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By *oveBigFacials OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well obviously if you have been chatting to a female for an hour and she reads this then she obviously knows who you mean.

I'm not here for drama or hassle, any form of it, I just drop and move away.

Its up to you what you decide to do, depends on you as a person what you decide

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

I guess it also means that she knows exactly who you are therefore are you not both in the same boat?

The fact that you had no idea she was on fab tells you therefore this must be private for her the same as it is for most of us.

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

Your status says you Love catching out wee dirtys cheating on there bfs...especially when the bfs are your pals! , we already know what your going to do. Im sure you dont need any advice on what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do you ask the good people of fab for their opinion before making most of your life decisions? Someone you know and you're straight on here blagging about it and posting statuses about it.

I hope she realises you're an arsehole before she does anything she regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's none of your business

So leave it.

I'm sure your status let the chick know and is now sweating buckets for doing exactly what you are doing with being on here.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

OP what do you think it was that atracted her to your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure it would trip me up momentarily,stumbling across someone i knew, smile to myself,then mutual respect and discretion kicks in and conclude there is no point in saying anything to anyone.

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

If she sent you face pics did you do the same? If you know who she is does she know who you are?

R

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Very few women would send a face pic first. Especially to someone unverified with no public pics. I think you have been dreaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus

Letting the rest of the fab fems know your not 1 to be trusted now is gonna do your profile wonders!

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Very few women would send a face pic first. Especially to someone unverified with no public pics. I think you have been dreaming."

Was thinking the same, but already been on the naughty step recently.

R

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By *ettercallsaul118Man
over a year ago

Funtown

I mean this in the most polite way don't do drama. Don't be a Dick

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Disappointed in the forum chatters - all this and there's no comment on the last line of the boy's profile???

Just to add another point to the many above I agree with, you've said you're not good friends with the boyfriend so how do you know she's cheating? Maybe they're just not exclusive yet? He might be on here too. Maybe this is where they met! So many things you don't know.

If you want to be a grown up, explain the situation to her and ask for some clarity if you want to. That's if she's not blocked you yet

V x

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By *ettercallsaul118Man
over a year ago

Funtown


"Disappointed in the forum chatters - all this and there's no comment on the last line of the boy's profile???

Just to add another point to the many above I agree with, you've said you're not good friends with the boyfriend so how do you know she's cheating? Maybe they're just not exclusive yet? He might be on here too. Maybe this is where they met! So many things you don't know.

If you want to be a grown up, explain the situation to her and ask for some clarity if you want to. That's if she's not blocked you yet

V x"

Well said V x

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By *dmirationMan
over a year ago

Bathgate


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)"
What ever happened to discretion! We have came across people we know and we have just said sorry not for us and left it and that to us is how it should be. you have just let everyone know you are not discreet and cant be trusted to keep your mouth shut! This site is about discretion end off....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say anything OP. Don't get involved and just let things run it's course x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)What ever happened to discretion! We have came across people we know and we have just said sorry not for us and left it and that to us is how it should be. you have just let everyone know you are not discreet and cant be trusted to keep your mouth shut! This site is about discretion end off.... "

There are extremely few who practice discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well obviously if you have been chatting to a female for an hour and she reads this then she obviously knows who you mean.

I'm not here for drama or hassle, any form of it, I just drop and move away.

Its up to you what you decide to do, depends on you as a person what you decide "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your beak out of it.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

This is what is wrong with site ,discretion is out the window if you have to even A ask that question or B put it on a public forum

Block button is there for a reason dude

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"Your status says you Love catching out wee dirtys cheating on there bfs...especially when the bfs are your pals! , we already know what your going to do. Im sure you dont need any advice on what to do.

"

To be fair , he did remove this status within about 1 minute of this post. Maybe he realised the errors of his ways.

