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"What has not being able to accommodate have to do with cheating? " Exactly. Might be the fact you don't want strangers in your home. | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " I'm a single guy and can accommodate but to be honest I don't intend to meet at mine anymore. Most people on fab and not trusting and to be honest I don't blame them. I'm sure everyone who doesn't wanna meet cheaters have their own methods of finding out if a single person is genuine or not. Some get away with it, some don't. I will say no one can be 100% sure if someone else is single or cheating and just cause someone doesn't accommodate, doesn't necessarily mean they are cheating, they may have a reason, a good reason for not accommodating.   | |||
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"Even as a couple we can't accommodate because we have kids and I wouldn't want to bring anyone back to their home even if they were elsewhere. I really don't know and wish I did. I'll be following with interest! V x" We don't accommodate for the same reason. We did years ago before we we're on fab and she turned out to be a bit of a nutter. Mr | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " Send you a photo of his bathroom. If the toilet seat is down you've got yourself a cheater.... | |||
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"What has not being able to accommodate have to do with cheating? " I wasn’t saying that sorry I was saying if someone can accomodate then it’s easier to see they are a genuine single Wasn’t saying the opposite to this meant they weren’t | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " I have a video of my wife outlining her “blessing”, which can be compared with the same person standing next to me in wedding pics. For mutual acquaintances there is usually a chat where “the nod” is given. For her it’s less of an issue - I did make a similar video for her years ago, but I think it’s only been used once or twice - guys tend not to mind if “there’s a ring on it”, and some guys find the “with permission” thing a bit weird. | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do I have a video of my wife outlining her “blessing”, which can be compared with the same person standing next to me in wedding pics. For mutual acquaintances there is usually a chat where “the nod” is given. For her it’s less of an issue - I did make a similar video for her years ago, but I think it’s only been used once or twice - guys tend not to mind if “there’s a ring on it”, and some guys find the “with permission” thing a bit weird. " Do you readily show the video of your wife to those who ask? Even if she is in no way going to be involved? | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do I have a video of my wife outlining her “blessing”, which can be compared with the same person standing next to me in wedding pics. For mutual acquaintances there is usually a chat where “the nod” is given. For her it’s less of an issue - I did make a similar video for her years ago, but I think it’s only been used once or twice - guys tend not to mind if “there’s a ring on it”, and some guys find the “with permission” thing a bit weird. Do you readily show the video of your wife to those who ask? Even if she is in no way going to be involved?" Only if the point is being pressed with someone and it’s a real potential sticking point. I recognise that there are plenty guys on here (and in real life!) who profess to having an open relationship when what they actually have is a trusting wife. So for that reason I can bring out the proof if it’s someone I am keen to meet. It wouldn’t be at an early chat stage, though. More at a social pre-meet or depending on phone/text chat. It’s not part of the ‘play’ if that’s what you mean. | |||
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"A live picture of the bedroom and bathroom cabinet should tell you all you need to know. " Aye, that too. | |||
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"A live picture of the bedroom and bathroom cabinet should tell you all you need to know. Aye, that too." Aye | |||
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"A live picture of the bedroom and bathroom cabinet should tell you all you need to know. Aye, that too. Aye" Glad we're in agreement | |||
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"I am a former cheater, not proud of it and a very very lucky man to still be married so i know the things i hated. A few tips to look out for. Not being able to accomodate can be explained away easily so simply dont think thats a tell tale sign. When getting to know someone always get a number and use it, call at random times during the evening , not stalker style. Different days and times just for a wee hello. If he or she is single it should not be an issue, even if family is there. Its just a call from a friend no big deal. If it goes to voicemail instantly , wonder why, especially if they call you back 15 minutes later. If your given specific times to call , worry. If it gets to the meet stage, ask to meet at his local, cheats will not meet in their local pub or resteraunt, NEVER. Ask yourself why they insist coming to you. Now you have met, have they got kids, ex wife etc. Ask very personal questions, surely getting personal with someone your possibly gonna end up humping shouldnt be a problem. Listen and WATCH the answers, does he look you in the eye when he says hes been separated 3 years or whatever or do they look anywhere but your direction. Is he fidgety when he answers, people get uncomfortable when lying it cant be helped. Does he lick his lips , lying makes your lips go dry. Touching the face is another sign of lying. If