FabSwingers.com forum: Are You Destined To Be Alone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well folks aimed at the single people on here for fun.

Well folks the question is, Are You Destined To Be Alone?

Even to the guys n girls with a regular on here because we know most won't last as they will go off n meet someone else eventually.

So what's ur view on the subject

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

There's someone out there for everybody

Not everyone wants to share their life with someone though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe I am, I don't want to but it's destiny

So what now?

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I'll worry about that when it's time to slow down. Probably in 15-20 years I'd reconsider single life x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I'll worry about that when it's time to slow down. Probably in 15-20 years I'd reconsider single life x"

Obviously not ruling out finding "the one" before then, but not looking for him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly I am, but that's cool. Would rather be alone than in something that wasn't right. We're all different though

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

I thought for a long time I was and that I wasn’t gf material. Bouncing in and out of short term meaningless relationships. Then I met my man and I’ve went from hating all forms of affection to being a PDA loved up queen lol

I now truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. It’s just a matter of not settling and finding them

Mrs

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Probably as I’m fussy and like my own space but it would be nice to know someone cared about your good days and bad days enough to give you a hug or meet for a chat.

My kids are adults so in a few years I’ll probably be on my own. Maybe I’ll just adopt cats!

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By *entralguy2uMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Definitely going to be me done the marriage thing and not long split with the girlfriend so not looking great...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely going to be me done the marriage thing and not long split with the girlfriend so not looking great...

Its life, we all know for a fact we are gonna have ups and downs, we just have to deal with it. Be positive and happy where you are and things will definitely take a turn for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably I like my own space too much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not. I'm not actively looking for someone but i'm hopeful I'll be in love again one day.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Nah, I’ve got Jack so I’m fine

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Even when I've been with folk I need huge amounts of me time.

While I enjoy folks company I enjoy my own more so and wouldn't give it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even when I've been with folk I need huge amounts of me time.

While I enjoy folks company I enjoy my own more so and wouldn't give it up"

That's the best way to be I think. Resilient and happy in your own company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm alone at the moment and for now I still have Fab but I honestly don't think I'm destined to be alone. It's a case of mind over matter, there's someone out there, it's just a matter of time. Even though I'm not looking, if the right man came along I'd certainly give it a go and give him a chance

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I'm alone at the moment and for now I still have Fab but I honestly don't think I'm destined to be alone. It's a case of mind over matter, there's someone out there, it's just a matter of time. Even though I'm not looking, if the right man came along I'd certainly give it a go and give him a chance

I think this is a good way to be. You never know what might happen. 2 Mr Rights could appear at the same time. But if you aren’t willing to accept it may happen, you may not notice him until it’s too late.

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

Yep I'm just splitting up right now. Beginning to think that I'm on my own forever now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Destined to be alone has such negative connotations to my ears....as if no one will ever want you....ever.

I like to think that I choose to be alone (I prefer single...alone is too much like lonely).

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Destined to be alone has such negative connotations to my ears....as if no one will ever want you....ever.

I like to think that I choose to be alone (I prefer single...alone is too much like lonely). "

Well said. This is how i feel. I have managed to rebuild my life after many unhappy years with my partner. I may be single but i am also in control of my life which feels good. I have a fear of being trapped again so therefore choose to remain by myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not because life adventures are best shared.

I’m not actively looking but open to possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Destined to be alone has such negative connotations to my ears....as if no one will ever want you....ever.

I like to think that I choose to be alone (I prefer single...alone is too much like lonely).

Ditto.

My current single status was hard won and after a few years in the wilderness I’m now enjoying being in a happy place...no intentions of risking that just to not be ‘alone’

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes"

Nah, I'll adopt you.....Mr will need someone to wear all this pvc and lingerie if I don't lay off the pizza and chocolate.

I applaud anyone who is completely happy on their own. I think I'd always be happier as half of a couple.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Yes

Nah, I'll adopt you.....Mr will need someone to wear all this pvc and lingerie if I don't lay off the pizza and chocolate.

I applaud anyone who is completely happy on their own. I think I'd always be happier as half of a couple."

Im not completely happy. Sometimes i get sad but i feel safer myself and know its for the best.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

I’m both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely happy on my own, no room in my life for someone else and I don't see that changing any time soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think so. Had the opportunity to date and it terrifies me, it's the sex part that puts me off. Came on here for a quick fix, it won't happen. I'm happy with everything else in my life so I don't really give it a thought now, just get on with it, don't dwell on it and hopefully it will happen one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably as I’m fussy and like my own space but it would be nice to know someone cared about your good days and bad days enough to give you a hug or meet for a chat.

My kids are adults so in a few years I’ll probably be on my own. Maybe I’ll just adopt cats! "

Could almost write that about myself, apart from the cats , afraid they may eat my face when I croak lol it’s still passable , just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not alone, I have lots of friends, family and the likes around me.

I’m single though and I find that if I’m with someone too much then I get itchy feet and start to crave my own company and space.

Hence why Fab suits me for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am now. And if I think about it too long it makes me very depressed.

