FabSwingers.com forum: one of my pals is missing now

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it is with great sadness that i am writing this as a very good friend of mine txt me the other day to tell me that some NASTY PIECE OF WORK ( for want of better words ) had posted a note thru his letter box for his family to find ...

they wrote that he was a member on fabswingers his profile name along with other details .

this has really pissed me off as he is a really nice an genuine lad who has always been there for friends as well as meeting up with newbies to put them at ease .

I think that this is becoming ridiculous when people on here are abusing the TRUST that we as a community put in each other on this site .

He has his dad in hospital an its worrying time for all the family and im so pissed at these COWARDS on here insisting on ruining peoples lives with their abuse and selfish needs to be met .

i hope in all honesty that one day those doing this will find themselves on the receiving end and it all goes tits up for them as what goes around comes around .

so due to this he has since removed his profile from the site and i for one wish him all the very best and hope those responsible for this will NEVER put anyone through this again .

so take care my friend an see you real soon hunni .hope all is well

lots of luv n hugz sioux xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im with you on this sioux he is a fab guy one of the best, i was so angry when i heard

i will miss him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"im with you on this sioux he is a fab guy one of the best, i was so angry when i heard

i will miss him"

ye me to titti an he was always the gent no matter what to xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ffs sioux..thats dreadful!!

Anyone doing that is lower than dirt....however what goes around..comes around!!

vol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they wrote that he was a member on fabswingers his profile name along with other details .

this has really pissed me off as he is a really nice an genuine lad who has always been there for friends as well as meeting up with newbies to put them at ease .

I think that this is becoming ridiculous when people on here are abusing the TRUST that we as a community put in each other on this site .

He has his dad in hospital an its worrying time for all the family and im so pissed at these COWARDS on here insisting on ruining peoples lives with their abuse and selfish needs to be met .

i hope in all honesty that one day those doing this will find themselves on the receiving end and it all goes tits up for them as what goes around comes around .

so due to this he has since removed his profile from the site and i for one wish him all the very best and hope those responsible for this will NEVER put anyone through this again .

so take care my friend an see you real soon hunni .hope all is well

lots of luv n hugz sioux xxxx

Sioux my heartfelt good wishes go out to your friend, it would seem that many of us have been going through a similar thing, I had it when someone e-mailed my daughter a link to my profile. Another couple from here contacted me this week to say they too have deleted their profile and set up a mystery one, have got no pics and will only be in chat very occasionally for exactly the same reasons, a member found their profile and showed it

to their family.

What these sad individuals get from exposing so called friends and members of a really fab site and friendly community is beyond me... obviously it's petty jealousy and nothing more xxxxx

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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago

somewhere around

I was the same sioux hunni, he always welcomed new peeps too the room, very much a gentleman and a lovely guy also.

Good luck my hunni and i'll catch up with you real soon.

Too the cowardly bassa who done this i SOOOOO hope im there too see you get what you deserve.

foxi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its things like this that make more and more people put up fake profiles. hence making the meeting process harder for some people or expect the right people at a meet.

i officially hate this secret postman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not good to hear this, its surprising how petty things can get on this site, sum very sad and spiteful peeps. Hope person in question is ok sioux.

all best from both of us xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ffs sioux..thats dreadful!!

Anyone doing that is lower than dirt....however what goes around..comes around!!

vol

xx"

great beliver in karma be patient .... what goes around comes around defo xx

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By *lackbird186Man
over a year ago

west glasgow

i have to agree,

since we put a lot of trust in folk who read our profiles and hope they are here for the correct reasons and not just fishing for smut.

i have to ask?.

the person that got the note through the door must have some idea who it might be,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thankyo uall for your kind words an yes it is pretty pathetic of this secret postman an he / she must really be living a very sad life .

i will send all your best wishes to my friend an once again thank you all xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant have much of a life if they are running round to the house to post such a nasty nasty peice of writing x i dont know who it is dont want to know as obviously is private but this is so beyond nasty x we wish your friend well babes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think this is one reason why your personal details should be kept private.

Be wary of giving too much personal information out to anyone.

Have a sim card just for swinging.

Keep yourself as private as you can and hopefully you won't become the next victim of nasty and vindictive people.

I don't know how they sleep at night.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

it raises the point again of naming and shaming the SOB 's who get their sick kicks out of causing people misery.

like foxi i can only hope i'm there when they get their cumuppance or better stil help dish it out.

i've almost had enough of these arseholes who spoil the fun for the rest of us - we're consenting adults and should be treated as such not as pawns in their sick games.

ps sioux give the person a big hug from me xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been moved to post before. but this is shockin. i assume this person must have either recognised ur friend or had met them thru the site and held a grudge for some reason?

either way its pretty pathetic

sorry to hear about this...its no what this is meant to be about at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats horrible, we both hope everything is ok with his family health issues not to mention the stress he has had with this.

jealousy is a nasty thing, and paired with that disgusting streak in some folk can be very damaging.

