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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has happened to me before and I had to take time out. Hide the profile and change my name.

Freaked me out tbh

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If it happened to me I’d be out of here! Why would you do such a thing?

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

It's one of those shouldn't happen events that seems to happen occasionally

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Wrong emoji!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? "

It's despicable, sadly it happens often on fab. When you're meeting someone, getting friendly, you are sucked into a comfort zone where you begin to trust and divulge much more information than you should. That is then used against you when things go pear shaped as happens quite often.

I dont know if anything can be done about this as its not sharing photos etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it?

It's despicable, sadly it happens often on fab. When you're meeting someone, getting friendly, you are sucked into a comfort zone where you begin to trust and divulge much more information than you should. That is then used against you when things go pear shaped as happens quite often.

I dont know if anything can be done about this as its not sharing photos etc.

"

It makes it more and more difficult to develop any kind of trust on here. Sometimes you just need to risk it, I suppose, if you think the individual is worth it.

But in response to the OP, I don't really know what can be done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes."

You sound like Mr. "Trust no fucker" is pretty much his motto for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes it more and more difficult to develop any kind of trust on here. Sometimes you just need to risk it, I suppose, if you think the individual is worth it.

But in response to the OP, I don't really know what can be done.

The problem is when it all goes tits up. I just feel sorry for those who have the time and inclination to do it. Personally, I can't understand why people who didn't find me that interesting to continue engaging with find me Interesting enough to have private conversations about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes.

You sound like Mr. "Trust no fucker" is pretty much his motto for life "

Does he trust the celibate then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes.

You sound like Mr. "Trust no fucker" is pretty much his motto for life "
lol on a sex site why would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid people give away too many details about themselves to many people

I have sometimes found out more about a person from actually talking to others on here. And the info I've sometimes found out is more than that person has offered up to me in private conversations.

Yes as previous poster has said,

It's not Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes.

You sound like Mr. "Trust no fucker" is pretty much his motto for life lol on a sex site why would you? "

I know, you're both right

I'm quite open and chatty by nature though so he reins me in a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it happen about 10 years ago, someone said out my full name and address in the scots chat room

Wasn't very nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it happen about 10 years ago, someone said out my full name and address in the scots chat room

Wasn't very nice "

Aw I've got 1 out of 2 then

I'll not say what one

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By *eather47Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have,nt to my knowledge had it done to me but i would hope if it was happening some of my friends on here would let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it happen about 10 years ago, someone said out my full name and address in the scots chat room

Wasn't very nice

Aw I've got 1 out of 2 then

I'll not say what one "

So your name really is 'ms paulianna cecelia goldenburgerstein'

. Loloolo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had it happen about 10 years ago, someone said out my full name and address in the scots chat room

Wasn't very nice

Aw I've got 1 out of 2 then

I'll not say what one

So your name really is 'ms paulianna cecelia goldenburgerstein'

. Loloolo"

Dammit Peter..that's private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably mindful to assume that what you divulge on here is likely to be shared somehow, so only divulge what you're okay with others knowing

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

[Removed by poster at 20/11/18 10:19:10]

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

On my old profile a guy pretending to be a couple decided to post my work address in his status update for about 45 mins, just because he didn't get an immediate reply to his last message.

Obvs I reported both his profiles and that the couple one was fake. That disappeared after an hour, but his single profile still exists.

I'd seen his pic and didn't recognise him, but he knew where I worked, which is rather creepy.

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

God I'm embarrassed to be a guy sometimes when I hear these stories....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't trust anyone on here,I like to keep my fab life underground and my everyday life private as I'm a private person.

For me it's all about treading carefully and having mutual respect for fellow swingers,we all have a life away from fab but sadly there's a lot of trouble makers out there who get off on causing it,can imagine it's obviously worse for the lady's,but there's also some crazy chicks out there who can cause it for guys.

