FabSwingers.com forum: Mini Socials

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We know there are big socials with 40-50 people organised with a charge to cover costs. We know there are small house parties but generally people know each other and there’s perhaps some perceived pressure to play.

Are there any mini socials? By this we means say 4 couples who don’t know each other go to a bar for some drinks just to see who clicks. A bit less pressure than a 1 to 1 social with more options to talk and much easier to organise than the big 4 time a year event. With no cost other than drinks.

Probably a daft idea but just wondering if it ever happens.

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You should arrange one, I'm sure you'll get lots of interest

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I agree with Fem, pick a few people and invite them along, what’s the worst that can happen ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would be so good, I've yet to get along to a big social but apprehensive of going myself

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yeah we've put up for causal drinks plenty of times and had couples message to come along

You'll normally find people put up for pre drinks etc before going to CJs

John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with Fem, pick a few people and invite them along, what’s the worst that can happen ? "

Or should we just ask who’s like to come to a very small social . Incognito in a bar (no gimp masks) and since it’s small the attendees would have to have to be similar. For us we’d probably be looking for another 3 couples.

We’ve been to a large social but felt out of it because everyone knew each other and been to a party but felt, in our own heads, some pressure to play.

With a mini social there is no pressure to play but with 4 couples (say) you wouldn’t be left out either.

Only an idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah we've put up for causal drinks plenty of times and had couples message to come along

You'll normally find people put up for pre drinks etc before going to CJs

John

We don’t go to CJs (too scared as it’s too close to home) so a mini social would just be a social with no expectation of any play. Just a get to know you.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Yeah we've put up for causal drinks plenty of times and had couples message to come along

You'll normally find people put up for pre drinks etc before going to CJs

John

We don’t go to CJs (too scared as it’s too close to home) so a mini social would just be a social with no expectation of any play. Just a get to know you. "

Not many local to it go, fact only a few but the ones that do have been on the scene for years so no issues there, but yes can be scary and every now n then we run into someone we know off the scene

John

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Yeah we've put up for causal drinks plenty of times and had couples message to come along

You'll normally find people put up for pre drinks etc before going to CJs

John

We don’t go to CJs (too scared as it’s too close to home) so a mini social would just be a social with no expectation of any play. Just a get to know you.

Not many local to it go, fact only a few but the ones that do have been on the scene for years so no issues there, but yes can be scary and every now n then we run into someone we know off the scene

John

It's a small gathering not a club night they are looking for

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I would probably put a status up and see if you get any interest first, you'll want to chat to the couples I'm sure to see if you click. It you don't get enough interest from that you could put a meet request up and see what comes from that. I'm sure you won't have any problems getting a few couples to meet up.

It's a great idea and something I know myself and my husband would prefer to a larger party night or club if we were looking to meet

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's a small gathering not a club night they are looking for "

I got that bit, hence why I was saying for couples having pre drinks, doesn't mean they need to goto the club to just meet others who are

John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would probably put a status up and see if you get any interest first, you'll want to chat to the couples I'm sure to see if you click. It you don't get enough interest from that you could put a meet request up and see what comes from that. I'm sure you won't have any problems getting a few couples to meet up.

It's a great idea and something I know myself and my husband would prefer to a larger party night or club if we were looking to meet "

Good idea. Though our profile gets about 4 views a day

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's a small gathering not a club night they are looking for

I got that bit, hence why I was saying for couples having pre drinks, doesn't mean they need to goto the club to just meet others who are

John

Take the hint John

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's a great idea and something I know myself and my husband would prefer to a larger party night or club if we were looking to meet

Good idea. Though our profile gets about 4 views a day

A lot of people won't be visible. You can change your settings so you don't show up on who's looked at me. There will be more than just 4. Also message couples you're interested in and ask if they would like to meet up

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's a small gathering not a club night they are looking for

I got that bit, hence why I was saying for couples having pre drinks, doesn't mean they need to goto the club to just meet others who are

John

Take the hint John

Which hint is that?

John

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Think its a cracking idea,i think more people than you realise have a kind of social anxiety when it comes to the big busy organised socials.

Smaller scale sounds perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its a good idea seen a few couples do this already Xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Try asking those you want to go for a drink/meal dont get tied up in the name.

