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"Is you having a bit of fun worth more than your marriage? If the answer is yes, then crack on. Is trying to convince your wife to participate in something she has voiced her dislike for worth more than your marriage? If the answer is yes, then crack on. " He's not even thinking about his wife....it's all about him him him. Do the girl a favour and leave her. No one deserves to be treated the way you're treating her | |||
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"Is you having a bit of fun worth more than your marriage? If the answer is yes, then crack on. Is trying to convince your wife to participate in something she has voiced her dislike for worth more than your marriage? If the answer is yes, then crack on. He's not even thinking about his wife....it's all about him him him. Do the girl a favour and leave her. No one deserves to be treated the way you're treating her" My marriage like every marriage is unique and me having fun wouldn’t end it neither would me trying to convince my wife to be on here. We have fun and love each other; she knows that she doesn’t fully satisfy my desires and I am not her 100% but we don’t think thy soul mates or people made for each other actually exist. We have needs both of us and if we can’t satisfy each other we fulfill them elsewhere but I’d like to get her involved with my needs from time to time I’m just looking for help in getting her on board; You can judge me or think I’m selfish and I don’t blame you for that as I think I am selfish and I know everyone is to an extent. Don’t play high and mighty though especially in your position. | |||
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"Oh please with the judgment The guys asking a question Just as many chicks playing away than there are guys on here." And? I'm just answering the question. We all judge, whether you're prepared to admit it or not, we all make judgements of people, situations, places, everything. Everyone does. | |||
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"Of course we do But the guy wasn't asking about cheating on his wife he was asking the best way to introduce her to swinging ?" He was asking about cheating on his wife. Read the original post again. | |||
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"Lol ya both say key word.....with two words " Thats what a dilemma is Or maybe he wants someone to dial emma and ask her for him | |||
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"Try LISTENING to what she's telling you instead of what you think she might like because it fits in with what you want to do! If a couple can't communicate their interests freely to each other it's not a good sign, and certainly not a great start to a swinging relationship. If your relationship works as well as you claim show her one of the numerous media pieces on swinging and see what she SAYS, not what you think she might mean!! " Totally agree Mrs | |||
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"Try LISTENING to what she's telling you instead of what you think she might like because it fits in with what you want to do! If a couple can't communicate their interests freely to each other it's not a good sign, and certainly not a great start to a swinging relationship. If your relationship works as well as you claim show her one of the numerous media pieces on swinging and see what she SAYS, not what you think she might mean!! " Sounds like a good shout. Maybe I’m just assuming she’s not be into it. Thanks. | |||
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"Try LISTENING to what she's telling you instead of what you think she might like because it fits in with what you want to do! If a couple can't communicate their interests freely to each other it's not a good sign, and certainly not a great start to a swinging relationship. If your relationship works as well as you claim show her one of the numerous media pieces on swinging and see what she SAYS, not what you think she might mean!! Sounds like a good shout. Maybe I’m just assuming she’s not be into it. Thanks. " Maybe you are, but then again from what you've said it sounds like she would be against it. If she is, then respect her decision. Then obviously you need to decide whether to stay faithful to her or not. There of course is another option where you can play if she is comfortable with that, but only you can decide whether or not that would work. | |||
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"Key word; Should I. That indicates when a question is being asked or an opinion sought. " should I ask not what's your opinion on me cheating? | |||
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"Ok so here’s the dilemma; I’m a kinky, horny and all round nymphomaniac. My wife can be the same “usually with alcohol” but it’s very rare she lets that side of herself go. I think if she opened up more and perhaps seen this kind of site she may be into it but I can’t find a way to suggest it to her. She makes off the cuff comments like “only sad people would do online dating” or “how pathetic is that, messages with naked pics etc?” However I really do think she’s like it and to be honest I don’t want to keep lying to her or hiding that I’m on this. Any suggestions? Should I just keep being unfaithful and having fun or should I find a way to get her involved and if so how??? " I think if you open up to her she will blow a fuse, go bloody mental and may even go her separate way and who would blame her!!! why not give her your full attention instead, wine and dine her, romance her, love her like a good husband should | |||
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"Ok so here’s the dilemma; I’m a kinky, horny and all round nymphomaniac. My wife can be the same “usually with alcohol” but it’s very rare she lets that side of herself go. I think if she opened up more and perhaps seen this kind of site she may be into it but I can’t find a way to suggest it to her. She makes off the cuff comments like “only sad people would do online dating” or “how pathetic is that, messages with naked pics etc?” However I really do think she’s like it and to be honest I don’t want to keep lying to her or hiding that I’m on this. Any suggestions? Should I just keep being unfaithful and having fun or should I find a way to get her involved and if so how??? " First of all you havnt actually been unfaithful yet according to your comment. So all you are doing is browsing... I would start by showing her a club web site like cjs ( tell her you found it by chance) and ask her if she would like a night out lol there is no obligation to play and you can come along and just socialise and make friends until it happens naturally or not but don’t tell her you are on here without her cause if you were my hubby you would be kicked to the kerb! | |||
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"My advice is talk in the third person. Tell her one of your mates opened up to you about him and his wife going to a swingers club for the first time and you were blown away that your perception of swinging was totaly different from reality . They said its not all about sex etc etc. Say it actually sounded really interesting with no pressures put on you. Any questions your wife has say to her haha thats what i asked him my mate too and then answer from your own knowledge. Be non pushy but Suggest going to a club purely for a fact finding mission. I would suggest after 8 as its a small venue where you will definitely chat to others. Cjs you could find yourself standing or sitting on your own perhaps embarrassed which wont help your cause at all." Dosnt need to be a mate obviously just a work colleague or whoever. Saves akward questions lol | |||
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"Oh please with the judgment The guys asking a question Just as many chicks playing away than there are guys on here." You've judged the judger by making your point.... | |||
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"You say your not having much luck meeting ppl so would you still want her involved if you were having fun ?" now there's a point that you really need to think about | |||
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"Ok so here’s the dilemma; I’m a kinky, horny and all round nymphomaniac. My wife can be the same “usually with alcohol” but it’s very rare she lets that side of herself go. I think if she opened up more and perhaps seen this kind of site she may be into it but I can’t find a way to suggest it to her. She makes off the cuff comments like “only sad people would do online dating” or “how pathetic is that, messages with naked pics etc?” However I really do think she’s like it and to be honest I don’t want to keep lying to her or hiding that I’m on this. Any suggestions? Should I just keep being unfaithful and having fun or should I find a way to get her involved and if so how??? " For me as others have said , the introduction of fantasy talk is a good gauging starting point , I would suggest not your fantasies but possibly ones that you think she may like ! Forget words like “kinky” I always think that would be a red flag pointer to start. If you stumble accross something that appears to excite her , give that a little more focus and then for me the vital step as to whether it’s fantasy purely or may have a chance of developing would be to bring that fantasy up in normal conversation , even if it is normal conversation at a time that could lead to some fun in the bedroom !! If she does not want to engage then as others have said that would be a choice you’d probably have to live with !! | |||
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