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Doms ; what makes a good sub?

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By *MCFUN5 OP   Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

I’m curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a thought provoking question OP but I’d say very difficult to answer based on the fact there’s so many different dynamics and subcategories of sub/dom relationships anywhere from a casual sub to the full blown slave all different in every way.

Submissive's are very rarely passive passengers in any D/s dynamic. That smacks of exploitation. A healthy dom/sub relationship is an equal and respectful one. Any time that you hear a Dom describe a partner as a “bad sub,” it’s probably because that sub resisted the dom’s abuse of power, not because of any intrinsic negative qualities on the submissive’s account.

There is no such thing as a good sub. But there is such a thing as a bad Dom.

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By *MCFUN5 OP   Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW

Gotcha - thank you for that, I had heard friends speak of good and bad Dom’s and just wondered x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a thought provoking question OP but I’d say very difficult to answer based on the fact there’s so many different dynamics and subcategories of sub/dom relationships anywhere from a casual sub to the full blown slave all different in every way.

Submissive's are very rarely passive passengers in any D/s dynamic. That smacks of exploitation. A healthy dom/sub relationship is an equal and respectful one. Any time that you hear a Dom describe a partner as a “bad sub,” it’s probably because that sub resisted the dom’s abuse of power, not because of any intrinsic negative qualities on the submissive’s account.

There is no such thing as a good sub. But there is such a thing as a bad Dom. "

A few good points there. I'd also add a good sub knows what they want/need and communicates that well with their Dom.

Just my thoughts on it anyway.

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By *atti JoWoman
over a year ago

Kemnay

For me what makes a good sub is one who knows they have the ultimate control but give their free will to the Dom. It cant be taken only earned.. thats my perception of dom/sub

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

This is an interesting question. One hard to reply to as it is fairly an individual thing.

What makes a good sub?

'the Dominant' in the sense that he/she has to be able to 'bring out' what he/she wants from the submissive, read his/her sub.

Also being able to choose the right person that best suits his/her needs and make that person his/her sub.

Also the chemistry between the two.

What makes a good sub?

'the submissive' in the sense that he/she has to be able to 'bring out' what he/she wants from the Dominant, being able to challenge his/her Dominant.

And let's not forget that it is a 2-way situation where both the Dominant and the submissive are getting what they are looking for from the relationship.

Hope I make sense, and put this across ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Immediate impact player whos able to come of the bench and effect a game in the balance.

Trying to think of an example

Solshacer at United under fergies was one of the best about.

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By *MCFUN5 OP   Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW


"For me what makes a good sub is one who knows they have the ultimate control but give their free will to the Dom. It cant be taken only earned.. thats my perception of dom/sub"

Good post, thank you x

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By *MCFUN5 OP   Couple
over a year ago

GLASGOW


"This is an interesting question. One hard to reply to as it is fairly an individual thing.

What makes a good sub?

'the Dominant' in the sense that he/she has to be able to 'bring out' what he/she wants from the submissive, read his/her sub.

Also being able to choose the right person that best suits his/her needs and make that person his/her sub.

Also the chemistry between the two.

What makes a good sub?

'the submissive' in the sense that he/she has to be able to 'bring out' what he/she wants from the Dominant, being able to challenge his/her Dominant.

And let's not forget that it is a 2-way situation where both the Dominant and the submissive are getting what they are looking for from the relationship.

Hope I make sense, and put this across ok "

Very well put x

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