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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when sending a very nice mail even to a gold member you meet its criteria

is it not polite 2 say no thanks rather than just delete an block you?

what is the real point being on here if they ant going communicate with you

just really dont understand in this sort of behaviour

I'ant new to the site iam verified

i no what but I want but what do woman really want

ps iant interested in chat room

hardly any 1 talk all you see is hi n bye text when you try to talk 2 some 1 you get ignore again

socials events don't do anything for me as i have been on several before on another site

as you cant or wont get a chance to talk 2 any 1 u may like as there 2 busy with others who have been on longer

we were all NEW once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This subject has been done to death. Men on Fab get one or two messages a day. Women on Fab get 50-100. Would you feel like responding to 100 people every time you sat down at your computer (especially if, like most of the messages I receive, they were from people that don't meet your criteria anyway)? Yes it is polite to send a "no thanks" back. But if someone reads your message and deletes it, I think it's safe to say they aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so why cant they no just no ty

end of

its that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I can understand you being frustrated at your e-mail being ignored, however you have to realise that everyone responds in different ways. Some will be polite and say no thanks, some will just ignore - not polite but its a fact. The e-mail you sent out won't get you anywhere if you went straight in for the kill, i.e. get to know the couple/girl first. But you have to realise that couples and girls do get lots of mail from single guys.

As respect to the chatrooms and socials, I know it's been said before, but you have to make the effort to talk and get involved, and that doesn't mean saying things like "nice tits, ect". Yes those comments will most likely get ignored.

This is a friendly site and most people on here are not just into meeting for one night of shagging, but like to make friends and get to know each other - but again unfortunately single guys need to make more of an effort. You will find that is the case no matter what site you go on.

It's not nice to be ignored and/or blocked, but just move on and get talking to people via the chat or socials and you will find that the majority on this site are not all like that.

Mrs Classy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they get hundreds of message , yu get about 2....

would you answer them all?......

doubt it, especially half of them won't have read the profiles, don't match what they are looking for......

and then if you do answer saying no , they will reply asking 'why no, bleat bleat , fecking bleat!!!! '

no offence meant in my answer dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my last 2 msgs.....

a) so when we shagging sexy???

AND

b) i know im not quite what you are looking for but thought i'd chance my arm.... (single man aged 55)

clearly our profile was not read!!!!

these messages are not going to want us reply with a "yes come shag me now" however i always reply with a no thank u but must admit even i am considering hitting the delete button.

the trick to sending mail is not to cut and paste the same message and make each one personal, never message anyone if you dont fit the bill so to speak and dont take a non-reply personally..

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

chat rooms dont do anything for me never have been never will be

as you just get ignored even if you say hi no 1 chat back if they do it be usually for 1 or 2 lines then its gone feel

iam trying 2 make self known

forums usually do it 90% of the time

as in chat is 0%

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"chat rooms dont do anything for me never have been never will be

as you just get ignored even if you say hi no 1 chat back if they do it be usually for 1 or 2 lines then its gone feel

iam trying 2 make self known

forums usually do it 90% of the time

as in chat is 0%

"

Try not to get known as a whinger though

Ive seen 2 threads by you and both have hav'nt been very lighthearted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am off to visit a new pub in Paisley and after 2 weeks, I am gonna go la la if they dont all stop speaking, the second I enter and shout ... 'Oi View great to see ya back, what can I get ya', forget all their current conversation with their more established friends ( that may have taken years to cultivate ) and rush over and chat to me...... obviously I wont have any topics of conversation to start the chat.... these feckers better come up with them all .....

afterall, I have been good enough to grace them with my attendance....

and again, no offence meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Try not to get known as a whinger though

Ive seen 2 threads by you and both have hav'nt been very lighthearted"

Maybe too late then?

Seriously though dude, as already mentioned, single fems and couples can recieve hundreds of emails, esecially those that dont log on every day. For every recieved mail, they would have to read the senders profile and see if they met their criteria....

So, to cut down on their "wasted time" im gonna guess that they will pretty much immediatly delete any pics that have no public pics/avatar to tempt them into reading more.

Have a flick through the forums, quite a few useful posts that will guide a single male on the swinging journey, you may think that you know it all already, but let me tell you, you dont.

Steve

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By *rouble and strifeCouple
over a year ago

Nr Glasgow

being verified after wanking on a web cam on msn doesnt cut ice with many people this is a thing that maybe the admin should look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it with?

