FabSwingers.com forum: What carrot ???

By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

Well after 18 months separated and not because of anything other than it being to much for our families to live in the same house and be happy , I was being told by friends and family that a carrot was being dangled and I couldn’t see it!!!

Always happy to help, listen or be there but the last couple of months that infamous carrot began to show and with it a realisation that not only is completely over any friendship we thought could overcome anything and a basis of what we had in the beginning was also going very quickly so meeting tomorrow after work to sort out the proper legal requirements to end what we had thought was till death do us part ..

Hope this isn’t to depressing and I see it as hopefully a new fresh start for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that and got the medals lol Seems all a bit weird at first but found it took a while to drag myself up by my socks and now try and make the best of anything that comes along. It does take a while to adjust!

Keep chin up son

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

"Been there, done that and got the medals lol Seems all a bit weird at first but found it took a while to drag myself up by my socks and now try and make the best of anything that comes along. It does take a while to adjust!

Keep chin up son

Cheers and thanks ?? it’s funny I wouldn’t feel comfortable posting this on Facebook and I’m always popping into this forum for a read and thought yes somehow seems ok to post here x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Bn there too. Tomorrow will be a mixture of emotions. Leaving was the hardest thing i ever done but also turned out to be the best thing i ever done. Hope it all goes well.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't agree more it is hard but can turn out for the best. Luckily never had to include the old legal eagles and managed to sort things out between us.

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

"Bn there too. Tomorrow will be a mixture of emotions. Leaving was the hardest thing i ever done but also turned out to be the best thing i ever done. Hope it all goes well.x"

Thanks bluebell I’m sure it will I’ve a lot of support from my boys and folkes etc so lighter nights warmer weather so seems a positive time to start !!! X

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Wish you the best of luck. It will take time (still adjusting myself) and it may we’ll be hard work. You seem to know it’s the right thing which is the hardest thing to come to terms with. The rest is an adventure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there too. Put me off relationships for life.

Good luck OP.

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

"couldn't agree more it is hard but can turn out for the best. Luckily never had to include the old legal eagles and managed to sort things out between us."

Ditto , was hoping to do it like that as we have nothing of each other’s !! Just our memories lol but hoping in years to come looking back and not thinking what a feckin waste of years, never gone through a divorce so all new to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be brutally honest would have cost us £53,000+ lost between us if we had done what solicitors had said. When pointed this out to them they weren't happy so we walked away and sorted ourselves out. Still not easy but plenty of talk think we have managed it.

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

Honestly it can be difficult sometimes putting up a topic and fearing no one posts but thanks guys , support and advice from similar people in similar situations and when I guy who is feeling as optimistic as can be, deep down to admit probably what he’s known a long time still not easy!! But feel better for sharing !!

Jesus imagine if I got a bloody Oscar I’d never feckin shut up

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Been there too but sometimes it’s for best, sort as much out for yourselves as you can. Some days will be great and some will not be so great but keep moving forward, I think worse bit is admitting it’s over

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

Been down that road too took a bit of getting used to but hey am happier now....chin up it's not too bad really

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

Thanks again folkes xx

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By *ildfire1212 OP Man
over a year ago

fife

Eventually met and basically ye decided we would take four weeks to cut out the ways we can contact each other and only way from that point email !!

Maybe sounds daft but we do message a lot still but that’s now not going to happen anymore, sad it’s come to this and the real stupid way it has and maybe 20/30 years ago this would not ever split a married couple lol

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