he has kids ask questions about them, how often do you see them, bringing family into it puts a huge guilt trip , cheats HATE getting personal. Watch all the reactions when getting personal, do they keep trying to end that conversation and talk about you instead. Be straight, tell them you dont do cheaters, pure and simple . If he or she is cheating and you find out after something happens then you better prepare for divorce. That alone will probably mean no more contact. Hope these we tips help x "I generally agree with this, however neither me nor my wife would ever meet someone in our local. We never go there, but we don’t want our relationship status to be common knowledge. Likewise the kids thing, no FWB/FB is likely to meet my kids (unless it’s someone we know socially anyway), and likewise I’m unlikely to want to sustain a long conversation about my family when I’m meeting someone else. Neither of these necessarily mean cheating... but in some circumstance (or if they say they’re single) would be a good clue. | |||
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"I am a former cheater, not proud of it and a very very lucky man to still be married so i know the things i hated. A few tips to look out for. Not being able to accomodate can be explained away easily so simply dont think thats a tell tale sign. When getting to know someone always get a number and use it, call at random times during the evening , not stalker style. Different days and times just for a wee hello. If he or she is single it should not be an issue, even if family is there. Its just a call from a friend no big deal. If it goes to voicemail instantly , wonder why, especially if they call you back 15 minutes later. If your given specific times to call , worry. If it gets to the meet stage, ask to meet at his local, cheats will not meet in their local pub or resteraunt, NEVER. Ask yourself why they insist coming to you. Now you have met, have they got kids, ex wife etc. Ask very personal questions, surely getting personal with someone your possibly gonna end up humping shouldnt be a problem. Listen and WATCH the answers, does he look you in the eye when he says hes been separated 3 years or whatever or do they look anywhere but your direction. Is he fidgety when he answers, people get uncomfortable when lying it cant be helped. Does he lick his lips , lying makes your lips go dry. Touching the face is another sign of lying. If he has kids ask questions about them, how often do you see them, bringing family into it puts a huge guilt trip , cheats HATE getting personal. Watch all the reactions when getting personal, do they keep trying to end that conversation and talk about you instead. Be straight, tell them you dont do cheaters, pure and simple . If he or she is cheating and you find out after something happens then you better prepare for divorce. That alone will probably mean no more contact. Hope these we tips help x
I generally agree with this, however neither me nor my wife would ever meet someone in our local. We never go there, but we don’t want our relationship status to be common knowledge.
Likewise the kids thing, no FWB/FB is likely to meet my kids (unless it’s someone we know socially anyway), and likewise I’m unlikely to want to sustain a long conversation about my family when I’m meeting someone else.
Neither of these necessarily mean cheating... but in some circumstance (or if they say they’re single) would be a good clue. "Your actually confirming my points, your married and playing with permission and yet you wouldnt meet local, think if you were playing without your partners permission , you definitely wouldnt meet local.  | |||
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"I am a former cheater, not proud of it and a very very lucky man to still be married so i know the things i hated. A few tips to look out for. Not being able to accomodate can be explained away easily so simply dont think thats a tell tale sign. When getting to know someone always get a number and use it, call at random times during the evening , not stalker style. Different days and times just for a wee hello. If he or she is single it should not be an issue, even if family is there. Its just a call from a friend no big deal. If it goes to voicemail instantly , wonder why, especially if they call you back 15 minutes later. If your given specific times to call , worry. If it gets to the meet stage, ask to meet at his local, cheats will not meet in their local pub or resteraunt, NEVER. Ask yourself why they insist coming to you. Now you have met, have they got kids, ex wife etc. Ask very personal questions, surely getting personal with someone your possibly gonna end up humping shouldnt be a problem. Listen and WATCH the answers, does he look you in the eye when he says hes been separated 3 years or whatever or do they look anywhere but your direction. Is he fidgety when he answers, people get uncomfortable when lying it cant be helped. Does he lick his lips , lying makes your lips go dry. Touching the face is another sign of lying. If he has kids ask questions about them, how often do you see them, bringing family into it puts a huge guilt trip , cheats HATE getting personal. Watch all the reactions when getting personal, do they keep trying to end that conversation and talk about you instead. Be straight, tell them you dont do cheaters, pure and simple . If he or she is cheating and you find out after something happens then you better prepare for divorce. That alone will probably mean no more contact. Hope these we tips help x
I generally agree with this, however neither me nor my wife would ever meet someone in our local. We never go there, but we don’t want our relationship status to be common knowledge.
