FabSwingers.com forum: Married People on Site Why just not say

By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

How many married people are there on Fab pretending to be single..

It just makes it really boring having to say no all the time because no matter what you put on your Profile as in No Married Men you still have to field all messages you get cozz 70% are from Married guy's pushing there Luck ..

Please tell me im not the only one getting fed up with it Mistery Girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a common problem and its called people not reading profiles or thinking that they are different from everyone else and that it does not apply to them.only ours is single blokes.but i dare say it happens to everyone in some sort of way. our solution is now making our blocked list longer each day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered the amount of married women on the site also.

Secondly how do you know someone is married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered the amount of married women on the site also.

Secondly how do you know someone is married?

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

Hello i did say married people did not just say married men as think it works both ways ..

Just getting really fed up with how many there are on Fab at the min

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its actually easy to find out if "single" people are married. All profiles should be taken with a pinch of salt.

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

very true and i agree with you it is easy to find out if single or married ..

The married guys usually trip them self's up not wanting to meet in public place xxx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why don't you block guys and then you do the work and select the ones you want, if you can spot them.... should be easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"very true and i agree with you it is easy to find out if single or married ..

The married guys usually trip them self's up not wanting to meet in public place xxx"

We're very married, we both meet singles and we have no problem meeting in a public place

We'll assume this is aimed at married people who are posing as single people.

We get more than our fair share of those too, both male and female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why don't you block guys and then you do the work and select the ones you want, if you can spot them.... should be easy."

you talk so much sence these days

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"why don't you block guys and then you do the work and select the ones you want, if you can spot them.... should be easy.

you talk so much sence these days

it's only fleeting, never lasts long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single guy, happy to meet in a public place, usually best so the people I am meeting have space to run away, hehe. I had cannot accommodate on my profile for a long time only because there no option of "won't accommdate". Jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

What about those that dont want to use thier home for privacy....so dont and wont accom at home

what about those who cant accom as they have flatmates

what about those who have kids at home so cant accom

the list is enless.....

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

good points an all counts thank you ..

Just seems to be so many guys on site saying one thing and doing an other i just takes a lot off the fun out of the Site as the Big word on Fab is NSA Fun xx correct me if im wrong Mistery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

snap xx

We politely ask why they can't accom and there's never a simple explanation, instead it's some big story along the lines of a dinosaur ate my house Psml

I think you can find out by the conversations, I find married guys playing away to be more pushy, and married girls to be more open and honest (Only my opinion though, not fact) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your fairly on your high horse _istery girl i know where your coming from those that can,t accommadate

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

you haven't seen my block list as soon as i see extra fun or playing on my own i block xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think too many take it all too serious... at the end of the day you just use the site for ur needs... if someone doesnt suit u (eg they are married) block move on and forget about them.....

Yup its annoying....block move on and smile....lifes short

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

not on High horse just so fed up with crap on Fab x

I got targeted the other nite on Fab for a lot of abuse from someone i think was married that i rightly knocked back there problem not mine but still felt the need to be so nasty x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I Have to agree with whats already been said people have numerous reason for not being able to accomodate other than being married, so why not do as has been suggested and block all and do your own searches that way you will always get what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not on High horse just so fed up with crap on Fab x

I got targeted the other nite on Fab for a lot of abuse from someone i think was married that i rightly knocked back there problem not mine but still felt the need to be so nasty x

in cases like this report profile and block them...let admin deal with them...keyboard warriers amazing how hard ppl become behind a pc....

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x "

of course as every site has a name n shame policy....its in the site rules....but the report button and letting admin deal with these ppl is the only way to deal with the issue....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think most of the time married men don't come clean is because they have seen the abuse/ nasty comments given out to them just for being on the site....not that that is any excuse but I can understand it.

Once you find out they are married and you don't want to speak to them just hit the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many married people are there on Fab pretending to be single..

