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By *earded blossom OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If/when out with friends and the odd joke is made at times about keys in the bowl etc, do you laugh or do you make a comment like "we don't do that"

I don't mean with friends who know you swing but ones that don't know, do you just laugh it off with them or do you defend the scene?

We've had times jokes have been made and we can't work out if they know or not

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so fucking innocent my friends think I'm a bit prudish.

All true of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same!

None of my friends know so yes when it's brought up I laugh it off with all the others

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By *earded blossom OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Same!

None of my friends know so yes when it's brought up I laugh it off with all the others "

Normally the same until they start with "and there is this dirty club" then I feel I've gotta step in and defend the scene

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got stuck with a Mumsnet/lights off/quick-poke-and-a-wank type group having drinks a wee while back, and everyone was gossiping about a girl we know getting an escort for her man's birthday and playing with her. They were all outraged and I was thinking top bird! I defended her, but I now know I couldn't tell any of them anything!

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

We’re quite guilty of defending the scene too usually like “well friends of ours are swingers and they don’t put keys in a bowl or the likes!”

Then laughter erupts and they say things like “what friends of yours are swingers? We know all your friends” lol at that point hubby and I usually erupt in laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the football teams I actually play with always make comments on the whatsapp about swinging, (not towards me, just general chat), and its the only time I don't get involved in the chat lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny this should come up now. We are really good friends with our neighbours and often have dinner at eachothers house. Swinging has come up a couple of times and we laughed it off, but always wondered. But then Mrs had their Mrs round for coffee and only went and asked her if they were swingers. Well that went badly. Blocked on WhatsApp and very awkward

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By *oo_BiesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow / Ayrshire


"One of the football teams I actually play with always make comments on the whatsapp about swinging, (not towards me, just general chat), and its the only time I don't get involved in the chat lolol "

Lol that’s a first Peter!!

I tend to stay quiet and listen to what others have to say about it....giggle along and think to myself...if only they knew!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny this should come up now. We are really good friends with our neighbours and often have dinner at eachothers house. Swinging has come up a couple of times and we laughed it off, but always wondered. But then Mrs had their Mrs round for coffee and only went and asked her if they were swingers. Well that went badly. Blocked on WhatsApp and very awkward "

Oh Hell

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

S was like “I would love it but imagine me trying to get Trace to do it” everyone laughed and agreed so clearly I look like an

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By *inUpGirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If/when out with friends and the odd joke is made at times about keys in the bowl etc, do you laugh or do you make a comment like "we don't do that"

I don't mean with friends who know you swing but ones that don't know, do you just laugh it off with them or do you defend the scene?

We've had times jokes have been made and we can't work out if they know or not

John "

I thought this was going to be about todays akwardness lol x

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By *earded blossom OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Funny this should come up now. We are really good friends with our neighbours and often have dinner at eachothers house. Swinging has come up a couple of times and we laughed it off, but always wondered. But then Mrs had their Mrs round for coffee and only went and asked her if they were swingers. Well that went badly. Blocked on WhatsApp and very awkward "

That reminds me of a couple I said to once as I was sure they were out n out swingers (they even own a pub called the dog inn) and they were like eh naw we aren't that way inclined, why would you think that to this day I'm not sure if they really are or not

John

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

It happened a couple of weeks ago with us out for dinner with my best man and his wife. An innocent joke was made about sex not being a spectator sport, we both burst out laughing at the same time. He cottoned on something was going on . We had planned on outing ourselves to them on this night anyway. We did so later on back home. Feckin hilarious.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"It happened a couple of weeks ago with us out for dinner with my best man and his wife. An innocent joke was made about sex not being a spectator sport, we both burst out laughing at the same time. He cottoned on something was going on . We had planned on outing ourselves to them on this night anyway. We did so later on back home. Feckin hilarious. "

Out of interest why did you want to tell them? For me personally I wouldn’t discuss our sex life as a couple with anyone else far less sex with others x

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"It happened a couple of weeks ago with us out for dinner with my best man and his wife. An innocent joke was made about sex not being a spectator sport, we both burst out laughing at the same time. He cottoned on something was going on . We had planned on outing ourselves to them on this night anyway. We did so later on back home. Feckin hilarious.

Out of interest why did you want to tell them? For me personally I wouldn’t discuss our sex life as a couple with anyone else far less sex with others x"

Not sure why _ands, hes my best mate for 36 years so thought why not, me and mrs she D did chat about it. Was hilarious when we told him ,he always knew i was a tart but thought he would be shocked hearing about Mrs She D but he said he thought she was always up to something as she can be quite flirty lmfao. You should have seen the look on Mrs She Ds face , she NEVER looked at another guy that way in 30 years of marriage. I was rolf .