Likewise the kids thing, no FWB/FB is likely to meet my kids (unless it’s someone we know socially anyway), and likewise I’m unlikely to want to sustain a long conversation about my family when I’m meeting someone else.
Neither of these necessarily mean cheating... but in some circumstance (or if they say they’re single) would be a good clue.
Your actually confirming my points, your married and playing with permission and yet you wouldnt meet local, think if you were playing without your partners permission , you definitely wouldnt meet local. "Heheh. I kind of realised that by the end of my message, but I was too lazy to go back and edit!  | |||
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"Good God...there is no way on earth I'd impart most of that info to someone I was meeting for the first time. And all that stuff about the different times of phone calls sounds like a very complicated game to play without necessarily proving anything " Im not sure many guys would care if you were cheating or not . You never said how you would try finding out if YOU were meeting a cheater or do you not bother if they are married or single. ? | |||
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"Good God...there is no way on earth I'd impart most of that info to someone I was meeting for the first time. And all that stuff about the different times of phone calls sounds like a very complicated game to play without necessarily proving anything Im not sure many guys would care if you were cheating or not . You never said how you would try finding out if YOU were meeting a cheater or do you not bother if they are married or single. ?" I never said cos it's not anyone's business but mine | |||
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"I am a former cheater, not proud of it and a very very lucky man to still be married so i know the things i hated. A few tips to look out for. Not being able to accomodate can be explained away easily so simply dont think thats a tell tale sign. When getting to know someone always get a number and use it, call at random times during the evening , not stalker style. Different days and times just for a wee hello. If he or she is single it should not be an issue, even if family is there. Its just a call from a friend no big deal. If it goes to voicemail instantly , wonder why, especially if they call you back 15 minutes later. If your given specific times to call , worry. If it gets to the meet stage, ask to meet at his local, cheats will not meet in their local pub or resteraunt, NEVER. Ask yourself why they insist coming to you. Now you have met, have they got kids, ex wife etc. Ask very personal questions, surely getting personal with someone your possibly gonna end up humping shouldnt be a problem. Listen and WATCH the answers, does he look you in the eye when he says hes been separated 3 years or whatever or do they look anywhere but your direction. Is he fidgety when he answers, people get uncomfortable when lying it cant be helped. Does he lick his lips , lying makes your lips go dry. Touching the face is another sign of lying. If he has kids ask questions about them, how often do you see them, bringing family into it puts a huge guilt trip , cheats HATE getting personal. Watch all the reactions when getting personal, do they keep trying to end that conversation and talk about you instead. Be straight, tell them you dont do cheaters, pure and simple . If he or she is cheating and you find out after something happens then you better prepare for divorce. That alone will probably mean no more contact. Hope these we tips help x
I generally agree with this, however neither me nor my wife would ever meet someone in our local. We never go there, but we don’t want our relationship status to be common knowledge.
Likewise the kids thing, no FWB/FB is likely to meet my kids (unless it’s someone we know socially anyway), and likewise I’m unlikely to want to sustain a long conversation about my family when I’m meeting someone else.
Neither of these necessarily mean cheating... but in some circumstance (or if they say they’re single) would be a good clue.
Your actually confirming my points, your married and playing with permission and yet you wouldnt meet local, think if you were playing without your partners permission , you definitely wouldnt meet local.
