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Mediocre Sex Vs Great Sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I could be wildly assuming here but I think women suffer mediocre sex far more than men.

No .. come the crys of the sex starved men but hear me out..

I crave full on lust, passion, chemistry and the dizzy heights of a sexual connection of mind and body. Only then can sex be incredible for me.

Without those things it's often "just okay" at best or "not worth shaving my legs for " at worst.

Men however, seem to have much simpler requirements for sex to be brilliant.

Occasionally some men might seek something more than just the physical or outwardly attraction.

Sometimes they may even crave that unidentifiable sex appeal that goes far beyond look's.

Rarely though it's as much of a let down for a guy as it might be for a woman.

No I'm not picking the wrong men. I've many female friends who all agree that often we question if it is worth shaving our legs for?

So my question is what is mediocre sex and what is great sex to you? We are all different after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mediocre sex to me is if I have to do all the work and great sex is if the woman chips in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mediocre sex to me is if I have to do all the work and great sex is if the woman chips in "

So you really aren't looking for much to make a difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great sex = all consuming wild unadulterated gotta have you now passion that leaves you both sweaty and breathless and thinking wtf just happened.

Mediocre sex = is when you jump up after it to put the kettle on for a nice cuppa tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great sex = all consuming wild unadulterated gotta have you now passion that leaves you both sweaty and breathless and thinking wtf just happened.

Mediocre sex = is when you jump up after it to put the kettle on for a nice cuppa tea "

Yes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it may be more a case of men having to work harder to please during sex as most of the time bad or mediocre sex is seen as the man's fault. Also, by all indications, women can afford to be more picky than men so even mediocre sex becomes very acceptable...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mediocre sex to me is the concept of just a shag, which is the definition of boring in my opinion also i’ve never quite understood the whole quickie scenario or meaningless acts of fucking!

To me magnificent sex is much more about the act itself, for me it’s about teasing the brain which is the biggest erogenous zone in the body, if you don’t turn on my mind then you’re certainly not going to do so to my body!

The build up is just as important too and I’m not talking about just plenty of foreplay, I’m talking meet after meet of slight teasing and testing of each other’s pleasure zones without ever feeling the urge to have full blown sex, that build up heightens the anticipation and desire for each other, only when both parties cannot contain their want for each other would I say foreplay can truly begin and it has to be with someone that you have absolutely zero inhibitions with or hang ups about both yourself or each other, that way each moment you share with each other is different from the last and evolves giving you that wow factor and recognising that each time is uniquely better than the last!!!

Fortunately I’ve found that woman though I’d never thought it was possible to find such experiences.

Just need to find us a unicorn now to move onto our next sexual and mindfulness chapter as she’s fully bi and an aspect I’ve not explored to massive extents.

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By *cented flowerWoman
over a year ago

Some where over the rainbow!


"Mediocre sex to me is the concept of just a shag, which is the definition of boring in my opinion also i’ve never quite understood the whole quickie scenario or meaningless acts of fucking!

To me magnificent sex is much more about the act itself, for me it’s about teasing the brain which is the biggest erogenous zone in the body, if you don’t turn on my mind then you’re certainly not going to do so to my body!

The build up is just as important too and I’m not talking about just plenty of foreplay, I’m talking meet after meet of slight teasing and testing of each other’s pleasure zones without ever feeling the urge to have full blown sex, that build up heightens the anticipation and desire for each other, only when both parties cannot contain their want for each other would I say foreplay can truly begin and it has to be with someone that you have absolutely zero inhibitions with or hang ups about both yourself or each other, that way each moment you share with each other is different from the last and evolves giving you that wow factor and recognising that each time is uniquely better than the last!!!

Fortunately I’ve found that woman though I’d never thought it was possible to find such experiences.

Just need to find us a unicorn now to move onto our next sexual and mindfulness chapter as she’s fully bi and an aspect I’ve not explored to massive extents.

"

Absolutely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mediocre sex to me is the concept of just a shag, which is the definition of boring in my opinion also i’ve never quite understood the whole quickie scenario or meaningless acts of fucking!

