FabSwingers.com forum: No reply v A reply

By *ookmasock OP Man
over a year ago

Alexandria

Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you do claim to be nice

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By *ookmasock OP Man
over a year ago

Alexandria

"Well you do claim to be nice"

I am nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well you do claim to be nice

I am nice"

Contact folks who claim likewise then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep you were a gent, but women get messaged so much, truly you need to be one to get the level of pressure it can be from the non-gents on here. I defy any man to be in the same position and not react the way some if not most women DO react. When you politely decline you get everything from a polite thank you for taking the time to reply to but why to die bitch. Sadly this means good guys sometimes get a very prickly defensive message... hang on in there, be respectful and keep your moral high ground we gals see that lol

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By *ookmasock OP Man
over a year ago

Alexandria

"Yep you were a gent, but women get messaged so much, truly you need to be one to get the level of pressure it can be from the non-gents on here. I defy any man to be in the same position and not react the way some if not most women DO react. When you politely decline you get everything from a polite thank you for taking the time to reply to but why to die bitch. Sadly this means good guys sometimes get a very prickly defensive message... hang on in there, be respectful and keep your moral high ground we gals see that lol

I'd rather not get a reply than get a message saying NO WAY. It's not complimentary but abasing, that's not what members on here want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather not get a reply than get a message saying NO WAY. It's not complimentary but abasing, that's not what members on here want"

I agree that response is rude and uncalled for, I’m not excusing it other than to point out it could be you got the shit end of someone else’s stick and women get a huge amount of that. There’s a lot of guys agree with this too. I also know there are some really awful females out there too. Best way to view is you dodged a bullet and know sooner rather than later she’s not someone worthy of your attention. Lots of FABulous fab ladies here, don’t waste time on those that don’t warrant your efforts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a swingers/sex site, nobody here will hold your hand or care for your feelings unless you're friends with them.

Best thing to do is to grow thick skin, I'm not having a go at you OP but you're dealing with strangers on the internet after all. Some of them are nice, some are not (in our opinion)

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

Not a nice reply but grow a pair, block and move on. Todays society sooooooo easily offended when its only 2 words . Guessing i wont be popular with my opinion but not meant as insulting just simply my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman"

Report it to admin who will have a word with said profile and remind them that their obliged to reply to every man who messages them with the intention of wanting to fuck.

Guys have a statutory right to fuck who they wish on here and receive a polite “yes sir” when suits you to every message.

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By *ustcantgetenuf50Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"This is a swingers/sex site, nobody here will hold your hand or care for your feelings unless you're friends with them.

Best thing to do is to grow thick skin, I'm not having a go at you OP but you're dealing with strangers on the internet after all. Some of them are nice, some are not (in our opinion)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman"
There are nice ways and not so nice ways to turn someone down and altho this was a not so nice way which I guess shows the kind of person you were messaging .

Good luck op there are some gems on here if you have the patience to find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman"

That was way too harsh but unfortunately that's what life is like on here. You get some nice replies and other times you don't. Move on and forget about it OP, there are some nice folk on here too and you'll find them

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman

Report it to admin who will have a word with said profile and remind them that their obliged to reply to every man who messages them with the intention of wanting to fuck.

Guys have a statutory right to fuck who they wish on here and receive a polite “yes sir” when suits you to every message.

We'll constructed and supportive comment. We need guys like you to keep morale up, there's some snidey folk on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman

Report it to admin who will have a word with said profile and remind them that their obliged to reply to every man who messages them with the intention of wanting to fuck.

Guys have a statutory right to fuck who they wish on here and receive a polite “yes sir” when suits you to every message.

We'll constructed and supportive comment. We need guys like you to keep morale up, there's some snidey folk on here."

Lighten up. No one likes a conformist

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

So much of a gentleman you attempt to humiliate anyone who rejects your advances by posting threads about being rejected

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Wouldn’t give it a moments though, if they are dick heads why would you want to fuck them? Trick is dont ask a question that can be answered with a yes or no and don’t be a needy knob.

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By *rmskirk360Woman
over a year ago

Wigan

On the flip side, none of us can see what you said in your message to her, or if you fit her criteria or ignored her profile.

If you ignored what she put on her profile, then you shouldn't expect anything less than what you received.

I'm not saying this is the case, and we only have your version of events to go on, but something to think about...

I get it all the time, men getting butthurt because I tell them I'm not interested, but I refuse to respond with any more respect than was shown me when they ignore everything I've written.

However, some people are just rude for the sake of it.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Recently posted to member that I'd be interested in meeting, but got a reply of NO WAY. If it was me I'd be more subtle or just not reply. Maybe I'm just too much of a gentleman"

That's one version of the story...

Now, what are the other two??

Her version and the thruth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We consider ourselves to be very polite but, rightly or wrongly , we have used "no fucking chance" as a way of knocking someone back, but only as we remembered the guy from the past and he was a total twat!

To the op we would say don't take it overly personal, its the nature of he beast.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

I'm confused on how saying no way is disrespectful. To me it honest and to the point and truthful .what more can you ask from this site .you take it on the chin and think oh well I'm not eveyones cup of coffee ..the only time anyone could be offended by that comment is if they have no self confidence and if that is the case then fab really isn't for them because it can be brutal and if you take it to heart then you ducked

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

"We consider ourselves to be very polite but, rightly or wrongly , we have used "no fucking chance" as a way of knocking someone back, but only as we remembered the guy from the past and he was a total twat!

To the op we would say don't take it overly personal, its the nature of he beast."

Im curious guys, why not block him first time around then no need to be rude next time. Not a dig by the way just a question as we always reply politely no thanks or not our type etc, but then we block , saves lots of repeat messages 6 months down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh no reply is best. Spares the feelings of getting all hurt.....hmmmm or does it

No reply is my reply

If I had to reply giving my reasons of sorry I'm not interested I'd need a secretary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the op we would say don't take it overly personal, its the nature of he beast.

It was after we had been off a couple of months and set up a new profile, we blocked him straight away that first time.

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

To the op we would say don't take it overly personal, its the nature of he beast.

It was after we had been off a couple of months and set up a new profile, we blocked him straight away that first time."

Ah right. Sry was not being nosey , just thought maybe by us blocking rude people or people with unsuitable profiles we had missed a reason NOT to block early on? If that makes sense .

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By *ornyfuckers66Couple
over a year ago

fife

Hate read no reply A simple no thanks let’s everyone know how things stand Block n move on

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