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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. Why do you ladies (and couples too) sometimes read a message, then go back and mark it as unread, sometimes after looking at the profile?

Are you's trying to play it cool? Can't see the benefit of doing this myself, thought it would be more likely to lead to another message getting sent your way.At least if the guy can see that the message has been read, he can take the hint from this, that you aren't interested if he gets no response.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's game playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr reads all of ours but doesn't reply, leaves that to me. So he'll go back and mark unread after having a nosey.

Sometimes I'll read and then put it back to unread until I have time to reply properly.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

My first message was how do you change to un-read but after going into my messages I see you can! Genuinely never noticed that before .... I would make a shit Detective !

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ll mark it as unread as I don’t always have time to write a response.

Just personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just how big a response are some of you sending

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven


"Mr reads all of ours but doesn't reply, leaves that to me. So he'll go back and mark unread after having a nosey.

Sometimes I'll read and then put it back to unread until I have time to reply properly."

Yeah pretty much what we do aswell.

But if I see the message i browse the profile if it says straight OR athletic it shows they haven't bothered to read our profile so sometimes gets thanks but no thanks, other times it's just a delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do folk not do this with work emails too? Quick nosey to see what takes priority/can do with a one line response or mark "unread"? It's not always about fucking with folk or trying to play games.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll mark it as unread as I don’t always have time to write a response.

Just personal preference. "

Hi.Do you intend to send a response to those that you go back and mark as unread? I would have thought a quick message such as liked your message/profile, busy now but catch up later response would be better than marking it as unread.

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I had no idea that was even possible.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll mark it as unread as I don’t always have time to write a response.

Just personal preference.

Hi.Do you intend to send a response to those that you go back and mark as unread? I would have thought a quick message such as liked your message/profile, busy now but catch up later response would be better than marking it as unread."

Aye, but that then generates another fucking message saying "thanks for your reply....looking forward to your message" !

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

For us it happens when only one of us has read the message like if Mr reads it and I’m sleeping

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn’t know you could do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails. "

I would have thought it was more likely you would receive a repeat message if it was showing us unread.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails.

I would have thought it was more likely you would receive a repeat message if it was showing us unread."

Why would you be more likely to receive another message if the first one was unread? That smacks of desperation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read it i reply or delete.

No fannying about with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I read it i reply or delete.

No fannying about with me "

You are one ruthless Mammy Pumper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails.

I would have thought it was more likely you would receive a repeat message if it was showing us unread.

Why would you be more likely to receive another message if the first one was unread? That smacks of desperation."

Hi.Doesn't smack of desperation to me. It looks to the guy like it has been unread, maybe lost in a sea of messages, so send another and see what happens. Quite the opposite, sending another message to one that has clearly been read with no response smacks of desperation.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Never knew you could do this I deal with mail as I see it ......reply or ignore is my options

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I read it i reply or delete.

No fannying about with me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never knew you could do this I deal with mail as I see it ......reply or ignore is my options"

Aye, but we know that you're no the brightest anyway....so no surprise that the "mark unread" button had gone unnoticed.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails.

I would have thought it was more likely you would receive a repeat message if it was showing us unread.

Why would you be more likely to receive another message if the first one was unread? That smacks of desperation.

Hi.Doesn't smack of desperation to me. It looks to the guy like it has been unread, maybe lost in a sea of messages, so send another and see what happens. Quite the opposite, sending another message to one that has clearly been read with no response smacks of desperation. "

Both sound pretty desperate to me.

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

I think simply, ticking all the boxes in terms of what either a woman or couple are looking for increases your chances of both message being dealt with and a response happening.

If you as the messager has opted to chance yer mit by glossing over any detail the people have listed, hoped for the best knowing your, not the right age, height, build etc, you can in no way "expect" a response. You can comply with the, "make your message more than 3 words long","string a sentence together", all that, but if either your message reads like 2000 other ones or it has 4 words instead of the 3,your kind of deserving of a clinical delete or,gotta be honest this quirky "read/unread" things a nifty option, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I read it i reply or delete.

No fannying about with me

You are one ruthless Mammy Pumper.

"
aye...but what a mammy she was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I read it i reply or delete.

No fannying about with me

You are one ruthless Mammy Pumper.

aye...but what a mammy she was "

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

We use the unread option if one of us has read a message intended for the other. We answer every message even if it’s ‘thanks for the message but we are not looking to meet at the moment’

I hate being ignored therefore wouldn’t ignore someone else, even if it’s a rude message or inappropriate content I will still send something then block them.

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy


"We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x "

Sorry, thats like flicking the indicator right as if your moving to middle lane but your staying put and driving straight on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x "

They should have a button that sends an automated reply....

"Feeding the weans, get back to you later...."

"Away furrashite...catch ye in 5 "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because usually, around 5 minutes later you are sent another text asking why you didn't reply, what is wrong with them or just general abuse.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x

Sorry, thats like flicking the indicator right as if your moving to middle lane but your staying put and driving straight on?"

That should have said having a life is unacceptable it seems.

