with or without permission...it’s called life

As for dominant and manipulative well i am sure they are out there. I’ve come across a few like that and steer a wide course away. No one should be abused or used.

Happy to elaborate or discuss if anyone wants to...I like a debate "

I’m a master debater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah you love oral....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That last comment cracked me up. Lol

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