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"Good God...there is no way on earth I'd impart most of that info to someone I was meeting for the first time. And all that stuff about the different times of phone calls sounds like a very complicated game to play without necessarily proving anything Im not sure many guys would care if you were cheating or not . You never said how you would try finding out if YOU were meeting a cheater or do you not bother if they are married or single. ? I never said cos it's not anyone's business but mine" So your here to make comments on others posts without putting your own views forward. Cool . "Thats nice" | |||
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"Good God...there is no way on earth I'd impart most of that info to someone I was meeting for the first time. And all that stuff about the different times of phone calls sounds like a very complicated game to play without necessarily proving anything Im not sure many guys would care if you were cheating or not . You never said how you would try finding out if YOU were meeting a cheater or do you not bother if they are married or single. ? I never said cos it's not anyone's business but mine So your here to make comments on others posts without putting your own views forward. Cool . "Thats nice" "Try reading the very first line I posted  | |||
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"Good God...there is no way on earth I'd impart most of that info to someone I was meeting for the first time. And all that stuff about the different times of phone calls sounds like a very complicated game to play without necessarily proving anything Im not sure many guys would care if you were cheating or not . You never said how you would try finding out if YOU were meeting a cheater or do you not bother if they are married or single. ? I never said cos it's not anyone's business but mine" I have to hold my hands up and say I never use to overly bother about it Always felt it was the other person who had the commitment to their partner and I was the innocent one But my views over the years have changed and I’m verging more and more towards a no cheaters no exceptions rule | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone in my local even if I was single. Too many nosey bastards." I also wouldn't because my local is shit. The one in the next village up is ok, but my cousin and his wife drink there, so that’s oot too! | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone in my local even if I was single. Too many nosey bastards." Yes. I dont tend to meet local for this reason. | |||
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"What has not being able to accommodate have to do with cheating? I wasn’t saying that sorry I was saying if someone can accomodate then it’s easier to see they are a genuine single Wasn’t saying the opposite to this meant they weren’t " I didn't think you were meaning that. There are people who accommodate and are cheating and there are people who can accommodate who are not cheating. Same goes for people who cant accommodate, some are cheating, some are not. A few years back now, I had two socials at mines within a week of each other and thought I asked all the right questions during message exchange and chat on phone etc.. During social, one told me she was married and one told me she had a BF. I did asked them during message exchange if they were single and they both said they were. Its hard to know on here so gut instinct is good, any doubt, just move on | |||
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" I did asked them during message exchange if they were single and they both said they were. Its hard to know on here so gut instinct is good, any doubt, just move on "I didn’t think the females would need to lie on here about that  | |||
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" I did asked them during message exchange if they were single and they both said they were. Its hard to know on here so gut instinct is good, any doubt, just move on
I didn’t think the females would need to lie on here about that "Yeah a lot of females do cheat. I don't meet cheaters, no intention of doing so. Not on for drama and hassle and prefer at my own pace | |||
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"What has not being able to accommodate have to do with cheating? Exactly. Might be the fact you don't want strangers in your home." This for. Me as I have kids. And. Nosy neighbours and the fact I want to keep swing separate from my everyday life, it's my indulgence something that for a little while I can be me and not a mum, colleague etc.. | |||
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" I did asked them during message exchange if they were single and they both said they were. Its hard to know on here so gut instinct is good, any doubt, just move on
I didn’t think the females would need to lie on here about that
Yeah a lot of females do cheat.
I don't meet cheaters, no intention of doing so. Not on for drama and hassle and prefer at my own pace "No I’m meaning I don’t think females lie about being married I know we cheat We are all human afterall | |||
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"It’s too difficult to tell. Apart from obvious things like a visible wedding ring for eg not much you can do unless you have their full real name and Facebook stalk them for info. When I had my singles profile it clearly stated no married or attached men and that if I found out I had been lied to I wouldn’t think twice about outing them to their other half. Way I saw it was if they don’t give a fuck about cheating on their partner or the person they are meetings moral values why should I care about outing them. Mrs" Did anyone actually risk it or you found a good method of filtering? | |||
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"It’s too difficult to tell. Apart from obvious things like a visible wedding ring for eg not much you can do unless you have their full real name and Facebook stalk them for info. When I had my singles profile it clearly stated no married or attached men and that if I found out I had been lied to I wouldn’t think twice about outing them to their other half. Way I saw it was if they don’t give a fuck about cheating on their partner or the person they are meetings moral values why should I care about outing them. Mrs Did anyone actually risk it or you found a good method of filtering? " Seemed to be a good filter but one liar did slip through. He got his cumuppence though. I bumped into him and his wife at the vets and casually dropped into conversation his tattoo on his pubic bone. | |||
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"What has not being able to accommodate have to do with cheating? Exactly. Might be the fact you don't want strangers in your home." This is why i dont accomadate | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " You can't. I was married for 14yrs. Everything seemed fine then I found out she was fucking someone for 6months. I thought I knew everything about her, obviously not. | |||
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"Why is it any of your business? Many will lie about it anyways. Other people's relationships aren't my problem on a casual sex site. "Because for some it is another criteria which has to be met along with height, build, sexual likes/dislikes etc. People can stipulate what they like on here though there's no guarantee they'll get it. | |||
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"Why is it any of your business? Many will lie about it anyways. Other people's relationships aren't my problem on a casual sex site.
