FabSwingers.com forum: Conversation?

By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

Does anyone else find it hard to find someone to have one with. I don’t like the idea of jumping in to bed straight away I like a bit of a chat, maybe I’m a bit odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had any problems finding folk to chat with on here to be honest. I had quite a few genuine lol moments chatting.

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By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

"Not had any problems finding folk to chat with on here to be honest. I had quite a few genuine lol moments chatting."

Maybe I expect too much chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not had any problems finding folk to chat with on here to be honest. I had quite a few genuine lol moments chatting.

Maybe I expect too much chat

Plenty of genuine folks who like a good chat n laugh on here. I know I don't do spontaneous meets, well to be honest they aren't bad but I'm experienced enough to want more, laughs and banter and there are girls like this and cpls too.

best way to be but that's from an experienced guy perspective

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Not had any problems finding folk to chat with on here to be honest. I had quite a few genuine lol moments chatting.

Maybe I expect too much chat

best way to be but that's from an experienced guy perspective

Your "patter" is quite funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

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By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

"Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

See I like both.

I just like to make sure I like them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

There are tons who will only chat and never meet.

I chat on here and I also meet and have a brill time, chatting and sometimes fun. I'm just never in a rush and like my company to enjoy me as much as I enjoy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

See I like both.

I just like to make sure I like them first

You're not unique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always (bar 1) met people who we have chatted to for ages. Can't beat a good chat and laugh. Would never meet someone if the chat tails off. If the chats good it just makes the meet awesome when you know you all have the same sense of humour. Makes everyone a lot more comfortable x

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

See I like both.

I just like to make sure I like them first

That’s what most folk do!

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By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

"Think more folk on here want to chat rather than meet?

See I like both.

I just like to make sure I like them first

That’s what most folk do! "

Aye I get that

If not I think I’d be worried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always chat first then, I like to meet for a coffee and a chat before any meetings for sex take place

Helps find if your compatible or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can chat too much and then I lose interest

Lol

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By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

"I think you can chat too much and then I lose interest

Lol"

Maybe that’s my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you can chat too much and then I lose interest

Lol

Maybe that’s my problem

naw everyone's different.

Chat n laughs is great but if you want them, even during chat then take the bull by the horns and don't wait for them to ask you. You just ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat/ banter/conversation is very important for me. You can generally tell if its leading anywhere and if you are likely to meet.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Nope i chat to loads of folk on here. Some i will never meet and some i know i will. Im a people person and love a good chat with someone on the same wave length as myself.

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By *entleman Caller GlasgowMan
over a year ago

Bellshill

The abilit6 to hold a conversation is key, it shows interest in the person and that you see them as a fellow human being.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I have loads of chat before I meet someone. If we can’t have a decent conversation and a laugh it’s not going to go any further.

Personality is what’s most important for me. To have great sex I need that connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The abilit6 to hold a conversation is key, it shows interest in the person and that you see them as a fellow human being."

ffs no wonder I'm getting no-where with women

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By *entleman Caller GlasgowMan
over a year ago

Bellshill

"I have loads of chat before I meet someone. If we can’t have a decent conversation and a laugh it’s not going to go any further.

Personality is what’s most important for me. To have great sex I need that connection. "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Does anyone else find it hard to find someone to have one with. I don’t like the idea of jumping in to bed straight away I like a bit of a chat, maybe I’m a bit odd

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It can be a struggle at times to find good conversation but every now and again a wee hidden gem pops up and makes great conversation leaving you looking forward to their next email

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By *raigStarrMan
over a year ago

St. Helens

"Does anyone else find it hard to find someone to have one with. I don’t like the idea of jumping in to bed straight away I like a bit of a chat, maybe I’m a bit odd

Raise your age range and you’ll probably get more intelligent conversation with the adults!

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By *idingaway OP Couple
over a year ago

Central

"Does anyone else find it hard to find someone to have one with. I don’t like the idea of jumping in to bed straight away I like a bit of a chat, maybe I’m a bit odd

Raise your age range and you’ll probably get more intelligent conversation with the adults!