Ok, what is it with thinking planting your gripes in a forum will do?

What is it with this vicious circle of the same old gripes coming around with oo er a diffrent title (original)but none the less its the same?

Cant be arsed with socials n cant be arsed trying a chat,wuuuuuunderfull,lol

Just a suggestion, how bout sumthing like,,"im not having much luck recently,would welcome any pointers on possible ways to gain more positives while on site".

I could post a forum on here nearly on a daily basis, of nonsense not going as i had hoped, but i dont, most dont.

Jeezo if complaing got me more meets hells bells i would be championy,lol.

But we dont, we are solo guys, oodles to choose from among us and its a statistical thing, not a personal thing.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1/ if you fancy a chance with me an see if we get on (on profile)

2/ no pic on profile

could also be to do with your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know why the guys having no luck....

All women on here are that desperate for sex that they will play with anything, doesnt matter about looks or personaility. If they dont have chance to build up a rappor then so what?

The women also trawl through the "new today" section and mail everyone they see with no pics and make an extra special effort in their mail when they see endless cock pics in a profile.

And im sure the mystery of a guys profile having one or two badly written lines must also get them wet too...........

How many threads will it take for it to sink in?

Steve

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

may i just add my comment.If guys think showin a picture of their cocks it a turn on no it aint .Well maybe some folk think its ok .Each to their own.Also i agree with others women get loads of messages and we cant reply to them all.Oh and stevie who is on this before me WE AINT DESPERATE and comments like that will really make peeps angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol.. Steve, you have the single guy mentality down to a T!

Lol.. Heather, Steve was being ironic! The sarcasm was so heavy- we could chew on it!

Mr.Classy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks, was trying to think of "polite" way to suggest the irony of it, polite aint my strong point,lol

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont know why the guys having no luck....

All women on here are that desperate for sex that they will play with anything, doesnt matter about looks or personaility. If they dont have chance to build up a rappor then so what?

The women also trawl through the "new today" section and mail everyone they see with no pics and make an extra special effort in their mail when they see endless cock pics in a profile.

And im sure the mystery of a guys profile having one or two badly written lines must also get them wet too...........

How many threads will it take for it to sink in?

Steve"

Very well put Steve, Sarcasm is a tremendous form of wit Hopefully others will catch on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes you just cant be arsed

just moved to paisley so a shame to see a fellow buddie ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sarcasm where, where , what did I miss...

was it caught and shared about..

I want some !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frankly when you get messages that say "just read your profile, thought I'd get in touch" when its more than abundantly clear that the person HASN'T read your profile, then why should I reciprocate with a polite reply? They have not taken the trouble to read anything, they've just scrolled down to the pics and I fail to see how that makes me the "bad guy" in that scenario...so take note guys: READ THE PROFILE and actually digest what it says BEFORE sending a message !!! and perhaps then there will be less bleating and more smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree Roxie maybe if they actually read the profiles before sending mail/winks/friend invites. Might get more replies !!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it helps its not just males that have these issues on here, joining someplace new is difficult for most people and like anywhere else it takes time and work to build up social networks, the chat room can be a scary prospect at first but its a nice social aspect of the site that we use req and sometimes just sitting back and listening to people and topics helps u get to know them a wee bit better and plus 9 times out of 10 its a good laugh and great people just having a blether. swinging is just not about the sex (although thats an important part ha ha)its about having fun, meeting and talking to other people that share a common interest ect. So stick in, work at it and have fun lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Agree totally with all the comments about taking time to read the profile etc and sending a mail which shows you have done so....

BUT, People also have to realise though that it can be difficult to craft a single mail which covers all the bases i.e says hello, says i've read your profile and liked it, take a look at me etc etc - This can often be a "one shot" gig and it's especially hard for single guys when they know the reader is likely to be going through a load of mails at the same time and if they've had a lot of "fancy a fuck" contact they are gonna be pretty cheesed off anyway by the time the get to your "genuine" mail.

I generally try to keep intro emails reasonably brief but leave the receiver open to either getting back to me now, or maybe at some time in the future.

A big problem is mails can be sent which say, in essence, you either fancy me or not, and don't give the recipient time to digest and have a think about it, and when under too much pressure, people will just press "delete" because they know there will be another mail along in a minute.

Just my 2p worth.

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