Because for some it is another criteria which has to be met along with height, build, sexual likes/dislikes etc. People can stipulate what they like on here though there's no guarantee they'll get it." | |||
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"Don't meet single guys? "Hehe at first I thought that was the perfect answer But then thought are all couples faithful within their coupledom | |||
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"I don't like to meet married men, because on more than 1 occasion they storm out the door as soon as they're done - back to their family waiting at home. I like my all night sessions, so I'll pass on sitting on my own afterwards thinking I've served my purpose and sometimes feeling pretty worthless. So yeah, not my business, don't judge them (until they start selling me their bullshitting filthy lies as well), but would rather not have them knocking on my door x" Totally agree well done you | |||
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"Don't meet single guys?
Hehe at first I thought that was the perfect answer
But then thought are all couples faithful within their coupledom "I wouldn't touch one half of a couple from here...they seem too fraught with drama (not all, before someone jumps on me), but enough to make me steer clear | |||
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" I did asked them during message exchange if they were single and they both said they were. Its hard to know on here so gut instinct is good, any doubt, just move on
I didn’t think the females would need to lie on here about that
Yeah a lot of females do cheat.
I don't meet cheaters, no intention of doing so. Not on for drama and hassle and prefer at my own pace
No I’m meaning I don’t think females lie about being married
I know we cheat
We are all human afterall
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"Don't meet single guys?
Hehe at first I thought that was the perfect answer
But then thought are all couples faithful within their coupledom "are you meaning meeting guys from a couple on here and she might not know about it or thinking how they are as a couple outside of here? | |||
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"Don't meet single guys?
Hehe at first I thought that was the perfect answer
But then thought are all couples faithful within their coupledom are you meaning meeting guys from a couple on here and she might not know about it or thinking how they are as a couple outside of here? "Well at first when you said don’t meet single guys (as if the guy is part of a couple already he won’t be lying to you ) I thought that is the answer Thought the female will know but then thought no they might not That’s as far as my thought process went  | |||
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"I don't like to meet married men, because on more than 1 occasion they storm out the door as soon as they're done - back to their family waiting at home. I like my all night sessions, so I'll pass on sitting on my own afterwards thinking I've served my purpose and sometimes feeling pretty worthless. So yeah, not my business, don't judge them (until they start selling me their bullshitting filthy lies as well), but would rather not have them knocking on my door x Totally agree well done you "Very true. I've also had that with single men a lot. It's also hard completely trusting men who are habitual liars, but then don't most men lie? It is what it is. At the end of the day we're disposable. | |||
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"When first joining fab year's ago I was married OH didn't know. Would be a tad hypocritical of me to judge anyone else's circumstances/reasons why they are on here." It’s nothing to do with judging Everyone looks for different things and right now I’m done with cheaters so my original post was how can you tell if someone is being truthful if they are saying they are single | |||
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"When first joining fab year's ago I was married OH didn't know. Would be a tad hypocritical of me to judge anyone else's circumstances/reasons why they are on here. It’s nothing to do with judging Everyone looks for different things and right now I’m done with cheaters so my original post was how can you tell if someone is being truthful if they are saying they are single " Make sure they can accommodate and 1st social is at a busy public pub near them | |||
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"Ditto to all that. I ask outright and they're usually married or attached. It's a shock if they're properly single! You can be married and accommodate too....hotels! If they request no marks that's *sometimes a telltale sign. " Or it’s a sign tgey don’t like being marked .. I don’t fancy going to the pool or the gym with marks over my body | |||
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"When first joining fab year's ago I was married OH didn't know. Would be a tad hypocritical of me to judge anyone else's circumstances/reasons why they are on here. It’s nothing to do with judging Everyone looks for different things and right now I’m done with cheaters so my original post was how can you tell if someone is being truthful if they are saying they are single Make sure they can accommodate and 1st social is at a busy public pub near them " Doesn't always make them single though. I accommodated & met socially in locals while married. Told the guy's I was a single parent. Partly true only Monday to Thursday. 