Tbf my mr raised it 5 years. And it’s a bit better.

He sets the age rule. I’m not as picky I don’t mind age

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By *raigStarrMan
over a year ago

St. Helens

"Does anyone else find it hard to find someone to have one with. I don’t like the idea of jumping in to bed straight away I like a bit of a chat, maybe I’m a bit odd

Raise your age range and you’ll probably get more intelligent conversation with the adults!

Need to add another year on then so we can get talking

Tbf my mr raised it 5 years. And it’s a bit better.

He sets the age rule. I’m not as picky I don’t mind age

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By *raigStarrMan
over a year ago

St. Helens

Need to add another year on then so we can get talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens

If someone has an age range and you don't fit it then its no big deal. They have it for a reason so it's best to just respect it. You can have a wee, what might have been moment but its age filter all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it incredibly easy as I'm basically a wee blether. In fact...my downfall is that I talk too much!

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By *eckingfudgersCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"I find it incredibly easy as I'm basically a wee blether. In fact...my downfall is that I talk too much! "

Remember having a good wee blether with you lol

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I always make sure I have plenty of chat on here and and then in person first before I jump into bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good conversation and banter is essential before fun

No way would I want to play with a guy who had nothing to say to me. There was one exception though - an off duty police officer who was so gorgeous I had to have him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to chat and get to know a bit about the person first as it's important that you're both able to have a conversation with each other but if by the second week there's still no mention of a meet then I will say about arranging something. I feel there is far too much chatting on here and people not wanting meets. I personally don't see the point in that, we are on a sex site to meet people so meet them. Plus there's nothing nicer than carrying on the conversation after you meet. It's so much nicer in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do like to chat and get to know a bit about the person first as it's important that you're both able to have a conversation with each other but if by the second week there's still no mention of a meet then I will say about arranging something. I feel there is far too much chatting on here and people not wanting meets. I personally don't see the point in that, we are on a sex site to meet people so meet them. Plus there's nothing nicer than carrying on the conversation after you meet. It's so much nicer in person

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer getting to know somebody a bit first. Genuinely not big on the idea of hello, dick out, goodbye.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to "

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

That's nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

How you doin CC?

OK, that's the formalities done......when, where and shall I bring the toys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’v turned into a socialiser over the last few year but had Iv had loads of meet experiences some id try again and some I wouldn’t but find I’m quite specific Now of what I want so I’m holding back and won’t meet. But loving the social side and chat to all x

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

with Me it depends on who it is for various reasons...

sometimes I'm happy to chat for a while..

sometimes its me who drags the chat out a bit as im not sure about them...

sometimes I'll chat for a wee while and I'm just not "feeling it" so will politely tell them It's not going to happen and wish them well..

other times I cant be arsed chatting for a while...

Its all about the individual and how the interaction goes..

the only consistent is I never agree to a meet without some form of chatter or go for the short notice meets. I have to feel I'd get on with them to some level or Im not interested in playing with them... I'd rather do without than fuck anyone just for the sake of it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

How you doin CC?

OK, that's the formalities done......when, where and shall I bring the toys?"

Lol it's not about the toys for me. I have never had any trouble getting meets as I'm just myself and if a guy wants to arrange a time and place after a short chat, then that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

How you doin CC?

OK, that's the formalities done......when, where and shall I bring the toys?

Lol it's not about the toys for me. I have never had any trouble getting meets as I'm just myself and if a guy wants to arrange a time and place after a short chat, then that's a bonus

Oh, fair enough.....

Next Saturday is good for me, I'm thinking 2-3 ish. That suit you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To My own detriment I do chat too much and don't really ask for a meet, well not all the time. Sometimes having too much of a laugh during a chat I think they are just enjoying the laugh but might not be that into me so I don't bother that much.

Terrible at reading signals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To My own detriment I do chat too much and don't really ask for a meet, well not all the time. Sometimes having too much of a laugh during a chat I think they are just enjoying the laugh but might not be that into me so I don't bother that much.