please pass on our and everyone elses wishes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunatly there are a lot of sad ppl out there that seem to get there kicks out of causing others misery ,,,,personally i dont give a damn what ppl find out i get up too cos i assure it aint as bad as half the shit i done in my life lol but as honey has 2 teenage girls we have to be extremely carefull with what we do together !!!! i only hope once this poor guy has his family sorted he finds out who this sad arsehole is and takes them for a wee ride somewhere nice an dark an quiet an show them what misery can really be caused!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thee seem to be a few sad gits like this coming thru.....they really need to get a grip and realise what this site is all about.....ffs.....i hope this guy has trouble sleeping at night...what he has done is too sick for words...no one has the right to come here and bully/intimidate just because they get a knock back or two..that's life so DEAL WITH IT....and if he can sleep at night...then i look forward to the day he gets his...been said here already...what goes around comes around

I am really sorry about your pal sioux, my best wishes go out to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very sorry to read this Siouxx and please pass my regards and best wishes for the future to your friend.

some people need to get a life !!!

and they are very brave behind a pc and sneaking upto his door... pity they don't have the same said guts to speak to him face to face to discuss whatever bothered them.

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sioux hun its just going too far the person doing it seriously needs to get a life n grow up ... but as we sed what goes around comes around ...give him a hug fae me n I will see ye soon ...

love sub xxxxxx

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By *oonboyMan
over a year ago

livingston

sadly reading all of this it does not surprise me that some folk deem it neccessary to destroy other folk in this way, unfortunately there are alot of people on this site of both genders who cannot take any form of rejection (as they see it as a divine right to have sex with all and sundry as they are now members of fab) and seek retribution in one of these ways. All this serves to do is to make all of the people on here who are genuine even more wary of whom they meet.

good luck to all the genuine swingers, my sympathy to the person on the recieving end and i hope this saddo's next shite is a hedgehog !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i for once am lost for words...this is a disgrace, sioux no idea who ur friend is but if he frequented the chat room our paths would have crossed at some-time so pls pass on our best wishes. it seems to be getting to the stage where u can trust no-body and i for one do not want to be like that xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is because this is an ADULT and you expect everyone to act as one..

Siouxx's friend probably acted well, mannerable and chatted nicely to folks in the room/forum to get to know everyone. He probably made lots of friends and earned the respect of the regulars ... sadly alongside that popularity sits the jealously of a few.. ' why is he getting attention, getting meets, being spoken to more than me, etc etc etc ..

so then it no longer remains an adult site and becomes a primary school playground... bitching, sniping, whispering about people, bullying and more of the actions that come for the inexperienced in life..

it is unfortunate that folks can't chat face to face, on the telephone to resolve issues like what adults should do... but many can bitch about people behind their backs, yet when you meet them socially, they don't have the 'backbone' to discuss.... that is not the 'bravery' of the backbone but the 'cowardice' of the CYBERBONE..

you will never change these people, it is based on deep deep insecurities that they carry and only until the daythey deal with them, the 'learned' behaviour continues....

it is lack of education, lack of breeding, lack of selfesteem and/or just plain nastyness !!

and before anyone says owt... I look back at my actions and am proud of many over the years and ashamed of some......

big hug to siouxx's pal....

right back to my usual pish... see I can be serious and a clown... anyone want to much on ma cock xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I add my tuppence worth here?

Naturally, I too am sad to here what has happened to this guy, particularly as I myself have recently been receiving anonymous calls from a lady's hubby, a lady who I never actually met.

Yes I know us marrieds aren't exactly flavour of the month around here, but that's not what this thread is about!

What, imho, this does highlight is the importance of security, with our phones, and our PCs.

I would also suggest that it maybe calls into question advice regularly given in these forums, to guys asking for advice on how to meet people, the advice being to use the chatrooms, attend socials etc etc! The problem with that is that the more people who know your business the more chance there is of you coming across some sick saddo, as in this case!

So maybe we should all remember the 3 "S"s; Be safe, be secure, and be as sure as you possibly can about anyone you meet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it is because this is an ADULT and you expect everyone to act as one..

you will never change these people, it is based on deep deep insecurities that they carry and only until the daythey deal with them, the 'learned' behaviour continues....

it is lack of education, lack of breeding, lack of selfesteem and/or just plain nastyness !!

and before anyone says owt... I look back at my actions and am proud of many over the years and ashamed of some......

big hug to siouxx's pal....

right back to my usual pish... see I can be serious and a clown... anyone want to much on ma cock xxxx

forgot to add 2 other things.....

sometimes play with fire and you may get burned....

and often...... what goes around comes around...

have fun all and a great day xxxxx

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

this is a terrible thing to happen. It makes me very worried as i am a very trusting person. View i agree with u what goes round comes around.Oh and another we thing as u go up lifes ladder watch who u kick and stand on.BECAUSE ON YOUR WAY DOWN U R IN FOR A SEVERE KICKING BACK And u deserve it .Siuox give my best wishes to your friend xxxxxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

it is because this is an ADULT and you expect everyone to act as one..