Fabs a jungle,plain and simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God I'm embarrassed to be a guy sometimes when I hear these stories.... "

Not just men who are the fruitcakes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I say nothing to no one. There's only a couple of people who know a few things about me. Privacy is very important to me and if anyone betrayed my trust I would be off here like a shot. This isn't Facebook although some people on here treat it like it is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary "

That would freak me out. Also, what kind of fucking arsehole does that shit, knowing it will most likely intimidate and scare a woman

Hope the prick gets hit by a bus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand we all like a it of gossip. But my opinion is this unless it's a matter of personal safety then there is no need to share. My opinion of someone is subjective it might not be the same as someone else's. Just because someone isn't for me or I am not right for someone else doesn't mean that they might not click with someone else. Let people find out for themselves. It's called fabswingers not gabswingers. (OK that last line might be a bit shit. )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary "

That's heavy fucked up ,you got yourself a baseball bat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand we all like a it of gossip. But my opinion is this unless it's a matter of personal safety then there is no need to share. My opinion of someone is subjective it might not be the same as someone else's. Just because someone isn't for me or I am not right for someone else doesn't mean that they might not click with someone else. Let people find out for themselves. It's called fabswingers not gabswingers. (OK that last line might be a bit shit. ) "
that's where fab goes wrong ..not all like gossip and more often than not...it's wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand we all like a it of gossip. But my opinion is this unless it's a matter of personal safety then there is no need to share. My opinion of someone is subjective it might not be the same as someone else's. Just because someone isn't for me or I am not right for someone else doesn't mean that they might not click with someone else. Let people find out for themselves. It's called fabswingers not gabswingers. (OK that last line might be a bit shit. ) that's where fab goes wrong ..not all like gossip and more often than not...it's wrong!"

I should have said some like gossip. But you are right most often it's wrong, I would also add malicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

That's heavy fucked up ,you got yourself a baseball bat."

hockey stick at the ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

That would freak me out. Also, what kind of fucking arsehole does that shit, knowing it will most likely intimidate and scare a woman

Hope the prick gets hit by a bus."

it did freak me out ..says he knows me (even though i dont post anything to show my name or who i am) he wont divulge who he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

That would freak me out. Also, what kind of fucking arsehole does that shit, knowing it will most likely intimidate and scare a woman

Hope the prick gets hit by a bus.

it did freak me out ..says he knows me (even though i dont post anything to show my name or who i am) he wont divulge who he is "

If you haven't sent him a face pic how is it possible he knows who you are?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? "
sadly there isnt a damn thing you can do about it.

Some people are good at dishing out stuff about other people but forget what others know about them too and if that info got into the wrong hands god knows what could happen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

That would freak me out. Also, what kind of fucking arsehole does that shit, knowing it will most likely intimidate and scare a woman

Hope the prick gets hit by a bus.

it did freak me out ..says he knows me (even though i dont post anything to show my name or who i am) he wont divulge who he is

If you haven't sent him a face pic how is it possible he knows who you are?"

Some people share face pics on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? sadly there isnt a damn thing you can do about it.

Some people are good at dishing out stuff about other people but forget what others know about them too and if that info got into the wrong hands god knows what could happen ."

That sounds really threatening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had one person who could tell me what i was wearing, seems to know where i live (i havent given my address out to anyone) and what i was doing one morning .. not anything i had advised anywhere he wont say who he is or send a face pic ...its a bit scary

That would freak me out. Also, what kind of fucking arsehole does that shit, knowing it will most likely intimidate and scare a woman

Hope the prick gets hit by a bus.

it did freak me out ..says he knows me (even though i dont post anything to show my name or who i am) he wont divulge who he is

If you haven't sent him a face pic how is it possible he knows who you are?"

He's maybe jedi trained

(Trying to bring light hearted humour to a serious matter)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? sadly there isnt a damn thing you can do about it.

Some people are good at dishing out stuff about other people but forget what others know about them too and if that info got into the wrong hands god knows what could happen .

That sounds really threatening!"
why?... as the op has proved if your info gets into the hands of someone you thought you could trust and then they does that to her it proves the point I was trying to make .

As others have said trust no one with your personal info on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? sadly there isnt a damn thing you can do about it.

Some people are good at dishing out stuff about other people but forget what others know about them too and if that info got into the wrong hands god knows what could happen .

That sounds really threatening!why?... as the op has proved if your info gets into the hands of someone you thought you could trust and then they does that to her it proves the point I was trying to make .

As others have said trust no one with your personal info on here"

It sounded tit for tat

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? sadly there isnt a damn thing you can do about it.

Some people are good at dishing out stuff about other people but forget what others know about them too and if that info got into the wrong hands god knows what could happen .

That sounds really threatening!why?... as the op has proved if your info gets into the hands of someone you thought you could trust and then they does that to her it proves the point I was trying to make .

