FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think any adult should find anyone else intimidating.

If they do it's merely a reflection of their own lack of confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexuality is a multi-dimensional, complex mix of physiological, interpersonal, cultural, emotional, and psychological factors. It's important for us to reflect on all these aspects of ourselves and the role they play, as the relationship we have with our sexuality reflects our sexual self-esteem & experience.

So neither in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

Are we talking day to day life or in the bedroom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexuality is a multi-dimensional, complex mix of physiological, interpersonal, cultural, emotional, and psychological factors. It's important for us to reflect on all these aspects of ourselves and the role they play, as the relationship we have with our sexuality reflects our sexual self-esteem & experience.

So neither in my opinion."

Straight from Google

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

It's not the confidence that's the turn on it's the lady ..just because she's confident doesnt necessarily make the trousers twitch

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?.

Are we talking day to day life or in the bedroom?"

Both. Someone on here told me my confidence would make him nervous which i found strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the confidence that's the turn on it's the lady ..just because she's confident doesnt necessarily make the trousers twitch

If the lady's appearance makes the trousers twitch, it helps if she is confident. It makes me feel more at ease about "making a move", than if she was a wallflower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Yip to
"A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth."
. Doesn't even need to say a word and the confidence can still shine through.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Well im not loud or brash, i just find it easy to talk to folk about anything without going red in the face.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Confidence in anyone is to be applauded ..however as Doggy says as long as it's not loud and disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard people say confidence is attractive, as long as it's not arrogance. There can be a fine line .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Good point. Empty vessels definitely make most noise.

I think significant lack of confidence is a turn off more than confidence being a turn on.

But we're all adults, no one should be intimidated by anyone else and anyone who thinks they are "confident"'enough to intimidate a member of the opposite sex is merely daft or picking on vulnerable individuals.

Parity.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"I've heard people say confidence is attractive, as long as it's not arrogance. There can be a fine line .

I'd agree with that.

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

A complex questi9n with many factors to take into account, most of which have been touch upon above.

So I'm just going to go with the simple, confidence is attractive in a women, I also find assertiveness attractive.

But I know some guys who find that hard to deal with. So as always each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So neither in my opinion.

Straight from Google

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By *atti JoWoman
over a year ago

Kemnay

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

In my experience Op as a confident woman and i perceive myself very sexually confident, guys may find me intimidating and have said so.

But i know they are not for me... thats their lack of confidence. Why socials are important for me.

My perception is that confidence is critical to taking your sexuality to new levels! You must know yourself and know what you want to have true sexual confidence.....inner and outer sexual confidence will likely make your entire life more satisfying.

Its fun all the same, in finding out.. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Well im not loud or brash, i just find it easy to talk to folk about anything without going red in the face.

That comment wasn't directed at you Blue btw...

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Well im not loud or brash, i just find it easy to talk to folk about anything without going red in the face.

That comment wasn't directed at you Blue btw..."

Yeah i knew that as we have not met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence can be sexy, but it wouldn't intimidate me.

Like has already been said, meeting someone who isnt confident is a turn off. I dont want to be reassuring someone all the time.

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By *ilveryFoxMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

A definite turn on.

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By *ockyjockyMan
over a year ago

G63 countryside

A confident woman can be very attractive but so can a less confident woman. For different reasons. However, while I like confidence I do not like arrogance....in a man or woman.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Yip to A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.. Doesn't even need to say a word and the confidence can still shine through.

Body language says alot about a person.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"I think it depends on how you interpret "confidence".

A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.

Or someone loud and brash who looks like the life and soul of the party.

Yip to A quiet, self-assured manner and awareness of your own worth.. Doesn't even need to say a word and the confidence can still shine through.

Body language says alot about a person."

Body talks if you use your Imagination ..

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

I like a confident woman, one that speaks her mind and isn’t afraid to chase her dreams.....

And if you’re out there, message me

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

"I like a confident woman, one that speaks her mind and isn’t afraid to chase her dreams.....

And if you’re out there, message me

Are you sure your not in her nightmares ?

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Confidence is a mixture of a lot of things. Yes it’s an attractive trait to me but it’s not the only thing I look for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A HUGE turn in for me!

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Confidence and intelligence in a woman are a big turn on for me. If those characteristics are channeled into uninhibited sensual fun then the sparks will fly for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence especially in ones sexuality is a big turn on for me

I abhor arrogance in anyone as there is no call for it

When in Dom mode I find working with less confident women more appealing though.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Confidence and intelligence in a woman are a big turn on for me. If those characteristics are channeled into uninhibited sensual fun then the sparks will fly for me

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^^^^ in men for me

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By *loobookMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Definitly a turn on,a lady who isnt shy in letting you know what she wants and getting it is fantastic. Arrogance isnt a turn on though. Having said that ive known some who were the total opposite and required a bit of coaxing/handholding but they later turned out to be real dynamos once they were less inhibited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a confident woman, one that speaks her mind and isn’t afraid to chase her dreams.....