As an aside what folk are deeming big socials most of the time its not its just a crowd hooking up in a bar so go and if it dosnt suit leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try asking those you want to go for a drink/meal dont get tied up in the name.

As an aside what folk are deeming big socials most of the time its not its just a crowd hooking up in a bar so go and if it dosnt suit leave

We’ve been to a big social in a dedicated venue. Pinupgirl who organised it was lovely to us. However we felt lots of people knew each other and we were on the periphery. We know you should mingle but felt awkward just walking up to a table of 10 people who all knew each other.

Our problem but we’d probably feel more comfortable in a smaller meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try asking those you want to go for a drink/meal dont get tied up in the name.

As an aside what folk are deeming big socials most of the time its not its just a crowd hooking up in a bar so go and if it dosnt suit leave

Our problem but we’d probably feel more comfortable in a smaller meet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean nut those table of 10 were all Just like you guys 1 time too..nobody at socials would ignore you if you spoke to them..this 10 folk are prob just all catching up with folk they havnt saw in a while.

I know when I go to socials I usually sit with 2 cpls we have known for yrs ...nothing to do with cliques just catching up with friends.

But the smaller social is a great idea! Put a meet today up with a date and see if anyone fancies it?

Good luck

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By *ising SunMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It used to be a regular thing a few years back. You'd be in the chatroom, and end up organising a spur of the moment social with a few others that day, or the next. However, I've noticed that most of the people who used to attend mini socials have moved on from here, or have given up on the Scottish area of the site, and do their socialising over the border...pity, because the mini socials were a good laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should arrange one, I'm sure you'll get lots of interest "

Good idea me and my partner went to cjs at Xmas and I felt a bit out of my depth, she was fine.lol would be good to meet a few couples rather than a big club I think.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"It used to be a regular thing a few years back. You'd be in the chatroom, and end up organising a spur of the moment social with a few others that day, or the next. However, I've noticed that most of the people who used to attend mini socials have moved on from here, or have given up on the Scottish area of the site, and do their socialising over the border...pity, because the mini socials were a good laugh."
id agree with this hell of a lot more social down south or it could be because you really are meeting new folk in other places.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

We have the mini socials down where I live in west yorkshire.

On visiting the aberdeen area for so long I was looking for a social in the area.

At least 1 in every 2 month at least everyone can plan for it.

But many want the large socials with an event planed.

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By *pank me!Couple
over a year ago

Nr Airdrie

We are up for any type of social xx

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Makes sense of your shy and just want to meet people socially.

I'm sure if you arranged you would get people to come along and hey nothing wrong with a good wee social night out.

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By *llyandjimCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

We also perform smaller socials.

Tho we have been to many large socials and know lots ov people to say hi to, Hi is usually as far as it goes. I am quite shy in crowds and also wont approach others. Tho when u get to know me you wouldn’t think that

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

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By *llyandjimCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Hiding under the duvet

When we met it was in a smaller group

and that is my point. I feel more comfortable

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Ha you beat me to it

K x

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Ha you beat me to it

K x"

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By *llyandjimCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Ha you beat me to it

K x"

as u know with a large social we say hi to friends then we always stand on our own and usually leave early.

And yes at the smaller ones, I am always in the middle ov things

he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would be so good, I've yet to get along to a big social but apprehensive of going myself "

Yeah me too prefer smaller socialls myself

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Ha you beat me to it

K x

as u know with a large social we say hi to friends then we always stand on our own and usually leave early.

And yes at the smaller ones, I am always in the middle ov things

he he "

Yep I would have to agree on both, I think smaller socials are a nice change as at the bigger ones you don’t really get a chance to speak to people, like you said sometimes it’s just a hi

K x

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"We also perform smaller socials.

But ye defo prefer a smaller group

Shy .... ok where is the real Ally

Ha you beat me to it

K x

as u know with a large social we say hi to friends then we always stand on our own and usually leave early.

And yes at the smaller ones, I am always in the middle ov things

he he

Yep I would have to agree on both, I think smaller socials are a nice change as at the bigger ones you don’t really get a chance to speak to people, like you said sometimes it’s just a hi

K x"

Same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great feedback

We’ll try and set something up over the next few weeks with maybe 4 or 5 couples for a Glasgow city centre pub.