Might be a good idea if he came back in and acknowledged that he had neither shown discretion or respect for the female by starting this thread. In my book everyone deserves a second chance and he is relatively a young guy. Im sure if it were a female she would not have been so harshly treated. To the OP your thread has shown zero discretion bud. Do the right thing and keep schtum with regards this female and maybe think more about what you post on a public forum.

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By *dmirationMan
over a year ago

Bathgate

Fairly sure there will have been a few private notes put on his profile! NON Discrete Avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fairly sure there will have been a few private notes put on his profile! NON Discrete Avoid "

"Nugget"

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By *randmrsbeachCouple
over a year ago

fife

Theh people on the site deserve complete discretion.

You have no loyalty to ur team mate so keep ur mouth shut unless ur goni eat her urself.

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By *randmrsbeachCouple
over a year ago

fife


"Your status says you Love catching out wee dirtys cheating on there bfs...especially when the bfs are your pals! , we already know what your going to do. Im sure you dont need any advice on what to do.

To be fair , he did remove this status within about 1 minute of this post. Maybe he realised the errors of his ways.

Might be a good idea if he came back in and acknowledged that he had neither shown discretion or respect for the female by starting this thread. In my book everyone deserves a second chance and he is relatively a young guy. Im sure if it were a female she would not have been so harshly treated. To the OP your thread has shown zero discretion bud. Do the right thing and keep schtum with regards this female and maybe think more about what you post on a public forum. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's none of your business

So leave it.

I'm sure your status let the chick know and is now sweating buckets for doing exactly what you are doing with being on here."

Exactly

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By *randmrsbeachCouple
over a year ago

fife


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)What ever happened to discretion! We have came across people we know and we have just said sorry not for us and left it and that to us is how it should be. you have just let everyone know you are not discreet and cant be trusted to keep your mouth shut! This site is about discretion end off.... "

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)What ever happened to discretion! We have came across people we know and we have just said sorry not for us and left it and that to us is how it should be. you have just let everyone know you are not discreet and cant be trusted to keep your mouth shut! This site is about discretion end off.... "
see this is wrong discretion is about not letting everyone know you participate in sex with multiples or casual sex discretion is not about helping others too cheat and lie to a friend.

Aiding and abetting is not discretion

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)What ever happened to discretion! We have came across people we know and we have just said sorry not for us and left it and that to us is how it should be. you have just let everyone know you are not discreet and cant be trusted to keep your mouth shut! This site is about discretion end off.... see this is wrong discretion is about not letting everyone know you participate in sex with multiples or casual sex discretion is not about helping others too cheat and lie to a friend.

Aiding and abetting is not discretion "

Discretion takes all forms kola. For most on here discretion means having fun and or sex and not expecting people to blab about it to others. You would expect discretion from a female messaging your family your on here, thats your expected discretion. Others might be cheating and would expect the same discretion but with a partner. We all have our expectations but we ALL expect others to be discreet at ALL times regardless of our moral stand point.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

We have said this a few times the diffrence is I didnt/dont tell my family and friends im only with them so it maybe embarresing to get caught but I didnt lie and decieve anyone thats a big diffrence

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"We have said this a few times the diffrence is I didnt/dont tell my family and friends im only with them so it maybe embarresing to get caught but I didnt lie and decieve anyone thats a big diffrence"

Ok we both know we see that subject differently so lets bring it back on thread. Whats your advice for the OP kola. ?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"We have said this a few times the diffrence is I didnt/dont tell my family and friends im only with them so it maybe embarresing to get caught but I didnt lie and decieve anyone thats a big diffrence

Ok we both know we see that subject differently so lets bring it back on thread. Whats your advice for the OP kola. ?"
if its someone who is a friend then live by the sword die by the sword it could be a help to the person may help them correct their behaviour further down the line.

id also expect my friends to tell me if my partner was screwing about behind my back

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So, after chatting to a girl on here for an hour, she sent me pics. Imagine just how shocked i was that i know exactly who she is, AND she’s been going out with one of my mates for a few months now...do i tell him and start all that drama or let time tell and let her fuck up by herself?

