FabSwingers.com forum: What do you think would be worse

By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Finding out your partner had an affair with someone or finding out they were on here with a string of sex meets?

Asking this on the back of another post.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

No difference of you supposed to be in a 1to1 relationship. A cheat is a cheat is a cheat if you do it without partners consent and knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a partner so I'm not qualified to offer my input.

But I'll come back and have a swatch at what others think anyway

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Finding out your partner had an affair with someone or finding out they were on here with a string of sex meets?

Asking this on the back of another post."

For me an affair would be worse x

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

"I don't have a partner so I'm not qualified to offer my input.

But I'll come back and have a swatch at what others think anyway

Ah your the crazy lady who is single from young adult to spinster type of gal

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Both as bad as each other.. lying and cheating is just that regardless of how many people your cheating with

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Having an affair would be worse as there would obviously be stronger feelings involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a partner so I'm not qualified to offer my input.

But I'll come back and have a swatch at what others think anyway

Ah your the crazy lady who is single from young adult to spinster type of gal

That way I only get the good bits of men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An affair would be worse - feelings, intimacy and sharing.

If it was just sexy there would be a conversation about why he couldn’t say as we both meet solo - and some of that would more than likely come back to me (ie the conditions for being 100% honest we’re not actually there)

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The affair would be worse as others have said for me it implies feelings, intimacy, connection...

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Is there really a difference?

As some have indicated an affair might be worse as feelings may develop, but others might consider sex with strangers worse? It's also not uncommon for a couple to be on fab together, but married to other people ..... so is that a 'double whammy' then? I'm not here to judge, & accept that everyone has their reasons for being here.

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By *over-manMan
over a year ago

motherwell

both are nasty

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

I think an affair would imply feelings which would be horrible but equally bad is them sleeping with a string of people, possibly putting your sexual health at risk

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads like this are very giving in terms of making a mockery of the open-minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not here to worry about that.

Both sound a bit hurtful and like the end of a marriage. I’m glad only one of these things happened to me (I think it was only one of these things...)

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By *awaiianguyMan
over a year ago

East Ayrshire

Interesting, that so far there isn't much difference between male and female responses.

I think I would have been with the majority- an affair would have been more difficult to accept.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Both as bad as each other.. lying and cheating is just that regardless of how many people your cheating with

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Think I agree with this

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Threads like this are very giving in terms of making a mockery of the open-minded

How do you figure that ..just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Affair would be worse in my book

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think a string of meets would probably be worse.

I understand that feelings with an affair would be involved but to find out your partner didn't really care who they had sex with, I think would be a kick in the stomach rather than being selective if something in your relationship isn't working.

So to weigh up 1 person or say maybe 4, 5,or 6, I don't think I could get over that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There both the same no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads like this are very giving in terms of making a mockery of the open-minded

How do you figure that ..just curious

The open-minded swingers usually make clear their negative views on those who are married and playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden."

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

I'm not sure I get the context of the question.

So person A is on here but their partner isn't?

Doesn't really set a scenario for a happy outcome (see I avoided the word ending) for either option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden."

*hole!

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole! "

Ye cannae dig a hole wi a shovel, it's a spade ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would expect my partner to be honest and spread the wealth ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole!

Ye cannae dig a hole wi a shovel, it's a spade ffs"

You've not seen me angry. I'd dig it with a fucking spoon if I had to!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole!

Ye cannae dig a hole wi a shovel, it's a spade ffs

You've not seen me angry. I'd dig it with a fucking spoon if I had to!"

Remind us to never piss you off pmsl

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Option C.

Your partner finding out that you are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having an emotional involvement is a bigger betrayal. However while I'll likely be slated for this opinion, the relationship isn't right in the first place if someone strays. There's something missing somewhere regardless of how they do it.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

My ex left 13 years ago. Denied seeing anyone else at the time but hadn’t slept with me for a year! He left and a few months later introduced the kids to his gf. Draw your own conclusions.

It wouldn’t matter if he’d had a string of women or an affair with one, it’s a betrayal of trust and love. What was wrong with the marriage? I was waiting on, then had gynae surgery so couldn’t do anything for a few months. Could hardly walk let alone do anything else.

Now I’m on here I have much more fun and fantastic sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in both situations, i found the affair harder to deal with as she was actively going behind my back and involving others to cover her tracks, including her boss saying she was working overtime and on a project, we were saving to buy a house and said she strayed because i was working too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think having an emotional involvement is a bigger betrayal. However while I'll likely be slated for this opinion, the relationship isn't right in the first place if someone strays. There's something missing somewhere regardless of how they do it.

I agree with this although the "something missing" part is regularly interpreted as there being something lacking in the person who was cheated on, leading to them blaming themselves unnecessarily. Some people will cheat because they need that constant validation and reassurance that others find them attractive, regardless of the fact that they have a loving and attentive partner in and out-of the bedroom.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole!

Ye cannae dig a hole wi a shovel, it's a spade ffs

You've not seen me angry. I'd dig it with a fucking spoon if I had to!"

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Definitely the affair I'd say,

there's an emotional attachment implied with an affair

that would make it an awful lot harder to cope with.

I'm not saying however, that it wouldn't be as devastating

for anyone who has found out that their partner was a secret swinger.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would say an affair would be the worst of the two.

An affair, to me anyway, would entail having feelings for that third party.

Yes? No? Maybe?

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By *lba2022Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole! "

I do gardening as a sideline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know not everything is as simple as black & white, but cheatings cheating regardless of if it's just sex or if there are feelings there.

But that's just my opinion.

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely worse finding someone on here. I mean you can go on a night out and something happens you didn't plan for. But you have to actually plan to cheat of your on here imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhhhh...That's a tough one. However the outcome of both scenarios would be the same and would involve a body , a shovel and a large whole in my back garden.

*hole!

I do gardening as a sideline"

Will give you a shout if the big man ever feels the need to wander...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the home situation, if it's a sexless relationship.

I've had it done to me once. Constantly pushed aside and told they weren't in the mood. Decided to make a new fab account just to keep in contact with friends and for social events. Had a look at profiles and seen he had been back on here and meeting everyone and anyone.

Hurts like a mother fudger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding out your partner had an affair with someone or finding out they were on here with a string of sex meets?

Asking this on the back of another post."

Well my ex and I split up recently after 10 years she was having an affair with her ex he just got out the jail and as soon as he was out she was round there shagging him and it has left me devastated because I seen videos of her sucking him off in my bed I recognised the bedding this was the last straw . I would of let her shag other guys if she had got into swinging and the thought turned me on but because she was having an affair with her ex this was unacceptable to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think either would be just as bad.

If it was behind my back the trust would be gone

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By *lasgowduoWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Well my partner after 10 years ran away with a 23 year old from fab lots all ready no that story so it's now happy days

for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well my partner after 10 years ran away with a 23 year old from fab lots all ready no that story so it's now happy days

for me

Shocking hen

know your pain my Mrs had an affair with her ex and she is with him now and it's shite

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Well my partner after 10 years ran away with a 23 year old from fab lots all ready no that story so it's now happy days

for me

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(((big hugs)))

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