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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a lot of time wasters on this site, can we use this thread to name and shame them so others don’t waste their time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't do that if I were you otherwise you'll get a forum ban x

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

No.

Look down the page and you’ll see more threads like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naming and shaming only gets YOU banned

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wasn’t sure if it was aloud, that’s why I asked the question before further posts, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They should be banning the time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just forget about them, use your block button and move on. There are genuine people on here and when you find them, it will make it all worthwhile x

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Breathe OP. Take a step back from the keyboard before you do something that gets YOU banned.

They aren’t worth it

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Breathe OP. Take a step back from the keyboard before you do something that gets YOU banned.

They aren’t worth it "

Yes OP take a breath, just wait till Admin takes up my cunt of the week idea and you can just vote for them then

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sometimes i wonder what makes a person a "time waster" is it because they chatted for a while then slowly backed away when they realised the person was not someone they'd like to meet? Or is it because they arranged a meet or social then cancelled? I've had people ghost on me on a few occasions. I'm not angry about it. The nature of the site means it happens sometimes. It's a waste of my time yes but if someone is brave in chat then becomes afraid at the reality (especially if it's their first meet) and do a runner i wouldn't give them shit about it. It just means they're not ready for things and need to take some time to think.

Had one person ghost on me twice lol. Still chatted to him and said he should take a break from fab and work out his feelings before arranging any more meets with other people.

If you don't have an ego about things then it's irritating, yes, but not a hanging offence

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Sometimes i wonder what makes a person a "time waster" is it because they chatted for a while then slowly backed away when they realised the person was not someone they'd like to meet? Or is it because they arranged a meet or social then cancelled? I've had people ghost on me on a few occasions. I'm not angry about it. The nature of the site means it happens sometimes. It's a waste of my time yes but if someone is brave in chat then becomes afraid at the reality (especially if it's their first meet) and do a runner i wouldn't give them shit about it. It just means they're not ready for things and need to take some time to think.

Had one person ghost on me twice lol. Still chatted to him and said he should take a break from fab and work out his feelings before arranging any more meets with other people.

If you don't have an ego about things then it's irritating, yes, but not a hanging offence

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I’m coming from the same place as you I think. I’ve chatted with propel online where it seems promising then the chat kinda fizzles out, that’s not timewasting, I don’t think. I wouldn’t even consider someone saying they’re interested in meeting but never setting a date to be timewasting either. Only if you set a date, and either cancel last minute (more than once) or do a no show.... that’s into timewater territory

And I totally agree with you about the idea of a meet can you really excite someone but the actual reality of it can scare them off. I’m actually quite sympathetic to that last minute fear, I had it at the start too, and took a wee while to get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some sense being spoken.

Some arrogant people on FAB think ANYONE who doesn't jump when they click their fingers is a timewaster.

Some of us have jobs, families, bikes to maintain, hamsters to feed, dogs to walk.....nae money etc!

I'm fast coming to the conclusion that this site is a busted flush for me (compared to the fun place it was a few years back)

Maybe now that I'm back to full health (long story)I just don't see FAB as no1 priority, nowhere near it

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By *tacaMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Absolutely true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m getting where your coming from and probably nerves and shyness on their part, never put it behind me and carry on.

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By *hargMan
over a year ago

Erskine

Plus there are two sides to every story.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I totally agree there is two sides to every story, I also don’t understand why people send you a message and block you before you can even reply to them, what’s that all about?

It’s no as if it was a shity message that they sent!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been brandished a timewaster before for refusing to meet someone, to some if you're a woman on here you should be willing to meet anyone who asks.

Peoples opinions on what constitutes a timewaster vary massively.

Someone can only waste your time if it is given to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been brandished a timewaster before for refusing to meet someone, to some if you're a woman on here you should be willing to meet anyone who asks.

Peoples opinions on what constitutes a timewaster vary massively.

Someone can only waste your time if it is given to them. "

I agree it’s not fair that you be branded a time waster for not wanting to meet, as for time given 60 messages down the line is a lot of time and probably way longer than anyone else, it’s probably a bit unfair me branding her a time waster, but I do think it’s down to shyness on her part.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I've been brandished a timewaster before for refusing to meet someone, to some if you're a woman on here you should be willing to meet anyone who asks.

Peoples opinions on what constitutes a timewaster vary massively.

Someone can only waste your time if it is given to them.

I agree it’s not fair that you be branded a time waster for not wanting to meet, as for time given 60 messages down the line is a lot of time and probably way longer than anyone else, it’s probably a bit unfair me branding her a time waster, but I do think it’s down to shyness on her part.

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So nobody arranged to meet then ghosted on you OP?