Please tell me im not the only one getting fed up with it Mistery Girl x

hey yep i agree i had 1 guy who was married i found out frm a fem friend and asked him he sayd yea then found out whilst hes been playing on site his wife is pregnant!! was very disgustd needless to say hes now joined my block list!!

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

Isnt married and stuff and have no kids, but since i live with family,i would find it impossible to invite anyone up for fun, unless they were away and stuff...only reason why i dont have "Cannot Accomodate"on profile, and i respect that also...never helps when you cant afford to move out lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married and play on my own, but then again my wife knows i do... Greig

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I am married and play on my own, but then again my wife knows i do... Greig"

really Grieg and i thought this was our secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x "

yeah unforunatly blockd fr tellin the truth eh xxx

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

this from a person who can't accomodate either so does that mean that you and i are both attached as well ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x

yeah unforunatly blockd fr tellin the truth eh xxx

not evryone tells the truth thou....he says she says...ppl in the huff....bitchyness....3 sides to every story....sorry laura....its not about the truth....its about sticking to the rules and naming and shaming will never work.....

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x

yeah unforunatly blockd fr tellin the truth eh xxx

The truth as told by who tho ? always remember 3 sides to a story your side their side and somewhere in the middle lies the truth ...naming and shaming is one rule of the site and every one knows that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i named and shamed them right away i sayed they where nasty bit of an understatement

to be honest ..

And you know what Fab blocked me from the Forum for 48hrs very good of them i think x

yeah unforunatly blockd fr tellin the truth eh xxx

exactly jacs !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honesty is always the best to go.But i also respect that it eliminates me from a number of people. And yes you do get odd abuse but then again im not going to try and justify myself to strangers. If i got chatting to someone then i may disclose if they wished.

Im ot hurting my wife or anyone else as i have been very honest to everyone.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"honesty is always the best to go.But i also respect that it eliminates me from a number of people. And yes you do get odd abuse but then again im not going to try and justify myself to strangers. If i got chatting to someone then i may disclose if they wished.

Im ot hurting my wife or anyone else as i have been very honest to everyone."

if you are honest and up front about it it leaves them with the choice to meet or not - is that not the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a single guy, happy to meet in a public place, usually best so the people I am meeting have space to run away, hehe. I had cannot accommodate on my profile for a long time only because there no option of "won't accommdate". Jim

This really annoys me more than married men and thats guys that wont meet at theirs, Ive been given a varity of reasons like, I dont want the neighbours to know, my family might call and I dont want them to know or the kids might just call round. Dont you think we women have the same issues yet if we didnt accomdate where would that leave us.

Nothing personal in what I say Jim, I dont know your reason for not accommodating but in general it really annoys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all valid points. everyone single or not will have the same issues. The only reason i dont accommodate is although my wife is ok with me being here im not going to rub her face in it either.

Idont go on about reasons in my profile as im sure people have heard every excuse going. all i will say is that noone is to blame sometimes circumstances out with our control can happenn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not on High horse just so fed up with crap on Fab x x

nobody said you got to use fab, cant take the heat stay out of the kitchen as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and my ex have split but u have mt some for the 2 weeks i am home

i cant accom and wont accom for this reason , i to have been told a fake but familey come 1st in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry bad spelling i ment i have my son for the 2 weeks i am home from offshore , so i cant accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it bad that we don't care if someone is married?

There are lots of reasons a single will be on here, and it's up to them to make an adult decision for themselves. This is a secret alternative lifestyle for us and we assume it's the same for others so really it's none of our business as we see it.

If we knew the people personally that's entirely different but for one off meets we won't judge.

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I REALLY HATE cheating and if you have ever been hurt or cheated on then why on earth would you accept or want to have fun with someone doing that to another person.

However i do know two single men who play because there partners are severely disabled and unable to have any sex, 1 knows and the other is late stages of Alzheimers. So i understand there reason's for being here. Id still find it hard to meet them.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Why should it matter if anyone is married?

