FabSwingers.com forum: dom or sub

By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

can you be both dom and sub as id like to try both any thought s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats switch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can you be both dom and sub as id like to try both any thought s

That would make you a switch - most people who play kink are to some degree switches but its not quite as simple as "just trying both" ......

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

im new to this is it common what do you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very common especially when your new and trying to understand what you actually want

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

id love to be made to wear lingerie and fucked with a strapon but id also like to have a female for my pleasure

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"id love to be made to wear lingerie and fucked with a strapon but id also like to have a female for my pleasure

rather than dom/sub - you may be bisexual.

welcome to the world sexual morphology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a total Dom

Until one day I lost it big time ( it wasn't pretty)

Since then I have reverted to a sub

But am slowly learning control so kinda class myself as a switch now xx

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

have been with guys but still a virgin

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Id say i switch, im always Dom with women but usually sub with men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am totally sub lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am def more of a natural dom.... the sub thing does nothing for me at all... although still learning the ropes so to speak

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

More dom than sub, guess the username is self explanatory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,

yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol

so i can switch sometimes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,

yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol

so i can switch sometimes x "

looks like am playin with putty in the new year

lmfao

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Always wanted to see a female dom a trully submissive female, getting torn in about her...cold shower time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am definetly Dom and love it. G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,

yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol

so i can switch sometimes x

looks like am playin with putty in the new year

lmfao"

shape me bend me any way ye wanna lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if your a couple and your both Sub

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

then you get a bull id love to help with that from my dom side x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to put you all in a corner for not capitalising Dom (except for gandl that is. lol) and for not calling the female a Domme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am perplexed... Sub/sub couple? Does that mean you are vanilla together and play the sub role when entertaining guest/s?

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if your a couple and your both Sub

In that situation you'll find that one of you will naturally top/bottom the other.

It's very unusual to find 2 ppl who are equally as sub as each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am definetly Dom and love gt. G"

auds

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

I'm totally sub. Tried being Domme but it's not at all my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

I am what it says in the name have tried to switch once but just ended up giggling and very uncomfortable my Sir is the same he can't switch we both know what we are and it's the only way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am what it says in the name have tried to switch once but just ended up giggling and very uncomfortable my Sir is the same he can't switch we both know what we are and it's the only way"

yeah - its very difficult to try to be or assume something you arent and you feel kinda silly and end up laughing at the same time.. we just cant be dom or sub really !! i think .. lol

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By *p0000Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I'm dominant / top and prefer to play with women who want to submit to me. That said, I've had some fun with Dominant women, you just need to tone down some aspects of the interaction.

I know both sub/sub and dom/domme couples how are very happy together. Some play with others, others just enjoy each others company.

Regards

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

wud love sum help to find what i am any offers lol

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I am totally sub lol xxx"

mmmmm

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I'm totally sub. Tried being Domme but it's not at all my thing. "

Your very very good at being sub

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol"

I'am surprised by that Jo, i thought you'd definately be dom

not sure why?! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol

I'am surprised by that Jo, i thought you'd definately be dom

not sure why?! lol

Noooo I am really quite sub lol shock I know haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you havd to be 1 or the other? Whatever happend to just going with the flow?lol. Auds.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am very switchy but jamie is very dom so i always sub to him but stretch my dom wings with some of the fems and single guys we play with but happpy to sub to othr men too as long as jamie is ultimately in charge. i never sub to another fem though will happily sub with another sub fem, if that makes sense...its a finely balanced thing my switchiness lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm variable..but not really sub, I'd be sub in a fun sense...a for dom...well it all depends, I can be crude n filthy,disrespectful(name calling manner),give some hard spanks,pull hair,forcefeed cock(I mean giving)

other times I can be sweet n romantic-ish

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By *10NY7USMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm definately Dom.

Not closed to the idea of being Sub, but only in exceptional circumstances.

It's all very situational and important to start slowly and see where your Sub's limits lie -after all what's really hard core for one person is just mild tickling to the next.

At the end of the day though, anyone that's into it realises it's actually always the Sub that's in full control, being the one with the safe word.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

mainly switch bordering on Domme

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

you all make valid points so it is ok to do both you just got to find someone to do it with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you havd to be 1 or the other? Whatever happend to just going with the flow?lol. Auds.x

That's called being switch dear.

Do keep up

lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm definately Dom.

Not closed to the idea of being Sub, but only in exceptional circumstances.

Then it's not definite. lol

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

so a switch is some1 that likes doing both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm definately Dom.

Not closed to the idea of being Sub, but only in exceptional circumstances.

It's all very situational and important to start slowly and see where your Sub's limits lie -after all what's really hard core for one person is just mild tickling to the next.

