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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, for those of you who have been on here a while, has Fab made you more cynical? Do you give every new person who messages you the benefit of the doubt or assume they're probably full of shite until they prove otherwise?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I give the benefit of the doubt as I was new once too.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"So, for those of you who have been on here a while, has Fab made you more cynical? Do you give every new person who messages you the benefit of the doubt or assume they're probably full of shite until they prove otherwise?"

New people messaging me ....Haha I'll crack the jokes

But no I wouldn't say I'm more cynical ..everyone has to start somewhere

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So, for those of you who have been on here a while, has Fab made you more cynical? Do you give every new person who messages you the benefit of the doubt or assume they're probably full of shite until they prove otherwise?"
Im always very cautious with anyone mailing me,far to many trouble makers on here .

So yes I guess Im cynical of new profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably pretty difficult to be more cynical than me...and most folk on here prove me right

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"I give the benefit of the doubt as I was new once too.

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Try to be fair in most things in life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a newbie here I wouldn’t say I’m feeling cynical (invisible maybe, but not cynical....yet).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a newbie here I wouldn’t say I’m feeling cynical (invisible maybe, but not cynical....yet). "

Give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a newbie here I wouldn’t say I’m feeling cynical (invisible maybe, but not cynical....yet).

Give it time "

Luckily I have both time and patience

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Cynical makes me more fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think I'm becoming more cynical.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So, for those of you who have been on here a while, has Fab made you more cynical? Do you give every new person who messages you the benefit of the doubt or assume they're probably full of shite until they prove otherwise?Im always very cautious with anyone mailing me,far to many trouble makers on here .

So yes I guess Im cynical of new profiles "

This

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm becoming more cynical."

Why’s that? At least you have Mr Doggy to keep you company when this place gets a bit much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very cynical

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I'm becoming more cynical.

Why’s that? At least you have Mr Doggy to keep you company when this place gets a bit much"

Getting messages from people who then turn out to be someone or something different from what they said. Fake profiles, fake pics. Being taken in by someone and then feeling like a tit.

Mr has a pretty good bullshit detector so fortunately it doesn't happen often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you guys are all feeling a bit cynical (when you’re not feeling each other that is), where does that leave us newbies who are here with genuine profiles and honest motives?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you guys are all feeling a bit cynical (when you’re not feeling each other that is), where does that leave us newbies who are here with genuine profiles and honest motives? "

Don't worry, we'll sniff you out if you're genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be prepared for rejection and take it like a man. The ratio of men to women makes the women have the littlest of preferences just to filter out so many. Which is a shame because lots of amazing experiences are missed out due to such high volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, has Fab made you more cynical?"

Hell yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were all new once so it's nice to give someone the benefit of the doubt but I have to say that I'm very wary now. Par for the course on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to be prepared for rejection and take it like a man. The ratio of men to women makes the women have the littlest of preferences just to filter out so many. Which is a shame because lots of amazing experiences are missed out due to such high volumes.

"

There's high volumes of pish...and there's nothing amazing being missed by avoiding that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand where you are all coming from.(another bad choice of words on here).It’s just a wee bit frustrating I suppose. I’ll just go with the flow.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand where you are all coming from.(another bad choice of words on here).It’s just a wee bit frustrating I suppose. I’ll just go with the flow....."

What's frustrating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated."
Block button?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?"

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??"
Name and shame? Or would that just ellict a nasty reaction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??Name and shame? Or would that just ellict a nasty reaction?"

I think that could get nasty but how would I do that?? Are you allowed to name??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??Name and shame? Or would that just ellict a nasty reaction?"

It would illicit a forum ban x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore the guy that's bugging you. And don't name and shame him. As well as being silly, it's not allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore the guy that's bugging you. And don't name and shame him. As well as being silly, it's not allowed"

I didn’t think it was allowed but thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore the guy that's bugging you. And don't name and shame him. As well as being silly, it's not allowed

I didn’t think it was allowed but thanks."

That’s good to know. I’ve seen some women use their current status thingy to alert others ifvsime guy has been a bit dodgy. It’s something I never Not about when I signed up....I feel like a naive tourist in a big city who is just about to get mugged!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And remember...not everything you read on t'internet is true...especially on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore the guy that's bugging you. And don't name and shame him. As well as being silly, it's not allowed

I didn’t think it was allowed but thanks.

That’s good to know. I’ve seen some women use their current status thingy to alert others ifvsime guy has been a bit dodgy. It’s something I never Not about when I signed up....I feel like a naive tourist in a big city who is just about to get mugged!"

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??"

Also use report button to let admin know they’ve multiple profiles .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated."

Just dinghy them. Works for me.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Always been cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relative newbie here becoming cynical. Messaged by a verified long term member but not what he seemed. I Was polite as always but gut instinct made me pull back. He was rude and abusive and I blocked.

He has returned with a new profile (old one still there), same pictures on both.

Unsure how to deal with it - seems a bit like stalker traits.

Any advice from long term folks here appreciated.Block button?

Yeah I’ve done that - this normal behaviours??

Also use report button to let admin know they’ve multiple profiles . "

Done - thank you

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical "

7 months....You should know the score by now

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character


"Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical

7 months....You should know the score by now "

True, gonna update my profile - been here 7 months so know how it works - and delete the rest

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical

7 months....You should know the score by now

True, gonna update my profile - been here 7 months so know how it works - and delete the rest "

I've been here nearly 9 years and still not sure "how it works!"

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By *s cynicalWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Always cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical

7 months....You should know the score by now

True, gonna update my profile - been here 7 months so know how it works - and delete the rest

I've been here nearly 9 years and still not sure "how it works!" "

LMFAO

been here on and off since the sites conception and the longer I’m here the more confusing it becomes

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Cynical here too

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"Define 'a while' - not sure I'm qualified to be cynical

7 months....You should know the score by now

True, gonna update my profile - been here 7 months so know how it works - and delete the rest

I've been here nearly 9 years and still not sure "how it works!"

LMFAO

been here on and off since the sites conception and the longer I’m here the more confusing it becomes "

I confuse myself on an hourly basis!!!

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

I try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt but always end up rolling my eyes n thinking really dude really lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly cynical nowadays but I try to give people a chance it's beginning to pay off too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would need to receive a message first haha

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By *eather47Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I can be cynical at times when folk,s u think are your friends just use you

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