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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? " Each and to your own and enjoy yourself I think if anyone has issues with what you enjoy then they aint worth your time and if they complain its good to know as it tells you straight away who to avoid. If you are upfront with it then you should get any problems but sorry if you do  | |||
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? Each and to your own and enjoy yourself I think if anyone has issues with what you enjoy then they aint worth your time and if they complain its good to know as it tells you straight away who to avoid. If you are upfront with it then you should get any problems but sorry if you do "Thank you x | |||
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x" We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them  | |||
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"You cant see why folk would have issue that you want soft swing while your hubby wants full swing ?" If the couple are up front with it before meeting in either their profile and or chat then why should there be a problem. If there was a problem you would expect people not to meet the ones who don't suite their needs and wants | |||
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them "Personally speaking & this is just my opinion OP, have you just not been lucky enough to find people who truly respect & understand the dynamics of this lifestyle? | |||
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"You cant see why folk would have issue that you want soft swing while your hubby wants full swing ?" No I don’t, I like one thing and he likes another. He very seldom chooses full swing although I enjoy it when he does as I get pleasure from it too but it’s just not my thing | |||
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them
Personally speaking & this is just my opinion OP, have you just not been lucky enough to find people who truly respect & understand the dynamics of this lifestyle? "Thankfully we have multiple couples and singles that respect my choices and actually manage to enjoy themselves thoroughly with me despite not being full swap  | |||
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them
Personally speaking & this is just my opinion OP, have you just not been lucky enough to find people who truly respect & understand the dynamics of this lifestyle?
Thankfully we have multiple couples and singles that respect my choices and actually manage to enjoy themselves thoroughly with me despite not being full swap "Stick with them & forget the rest  | |||
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"Your choices should always be respected, sometimes we have had more fun just having a drink and laugh with ppl than actually any sex involved ,if ppl dont respect your wishes more the fool them x" x | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex" Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x | |||
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"Your choices should always be respected, sometimes we have had more fun just having a drink and laugh with ppl than actually any sex involved ,if ppl dont respect your wishes more the fool them x" I've had some fantastic experiences at parties, fab orientated where they just stayed a social but people know it could have ended up in sexy fun if wanted. Some absolute laughs, everyone getting on, likeminded, chats about anything, pure brilliant  | |||
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"Your choices should always be respected, sometimes we have had more fun just having a drink and laugh with ppl than actually any sex involved ,if ppl dont respect your wishes more the fool them x I've had some fantastic experiences at parties, fab orientated where they just stayed a social but people know it could have ended up in sexy fun if wanted. Some absolute laughs, everyone getting on, likeminded, chats about anything, pure brilliant "Same here x | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x" Yep defo i love a bit of good oral and mutual masterbation can be way better than penetrative sex | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x Yep defo i love a bit of good oral and mutual masterbation can be way better than penetrative sex "Hallelujah x | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x Yep defo i love a bit of good oral and mutual masterbation can be way better than penetrative sex
Hallelujah x"I think theres more build up and tension and thats what makes it better. Dont get me wrong a good foreplay session can lead to amazing sex but just foreplay can be more than enough  | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x Yep defo i love a bit of good oral and mutual masterbation can be way better than penetrative sex
Hallelujah x
I think theres more build up and tension and thats what makes it better. Dont get me wrong a good foreplay session can lead to amazing sex but just foreplay can be more than enough "Foreplay lasts a lot longer lol x | |||
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"So long as everyone is upfront about it i see no problem.you are clear about what you want so any guy joining you guys is well aware of what will happen. Personally i love a soft meet every now and again good foreplay is often better than sex Glad to hear it, I love the arousal of foreplay and oral so much better than full sex x Yep defo i love a bit of good oral and mutual masterbation can be way better than penetrative sex
Hallelujah x
I think theres more build up and tension and thats what makes it better. Dont get me wrong a good foreplay session can lead to amazing sex but just foreplay can be more than enough
Foreplay lasts a lot longer lol x"That it does thats what makes it so good  | |||
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"You cant see why folk would have issue that you want soft swing while your hubby wants full swing ? No I don’t, I like one thing and he likes another. He very seldom chooses full swing although I enjoy it when he does as I get pleasure from it too but it’s just not my thing " im not saying your wrong im saying the problem lies with trying to find folk who are in the same situation but reversed | |||
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? Its your choice what you want to do and if your not happy with penetration so be it. Don't listen to what anyone else thinks xx It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? " | |||
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"You cant see why folk would have issue that you want soft swing while your hubby wants full swing ? No I don’t, I like one thing and he likes another. He very seldom chooses full swing although I enjoy it when he does as I get pleasure from it too but it’s just not my thing im not saying your wrong im saying the problem lies with trying to find folk who are in the same situation but reversed " I get that, I just don’t get why some have an issue with it as if it’s my husband that’s insisting that i can’t have sex which isn’t the case at all. We respect what each other likes it would just be nice not to have to keep listening to ‘you only think your soft swap because I’ve not fucked you yet!’ That’s been messaged multiple times | |||
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"There are literally hundreds of people who only want to soft swing it’s not unusual on here at all. If everything is discussed prior to meeting I’m not sure why there would be an issue. " | |||
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them "K is the same but it's more that she doesn't like dick, she's on here for the woman which is one reason we don't really meet couples. Some people have issues and think they'll be the exception but they soon learn, again it's nothing to do with the guys etc but just what she's after hence why she runs the ladies nights etc. We goto clubs down south for fun as it's just easier, for us we find people at clubs etc then arrange fun elsewhere We've never struggled to find the right people to play with, just be honest with folk from the start and ignore those who have an issue. If someone didn't want to play with myself I wouldn't take offence or make it an issue but for some on here it's like a red flag to a bull... They just like to take offence and start playing stupid games 
Do what you came on fab for and don't get caught up with someone else's problems with what you are here for, if that sounds nasty then meh you can't please everyone
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"Agreed Peter, an understanding prior to any arrangement has to be crystal clear for everyone so an enjoyable experience is had by all. Sensual fun dosnt have to be penetrative so do want your both comfortable with & enjoy x We’ve met several other couples where the woman has the same preferences to mine and it seems very common that so may guys just don’t ‘understand’ how it’s possible that we couldn’t want sex with them
K is the same but it's more that she doesn't like dick, she's on here for the woman which is one reason we don't really meet couples. Some people have issues and think they'll be the exception but they soon learn, again it's nothing to do with the guys etc but just what she's after hence why she runs the ladies nights etc.
