FabSwingers.com forum: Women, I know you’re all busy on here but...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please if you’re in the midst of having a conversation on here with someone & decide you’re not interested just say so & that’ll be that. Loads of woman start chatting away on here then just disappear. Frustrating as fuck & just bad mannered so it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please if you’re in the midst of having a conversation on here with someone & decide you’re not interested just say so & that’ll be that. "

If you genuinely take it on the chin then good for you, but plenty of guys don't, set up fake profiles and shit like that to make contact again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only say I'm not intetrsted if they ask to meet tho.

If someone is chatting I'm not gonna be rude and just blurt out im Not interested for them To turn round and say I never asked if you were?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only say I'm not intetrsted if they ask to meet tho.

If someone is chatting I'm not gonna be rude and just blurt out im Not interested for them To turn round and say I never asked if you were?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I only say I'm not intetrsted if they ask to meet tho.

If someone is chatting I'm not gonna be rude and just blurt out im Not interested for them To turn round and say I never asked if you were?

Exactly this. Men seem to presume that because you answer questions they ask that you are interested in them which is often not the case at all.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"I only say I'm not intetrsted if they ask to meet tho.

If someone is chatting I'm not gonna be rude and just blurt out im Not interested for them To turn round and say I never asked if you were?

Exactly this. Men seem to presume that because you answer questions they ask that you are interested in them which is often not the case at all. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i receive a message i look at their profile amd status veris before i even read the message if theres something there i like then il reply, if not then.i don't, it would be more rude in my eyes to have a guy think hes got a chance when he never from the start, the fact that men font seen to understand by sending 5 6 messages without a reply isn't cos were bombarded with messages and missed you out its the subtle hint of us saying were not jnterested so me not replying is saying it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The dynamic of the female being inundated on here is just the way it is. As a single guy it can get frustrating, that’s just an observational fact and I’m not having a go here. It’s more akin to playing the lottery on here from a guys perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather not get the no reply. The sorry your not my Type message makes me feel shit. So it’s brtter to just not hear anything

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Ok I'm just gonna throw this out there ..if it happening with regularity to you ....might it be your chat is shit or boring them to disappear ..possible ???

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Ok I'm just gonna throw this out there ..if it happening with regularity to you ....might it be your chat is shit or boring them to disappear ..possible ??? "

No beating about the bush . Plenty beat at the pictures of one though .

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Ok I'm just gonna throw this out there ..if it happening with regularity to you ....might it be your chat is shit or boring them to disappear ..possible ??? "

Or maybe that person is trying to answer a dozen folks question at the same time out of politeness.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Please if you’re in the midst of having a conversation on here with someone & decide you’re not interested just say so & that’ll be that. Loads of woman start chatting away on here then just disappear. Frustrating as fuck & just bad mannered so it is. "
sometimes people lose interest other times its because they have said something thats put me of talking further with them just accept and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s could be possible that the person is not ignoring you at all, patience is key to any interactions on here, if someone takes their time to reply it is highly likely they are busy and have other priorities, questioning them on it is likely to come across all eager beaver which is enough to put anyone off myself included!

I’d suggest just waiting as long as it takes, if they reply bonus if they don’t you need to just take it for what it is and that you’ll never know why, though you can’t miss what you never had

Be patient buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what everyone else on here has said. One point I do have to make though, is that if a man messages me and I'm not interested then I'm not going to just ignore it and delete it. I will answer his message with a polite no thank you and hope they find who they're looking for. Please don't assume that all the women on here are all the same because we're not OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the girls just end up wanting to know if I'm gonna ask to meet

I chat to much, way to much that I never ask

and they eventually go off with someone else knowing 'auch Peter is akways there to chat with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

???? Peter Horsey, I think that might be my Achilles heel too...I have a tendency to talk a bit too much that I maybe forget to be a bit more direct with them. Ladies I’m by no means spitting the dummy, just trying to figure out what to expect on here, I’ve not been on too long but this is my second profile, so still getting to grips with it all. I’ve had a few meets on here, had a few meets on my old profile.

Anyway I’m in town on Wednesday night so if anyone fancies a drink drop me a message

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

For the ladies défense.

On lady on that thread is always answering as long as you are courteous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"???? Peter Horsey, I think that might be my Achilles heel too...I have a tendency to talk a bit too much that I maybe forget to be a bit more direct with them. Ladies I’m by no means spitting the dummy, just trying to figure out what to expect on here, I’ve not been on too long but this is my second profile, so still getting to grips with it all. I’ve had a few meets on here, had a few meets on my old profile.

Anyway I’m in town on Wednesday night so if anyone fancies a drink drop me a message "

The most obvious answer is that they think your chat is a bit rubbish if they stop chatting. Don't let some have you think it's any more cryptic than that

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Guilty as charged thinking conversation has started and that I maybe In with a shout, but quickly learnt that's not the case friends with a few people on here who I think are amazing but I'm not what they are looking for, but still great people I love chatting to

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"For the ladies défense.

On lady on that thread is always answering as long as you are courteous

Moi, mais toi encore trop jeune.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to girls to low n behold lol i love chatting to a guy for ages getting quite interesting then he pops up wi oh im.kinda seeing someone, seems like a weekly occurrence

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"It happens to girls to low n behold lol i love chatting to a guy for ages getting quite interesting then he pops up wi oh im.kinda seeing someone, seems like a weekly occurrence "

Oh no. That’s never good. I’ve people I chat too regularly without any pressure to meet. The way I look at it, if it’s meant to be, we will meet. But never after 3 messages.

But if I don’t hear anything for a few days I don’t fret, I accept we all have lives outside fab

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By *parkle13Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

When I answer somebody., not my type. I get how do u know .or let's find out. Or ur a pic collector ...or some other random answer ..

But on posters question .if I'm talking to somebody and go to do something I forget and just put ph down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I answer somebody., not my type. I get how do u know .or let's find out. Or ur a pic collector ...or some other random answer ..

But on posters question .if I'm talking to somebody and go to do something I forget and just put ph down "

This is a good point. With a lot of guys you can’t really win... so why bother trying?

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By *elaxedcplCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We always try to reply to messages but there are particular times when we get lots of messages e.g. when we put up new pictures or a meeting request - at these times it's easy to lose track or simply don't have time to reply to all messages.

OP, don't take it personally, sometimes people are rude, sometimes people forget to reply and other times people just don't have time.

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By *pinCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I think the long and short is you just need to have the “fuck it” attitude. Fab happens.

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