PM us if anyone is interested and we’ll see if we can get something organised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be interested in this less people to scare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these like Mini Eggs? No need to eat all in one go, just nibble those you like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the size of your mouth lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We started organising a group of us and we’ve got 3 couples so far. Possibly looking for one or two more who are interested then we can arrange a date/venue

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By *wingwhenyourwinningABCMan
over a year ago

paisley

Single guys?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single guys?"

Sorry but we’re just going for couples on the night as we’re looking for couples only. It’s only a small get together. Sorry if that’s selfish but it’s for couples to find other couples.

Who know in the future but nothing to stop somebody arranging their own similar get together.

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By *wingwhenyourwinningABCMan
over a year ago

paisley

True

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Sounds like a good idea.

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By *hruple huntersCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Great idea.

We went to a Glasgow social a few years back and as said above you feel on the periphery, still had a good night though, but it was daunting.

Think it was DD that organised it.

(Sure that was the profile name)

G x

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"We started organising a group of us and we’ve got 3 couples so far. Possibly looking for one or two more who are interested then we can arrange a date/venue

Great hope it goes well x

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By *elaxedcplCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

With a bit of notice to organise a baby sitter, we'd be interested in a mini social. Will send you a message x

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

leeds

Interested

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Interested"

If you read the post you will see they are looking for couples.

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By *irtybitch1Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

If you are holding a social add us in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are full now and have enough couples for this first small social. Sorry if anyone missed out but there’s always another one in the future

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Great! Easily arranged I'm sure too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great! Easily arranged I'm sure too.

Yes. The number are small so easier. Respect to those who arrange big socials. That must be a nightmare!

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

"Single guys?

Sorry but we’re just going for couples on the night as we’re looking for couples only. It’s only a small get together. Sorry if that’s selfish but it’s for couples to find other couples.

Who know in the future but nothing to stop somebody arranging their own similar get together. "

Good luck, I hope it goes well xx

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By *rMrsWTFCouple
over a year ago

Arbroath

"We know there are big socials with 40-50 people organised with a charge to cover costs. We know there are small house parties but generally people know each other and there’s perhaps some perceived pressure to play.

Probably a daft idea but just wondering if it ever happens. "

We think this sounds like a great idea

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By *olly90Woman
over a year ago

Arbroath

I'd prefer a smaller social gathering in a pub to the big organised ones. When I first came on fab I went along to one in a pub in Dundee. Was good x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One of our couples has dropped out of our mini social. Looking for one couple to replace them for a mini social (5 couples) on 23rd Feb at venue in Glasgow city centre. Social only just to get to know some new people.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

leeds

I can join mini forum I asked my gf and she sid yes cos it's a small group and social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can join mini forum I asked my gf and she sid yes cos it's a small group and social"

If you have a verified, by a few meets, couple profile then just pm us from that profile.

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By *imbo57Man
over a year ago

kilmarnock ish

Many years ago i tried to organise a lunch social down in ayrshire and it caused so much hassle i set a number limit of 16 . Got way more so went by first in first on list . Got way to many so had a waiting list as the day came along various reasons given for call of then as i contacted the waiting list started to call of i was getting nasty messages as it turned out after me booking for 16 only 7 i think turned up we had a guid chat and i still meet up ocassionaly socially yet . I found the experiance draining

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

Our 2 last Christmas nights have been 13 guests and 14 guests. Been assured they were great nights but the disadvantages of smaller socials are that lesser pottential play mates . Lots to be said in favour of big socials and also small numbered intimate group sizes. Good luck with your arranged night OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our 2 last Christmas nights have been 13 guests and 14 guests. Been assured they were great nights but the disadvantages of smaller socials are that lesser pottential play mates . Lots to be said in favour of big socials and also small numbered intimate group sizes. Good luck with your arranged night OP

We’ve only been to one big social but there were lots of people who seemed to spend most of the night in small groups of 8-10 people. Bigger socials might give more options but only if there is a lot of mingling going on. We only got to speak to a handful of people at the big social as most groups seemed impenetrable.

With our smaller group everyone will hopefully get to chat to each other as no one really knows each other.

Smaller socials are easier to organise and you don’t need to hire a venue or take any payment. Horses for courses though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think its a cracking idea,i think more people than you realise have a kind of social anxiety when it comes to the big busy organised socials.

Smaller scale sounds perfect.

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By *ookie an creamCouple
over a year ago

Fife

This could be really good idea. Good way to get to know few more couples at same time.

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