As others have said trust no one with your personal info on here

It sounded tit for tat"
Make of my comnent what you will ive explained what I ment by it .

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it? "

To the OP thats just a shitty thing to have done to you, other than introducing them to "lucile" (walking dead) theres not much else you can do .

To quite a few other posters in this thread, you talk of keeping your private info private.

There was a time when 2 or 3 threads a day were being started asking for personal info about you and the threads had 75 to 100 replies regularly , so much for keeping personal info private. I actually mentioned to people that they were being profiled because of the amount of info they gave away in 'innocent' looking threads. Simple example

what was your hobby at school, oh i was hockey captain at school.

A week later

What school did you go to

I went xxxxxxx school

Both innocent looking questions and both no fear of being recognised or who you might be but put together while profiling

I look at your age and i know when you were at school ,what school. And you were team captain at that time. This is just an example but these innocent looking profiling questions as i used to call them were being started 2 or 3 times a DAY. How much info about everyone is out there right now . LOTS .

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By *lasgowlad73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's a bad day when someone has to divulge private information about another fab member without consent. I wouldnt stoop so low as to do that to someone and i always consider this to be a discreet site until told otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are, of course, some who fish for information on third parties by PM. Who knows what they do with anything they might get?

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

People seem to forget this is a swingers site and treat it like facebook sometimes.

If you worry about the wrong people getting your info then do not put it on here. We NEVER give our details to anyone. Nor do we give out face pics.

I know people say it is not blind date but there are other ways to set up meets.

We seem to manage just fine without sending face pics and personal details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it?

To the OP thats just a shitty thing to have done to you, other than introducing them to "lucile" (walking dead) theres not much else you can do .

To quite a few other posters in this thread, you talk of keeping your private info private.

There was a time when 2 or 3 threads a day were being started asking for personal info about you and the threads had 75 to 100 replies regularly , so much for keeping personal info private. I actually mentioned to people that they were being profiled because of the amount of info they gave away in 'innocent' looking threads. Simple example

what was your hobby at school, oh i was hockey captain at school.

A week later

What school did you go to

I went xxxxxxx school

Both innocent looking questions and both no fear of being recognised or who you might be but put together while profiling

I look at your age and i know when you were at school ,what school. And you were team captain at that time. This is just an example but these innocent looking profiling questions as i used to call them were being started 2 or 3 times a DAY. How much info about everyone is out there right now . LOTS .

"

You've just outed yourself as the stalker!

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"How would you feel if personal info about you was shared on here without your knowledge? Eg name,where you live,intimate details? Would it bother you and is there abything you can do about it?

To the OP thats just a shitty thing to have done to you, other than introducing them to "lucile" (walking dead) theres not much else you can do .

To quite a few other posters in this thread, you talk of keeping your private info private.

There was a time when 2 or 3 threads a day were being started asking for personal info about you and the threads had 75 to 100 replies regularly , so much for keeping personal info private. I actually mentioned to people that they were being profiled because of the amount of info they gave away in 'innocent' looking threads. Simple example

what was your hobby at school, oh i was hockey captain at school.

A week later

What school did you go to

I went xxxxxxx school

Both innocent looking questions and both no fear of being recognised or who you might be but put together while profiling

I look at your age and i know when you were at school ,what school. And you were team captain at that time. This is just an example but these innocent looking profiling questions as i used to call them were being started 2 or 3 times a DAY. How much info about everyone is out there right now . LOTS .

You've just outed yourself as the stalker! "

Haha i know. Just gave away all my trade secrets.

Just you remember , i know where you live.

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By *oolsGoldxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Since being back here a few days I have spotted 3 profiles of people locally who I know very well.. I would never ‘out’ them or discuss them.

Two of them have been horrible to me in the past outwith here, I still won’t.

I find it disgusting that folk would..

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Some people just can't see others enjoying life without having to try ruin it for them.

Hasnt happened to us yet to the best of our knowledge and knock on wood it never does but theres not much that can be done about it unless it becomes a legal issue.

Even if you report the offending profile they'll just come back on under a new one.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy thing to do is just keep everyone at arms length.

Need to know basis

Way too many folk spill their guts on here so no wonder you get cretins using it against you.

Folk forget this is a sex site not Facebook.not everyone likes you and you get some right seriously nasty people working behind the scenes."

So it's exactly like facebook, except the nasty people behind the scenes there are Zucherberg and his data miners?

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