MOST people are here for casual sex...

It is his/her problem if their OH finds out...not ours

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

You dont accommodate!

Are you married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married is an easy one to sort,, kinda said it yerself OP, ok its an obstacle, theres worse things lurkin on here, multi profiled fakes, online stalkers,verification munchers,and they keep poping up like,,like,,like like the policeman on the terminator film, yup, no matter wat you do, back they come!!!

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

Im a single female Living on her own i state i am single but thank you for that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I REALLY HATE cheating and if you have ever been hurt or cheated on then why on earth would you accept or want to have fun with someone doing that to another person.

The only thing I can control is making the choice over whether I cheat on my partner, in doing that my conscience is clear.

We feel it is none of our business to pry into someone's reasons for being on here, male or female.

What we won't entertain is meeting someone on their own who have a couples profile regardless of whether they have permission. This might seem like a double standard but we wouldn't be comfortable doing it. We keep our swinging and vanilla worlds totally separate.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

You'd also be surprised the amount of people who have no married or attatched plastered all over their profiles with no exceptions made yet there on the said same profile are verifications from married and attatched so its no wonder people who are try their arm and ask anyway ...confusing or what ?

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Agree with most points. My profile clearly states my circumstances. I respect those who don't approve and fully understand many will never meet. I do read profiles and respectfully avoid those say no marrieds. Perhaps i should block to avoid such peeps but the way i see it why should i block anyone unless offence has been caused. I agree the real rain is peeps who claim to be something they are not. But sadly there is no way of barring such peeps. Its a source me endless frustration but thats the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

You dont accommodate!

Are you married?"

lol, a very valid point.

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By *imshardMan
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

i must admit since i joined i have always told who ever i msg in my first msg that im married. i know i mite be in the minority but dont see point not saying so far had no luck but mainly because i can only do daytimes be truthful guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i must admit since i joined i have always told who ever i msg in my first msg that im married.

i know i mite be in the minority but dont see point not saying

so far had no luck but mainly because i can only do daytimes be truthful guys

It's on my profile, as long as people read it they should be well aware of my marital status. I'm not particularly proud of it, but I feel I have valid reasons, if anyone doesn't like I will not take any offence. I'd prefer to be honest with anyone I meet, lying is too difficult and complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tricky one.. I've never claimed to be perfect, or 'right', but I'm up-front about it. I'd rather not have a meet as a result than it cause a ruckus afterwards.

But then again, if someone says 'no married and playing away men' or 'no single guys' I tend to stay away from them unless it's just for a bit of chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must have miss something this is a fun site whats the prob bout being married if you like the person then he ho its not a frckin datin site n yes am married n am up front about it i but if i don.t wsnt to tell anybody then i won.t and as for bring pushy cose am married nothing far for that n as readin profile war n peace is feckin shorter than some.plesse remember its fun don.t take to heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hiya the big give away is can't accommodate usually for me it is any way and have usually been right on it so far x

Thats a little unfair.... some people cant accom for various reasons. I myself share a 3 bedroom house with another guy and a couple and a good friend of mine can't due to her kids!

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

I am married, happily too, but I just need that something extra? Hubby is very straight laced and would flip if I ever suggested this too him!

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

no i am single due to domestic violence i don't accommodate but if i do meet socialy and i get on with some one have no issue taking back to mine its a trust thing to be Honest with me any way xx but thank you for valed point x Mistery

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over a year ago

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Alot of interesting point's of _iew on this thread. I can understand when people say it's casual fun, it's none of our business etc. It's my principle, i myself have been hurt so many times and damn it really hurt! So i would never want to have fun with someone who is in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never thought of it that way its the principle silly me i understand what you mean but what dif does it make to the sex as that what we are all here for even the ones that say here just to chat never got that too its a SEX site.mibi its just me and i need to rethink what the site is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invariably if a guy (or woman) is using the site and gets caught by their partner, I've often seen the other person get dragged into it. Either it's their fault for seducing their hubby or wife, or for not saying no because that person is married.