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " If in doubt dont meet | |||
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"Ok I know this has been talked about to death And everyone and their little sister has a view on it but how you can genuinely prove to someone you are a bona fide single or in a relationship that has permission to play outwith Obv couples on here that are genuine couples not fuck buddies will find this easier as they can usually accommodate. But say I was asking someone to prove to me what could they do " I always ask for chat with other half on Kik, pref video but have accepted pics and chat too. | |||
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Lots of guys (and this only from personal experience) seem to tell lies on here, if it’s not that their not married/attached when they actually are it’s something else. Had someone profess to being a pilot just this weekend and turns out he’s far from it lol!! Knew straight away there was something odd about the story but let him go on till I was sure lol | |||
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"You can't. Go with your gut if you think they are great if not don't. It really is that simple. So many posts on this it's getting tedious. " | |||
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"You can't. Go with your gut if you think they are great if not don't. It really is that simple. So many posts on this it's getting tedious.
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"You can't. Go with your gut if you think they are great if not don't. It really is that simple. So many posts on this it's getting tedious.
You 2 are becoming a tag team!"Not for the first time | |||
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"Why you jealous like? "Nah just saying it's nice to be able to think for knew self! | |||
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"You can't. Go with your gut if you think they are great if not don't. It really is that simple. So many posts on this it's getting tedious.
You 2 are becoming a tag team!
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"Even as a couple we can't accommodate because we have kids and I wouldn't want to bring anyone back to their home even if they were elsewhere. I really don't know and wish I did. I'll be following with interest! This is the same for us. V x" | |||
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"Even as a couple we can't accommodate because we have kids and I wouldn't want to bring anyone back to their home even if they were elsewhere. I really don't know and wish I did. I'll be following with interest! This is the same for us. V x" There a blast from the past hi Leanne how t_e devil are you? | |||
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"I am a former cheater, not proud of it and a very very lucky man to still be married so i know the things i hated. A few tips to look out for. Not being able to accomodate can be explained away easily so simply dont think thats a tell tale sign. When getting to know someone always get a number and use it, call at random times during the evening , not stalker style. Different days and times just for a wee hello. If he or she is single it should not be an issue, even if family is there. Its just a call from a friend no big deal. If it goes to voicemail instantly , wonder why, especially if they call you back 15 minutes later. If your given specific times to call , worry. If it gets to the meet stage, ask to meet at his local, cheats will not meet in their local pub or resteraunt, NEVER. Ask yourself why they insist coming to you. Now you have met, have they got kids, ex wife etc. Ask very personal questions, surely getting personal with someone your possibly gonna end up humping shouldnt be a problem. Listen and WATCH the answers, does he look you in the eye when he says hes been separated 3 years or whatever or do they look anywhere but your direction. Is he fidgety when he answers, people get uncomfortable when lying it cant be helped. Does he lick his lips , lying makes your lips go dry. Touching the face is another sign of lying. If he has kids ask questions about them, how often do you see them, bringing family into it puts a huge guilt trip , cheats HATE getting personal. Watch all the reactions when getting personal, do they keep trying to end that conversation and talk about you instead. Be straight, tell them you dont do cheaters, pure and simple . If he or she is cheating and you find out after something happens then you better prepare for divorce. That alone will probably mean no more contact. Hope these we tips help x
I generally agree with this, however neither me nor my wife would ever meet someone in our local. We never go there, but we don’t want our relationship status to be common knowledge.
Likewise the kids thing, no FWB/FB is likely to meet my kids (unless it’s someone we know socially anyway), and likewise I’m unlikely to want to sustain a long conversation about my family when I’m meeting someone else.
Neither of these necessarily mean cheating... but in some circumstance (or if they say they’re single) would be a good clue.
Your actually confirming my points, your married and playing with permission and yet you wouldnt meet local, think if you were playing without your partners permission , you definitely wouldnt meet local.
Heheh. I kind of realised that by the end of my message, but I was too lazy to go back and edit!
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