(hes not my close close mate, we play footy and have the same group of friends)"
This guy isnt your close mate therfore you know very little about his relationship with this girl.

Perhaps they met on fab as singles!

Perhaps shes already told him about fab and hes cool with it !

Perhaps because its a new relationship that not a very serious one and thats why shes stll on here.

Op there could be a million and one reasons why the girl is here but thats none of your business so leave it be .

As for her her fucking it up herself you have no idea what would happen should you not so close mate find out for all you know he might want in on the action who knows but best leave it alone and be discrete at all times after all how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and someone threatened to out you to family & friends ... food for thought Op

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"We have said this a few times the diffrence is I didnt/dont tell my family and friends im only with them so it maybe embarresing to get caught but I didnt lie and decieve anyone thats a big diffrence

Ok we both know we see that subject differently so lets bring it back on thread. Whats your advice for the OP kola. ?if its someone who is a friend then live by the sword die by the sword it could be a help to the person may help them correct their behaviour further down the line.

id also expect my friends to tell me if my partner was screwing about behind my back"

Ok lets take this young mans scenario. What if his mate knows and they are in an open relationship, now the mate is stuck in a position where he sticks by his girlfriend as what she is doing is fine but all his mates think hes a doormat putting up with a cheating gf or he now has to dump her to save face and lose what he considers the perfect gf just because some mate had a moral duty to come and stick his nose into a situation he knows feck all about. And thats the key here kola, knowone knows what others are up to in there private lives so should not get involved.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Lol who said tell all his mates ? I said tell him there ya go discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How bout this theory, he has blurted it out to the whole football team, "hey lads im on the fabswingers site btw",and his team mate has told his gf to quickly set up a profile with the intention of locating him,just for the complete wind-up,see what he would say etc?

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Discretion is quite important for most people on here, so no, don't go and tell on her and forget it ever happened x

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The messenger always gets shot... just saying

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"How bout this theory, he has blurted it out to the whole football team, "hey lads im on the fabswingers site btw",and his team mate has told his gf to quickly set up a profile with the intention of locating him,just for the complete wind-up,see what he would say etc?

"

Laughed so hard I nearly peed little

V x

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By *andra_bicdTV/TS
over a year ago

Girvan

It is their lives and has fuck all to do with you or anyone else what happens in their marriage.

If she plays away then, it is her choice not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS "

Were you never young and a bit stupid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS

Were you never young and a bit stupid?"

Goes beyond stupid though, says the man with his face in his profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS

Were you never young and a bit stupid?"

Off course I was, I’m not so young now but can’t say the stupidity ever goes away however, I have never broken discretion or trust either online or offline when it comes to something that is none of my business

Trust on here is paramount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS

Were you never young and a bit stupid?

Off course I was, I’m not so young now but can’t say the stupidity ever goes away however, I have never broken discretion or trust either online or offline when it comes to something that is none of my business

Trust on here is paramount "

We only have your word for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

On posting this thread and highlighting your inability to remain discreet and blow what could be nothing out of the water has been your death knell in this site

Any chance you have of meeting anyone here has now disappeared.

Take some advice

UNLOS

Were you never young and a bit stupid?

Off course I was, I’m not so young now but can’t say the stupidity ever goes away however, I have never broken discretion or trust either online or offline when it comes to something that is none of my business

Trust on here is paramount

We only have your word for that "

Ooooh burn!

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By *dglasgow30TV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

He’s not replied to any of your comments so I think he’s fantasising or doesn’t give a feck. He clearly knows that putting it on here the woman will most likely see it or by seeing his updates will know it’s about her. He seems to like the drama he’s caused or about to cause. It’s kinda like he’s (black-maling) had to spell it that way) her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A thought paramount was an aftershave .

Must try harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like someone spreading your private life about? I would say leave her alone.

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