Imo that's part of the deal here. It's not timewasting. It just happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

?? got patched

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"?? got patched"

What's patched lol.

If after 60 messages discussing possible meeting then agreeing when both free and then saying I don't want to meet you now , I would say they have been timewasters, only IF they said everything was good time wise ,kids etc for that meet to happen . OR if they arranged a meet and pulled out for NO REASON again timewasters. I would always want to chat on phone before meeting, 1 you know the person is genuine and 2 you get a feel how a meet will go. If you can't talk on a phone for 5 minutes without awkward silences, rest assured your coffee meet will end in disaster too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"?? got patched

What's patched lol.

If after 60 messages discussing possible meeting then agreeing when both free and then saying I don't want to meet you now , I would say they have been timewasters, only IF they said everything was good time wise ,kids etc for that meet to happen . OR if they arranged a meet and pulled out for NO REASON again timewasters. I would always want to chat on phone before meeting, 1 you know the person is genuine and 2 you get a feel how a meet will go. If you can't talk on a phone for 5 minutes without awkward silences, rest assured your coffee meet will end in disaster too. "

Maybe after 60 messages the op said something to put them off meeting?

Without knowing both sides of the story we can't brand someone a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think that 99% of users who don’t use forums manage just fine as well.

No moaning no greeting just shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just think that 99% of users who don’t use forums manage just fine as well.

No moaning no greeting just shagging "

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre


"?? got patched

What's patched lol.

If after 60 messages discussing possible meeting then agreeing when both free and then saying I don't want to meet you now , I would say they have been timewasters, only IF they said everything was good time wise ,kids etc for that meet to happen . OR if they arranged a meet and pulled out for NO REASON again timewasters. I would always want to chat on phone before meeting, 1 you know the person is genuine and 2 you get a feel how a meet will go. If you can't talk on a phone for 5 minutes without awkward silences, rest assured your coffee meet will end in disaster too.

Maybe after 60 messages the op said something to put them off meeting?

Without knowing both sides of the story we can't brand someone a timewaster."

Yep , that's why I said about discussing meets in those messages, and you are right, once everything was in place he could have said the wrong thing and she was put right off. That's not a timewaster. Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"?? got patched

What's patched lol.

If after 60 messages discussing possible meeting then agreeing when both free and then saying I don't want to meet you now , I would say they have been timewasters, only IF they said everything was good time wise ,kids etc for that meet to happen . OR if they arranged a meet and pulled out for NO REASON again timewasters. I would always want to chat on phone before meeting, 1 you know the person is genuine and 2 you get a feel how a meet will go. If you can't talk on a phone for 5 minutes without awkward silences, rest assured your coffee meet will end in disaster too. "

It’s when someone doesn’t reply to a message, when you ask is wed still ok you know they’ve been on site they just don’t respond.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m happy for coffee meets not happy at giving my mobile out

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Maybe they think youre wasting their time ..ever think about that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I replied asking if they were still ok for wed, why would that imply I’m wasting their time?

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Nah ..that does seem like the reasonable thing to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking back at the mess I genuinely do think it is down to her shyness rather than anything I’ve said, I’m a perfect gent. ??

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By *edzyWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"?? got patched

What's patched lol.

If after 60 messages discussing possible meeting then agreeing when both free and then saying I don't want to meet you now , I would say they have been timewasters, only IF they said everything was good time wise ,kids etc for that meet to happen . OR if they arranged a meet and pulled out for NO REASON again timewasters. I would always want to chat on phone before meeting, 1 you know the person is genuine and 2 you get a feel how a meet will go. If you can't talk on a phone for 5 minutes without awkward silences, rest assured your coffee meet will end in disaster too. "

I don’t speak on the phone to people I’ve never met - it feels weird lol. When I’m at home I’m in family mode, not fab mode

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Looking back at the mess I genuinely do think it is down to her shyness rather than anything I’ve said, I’m a perfect gent. ?? "

Do follow up on whether you get the chance help her out of the shyness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes i wonder what makes a person a "time waster" is it because they chatted for a while then slowly backed away when they realised the person was not someone they'd like to meet? Or is it because they arranged a meet or social then cancelled? I've had people ghost on me on a few occasions. I'm not angry about it. The nature of the site means it happens sometimes. It's a waste of my time yes but if someone is brave in chat then becomes afraid at the reality (especially if it's their first meet) and do a runner i wouldn't give them shit about it. It just means they're not ready for things and need to take some time to think.

Had one person ghost on me twice lol. Still chatted to him and said he should take a break from fab and work out his feelings before arranging any more meets with other people.

If you don't have an ego about things then it's irritating, yes, but not a hanging offence

"

Well said, totally agree

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