To me magnificent sex is much more about the act itself, for me it’s about teasing the brain which is the biggest erogenous zone in the body, if you don’t turn on my mind then you’re certainly not going to do so to my body!

The build up is just as important too and I’m not talking about just plenty of foreplay, I’m talking meet after meet of slight teasing and testing of each other’s pleasure zones without ever feeling the urge to have full blown sex, that build up heightens the anticipation and desire for each other, only when both parties cannot contain their want for each other would I say foreplay can truly begin and it has to be with someone that you have absolutely zero inhibitions with or hang ups about both yourself or each other, that way each moment you share with each other is different from the last and evolves giving you that wow factor and recognising that each time is uniquely better than the last!!!

Fortunately I’ve found that woman though I’d never thought it was possible to find such experiences.

Just need to find us a unicorn now to move onto our next sexual and mindfulness chapter as she’s fully bi and an aspect I’ve not explored to massive extents.

"

This is perfect and totally agree.

You have got to have that emotional connection as well as physical.

Someone that when they touch your skin, be it only a brush of the hand... it sends shivers down your spine. Someone that gives you butterflies.

That’s when you know you have something special. x

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Depends on what mood I’m in.

Meaningless sex isn’t meaningless even if it’s not great. It just means I want to get my rocks off with someone. If they’re shite in the sack I have the confidence that I can spice it up so I/we still enjoy it.

If it’s meaningful sex then there’s a connection on many other levels. Now that’s the best sex. Doesn’t mean I want steak every night & sometimes a burger hits the mark too.

Oh & I’m not shaving my legs for ANY sex. Took me long enough to grow what hair I got on my legs!!!

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By *ictiiWitchCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh

We are basically talking about biological need as opposed to psychological need. With biological needs you just need to have that itch scratched, so a quickie that releases that pressure can be just as profound as a long build up.

Psychological needs can be for the chase, the endorphin boost of romance and the deep meaningful connection. In general though what works for you, works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great sex = all consuming wild unadulterated gotta have you now passion that leaves you both sweaty and breathless and thinking wtf just happened.

Mediocre sex = is when you jump up after it to put the kettle on for a nice cuppa tea "

Yip 100% agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about "No Sex"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely ever have amazing sex it happens once a rare blue moon and hard to compare with anything else, when you meet that one person where it clicks instantly but can very quickly diminish can’t say I’ve had many relationships or friends with benefits where the amazing sex ever lasted without something getting on the way whether or be feelings or it was a one off

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Great sex reqs a level of connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely depends on how many times have met or had sex with the other person? Getting to know the others likes and dislikes and what turns them on makes for better sex. Also there is always the fun in finding out these things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely depends on how many times have met or had sex with the other person? Getting to know the others likes and dislikes and what turns them on makes for better sex. Also there is always the fun in finding out these things. "

for the most part some folk are lazy lovers and dont want to try new things etc they quickly get boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh no surely not?? love exploring a ladies body, finding out what does and doesn't do it for her, and so much fun finding out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely depends on how many times have met or had sex with the other person? Getting to know the others likes and dislikes and what turns them on makes for better sex. Also there is always the fun in finding out these things.

for the most part some folk are lazy lovers and dont want to try new things etc they quickly get boring"

Is that why swingers' swing? The search for new experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would have thought it might have been other way round, meeting someone new for the first time wouldn't dive in and try those little tricks that have done to an older partner!

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By *unCpl1003Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If ur able too walk after it without looking like Bambi on ice u r doing it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If ur able too walk after it without looking like Bambi on ice u r doing it wrong "

this is very true

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Would disagree that a quickie can't be great sex

as when you're both hot n' horny and can only grab an opportunistic moment,

well, let's just say, a knee-trembler isn't called that for nothing

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But in general yes, you can't beat the long build up of being "on a promise"

the teasing, the sense of anticipation, the hot foreplay and the sensations

that come from wanting to give each other the best orgasm possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If ur able too walk after it without looking like Bambi on ice u r doing it wrong "

I’m doomed

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