Terrible at reading signals

I had a wee nose at your profile earlier and seen the amount of reviews....

You'll need to tell me EXACTLY what your doing so I don't become as "terrible" as you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terrible at reading signals

I had a wee nose at your profile earlier and seen the amount of reviews....

You'll need to tell me EXACTLY what your doing so I don't become as "terrible" as you "

I hide my play ones

Not here to tell everyone what I get up too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some folk decide through the too much chatting that they actually have no desire to meet the person they are chatting to

Majority of people I chat to, I have met

How you doin CC?

OK, that's the formalities done......when, where and shall I bring the toys?

Lol it's not about the toys for me. I have never had any trouble getting meets as I'm just myself and if a guy wants to arrange a time and place after a short chat, then that's a bonus

Oh, fair enough.....

Next Saturday is good for me, I'm thinking 2-3 ish. That suit you?

Lol maybe you should just pm me and find out if I'm free

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I enjoy a good conversation but have been disappointed at times when I’ve met them in person. Conversely I’ve had great conversations in person with people I’ve hardly chatted to but met at different events eg the pub quiz, murder mystery nights abd other social events and I have subsequently played with them.

I also have fab friends that I wouldn’t play with but are great friends too and have interesting conversations with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when you first arrive on site you have an image that it's just gonna be amazing and easier than pulling in a club,you grow into fab, I feel more of my time now is spent chatting it's great that way, having no expectations and just seeing what happens, I've only ever met folk that I've chatted with a bit,I feel more relaxed when eventually I've met. There's loads of great people on here and I've met many for socials and fun over the years, you just grow into it I think Is my point here ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think when you first arrive on site you have an image that it's just gonna be amazing and easier than pulling in a club,you grow into fab, I feel more of my time now is spent chatting it's great that way, having no expectations and just seeing what happens, I've only ever met folk that I've chatted with a bit,I feel more relaxed when eventually I've met. There's loads of great people on here and I've met many for socials and fun over the years, you just grow into it I think Is my point here ????"

Totally Agree

I swing and have fun meets but I have a brill time chatting, banter n laughing and a good carry on and even on meets and if fun happens if we all connect sexually then brilliant if not, then just have a good time in any capacity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I stated on my profile I much prefer the original way of swinging with good friends. Not with a guy I have just met and had nothing to say to

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By *lanMDMan
over a year ago

Ellon

My profile must be shit or I am too old but impossible to chat to anyone on this site, so fucked off with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can talk the hands off a clock but from my experience when i was single (im not slating all single men), but most who mailed me weren't interest in chatting just wanted to poleaxe straight into fucking lol. Which in my experience put me off even chatting to most single men. Sad but true xxz

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Definitely not odd. The people who are only after kinky chat and juicy details are not people I meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not odd. The people who are only after kinky chat and juicy details are not people I meet x"

I'm exactly the same, good conversation is more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not odd. The people who are only after kinky chat and juicy details are not people I meet x

I'm exactly the same, good conversation is more important

Exactly...... a conversation then block them hahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My profile must be shit or I am too old but impossible to chat to anyone on this site, so fucked off with it "

You're only 57, not that old.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not odd. The people who are only after kinky chat and juicy details are not people I meet x

I'm exactly the same, good conversation is more important

Exactly...... a conversation then block them hahahah"

Definitely then they can't answer back lol

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By *T1980Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Not had any problems finding folk to chat with on here to be honest. I had quite a few genuine lol moments chatting.

Maybe I expect too much chat

Definitely not you need to chat until you are comfortable enough to meet, I do like a good chat even if my patter can be quite pish sometimes lol

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By *lanMDMan
over a year ago

Ellon

"My profile must be shit or I am too old but impossible to chat to anyone on this site, so fucked off with it

You're only 57, not that old.....

Why thank you, certainly don’t feel like I am ready for the scrap heap yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the chat on here !

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I love chatting on the forum and by message and then maybe meeting up and chatting some more.

Fab is more of a social site for me these days and I do love talking!

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