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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey I'm new to the site, will mostly be looking to meet around the Glasgow / Ayrshire area, I'm new to all this and as a single guy Im assuming it's going to be fairly difficult but I suppose that's where patience comes in?

Well any chance someone could scan my profile and give me a little feedback?

Any general advice for the scene/lifestyle would also be appreciated.

Have fun folks and thanks in advance

(I did post this in another thread but figured seeing as I'm in Scotland it would be more use here)

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I’m feart!!!

Might be best sticking to fet!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is good, you explain enough about what you are looking for to allow people to know whether you are for them or not, which is what a profile is for.

The number of users into S&M are obviously going to be less here than on Fetlife, but they do exist so I wouldn't be put off. And your profile is clear in that regard so it's not like people will message you then realise that is something they aren't interested in.

You'll probably find that the "interests" for searching are a bit limited. While SM is an option, I imagine people's use of this term on this site is a lot more casual than the multitude of terms fetlife has for users' interests/roles.

The general advice is to be yourself, non-pushy, and go into things without expecting anything. Attend clubs or socials as you wish to get to know people in the flesh.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think your profile is good, you explain enough about what you are looking for to allow people to know whether you are for them or not, which is what a profile is for.

The number of users into S&M are obviously going to be less here than on Fetlife, but they do exist so I wouldn't be put off. And your profile is clear in that regard so it's not like people will message you then realise that is something they aren't interested in.

You'll probably find that the "interests" for searching are a bit limited. While SM is an option, I imagine people's use of this term on this site is a lot more casual than the multitude of terms fetlife has for users' interests/roles.

The general advice is to be yourself, non-pushy, and go into things without expecting anything. Attend clubs or socials as you wish to get to know people in the flesh.

S"

This

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By *eather47Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Try cj,s fetish night you will meet like minded peple there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saw knives

End of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think your profile is good, you explain enough about what you are looking for to allow people to know whether you are for them or not, which is what a profile is for.

The number of users into S&M are obviously going to be less here than on Fetlife, but they do exist so I wouldn't be put off. And your profile is clear in that regard so it's not like people will message you then realise that is something they aren't interested in.

You'll probably find that the "interests" for searching are a bit limited. While SM is an option, I imagine people's use of this term on this site is a lot more casual than the multitude of terms fetlife has for users' interests/roles.

The general advice is to be yourself, non-pushy, and go into things without expecting anything. Attend clubs or socials as you wish to get to know people in the flesh.

S"

Thank you

I plan on going to the clubs after exam time, so that will be interesting. I've not seen much in the way of socials being advertised but I've not been here for long so I will probably see them pop up at some point thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try cj,s fetish night you will meet like minded peple there "

I was on CJs website yesterday and seen they did a fetish night, I've been to CJs twice but for workshops and stuff not the actual club tho.. Place is pretty cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Saw knives

End of."

If it makes you feel any easier I don't do cutting, it's more another form of sensation play... Some people use feathers I prefer something a little more pointy haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saw knives

End of.

If it makes you feel any easier I don't do cutting, it's more another form of sensation play... Some people use feathers I prefer something a little more pointy haha"
nope dosn't make me feel any better lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Saw knives

End of.

If it makes you feel any easier I don't do cutting, it's more another form of sensation play... Some people use feathers I prefer something a little more pointy hahanope dosn't make me feel any better lol "

Ah well I tried :P, I knew going into this that finding people with similar interests would be difficult, especially with my list of things haha.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Sorry OP not into pain of any sort except the the odd slap on the backside.

There will be some folks out there however that share your interests but it is rather niche.

I know there is a couple we met at the Torture Garden nights who have similar interests as yourself.

I think you just need to be patient to search them out.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


" It's exam time for me soo if anyone wants a beating to help release a bit of my stress that would be appreciated "

I do like the BD part of BDSM.

Maybe that is why I do not understand the above quote from your profile.

'Beating' to 'release your stress'

Sounds like you need a punch bag.

I do hope potential sub will investigate this line further and make sure they are safe and that a safe word will be used and respected.

Just my opinion OP, if I am someone's sub it is certainly not so the Dominant can release his exam stress or his work stress etc... sounds too much like release of aggression to me and to me not what this is about.

We are all different but that is my angle on this and how others can/could see it too when reading your profile.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" It's exam time for me soo if anyone wants a beating to help release a bit of my stress that would be appreciated

I do like the BD part of BDSM.

Maybe that is why I do not understand the above quote from your profile.