In what way is it like that? Maybe it's more like I've flicked the indicator and noticed a wee sports car jumping out from behind me and coming up the side so I've flicked it back off to stay where I am until I can move.

V x

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

achhh, most think either, yer online n logged in so yer meeting in half hour, or you had a meet yesterday, so yi must want a meet in next 24 hrs.

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By *ictiiWitchCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh

I do it if I like the look of the guy/message. It stops the messages I want to go back to getting lost in the vast tide of "omg ur tits r huge" I get everytime I appear online..

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy


"We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x

Sorry, thats like flicking the indicator right as if your moving to middle lane but your staying put and driving straight on?

That should have said having a life is unacceptable it seems.

In what way is it like that? Maybe it's more like I've flicked the indicator and noticed a wee sports car jumping out from behind me and coming up the side so I've flicked it back off to stay where I am until I can move.

V x"
In whgat way is it like that? What kinda sports car? What road are we on? Sounds busy,lol x

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"We're a couple but not joined at all times or sharing a consciousness. Wade might read a message and mark it as unread so I won't miss it or so we can speak and agree on a response. Same for me. I reply more often and it does my head in when he doesn't mark a message he's read as unread, especially if it's directly for me as a response to a forum post or similar.

There's also option 2 - I've looked but haven't had time to reply to stop you thinking I don't give a toss because having a life it's acceptable it seems, I've marked it as unread to come back to it.

V x

Sorry, thats like flicking the indicator right as if your moving to middle lane but your staying put and driving straight on?

That should have said having a life is unacceptable it seems.

In what way is it like that? Maybe it's more like I've flicked the indicator and noticed a wee sports car jumping out from behind me and coming up the side so I've flicked it back off to stay where I am until I can move.

V xIn whgat way is it like that? What kinda sports car? What road are we on? Sounds busy,lol x"

You're the one who started with the odd simile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do it if I like the look of the guy/message. It stops the messages I want to go back to getting lost in the vast tide of "omg ur tits r huge" I get everytime I appear online.."

....had to look....they are belters to be fair

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By *ictiiWitchCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh


"I do it if I like the look of the guy/message. It stops the messages I want to go back to getting lost in the vast tide of "omg ur tits r huge" I get everytime I appear online..

....had to look....they are belters to be fair "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll mark it as unread as I don’t always have time to write a response.

Just personal preference. "

Thats why i do it too

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

How do you know its been read then marked unread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread? "

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Bit stalkerish really on second thoughts to know the person read it and has marked as unread why not just take it as not intrested?

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow."

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again "

I cannot answer that Pringles my dear....as I have never been so sad or desperate enough to sit and continuously check my sent items....honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again

I cannot answer that Pringles my dear....as I have never been so sad or desperate enough to sit and continuously check my sent items....honest "

Nothing sad or desperate about me, have noticed on one or 2 occassions people who have read my messages straight away after sending them, then go back and mark them as unread.Its an easy thing to notice being a guy sending messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again

I cannot answer that Pringles my dear....as I have never been so sad or desperate enough to sit and continuously check my sent items....honest

Nothing sad or desperate about me, have noticed on one or 2 occassions people who have read my messages straight away after sending them, then go back and mark them as unread.Its an easy thing to notice being a guy sending messages. "

I was making fun of myself Dylan....that wasn't directed at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes people send repeat emails if you read and don't reply. Sometimes you get endless questions or abuse if you reply no thanks.

Sometimes though i just dont want to read my emails. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again

I cannot answer that Pringles my dear....as I have never been so sad or desperate enough to sit and continuously check my sent items....honest

Nothing sad or desperate about me, have noticed on one or 2 occassions people who have read my messages straight away after sending them, then go back and mark them as unread.Its an easy thing to notice being a guy sending messages.

I was making fun of myself Dylan....that wasn't directed at you "

Doggy you starting another fight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know its been read then marked unread?

If you have a lot of time on your hands you can sit and watch the message in your sent items to see when it switches from yellow to white then back to yellow.

Would you keep having to refresh your page? Otherwise you might miss it going fron unread to read to unread again

I cannot answer that Pringles my dear....as I have never been so sad or desperate enough to sit and continuously check my sent items....honest

Nothing sad or desperate about me, have noticed on one or 2 occassions people who have read my messages straight away after sending them, then go back and mark them as unread.Its an easy thing to notice being a guy sending messages.

I was making fun of myself Dylan....that wasn't directed at you

Doggy you starting another fight! "

Moi? No, just unintentionally offending someone

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By *els01Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do it if it's a message i like & want to come back to with a proper reply or if I've just been on quickly & don't have time to reply. Also with the thought that the sender can see unread so wouldn't think they were just being ignored. Xxx

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By *ittle_missknowitallWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Never knew you could do this and no idea why I would have the need to

Life is busy enough without having to do the same thing twice

‘If you don’t have time to deal with a letter at that moment in time don’t open it’ works well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll mark it as unread as I don’t always have time to write a response.

Just personal preference.

Hi.Do you intend to send a response to those that you go back and mark as unread? I would have thought a quick message such as liked your message/profile, busy now but catch up later response would be better than marking it as unread."

This still takes time to message someone

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