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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should swingers be doing more to “normalise” their lifestyle?

Social stigma for various gender orientation has been around for decades, but it has made inroads with individuals once thought of as perverts accepted as part of society. Of course there still are prejudices out there, but generally our experience of the swinging scene is that it is still something people feel pressure over not to disclose their lifestyle. The very nature of that lufestyle is social, intimately social... healthy even, as long as precautions are taken.

But should swingers do more to be out there and visible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv never been shy about being a swinger, most people tend to have scewed thoughts like swinger=slut shag anyone, n im perfectly ok with non swingers living in ignorance because i know from swinging and all the people i know that being a swinger is so much more than sex its open mindness, non judgmental, kind, respectful, understanding, empathetic human's that i will ever encounter and im so glad i am

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" being a swinger is so much more than sex its open mindness, non judgmental, kind, respectful, understanding, empathetic human's that i will ever encounter and im so glad i am"

Very true that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in What?

My personal life and sex life is no one else business bar mine and my husband's.

That's not changing.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Depends on what you mean by swinging lifestyle. So many variations of what swinger is now.

Im accepted for me a person who does ny own thing that isnt always mainstream ive no need to push any agendas on others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As in What?

My personal life and sex life is no one else business bar mine and my husband's.

That's not changing.

"

Same for me . x

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"being a swinger is so much more than sex its open mindness, non judgmental, kind, respectful, understanding, empathetic human's that i will ever encounter and im so glad i am"

So true.

Nice to see you back, btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In puritanical Britain, and in particular “Calvinist” Scotland there will forever be a stigma associated with swinging, I mean Group sex with relative strangers whilst dressed in latex, guys screaming out to be pegged, women perpetually drinking from the “furry cup” and all manner of latex and rubber sex toys/marital aids......thats far too much fun for a nation of miserable bastards to be having. No we’re not having any of that, demonise it, portray people who lead that lifestyle as seedy, sleazy, somehow lesser or “damaged” individuals. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In puritanical Britain, and in particular “Calvinist” Scotland there will forever be a stigma associated with swinging, I mean Group sex with relative strangers whilst dressed in latex, guys screaming out to be pegged, women perpetually drinking from the “furry cup” and all manner of latex and rubber sex toys/marital aids......thats far too much fun for a nation of miserable bastards to be having. No we’re not having any of that, demonise it, portray people who lead that lifestyle as seedy, sleazy, somehow lesser or “damaged” individuals. Lol"

Do you think folk who choose to have sex that excludes all you mentioned don't manage to have fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In puritanical Britain, and in particular “Calvinist” Scotland there will forever be a stigma associated with swinging, I mean Group sex with relative strangers whilst dressed in latex, guys screaming out to be pegged, women perpetually drinking from the “furry cup” and all manner of latex and rubber sex toys/marital aids......thats far too much fun for a nation of miserable bastards to be having. No we’re not having any of that, demonise it, portray people who lead that lifestyle as seedy, sleazy, somehow lesser or “damaged” individuals. Lol

Do you think folk who choose to have sex that excludes all you mentioned don't manage to have fun?"

Not at all that was just a small cross section of some of the kind of fun in which some swingers like to indulge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In puritanical Britain, and in particular “Calvinist” Scotland there will forever be a stigma associated with swinging, I mean Group sex with relative strangers whilst dressed in latex, guys screaming out to be pegged, women perpetually drinking from the “furry cup” and all manner of latex and rubber sex toys/marital aids......thats far too much fun for a nation of miserable bastards to be having. No we’re not having any of that, demonise it, portray people who lead that lifestyle as seedy, sleazy, somehow lesser or “damaged” individuals. Lol

Do you think folk who choose to have sex that excludes all you mentioned don't manage to have fun?

Not at all that was just a small cross section of some of the kind of fun in which some swingers like to indulge. "

There's probably some swingers who'd find a lot of that strange too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should swingers be doing more to “normalise” their lifestyle?

Social stigma for various gender orientation has been around for decades, but it has made inroads with individuals once thought of as perverts accepted as part of society. Of course there still are prejudices out there, but generally our experience of the swinging scene is that it is still something people feel pressure over not to disclose their lifestyle. The very nature of that lufestyle is social, intimately social... healthy even, as long as precautions are taken.

But should swingers do more to be out there and visible? "

If that's your thoughts on it, try telling your immediate and extended family. See how you get on.

You can come back and give us the results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In puritanical Britain, and in particular “Calvinist” Scotland there will forever be a stigma associated with swinging, I mean Group sex with relative strangers whilst dressed in latex, guys screaming out to be pegged, women perpetually drinking from the “furry cup” and all manner of latex and rubber sex toys/marital aids......thats far too much fun for a nation of miserable bastards to be having. No we’re not having any of that, demonise it, portray people who lead that lifestyle as seedy, sleazy, somehow lesser or “damaged” individuals. Lol

Do you think folk who choose to have sex that excludes all you mentioned don't manage to have fun?

Not at all that was just a small cross section of some of the kind of fun in which some swingers like to indulge.

There's probably some swingers who'd find a lot of that strange too"

It takes different strokes and all that

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By *oxycouplexxxCouple
over a year ago

ayrshire

Totally agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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But should swingers do more to be out there and visible? "

No. Please keep your seedy shenanigans out of the public eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should swingers be doing more to “normalise” their lifestyle?

Social stigma for various gender orientation has been around for decades, but it has made inroads with individuals once thought of as perverts accepted as part of society. Of course there still are prejudices out there, but generally our experience of the swinging scene is that it is still something people feel pressure over not to disclose their lifestyle. The very nature of that lufestyle is social, intimately social... healthy even, as long as precautions are taken.

But should swingers do more to be out there and visible? "

I just did a forum search on this and was wondering the same thing. Nobody should really have to fear being exposed for this life style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should swingers be doing more to “normalise” their lifestyle?

Social stigma for various gender orientation has been around for decades, but it has made inroads with individuals once thought of as perverts accepted as part of society. Of course there still are prejudices out there, but generally our experience of the swinging scene is that it is still something people feel pressure over not to disclose their lifestyle. The very nature of that lufestyle is social, intimately social... healthy even, as long as precautions are taken.

But should swingers do more to be out there and visible?

I just did a forum search on this and was wondering the same thing. Nobody should really have to fear being exposed for this life style "

I don't know why anyone, swinger or not, would want to be loud and proud about their sex life

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I personally don't give a damn about what non swingers think about swinging, Quite simply what we choose to do is none of their business.

With every other walk of life some will disagree, some wont care and others may be curious about taking part. No matter what we do to normalize it you'll always have someone with an opinion.

The only reason we're careful about our lifestyle is we have two kids, One is 13 and if he hasn't already he will soon start the masterbating. We dont want to scar him for life by finding a video or pics of his mum getting fucked off random strangers.

Even at that I think everyone of our friends know, None of our family do but then again we don't tend to discuss our sex life with family members.

Mr

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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago

Isle of Arran

I tend to be picky about who I discuss this with .Not ashamed of what I do but see no reason to upset family or friends.This is one of the reasons I like cj's it's so relaxed I can just be me and not hide anything

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Our puritan Lutherian and catholic based system would never allow it.

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