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"It happened a couple of weeks ago with us out for dinner with my best man and his wife. An innocent joke was made about sex not being a spectator sport, we both burst out laughing at the same time. He cottoned on something was going on . We had planned on outing ourselves to them on this night anyway. We did so later on back home. Feckin hilarious.

Out of interest why did you want to tell them? For me personally I wouldn’t discuss our sex life as a couple with anyone else far less sex with others x

Not sure why _ands, hes my best mate for 36 years so thought why not, me and mrs she D did chat about it. Was hilarious when we told him ,he always knew i was a tart but thought he would be shocked hearing about Mrs She D but he said he thought she was always up to something as she can be quite flirty lmfao. You should have seen the look on Mrs She Ds face , she NEVER looked at another guy that way in 30 years of marriage. I was rolf . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were in new flat of vanilla friends to meet and go out.

Going out we passed by a building and they said ‘That’s the so called swinging club’ . It was CJs and that’s the only reason we know where it is. We nervously laughed it off but they would never ever suspect we were swingers.

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By *ompip3Couple
over a year ago

Paisley

We have a couple of different friends who have said in the passing, "Aye you two are a couple of Swingers!" We've just laughed it off, and now I say,

"Swinging? Is that like wife swapping? Tried that once! …. Got a new lawnmower and a Black n Decker drill!, thought I got a no bad deal!"

Normally stops any further questioning.

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By *litter and GrumpCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

A few girls I work with have made comments along that line but since they all think I’m a bit of a prude I just ignore. X

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I just listen and polish my halo giggling

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My mum once referred to swingers as perverts. I jumped to our defence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum once referred to swingers as perverts. I jumped to our defence. "

And said sometimes lol xxx M

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I feel like Miss Innocent at work. No one knows what I get up to.

I’ve had plenty socials at the Costa across the road though.

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I mentioned to my son & his friend that a friend was planning a Gatsby themed party, to which my son's friend asked "have you ever swung with a guy?". He was of course asking to try & wind my son up....

R

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By *reenEyesScotlandWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I just laugh innocently, looking a little shocked. I think I've got it down to a T, I hope I do anyway I do feel like setting them straight though but only do it in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just laugh innocently, looking a little shocked. I think I've got it down to a T, I hope I do anyway I do feel like setting them straight though but only do it in my head. "

This is exactly my reaction, in fact this subject came up in the work place the other day, at that point I decided to remain oblivious x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just laugh it off, although a guy at work has brought it up twice infront of other folk and my give away is when I turned pure red (scarlet)!. At the same time I've shrugged it off.

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

All the people that hide it , if you dont know the people that well ie work colleagues etc . Why not say you dabbled in It in your 20s explain the rules then say youd never do it now. I bet most people have a few tales from their 20s, so would not be a shocker to some . You might even get a few more people interested in the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends know , my work colleagues also . Even some family are aware ,few don't know . I'm not great at lying and truly don't care anymore what people think . In fact I defend Cjs and Fab being the best step I took in life . Met fantastic people , have fun and met some genuine friends for life . Finally found people who think the same as me .

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"My friends know , my work colleagues also . Even some family are aware ,few don't know . I'm not great at lying and truly don't care anymore what people think . In fact I defend Cjs and Fab being the best step I took in life . Met fantastic people , have fun and met some genuine friends for life . Finally found people who think the same as me ."

To be honest it wouldn't bother me either,who knew or not , unfortunately im not in this alone so have to respect others choices.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"All the people that hide it , if you dont know the people that well ie work colleagues etc . Why not say you dabbled in It in your 20s explain the rules then say youd never do it now. I bet most people have a few tales from their 20s, so would not be a shocker to some . You might even get a few more people interested in the scene. "

I got married at 22 and was 19 when W and I got together... Don't think that would work for us

V x

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

I have one friend who knows. She brought it up in conversation. Her boyfriend had suggested it - at the least just checking out a club but not necessarily to play. She was horrified. So I told her. Apparently I'm a dark horse but she wasn't surprised. Might be the rants I've had over 50 shades over the years... But we've known each other for over 13 years. I have a few groups of 'mum friends' and not a chance would they be told anything! I think my coffee invites would stop rather abruptly

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same things happens to us! Our really close friends have made that joke on more than one occasion and we don’t know whether they know about us... or maybe they are too and are trying to figure out if we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"S was like “I would love it but imagine me trying to get Trace to do it” everyone laughed and agreed so clearly I look like an "

Haha they should see you both when i make my little cards up then

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