FabSwingers.com forum: What do you do....?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

I think the first thing is to pinch yourself. I know I would.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the first thing is to pinch yourself. I know I would."

Did that. It's real.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

So what your saying imo is you dont want tooso dont

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what your saying imo is you dont want tooso dont"

You're right. At the moment, I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right...it does sound as if you're making it up.

Don't worry though...there's a few of us like stories

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Its a shame you lack confidencw within yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're right...it does sound as if you're making it up.

Don't worry though...there's a few of us like stories

Well, the fact is, I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its a shame you lack confidencw within yourself."

That's exactly what it is. No easy answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're right...it does sound as if you're making it up.

Don't worry though...there's a few of us like stories

Well, the fact is, I'm not."

I believe you...scouts honour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure

Yep. I'm fairly sure there are people here that will get where I'm coming from. Hence me sounding things out.

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By *and1009Man
over a year ago

borders

Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.

Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.

Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze. "

Thanks. It's not a she.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

I get you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't feel your up to the task

Don't

You will only disappoint both of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get you "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't feel your up to the task

Don't

You will only disappoint both of you

Thanks. Disappointed if I do. Disappointed if I don't.

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By *and1009Man
over a year ago

borders

"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.

Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.

Thanks. It's not a she."

Sorry mate * removes foot from gob

Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

So how did this meet come about in the first place?. Surely you chatted first. Did you make yourself out to be something your not?

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

I can’t answer your question as I believe that there are no leagues, there are only people setting/giving themselves limits.

Sorry am going to be honest here but...

Do I get this right. You feel out of your depth and you are already setting a negative tone to the meet!

Why would you go ahead?!

Is meeting not supposed to be hot chilled sex with both parties having fun and buzzing together?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry mate * removes foot from gob

Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior

Believe it or not, I tried that approach but got a "when are you f****** me?" response. It's far more direct than I'm used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't feel your up to the task

Don't

You will only disappoint both of you

Thanks. Disappointed if I do. Disappointed if I don't."

You assume that someone is going to be disappointed. Doing nothing is guaranteed to disappoint both of you. You have to make a leap of faith, and believe in yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is meeting not supposed to be hot chilled sex with both parties having fun and buzzing together?"

That's very true.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.

Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.

Thanks. It's not a she.

Sorry mate * removes foot from gob

Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior

This is good advice. If you're worried he'll be disappointed in your physical appearance just arrange to meet socially first, give him a chance to see you in the flesh with no pressure for anything else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You assume that someone is going to be disappointed. Doing nothing is guaranteed to disappoint both of you. You have to make a leap of faith, and believe in yourself."

That's what I'm trying to tell myself actually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is good advice. If you're worried he'll be disappointed in your physical appearance just arrange to meet socially first, give him a chance to see you in the flesh with no pressure for anything else. "

This is sounding like the way forward.

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By *and1009Man
over a year ago

borders

"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.

Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.

Thanks. It's not a she.

Sorry mate * removes foot from gob

Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior

Exactly the point. If things are still looking good. One thing will naturally lead to the other. If not, jump in a taxi and when all's said and done at least you ended up out for a few beers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Exactly the point. If things are still looking good. One thing will naturally lead to the other. If not, jump in a taxi and when all's said and done at least you ended up out for a few beers. "

Or, in my case, vodkas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So u are really just here to brag

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So u are really just here to brag"

No, but thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."

And don't be so hard on yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."

And don't be so hard on yourself

Thank you. Good advice.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

And don't be so hard on yourself

Tee hee ... hard on

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I have this fear often. I usually bottle it or just ignore the messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tee hee ... hard on "

Damn. I NEVER miss a double entendre.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have this fear often. I usually bottle it or just ignore the messages

Now that I definitely get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I see threads like this it makes me wonder if the Op or any who post receive messages of assurance in their inbox

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Surely you have nothing to lose if they have approached you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see threads like this it makes me wonder if the Op or any who post receive messages of assurance in their inbox "

None.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely you have nothing to lose if they have approached you?

Interesting. True. They must know better than that voice in my head lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see threads like this it makes me wonder if the Op or any who post receive messages of assurance in their inbox "

Any ladies reading this, feel free to flood my inbox with messages of assurance, or any other content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't be so hard on yourself

Good advice ,you will prob regret if you dont meet even for a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

no one is out of any one's league only if you want them to be.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good advice ,you will prob regret if you dont meet even for a social "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"no one is out of any one's league only if you want them to be."

I don't think I want them to be but somehow they are. I must have had a confidence bashing childhood without realising lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that’s why meets keep cancelling lol they realise I’m

Outta their league then bottle it

Finally !!

Joking aside I don’t doubt it happens to folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't be so hard on yourself

Tee hee ... hard on "

There's always one!

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock

I think we are all here with similar interests

Its a level playing field to start so dont ever think you out of your league if you are within the profile requirements of the person(s) you are touching base with !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally treat everyone the same and I mist admit I have met some absolute, beautiful, sexy stunning people on fab and actually really nice and awesome people but no matter I've just treated them the same I do as everyone else, respect and honesty.

Best way to be on fab, you get to enjoy longer last times with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves, self doubt and a lack of confidence aren't a good look on anyone.

Especially not someone your age.

Shit, or get off the pot. Simple as.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x"

It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.

Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."

First thing is do not put yourself down. Obviously they want to meet because they are attracted to you so putting yourself down won't help any.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x

It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread. "

She / he, same difference.

Give yourself a pat on the back anyway and think in your sad little mind you've proven someone wrong again and that we actually care about what you say on here x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"If you don't feel your up to the task

Don't

You will only disappoint both of you

Thanks. Disappointed if I do. Disappointed if I don't."

Think you might have just answered your own question there. What have you got to lose. Disappointed if you don't is pretty much a guarantee. Disappointed if you do might actually not end up in disappointment at all x

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

"Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure

Yep. I'm fairly sure there are people here that will get where I'm coming from. Hence me sounding things out."

Absolutely get where you are coming from, I had this issue when I was 21 at uni 1st year met this amazing women I was her first we were dating all going great but at the time I was recovering from major surgery and felt I wasn't good enough for her, we got really serious quickly. I broke up with her cause I felt I wasn't good enough, one of my biggest regrets. We are still close friends but my mistake was thinking I knew better than her what she wanted.

Have confidence in yourself mate and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a lucky guy, end of, revel in it.

You joined this site and gained the attention of an attractive lady. Isnt that why you joined (or do you prefer women you find unattractive

No go and spoil her. My advice is dont go in too soon or it will all be over too quick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x

It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread.

She / he, same difference. "

Just keeping things right. No need to thank me.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Get it pumped.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a man, you are good enough for anybody.

Michael.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just admit I don't think I have ever felt that way, if I like someone and they also like me enough to want to meet then go for it!

I thought it was only women that had these thoughts of doubt and not wanting to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please go for it.

They obviously like you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just caught up with the thread. Lots to think about and all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its probably a guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its probably a guy

It is a guy.

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