FabSwingers.com forum: Just out a relationship...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I completely understand that people can want to be a bit more experimental with their sex life while single ... I am one of those people ... I feel like i can work out what I like for me without the risk of anyone getting hurt and without having to limit myself to the boundaries my partner is also happy to push

However does it then make me a total hypocrite that when i see a profile that says “Just out of a long relationship so signed up here” I want to instantly block?

I honestly read that as missing a sentence which says ... because my mates said I can get some easy/ dirty sex the misses wouldnt give me before I actually have to start thinking about dating again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the “just out of a relationship” profiles that I’ve read have been female

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most of the “just out of a relationship” profiles that I’ve read have been female

Does that not have something to do with the fact that i probably search men and you probably search women?

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

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"I completely understand that people can want to be a bit more experimental with their sex life while single ... I am one of those people ... I feel like i can work out what I like for me without the risk of anyone getting hurt and without having to limit myself to the boundaries my partner is also happy to push

However does it then make me a total hypocrite that when i see a profile that says “Just out of a long relationship so signed up here” I want to instantly block?

I honestly read that as missing a sentence which says ... because my mates said I can get some easy/ dirty sex the misses wouldnt give me before I actually have to start thinking about dating again

I really think there is no right or wrong reason for Fab. We all have our reasons for being here.

Whether I am a relationship or single I am mlre or less the same.

Being single is not my reason for being here, i understand what you mean.

Best of luck in the pursue of Fabiness

We should stop judging ourself or other just enjoy the fab moment.

I hope I don t miss the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However does it then make me a total hypocrite that when i see a profile that says “Just out of a long relationship so signed up here” I want to instantly block?

I honestly read that as missing a sentence which says ... because my mates said I can get some easy/ dirty sex the misses wouldnt give me before I actually have to start thinking about dating again

If they are looking for easy/dirty sex the Mrs wouldn't give them then fair dos. It is a sex site after all. I wouldn't think any less of them. Most people want to let off some steam if they've just came out of an unhappy relationship.

But you're not being hypocritical, you're using the site your way and they're doing the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe the person is just out of a relationship and fancies some no-strings sex without listening to what his/her mates think or conforming to any sort of bizarrely perceived stereotype.

Imagine that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or maybe the person is just out of a relationship and fancies some no-strings sex without listening to what his/her mates think or conforming to any sort of bizarrely perceived stereotype.

Imagine that! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

However does it then make me a total hypocrite that when i see a profile that says “Just out of a long relationship so signed up here” I want to instantly block?

I honestly read that as missing a sentence which says ... because my mates said I can get some easy/ dirty sex the misses wouldnt give me before I actually have to start thinking about dating again

But you're not being hypocritical, you're using the site your way and they're doing the same.

I guess so ... i read it as someone that i would likely come away from feeing a bit used for their own needs and who gives a crap about mine ... but then i guess the more i think about it everyone is here for their own needs so its not really any different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However does it then make me a total hypocrite that when i see a profile that says “Just out of a long relationship so signed up here” I want to instantly block?

I honestly read that as missing a sentence which says ... because my mates said I can get some easy/ dirty sex the misses wouldnt give me before I actually have to start thinking about dating again

But you're not being hypocritical, you're using the site your way and they're doing the same.

Kind of get where you're coming from but if you walk away having had a good time and good sex then does anything else really matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a sex site

I think too many people think about their feelings

Yes I know folk ate on here for different reasons blah blah it ultimately it's a sex site for folk that want to meet for se.

If your leaving feeling used then maybe think about why your meeting and not who?

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

The only thing I would read into 'just out of a relationship' is that the person is emotionally unavailable.

Unless you're on here looking for a relationship

then they're probably no less an ideal candidate than the next person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For a sex site

I think too many people think about their feelings

Yes I know folk ate on here for different reasons blah blah it ultimately it's a sex site for folk that want to meet for se.

If your leaving feeling used then maybe think about why your meeting and not who?"

It wasnt someone i met ... was just saying in my head thats how i imagine i would feel walking away from someone like that

I think its very easy in a couple to always feel you have the upper hand on a meet so can disregard feelings completely ... as a single its less simple and i dont think its unreasonable to want to feel like an equal rather than used on a meet...

I also think there is a difference between having feelings for someone you meet casually for sex and considering how a situation makes you feel about yourself ... i think once you start to disregard your own feelings about any situation you are on a slippery slope downwards

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But you're not being hypocritical, you're using the site your way and they're doing the same.

Kind of get where you're coming from but if you walk away having had a good time and good sex then does anything else really matter?"

No it doesn’t... i pretty much agree with you now ive thought about it more ... the OP was just my initial reaction when I saw the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's because I'm married I detach feelings from someone I'm having sex with ?

Yes I'm all in having fun and hopefully having great sex but when I leave I leave feeling we both got out of it what we wanted.

If that makes sense?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe it's because I'm married I detach feelings from someone I'm having sex with ?

Yes I'm all in having fun and hopefully having great sex but when I leave I leave feeling we both got out of it what we wanted.

If that makes sense?

Lol"

Yeah 100% i just think its an easier place to get to coming from part of a couple is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree, just a sex site for fun. If you are looking for a date or relationship then join a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally agree, just a sex site for fun. If you are looking for a date or relationship then join a dating site."

Not sure where at any point i said thats what I wanted but thanks gor the input

I also disagree because IF you wanted a swinging relationship then surely there is no better place to look than on a swinging site

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