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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what do you do if you change your mind about meeting someone or lose interest in someone you'd been chatting to.

Do you tell them ? or just blank/ignore/block them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tail off the chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the messages just not start to reduce in frequency, and it becomes patently obvious your maybe trying a little harder than the other, . If the messages are becoming too hard work then just let it die off naturally ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tail off the chat x"

i'd tend to just say so x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do the messages just not start to reduce in frequency, and it becomes patently obvious your maybe trying a little harder than the other, . If the messages are becoming too hard work then just let it die off naturally ? "

i'd tend to just say so ...in a nice way of course x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually on the other side of this, and it's the case that they blank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tailing off doesn't always make it obvious. And then you are pushed into a situation where u have to be blunt. I've learned that one . So I just say what I feel now.

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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

I find this difficult too - have found the best way for us is to just say that we are on different pages and wish them well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find this difficult too - have found the best way for us is to just say that we are on different pages and wish them well x"

Im in a different book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually works if your upfront about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a no thank you not for us

Happy swinging !

It's rejection but honest,you just got to suck it up,I can see why people find it a pussy foot issue,no one likes rejection.

It's just human nature.I guess you got to cut to the chase and be honest,it's the best policy unless your married and cheating and stand to lose the lot a the divorce courts in which case lie with all you all got lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why anyone would not just say it. I mean we are supposed to be adults here. If there has been chatting for a while, a polite message explaining as much as you can/want to that things have changed is the decent thing to do. Anything else is childish and immature in my opinion.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I just say if I change my mind or if something is said during the chat that has put me off.

At the end of the day I am human, not a robot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would bring it into conversation that I had changed my mind but politely of course x

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By *heesyheadbandMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

ghost them...

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

Being honest and polite is the best way . No point in wasting time on something that you know is not going to lead anywhere .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm usually on the other side of this, and it's the case that they blank. "

i just feel theres no need ..we're all adults after all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do the messages just not start to reduce in frequency, and it becomes patently obvious your maybe trying a little harder than the other, . If the messages are becoming too hard work then just let it die off naturally ?

i'd tend to just say so ...in a nice way of course x"

Always the best way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tailing off doesn't always make it obvious. And then you are pushed into a situation where u have to be blunt. I've learned that one . So I just say what I feel now."

I think its best to just say what needs to be said then theres no confusion or misunderstanding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find this difficult too - have found the best way for us is to just say that we are on different pages and wish them well x"

thats a nice way .. I do that too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually works if your upfront about it "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer a no thank you not for us

Happy swinging !

It's rejection but honest,you just got to suck it up,I can see why people find it a pussy foot issue,no one likes rejection.

It's just human nature.I guess you got to cut to the chase and be honest,it's the best policy unless your married and cheating and stand to lose the lot a the divorce courts in which case lie with all you all got lol "

lol true ...but yeah we're not gonna be to everyones taste and vice versa but just a thanks but no thanks doesnt take much time to type lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know why anyone would not just say it. I mean we are supposed to be adults here. If there has been chatting for a while, a polite message explaining as much as you can/want to that things have changed is the decent thing to do. Anything else is childish and immature in my opinion. "

my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just say if I change my mind or if something is said during the chat that has put me off.

At the end of the day I am human, not a robot "

yeah true .. still people at the end of the day x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would bring it into conversation that I had changed my mind but politely of course x"

of course ...no need to be nasty (unless they're being nasty to you) x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being honest and polite is the best way . No point in wasting time on something that you know is not going to lead anywhere ."

exactly we're all busy people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ghost them..."

why not just say thanks but not for me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone."

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have changed my mind during conversation with people, it happens when you find out what they want or looking for and you realise its not for you. I've said things like "The chat and conversation has been enjoyable but I don't think it will work out between us if we meet so its best to leave it alone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?"
nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have changed my mind during conversation with people, it happens when you find out what they want or looking for and you realise its not for you. I've said things like "The chat and conversation has been enjoyable but I don't think it will work out between us if we meet so its best to leave it alone."

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yeah thats good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point."

yeah true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point."

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough. "

just all in better to be honest than give false hope

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Sometimes just their tone or content of a message is enough to put you off. It goes from friendly banter to being rude or crude.

Or there’s just no connection when you meet.

I don’t have any problem saying that it’s not going any further. I’d rather have a difficult conversation than an awkward meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've completely lost interest now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough.

just all in better to be honest than give false hope"

My comment was in regard to the point made about chatting too much and losing the sexual spark. What is the balance between too much chatting, not enough and the right amount.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough.

just all in better to be honest than give false hope

My comment was in regard to the point made about chatting too much and losing the sexual spark. What is the balance between too much chatting, not enough and the right amount. "

It's different strokes for different folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough.

just all in better to be honest than give false hope

My comment was in regard to the point made about chatting too much and losing the sexual spark. What is the balance between too much chatting, not enough and the right amount. "
id say too much chatting is like it's talking to your brother...or if your chatting too long And you run out of things to say ie..so what did you have for your dinner tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just tail off the conversation in the hope they get bored lol then leave me alone.

can you not just say sorry not interested any more, good luck etc ?nah cause im a nice person lol diffrent if its just an random message but if we have been chatting a while it could be awkward but sometimes you can chat too much and the sexual spark leaves so then there's no point.

Therein lies the dilemma and the million dollar question. What's the balance between too much and not enough.

just all in better to be honest than give false hope

My comment was in regard to the point made about chatting too much and losing the sexual spark. What is the balance between too much chatting, not enough and the right amount. id say too much chatting is like it's talking to your brother...or if your chatting too long And you run out of things to say ie..so what did you have for your dinner tonight?"

Now THAT is a helpful answer.

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