FabSwingers.com forum: Would you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you meet with someone that isn't photo verified, only has one profile picture up, doesn't have kik or any other form of communication, has only been on for four weeks and seems too eager to get you to their house?

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had?

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

If it doesn’t seem right, don’t do it. Trust your instincts, they’re usually right.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Would you meet with someone that isn't photo verified, only has one profile picture up, doesn't have kik or any other form of communication, has only been on for four weeks and seems too eager to get you to their house?

Defo wouldn't, got to be careful and that scenario would scream "danger will robinson"

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had? "

Had a guy answer a phone mid coitus and proceed to facetime what we were doing, he didn't seem to get why it pissed me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it doesn’t seem right, don’t do it. Trust your instincts, they’re usually right."

Agreed

The any slightest doubt, just forget and move on

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had? "
yes Id meet someone who isnt photo verified.

Yes Id meet someone who doesnt have kik .

But not until a good deal of conversations had taken place .

Just go with your gut instinct if they are genuine they will be more than happy to wait until you feel comfortable to meet .

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve not met several guys because they won’t spend 30 minutes having a coffee. I respect my safety even if they don’t.

I don’t mind if they aren’t verified as long as they can send a face pic. I’m happy to verify them.

We all have to start somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't meet anyone that never had a green tick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They sent one face picture but it's the same as their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked for a coffee meet to suss each other out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes. Asked to meet in a public place. Just to see if we like each other. They agreed, but still kept mentioning going back to theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Asked to meet in a public place. Just to see if we like each other. They agreed, but still kept mentioning going back to theirs.

Don't go then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah. Think I will definitely block. Sounds too odd and not worth risking my safety over. Screw that.

Thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Think I will definitely block. Sounds too odd and not worth risking my safety over. Screw that.

Thank you all.

Fuck me, I wish I was turning away meets....

I'd happily meet in the middle of a battlefield at the minute....

Any ladies fancy viewing a weapon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Think I will definitely block. Sounds too odd and not worth risking my safety over. Screw that.

Thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what does my head in is fake mf couple profiles, that have no pictures, and not verified and its strangely always the guy messaging saying the mrs in away or whatever and is free to play etc, just setup a single profile ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what does my head in is fake mf couple profiles, that have no pictures, and not verified and its strangely always the guy messaging saying the mrs in away or whatever and is free to play etc, just setup a single profile ffs lol"

Yes. All the time. Or I guy makes up a single womans profile, isn't verified or anything. What do they think is going to happen when you turn up? "Aye no worries, you lied and said your female, still will pump you"??

Don't know what goes through some people's heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had? "

Is that what you constitute a nightmare? Really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had?

Is that what you constitute a nightmare? Really? "

Not a major one, but sadly one of many.

Plus it is rather annoying and discredits further meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will add that these features are there for our safety.

They are there to make sure that we are meeting the actual people behind the profile, that if something does happen all precautions have been taken.

So yeah, it is a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the arsey reply to the request for a social meet of "it's not a dating site" that does me

Some people may be willing to screw someone they're not attracted to for the sake of getting their end away, but I'm not so desperate.

I want to make sure I feel safe and secure, I fancy you and we can converse before, during and after the act.

If that is dating then I've had it wrong for many years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will add that these features are there for our safety.

They are there to make sure that we are meeting the actual people behind the profile, that if something does happen all precautions have been taken.

So yeah, it is a nightmare. "

Take your time chatting...it's usually a fairly easy way to get a better feel for how genuine someone is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore you feel even the slightest bit uneasy don't go...

Did you really need advice for that?

As for something being a "nightmare" to you (not you OP) if it's that bad then why bother?

It's not hard to get sex so why put yourself through an ordeal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always a good idea to say that the first meet is always a social only and see how it goes and how it feels.

Most guys should be happy to chat on here and meet for a social in a public place, And not put any pressure on for a meet.

That way it breaks the ice and you can both decide if it goes any further.

My first meet I was unverified though I did have picture verifications.

She asked to speak to me on the phone first and it was like an interview.

Then a social, Then a meet .

Hope that helps.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Surely common sense prevails in all situations, not just meeting from here. If it doesn't feel right, then don't do it. Your gut feeling/instinct just from conversations should be a barometer as to whether you would want to meet them or not.

If someone is pushy before meeting, then they are more than likely going to be pushy in person also.

Thankfully, the majority of guys on here are not only respectful but also savvy as to their safety when meeting also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's always a good idea to say that the first meet is always a social only and see how it goes and how it feels.

Most guys should be happy to chat on here and meet for a social in a public place, And not put any pressure on for a meet.

That way it breaks the ice and you can both decide if it goes any further.

My first meet I was unverified though I did have picture verifications.

She asked to speak to me on the phone first and it was like an interview.

Then a social, Then a meet .

Hope that helps.

Makes sense mate. Despite my earlier post I haven't asked anybody for a meet and won't until I'm sure of the dos and don't rules...

Even then although I enjoy the banter and yes, the horniness of the site I'd still have to be sure it was for me before I took it more seriously.

Advice from a novice to the girls....use yer nut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is someone on here that posts all the time, mrs is out blah blah blah, they must think everyone is stupid lol

i play it safe too

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Sick of having to explain that safety is the number 1 priority.

What nightmares have you had? "
imo your filtering process is not very good the only one that would raise alarm bells for me is eagerness to get you to their house.

pic approved I see as an easy one for a fake to take advantage of....number of pics is of little intrest to me .....kik is another anonymous safe haven full of deceptive folk .

if it works for you then thats good no point complaining if you catch the numptys

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

As a guy who meets couples as well as Ladies - I remember my first meet with a couple. It was arranged that I was to go to theirs.

I spoke to them both on the phone beforehand but was still nervous as heck when I got there - especially when there was no sign of the lady to start when I got inside!

Thankfully she was just in the toilet but after that I now prefer to meet for a social first or have met previously at a club or social event.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

All seems rather strange to me ...as a guy I'd expect to at least try put ladies mind at rest before meeting me ..if someone that wants to get that close to you hasn't the slightest thought for your piece of mind ..do you really want to meet them

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By *entleman Caller GlasgowMan
over a year ago

Bellshill

Trusting your instinct is paramount; safety first for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lack of regard for safer on this site is astounding.. how many women get messages from a single male profile with no pics asking you to go to a hotel room to be fucked by his friends and they are surprised to be told no chance

So no OP, I would not and not many would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Think I will definitely block. Sounds too odd and not worth risking my safety over. Screw that.

Thank you all.

Would you have met them if we all said yes to your "would you meet questions" x

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

I think these days most would not meet without seeing pics and a variety of them...hard to 8magine at one time it was magazines etc used haha before the days of cameras , online, etc

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By *pinCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Don't know what goes through some people's heads.

She is in the other room honestly

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

If someone is pushy before meeting, then they are more than likely going to be pushy in person also.

Yup. There's a lot to be said for social meets first, too. Much harder to hide the crazy in the real world. Not impossible, mind, just harder.

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Yes. Asked to meet in a public place. Just to see if we like each other. They agreed, but still kept mentioning going back to theirs.

Although I can certainly understand his... enthusiasm to get you into bed it does just smack of desperation rather than dangerous to me. Not to mention about lack of respect for you whilst labouring under that misapprehension that all the women on here must be uncontrollable nymphomaniacs just gagging to get shagged by any guy who asks them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would providing there was a few weeks possibly more of chatting first

I have been let down from verified so that's not a guarantee either!

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