It is hard to date with health issues anyway but it's getting harder month on month.

I honestly think there will come a point where it will be a major issue and then I will have to take charge of my health for good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to enjoy my own company but I do Hate being single and not sharing the things I enjoy with someone else. Think if I was going to find someone I'd have done it by now

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By *amanthajonestsTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Unless there is someone out there who actively never expects control of the tv remote, I suspect the answer is Yes for me

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By *ayS2Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I much prefer single and in control. I have a super life and do what I want and not in a selfish way, just ad hoc and spontaneously..

I have an amazing circle of friends and never feel alone or lonely.

Relationships are brilliant but if it’s not one that works for you, then it’s best to be single and do what makes you happy..

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By *eather47Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

i suppose at my age it is a wee bit different but i like my own company and i also have lots of friends Iam also a independant person So i guess im just happy as i am Althought this year has been really guddly for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really know what to say.

I had past relationships that didn’t go well or when I did feel comfortable around someone I was in the friend zone. I started to develop the mentality that nice guys always get shit on so yeah I’m gonna be alone because I’m a nice guy.

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By *atti JoWoman
over a year ago

Kemnay

After 19 years attached... i have enjoyed being single... i view relationships differently, iv never felt alone as i did in a dead relationship. Open to a modern view of relationships where different people bring different things to it. Never say never.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My lonliest years were when i was attatched.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

Single now 11yrs...who knows if I will find a decent man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup and that’s the way I like it

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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago

a bottle

I don't think anyone is destined to be alone. But it's hard to find someone who accepts you for who you are when you like the swingers world and they are not into it at all or open to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly I am, but that's cool. Would rather be alone than in something that wasn't right. We're all different though "

Agree..I see many folk in unhappy relationships..would much rather be on my own than have one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm generally desperate to be alone rather than destined! I'm single but always surrounded by people (both kids and adults)! I like my own company and no desire at all to couple up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm generally desperate to be alone rather than destined! I'm single but always surrounded by people (both kids and adults)! I like my own company and no desire at all to couple up."

I take it a cuddle or two is out of the question after fucking or is the guy thrown out of the door straight away

XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm generally desperate to be alone rather than destined! I'm single but always surrounded by people (both kids and adults)! I like my own company and no desire at all to couple up."

Kindred Spirit, I love company so often , that although I live alone , I hardly get a moment to live the silence as I calll it, very occasionally nice to have a good friend to stay that you can’t wait to wake up beside , and kick the fecker out because your used to breakfast silence lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like cuddles but I have friends and 'special' friends for that so I wouldn't cuddle up with just anyone from here. I'm aware that makes me sound horrible! I just feel very awkward cuddling up with a relative stranger. That's a different thing from sex for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do like cuddles but I have friends and 'special' friends for that so I wouldn't cuddle up with just anyone from here. I'm aware that makes me sound horrible! I just feel very awkward cuddling up with a relative stranger. That's a different thing from sex for me"

Oh I get ya

I'm a bit different with company as in all I want is to see my kids more often.nuw at their age they are now going to parties so I hardly see them

Company is nice and when we want it then you can't get it n it's summit I can deal with.

. Away to fucking greet now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understandable, real affection can be separated from sex , am inclined also to seperate play from making love , and you cuddle after making love , long convoluted way of agreeing with you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always aware of missing my window though! I might not want it now but who knows, I might be raging in 20/30 years that I didn't shack up!

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By *etsplayagain69Man
over a year ago

prestwick

I am by choice well sort of I lost the love of my life very suddenly one minute here next she passed away in my arms a few years ago now but have never and will never get over her so I’m on here to occasionally play if I’m lucky and I’m not looking for a relationship just occasional fun oops I feel a tear coming on yet again

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow (for now)

"I am by choice well sort of I lost the love of my life very suddenly one minute here next she passed away in my arms a few years ago now but have never and will never get over her so I’m on here to occasionally play if I’m lucky and I’m not looking for a relationship just occasional fun oops I feel a tear coming on yet again "

I can relate to this, my loss was within the last 6 months - I now have an emptiness that at times is very hard to deal with.

For all you can have close family and friends, you can never replace the one that was as much part of you as you were of them.

It's the empty spaces where once there was happiness, light, joy that hurt the most.

You can fill those spaces in many ways, but in the end they will never truly be the same. They will always be tempered by the past.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Reluctant cat owner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to find the one and come off all the dating apps and fab. He’s out there somewhere probably looking for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forever alone but resisting the urge to get pets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with someone for 6 yrs and the last 2 were so stressful. Needless to say I left her for someone else and we split up after a few months. I'm glad in a way but to say destined to stay single is a bit pessimistic.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’d love to find the one and come off all the dating apps and fab. He’s out there somewhere probably looking for me too

Sweet, lovely and let's be hopefully for you. You never know where the love will come from.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Forever alone but resisting the urge to get pets "
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Oh go on, get a dog and you will find your soulmate. Pop along to your local rescue centre and i guarantee you will fall in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im actively looking but not on here lol I’m just enjoying the social side of fab as Iv made some great friends over the years

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