'Beating' to 'release your stress'

Sounds like you need a punch bag.

I do hope potential sub will investigate this line further and make sure they are safe and that a safe word will be used and respected.

Just my opinion OP, if I am someone's sub it is certainly not so the Dominant can release his exam stress or his work stress etc... sounds too much like release of aggression to me and to me not what this is about.

We are all different but that is my angle on this and how others can/could see it too when reading your profile.

Good luck OP.

"

Hey thanks for the feedback, I'm going to remove that part. In my head it sounded more as a joke, my profile was fairly serious and ment it more to lighten it a little not make myself sound aggressive or after a punching bag. Safe words are very important and would of course be listened to. I didn't realise it sounded that bad but after you pointing it out and reading it back I wouldn't want to contact me either for the reasons you mentioned.

Thank you

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By *parklingGrey.xWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hi, Welcome to fab! Being on both, I can say confidently this site is very different from fet.

There are some people who are willing to explore kinks or fetishes or like aspects of it, or watered down versions, but coming across intense BDSM or fetishists seems rare, I haven't encountered it wet and I've been on and off here for around 5 years.

Also, a lot of people wouldn't want to jump in to a relationship with those sorts of dynamics if there isn't a strong trust and respect built beforehand, which is totally understandable, but given the nature of this site it might make your search more difficult.

A true masochist is really hard to find, especially on a site that isn't catered for BDSM..you never know though I'm a masochist but it isn't something I've explicitly stated on my profile, nor would I, because it isn't something I'd necessarily explore with someone in a hook-up scenario

Personally I don't think anything you've outlined on your profile is scary or too 'out there', you're just honest and it's refreshing. If more people were honest I'd bet they'd have more luck than they do.

I also agree with the OP who said about be punchbag comment, your profile would come across more sincere without it. Masochism isn't just being someone's punchbag or a sadist's plaything, it's a dynamic built on trust and mutual enjoyment. As a masochist, reading it made me cringe so it would likely have the same effect on others.

Good luck

N x

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By *parklingGrey.xWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

****yet****

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


" It's exam time for me soo if anyone wants a beating to help release a bit of my stress that would be appreciated

I do like the BD part of BDSM.

Maybe that is why I do not understand the above quote from your profile.

'Beating' to 'release your stress'

Sounds like you need a punch bag.

I do hope potential sub will investigate this line further and make sure they are safe and that a safe word will be used and respected.

Just my opinion OP, if I am someone's sub it is certainly not so the Dominant can release his exam stress or his work stress etc... sounds too much like release of aggression to me and to me not what this is about.

We are all different but that is my angle on this and how others can/could see it too when reading your profile.

Good luck OP.

Hey thanks for the feedback, I'm going to remove that part. In my head it sounded more as a joke, my profile was fairly serious and ment it more to lighten it a little not make myself sound aggressive or after a punching bag. Safe words are very important and would of course be listened to. I didn't realise it sounded that bad but after you pointing it out and reading it back I wouldn't want to contact me either for the reasons you mentioned.

Thank you

"

You're welcome

@HotBBW2769

Agreed

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By *parklingGrey.xWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


" It's exam time for me soo if anyone wants a beating to help release a bit of my stress that would be appreciated

I do like the BD part of BDSM.

Maybe that is why I do not understand the above quote from your profile.

'Beating' to 'release your stress'

Sounds like you need a punch bag.

I do hope potential sub will investigate this line further and make sure they are safe and that a safe word will be used and respected.

Just my opinion OP, if I am someone's sub it is certainly not so the Dominant can release his exam stress or his work stress etc... sounds too much like release of aggression to me and to me not what this is about.

We are all different but that is my angle on this and how others can/could see it too when reading your profile.

Good luck OP.

Hey thanks for the feedback, I'm going to remove that part. In my head it sounded more as a joke, my profile was fairly serious and ment it more to lighten it a little not make myself sound aggressive or after a punching bag. Safe words are very important and would of course be listened to. I didn't realise it sounded that bad but after you pointing it out and reading it back I wouldn't want to contact me either for the reasons you mentioned.

Thank you

You're welcome

@HotBBW2769

Agreed "

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By *oggingnfloggingCouple
over a year ago

fife

After8 holds BDSM days on the second and last Sunday of the month it's on fetlife as sugar Kane would be a good place to try as some of the attendees are also into the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice I've updated my profile a bit... It does look like a screen of text but I don't know how to condense it all haha I just hope people don't mind reading...

Sorry it took a few days to reply, life had gotten in the way.

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