And if you’re out there, message me

Are you sure your not in her nightmares ?

That's my job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

Friendly ones yes; arrogant ones no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only one that finds a wee bit of vulnerability quite appealing too? When the walls come down and you actually see what someone is all about...

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

"Am I the only one that finds a wee bit of vulnerability quite appealing too? When the walls come down and you actually see what someone is all about..."

That sounds to me more like what happens in a romantic relationship, when you open up emotionally to someone and them to you. You leave yourself vulnerable.

I'd leave that at the door when it comes to meeting someone on fab.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Am I the only one that finds a wee bit of vulnerability quite appealing too? When the walls come down and you actually see what someone is all about..."

I love the intimacy of seeing someone play with abandon and without inhibition, but prefer that to come from a place of confidence where we are relaxed and comfortable with each other’s sexuality.

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Turn on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one that finds a wee bit of vulnerability quite appealing too? When the walls come down and you actually see what someone is all about...

That sounds to me more like what happens in a romantic relationship, when you open up emotionally to someone and them to you. You leave yourself vulnerable.

I'd leave that at the door when it comes to meeting someone on fab."

I'm a romantic really...obviously where I'm going wrong on here

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By *dmirationMan
over a year ago

Bathgate

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."
I love confident Ladies. When I 1st met my partner 13 years ago she had no confidence what so ever would not look at another man' when in a club dancing she would constantly look at the floor that's what her Ex done to her. Now she is confident and out there well we are on here lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A massive turn on

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?.I love confident Ladies. When I 1st met my partner 13 years ago she had no confidence what so ever would not look at another man' when in a club dancing she would constantly look at the floor that's what her Ex done to her. Now she is confident and out there well we are on here lol. "

Yeah i can relate to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told it’s an attractive trait in me and I hope I don’t come across as arrogant

However I wasn’t always this way I think age has made me more confident along with not now being worried about what other folk think ...........too many wasted times on that lol

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Yeah i can relate to this. "

I’m glad the ladies have found their self confidence.

I’ve known a few ladies on fab over the years who’ve had very low self esteem too. Over time they’ve managed to change their mindset and realise they are wonderful people who shouldn’t be ashamed of who they are or what they want in life or how they look.

DISCLAIMER - the next bit is an extremely clumsy way of trying to explain myself. Apologies if it makes no sense

I see shyness as a challenge to me - it challenges me to get them to be more open and honest about what THEY want. Once that happens, confidence and self esteem can be grown but only with their trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a huge turnon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always told that it was a turn on but then in reality I’ve found it to be intimidating especially because of my profession as well, I can’t help that I love my career and I’m proud of my achievements but have been told it’s offputting and can make some men feel inadequate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?.

Are we talking day to day life or in the bedroom?

Both. Someone on here told me my confidence would make him nervous which i found strange."

I like confidence, strange thing for a guy to say to you, as I've chatted with you quite a bit and I find you easy to chat with, you can chat about anything, including sex quite normally, I'm thinking that's what scares him, possibly because he can't openly chat about sex!!

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"I like a confident woman, one that speaks her mind and isn’t afraid to chase her dreams.....

And if you’re out there, message me

Are you sure your not in her nightmares ?

Well that might be more accurate

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By *aughty bbMan
over a year ago

here there everywhere

Love confident women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like confident women, so nice after years spent with someone who was so needy. Nice to be with someone who you can be on the same level with.

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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago

Isle of Arran

I would go for confidence every time .someone who is unsure and hesitant would make me want to protect them rather then anything else !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

Definite turn on.

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By *ootall2920Man
over a year ago

Linlithgow

A massive turn on... and a little intimidating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a turn on, over confident is the opposite

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By *T1980Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

Definitely a massive turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do men find a confident woman intimidating or a turn on?."

In my personal opinion it depends on the context and how the woman carries herself along with their personality and etiquette. Sexually I find it to be a turn on in the bedroom knowing that a woman is confident and happy in her own body as it gives off good energy and positive vibes. From a social/public point of view I also like to see a strong confident woman but if they were cocky, overly egotistical or came across as selfish it would completely change my game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn on

love girls that know what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of men can't handle a confident woman...

Mistress Amelia x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can feel intimidated by confidence but that about me allowing it to happen sadly

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By *unster400Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Such a turn on for me

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By *iss Ash42Woman
over a year ago

somewhere nowhere near you....

I think confidence is a huge turn on,but quietly confident and not cocky or arrogant...

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