Garry ur first opening statement is spot on hun i think the more popular u r around here certain ppl just dont like it and do spitefull things...

Im not to sure who this post is about but i to have a friend who has left this site recently due to what looks like the same and hes was such a gentleman very non pushy and always a gd word to say about many on here ...

if ppl on here cant accept ppl for who and what they r then shut the hell up and move on .....

luv jacs

xxxxx

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

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So maybe we should all remember the 3 "S"s; Be safe, be secure, and be as sure as you possibly can about anyone you meet!!"

At the risk of bringing the wrath of the forum down around my head, what about the 4th S? Be straight.

I've posted before about this being a competitive environment, how jealousies can arise and how some people can't cope with rejection. IMHO none of this justifies outing someone to their family, friends or w*rkmates but there's a bit of an inevitability about it and, if you do have something to hide it will almost certainly come back to bite you on the bum.

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By *urioduoCouple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

I think it absolutely discusting what has happened in this instance but alas it seems to be happening more and more to peeps on this site, I for one am NOT in favour of a name and shame policy as this can lead to more and more open and personal attacks on people, can you just imagine saying no to a meet then next day your name is all over the forum as a timewaster etc not for me am afraid. the good thing about fab is it is free to all BUT, and there allways a but, it lets all the real timewasters and vindictive people join and they dont give 2 monkeys if they get banned or not. The answer ??? well is there one but and would just urge caution to all my friends and genuine swingers on the site and continue to enjoy the friendships we have built over the past cpl of years.

Jim & Mary xxx

gawd did I just say all that lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

once again i would like to say thank you for all your kind words, and advice given on this post .

it is pathetic that such a good site is now going down hill with the thoughtlessness of those so called people and their petty jealousies ,

i posted this to let you all beware that they have now progressed to such lowlifes in my books and yes a coward. so i urge you all to be extra careful and vigilant in what you all do

to those that started sending email links to fabbers family and friends and have now progressed to actually havin the audacity to now post letters through their doors ,

thanks again to all of you but plz remember this is posted as a warning an to let the fooker doing it know WE WONT STAND FOR IT ANY MORE

AND NOW FOR A GOOD BITTY .........

VIEW GET YER COCK OUT IM CUMIN FOR A PLAY HEHE XXXXX

LUV TO YOU ALL SIOUX N HER FRIEND XXXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just to add my small tuppence worth- back in early days of this site i saw a "room regular" lady a cpl of times- up until her husband decided to get my number off her phone and call me issuing all manner of threats - wasnt bothered about that pillock but woulda been nice if shed told me she was married!!

threatened to tell my family etc. but mosta them woulda pissed themselves laughing so he gave up in the end.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just to add my small tuppence worth- back in early days of this site i saw a "room regular" lady a cpl of times- up until her husband decided to get my number off her phone and call me issuing all manner of threats - wasnt bothered about that pillock but woulda been nice if shed told me she was married!!

threatened to tell my family etc. but mosta them woulda pissed themselves laughing so he gave up in the end."

glad it all worked out in the end maf hun xxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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At the risk of bringing the wrath of the forum down around my head, what about the 4th S? Be straight.

for what it is worth Jim, I think you make a very valid point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi souix realy soz 2 hear that..ppl like them need there head looked at or there baws busted they r nothing but sad fukwits an scum of the earth..hope ur friend is ok sending hugs 2 them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to offer my support to your friend. I am in the lucky position of having friends and family who I am comfortable enough with that they know I live my life slightly different to other people.

However I completely understand folks not wishing to divulge this information. Whoever the bastard that did this undoubtedly get hit with the karma stick.

I think that jealousy is a huge problem on this site. Too quickly does it turn nasty when you don't fancy someone or you have a slight disagreement.

Why can't people remember that sex should be fun??? It's not meant to be a serious and time-consuming! Lighten up folks...

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to offer my support to your friend. I am in the lucky position of having friends and family who I am comfortable enough with that they know I live my life slightly different to other people.

However I completely understand folks not wishing to divulge this information. Whoever the bastard that did this undoubtedly get hit with the karma stick.

I think that jealousy is a huge problem on this site. Too quickly does it turn nasty when you don't fancy someone or you have a slight disagreement.

Why can't people remember that sex should be fun??? It's not meant to be a serious and time-consuming! Lighten up folks...

xxx"

well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heart goes out to him, im enjoying the scene more than ever because i concentrate my energy on enjoying the scene, its scary the sad fuckers that lurk with twisted motives for being on here.

Seriously? Someones sat with pen n paper and figured what they did was a good idea? Aint it bloody sad !!

T xx

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By *ashmira2008Woman
over a year ago

renfrew

sioux so sorry to hear whats happened 2 ur friend, I also know of someone who has bn threatened with "I'm gonna tell ur wife" - his answer was well if ur on here think I'll tell urs 2 !!!!! Nothing else was said after that. Lets hope this sicko gets found out soon xxxx

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