We goto clubs down south for fun as it's just easier, for us we find people at clubs etc then arrange fun elsewhere
We've never struggled to find the right people to play with, just be honest with folk from the start and ignore those who have an issue. If someone didn't want to play with myself I wouldn't take offence or make it an issue but for some on here it's like a red flag to a bull... They just like to take offence and start playing stupid games
Do what you came on fab for and don't get caught up with someone else's problems with what you are here for, if that sounds nasty then meh you can't please everyone
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? " Could everybody continue to have a problem with this from this couple?? So that we can have them to ourselves...purely selfish from our point of view haha. I'm kidding of course but through personal experience, I had one of the best nights since joining this lifestyle without having penetrative sex.It was incredible and no one should be too early to judge anyone as we all have our preferences. Just respect one and other and be happy this world will be a much happier place.x G x | |||
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? Could everybody continue to have a problem with this from this couple?? So that we can have them to ourselves...purely selfish from our point of view haha. I'm kidding of course but through personal experience, I had one of the best nights since joining this lifestyle without having penetrative sex.It was incredible and no one should be too early to judge anyone as we all have our preferences. Just respect one and other and be happy this world will be a much happier place.x G x " x | |||
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 I have a very long list of fantasies but lots of foreplay with someone else's husband then sex with our own still in the same room is definitely up there we're still very new in to this and might decide that's all we want. It's good to know you have a group of couples and singles who are happy with respecting boundaries
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"I'd just take it as a good filter for those you definitely wouldn't want to be with. If they can't respect boundaries and play within them or gracefully move on then they're not for you. Not for anyone actually I have a very long list of fantasies but lots of foreplay with someone else's husband then sex with our own still in the same room is definitely up there we're still very new in to this and might decide that's all we want. It's good to know you have a group of couples and singles who are happy with respecting boundaries
V x"I have quite a few friends but one fantastic couple who I really enjoy fun with. I know and understand their limits, boundaries etc... and will never go beyond these and the good thing is whatever our sexual fantasies, desires are, they are not forced or rushed together, we can take it slow and go with one scenario, fantasy at a time and the same has happened when we invited other couple or single female to join in with the 3 of us. | |||
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"I'd just take it as a good filter for those you definitely wouldn't want to be with. If they can't respect boundaries and play within them or gracefully move on then they're not for you. Not for anyone actually I have a very long list of fantasies but lots of foreplay with someone else's husband then sex with our own still in the same room is definitely up there we're still very new in to this and might decide that's all we want. It's good to know you have a group of couples and singles who are happy with respecting boundaries
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? " It shouldn't be an issue. You could be a full swing couple and then you change your mind at the last moment that you don't want to fuck a guy. Are you supposed to follow through with it because your profile says you're full swing? Your body, your rules. I can imagine a lot of guys being disappointed that they won't get to have sex with an attractive female but that doesn't mean they get to be a dick about it. | |||
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"I like how supportive folk are being and do agree that soft swing can be as enjoyable and sometimes more so than penetrative sex. All parties do need to clarify exactly what's on offer though.For instance, will the OP want her pussy licked by the guy, would she give a blowjob... And so on. For soft swing (as with a lot of things), I have found that the devil's in the details..." Agreed
Clarify up front etc... but also we can all change our minds at anytime, say into full swing but then change mind and only do soft swing.
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"Some people on here just don't like to hear no, for whatever reason. Nothing unfair about you doing soft swap and people who have an issue with it can sod off. You do whatever you're comfortable with x" Yip so true but the most important thing out of all of this that most of us are missing is..... these idiots who are abusive or moan are giving us a heads up that we are right to not meet them or give them our time of day. | |||
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"I (Mrs) am soft swing however I’m more than happy for Mr to be full swing if he chooses. Why do so many guys have an issue with me choosing not to have penetrative sex with anyone other than hubby? What is ‘unfair’ or ‘strange’ about this which is what I keep getting said to me in messages? It’s my choice, not my husbands instruction! Seems some guys think the only was to pleasure a woman is through penetration : seems a real shame that they would choose to miss out on the other pleasures of a woman’s body, perhaps they need to work on their oral skills? What’s your opinion? " I always thought that ALL boundaries should be respected when it comes to any meet it's meant to be about fun for all involved and if potential meets don't accept that then they are aren't what is looked for (in your criteria), I for one wouldn't expect anything, it's never a given as people can change their minds. | |||
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"Soft or hard suits me. As long as a blaw a load I’m happy "
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"Soft or hard suits me. As long as a blaw a load I’m happy
Such a romantic x"Served me well since 2006. If it works why change it
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"Your choices should always be respected, sometimes we have had more fun just having a drink and laugh with ppl than actually any sex involved ,if ppl dont respect your wishes more the fool them x" .
What they said lol and there are rather a lot of soft swingers
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