At the end of the day though, anyone that's into it realises it's actually always the Sub that's in full control, being the one with the safe word."

my slave doesn't have a safe word.he doesn't need 1

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol

I'am surprised by that Jo, i thought you'd definately be dom

not sure why?! lol

Noooo I am really quite sub lol shock I know haha

It is a shock i totally had you as dom

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

so none of you are looking for a new slave virginal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you havd to be 1 or the other? Whatever happend to just going with the flow?lol. Auds.x

That's called being switch dear.

Do keep up

lol xx"
dear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you havd to be 1 or the other? Whatever happend to just going with the flow?lol. Auds.x

That's called being switch dear.

Do keep up

lol xxdear?

Yes, Dear.

Now fetch my slippers and pipe, there's a good girl

xxx

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By *ojomanMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond

Switch more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dom de Dom de Dom lol G

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"Dom de Dom de Dom lol G "
take you are domme then lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dom de Dom de Dom lol G take you are domme then lol xx

No, he's Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

zoes deff sub and don't think she can do dom likes taking it to much lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away....

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

"The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away....

I agree there. I'm in charge at home with everything apart from in the bedroom lol! Although I knew I was sub long before I met mr k and was still living at home with my folks.

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

so why do i want to do both just cause im getting neither?

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"so why do i want to do both just cause im getting neither?

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take no one wants to help

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away....

Yeah, that's a really good point actually.

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

wud like choice

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By *dkinkCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

He is Def the Dom, she is very sub but can switch with others

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"He is Def the Dom, she is very sub but can switch with others"
would love to join in but you dont want guys

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By *ee-deeWoman
over a year ago

The Kingdom

Naturally sub and totally love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can you be both dom and sub as id like to try both any thought s

Probably be fantastic at one and lost at the other, lots of theories on the thinking behind it,bossy person wants. to "play" at being sub and vice versa.

Your "Sub" yet you actually call all the shots swingingly on how the sub situation is played out.

Your maybe dom, and in no way dom otherwise, the fresh and new is added spice certainly.

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

so you can be dom and sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are both so sub - we cant even agree in what position to fuck in !!!

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"we are both so sub - we cant even agree in what position to fuck in !!!

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lol how you fix that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooh its a can of worms once you start thinking about it - I switch and love to domme to men, had a couple of slaves last year and loved it.

However, as sioux said when you are a strong woman it sometimes takes a stronger man for you to submit - very difficult to find in my case but when it does - wow!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh its a can of worms once you start thinking about it - I switch and love to domme to men, had a couple of slaves last year and loved it.

However, as sioux said when you are a strong woman it sometimes takes a stronger man for you to submit - very difficult to find in my case but when it does - wow!!

totsally agree on trying to find a stronger man who doesnt treat my switchyness as a challenge. takes finesse and plenty of mental gameplay to dom me, not just a case of being told what to do. luckily j has a real apptitude

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By *bi_scotlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

A bit sub here.

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"ooh its a can of worms once you start thinking about it - I switch and love to domme to men, had a couple of slaves last year and loved it. However, as sioux said when you are a strong woman it sometimes takes a stronger man for you to submit - very difficult to find in my case but when it does - wow!!

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so how strong a guy you looking for

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By *arryandlilCouple
over a year ago

scunthorpe

i am dom but shhhhhhh no one knows lol

larry

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"i am dom but shhhhhhh no one knows lol larry "
ok i wont tell any one

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

"i am dom but shhhhhhh no one knows lol

larry "

I'm shocked! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

what you change your mind about ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thought i would jump in here, as with any play.....communication is important in play and knowing your partners needs and wants (limits too).... its about fun.

Nessarosa and I switch with each other....she likes being dominant and cruel sometimes and other times...forced and used....depends on her mood (or my mood).... some times we also snuggle...LOL and some times, just plane kinky....eeeeeuuuuwwww

I think that if you label it, you some how keep your self boxed in....

I know plenty of subs that have subs and plenty of Doms that only sub to certain people... they also try not to box them selves in to a label.

just thought would drop into conversation.

Hugs,

Lee

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

thanks for your input i want to try both

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

im def sub any dom couples out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a subby to my hubby lol x

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By *imshard OP Man
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"I'm a subby to my hubby lol x"
lucky guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being Dom or sub is instinctive and natural.

Individual traits will indicate which persuasion you are.

As for the switches they have yet to make their mind up, but most do eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very fem dressed so totally sub. I've no desire to 'top' a guy but being bi I can be dom with a fem if dom means shagging her lol. Funnily enough I dont really do that though when dressed.

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