For me it's easier to just not be involved with attached people.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

i think for some people the problem is that its cheating they can have fun with someone as long as they are open about it and that there partner has there full consent. the thing is a lot of people have been cheated on and dont like the thought of doing it to others.

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By *istery girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Ross-shire

morning and yes it is a sex site and i do understand that totaly ..

But does it have to be at the cost of some one getting hurt for pleasure by a selfish partner ..

Must be more to it than that surly ..

Think people are a bit nieve to think they woun't be found out found out at some point ?????..

But to all the Lovely single people on the site and i have met a few i really do hope you have so much sexy fun cozz the site needs that to keep it interesting and FUN XXXX

Mistery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am always happy to accom but saying that its for party nights i am one of those single people that does not have a wife or g/f in hiding

i was in a couple a year ago but both went our own way

i could not cheat on a partner so if they were not swingers i would give up the site guess i am just to nice to cheat

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"i think for some people the problem is that its cheating they can have fun with someone as long as they are open about it and that there partner has there full consent. the thing is a lot of people have been cheated on and dont like the thought of doing it to others.

It's exactly that Kola and well said. How would you feel if someone did that to you? I have been cheated on multiple time sadly and each time it hurts more and more. I would just hate for any other person to have to go through that. Yes it is a Swinging site but for us personally when we meet b=people we like to have a attraction, chemistry, good fun and chat.I (s) coulg not have that with someone who feels it's acceptable to lie and cheat on there partner.

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

" never thought of it that way its the principle silly me i understand what you mean but what dif does it make to the sex as that what we are all here for even the ones that say here just to chat never got that too its a SEX site.mibi its just me and i need to rethink what the site is about."

Have you ever been lied to and cheated on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are far as 'married and cheating' threads go, this one has been a quite pleasantly civilised one for a change!

People not wanting to meet marrieds is in many respects no different to some ladies saying they'll not meet guys with facial hair for instance. It's a personal choice and they're free to make it.

With regard to "why?" I can well understand that some people, mainly ladies, have had horrible experiences as a result of a partner cheating on them and so their attitude is perfectly reasonable.

Where I have an issue is with the folk who it sometimes seems that their main reason for being on here is to lambast people who have the audacity to admit to being married, and on here without their partner's permission/knowledge.

It does seem to have calmed down a bit recently, maybe the worst offenders have given up and gone off elsewhere!! But in the past, they were almost like a pack of wolves descending on their prey!! Totally unnecessary, imho!

The simple fact is that nobody, nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, whether it's 'married and cheating' or 'can't accommodate'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it's about personal choice... If you don't like married men/woman don't meet them.... I am not here to judge someone's life....

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

As has already been said its all about personal choice what i have noticed when this type of thread come up is that its prodominantly females who have and issue with married or attached men when have you ever read a males profile that said no married or attached ? I know ive never seen it once in all the time ive been on here anyone got and answer to this ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good give away when a single guy says he cant accomodate and you ask why , some great excuses lol followed by (blocked)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a good give away when a single guy says he cant accomodate and you ask why , some great excuses lol followed by (blocked)"

See above posts as that was discussed....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from someone thats unknowing have met a married man then the wife calls my number wanting to know who the hell i am? Its not nice beleive me.i agree everyones on here for diffrent reasons but let the guy/ woman make that choice to meet you knowing the facts. Auds x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"from someone thats unknowing have met a married man then the wife calls my number wanting to know who the hell i am? Its not nice beleive me.i agree everyones on here for diffrent reasons but let the guy/ woman make that choice to meet you knowing the facts. Auds x

Ive had this done to me too Auds guy told me he was single but it turned out he was very much attatched and i had the Gf text and call me constantly and every now and again she pops on here with a fly by nite profile and has a go here too.

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