FabSwingers.com forum: Chatting and finding a meet???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likewise mate I have a similar view. Far too many flakey time wasting woman on here. Had many a conversation and then it just stops abruptly.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Think you would find that most of those "women", well aren't. Not saying for a minute that women on here aren't/cant be flakey though....Fab has a way of bringing out peoples flaws...and LOTS of my fellow kind do seem to disappear up their own ass's on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think you would find that most of those "women", well aren't. Not saying for a minute that women on here aren't/cant be flakey though....Fab has a way of bringing out peoples flaws...and LOTS of my fellow kind do seem to disappear up their own ass's on here.

Yeah don't get me wrong there are definitely tonnes of fakes and I try to avoid non verified profiles, but it is still a little ridiculous at times..

Just had a little look at your profile, you look absolutely incredible, I'm guessing your not close to Glasgow though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not tarring all the ladies with the same brush, certainly not and I have met a few lovely woman from here but I guess the point we’re both making is that for single guys it can be extremely frustrating and I know there are factors to that, for instance females do get bombarded with messages from hundreds of guys which makes the likelihood of making a connection fairly remote, a bit of a lottery so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the day the chatroom was a great place to make a connection, but that has died a death recently.

I can't usually accommodate so I know the frustrations the op means BUT I have had some cracking meets with lady's who I've met.

The one thing I do hear sometimes is the assumption of "he can't accommodate, must have a partner" which in my case is so far from the truth it's at Pluto

As oldschool has hit the nail on the head saying the lady's will get lots (hundreds maybe thousand depending on their pictures) of messages a day so they will go with what is attractive to them which I don't blame them for. All I'll say in finishing is the ones who you like and want you will appear...just may take a few years lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Back in the day the chatroom was a great place to make a connection, but that has died a death recently.

I can't usually accommodate so I know the frustrations the op means BUT I have had some cracking meets with lady's who I've met.

The one thing I do hear sometimes is the assumption of "he can't accommodate, must have a partner" which in my case is so far from the truth it's at Pluto

Just admit I enjoyed how you finished that

I will be an old man before my next meet at this rate

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

It makes it obvious why some of us tend to keep first messages fairly short. Not one line short but definitely shorter than I otherwise might.

If you're only going to be ignored it gets harder to make that effort. The number of times in my early days here that I wrote opening messages that took ages and were tailored to what the profile said only to have it deleted unread. It's the way of the world on here, though. The ladies have all the advantages for once.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha "
if your happy to share hotel costs then not being able to accomodate shouldnt matter just add a paragraph to your profile and that should be enough .

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

"It makes it obvious why some of us tend to keep first messages fairly short. Not one line short but definitely shorter than I otherwise might.

Don't kidd yourself..."for once" .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It makes it obvious why some of us tend to keep first messages fairly short. Not one line short but definitely shorter than I otherwise might.

Don't kidd yourself..."for once" .

Your right the ladies always hold all the power, any guy who thinks otherwise is kidding himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side il say the same about my meets.

Dont meet that often as the guys on here seem to be on a steady decline.

Looking for a click their fingers and you will meet me right now!

Needing my balls drained tonight statuses does guys no favours.

Sorry but it dosnt work like that.

Put the effort in and you will get rewarded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha if your happy to share hotel costs then not being able to accomodate shouldnt matter just add a paragraph to your profile and that should be enough .

Added this as I would more than happily share the costs for a hotel if it was the only or best option available x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the flip side il say the same about my meets.

Dont meet that often as the guys on here seem to be on a steady decline.

Looking for a click their fingers and you will meet me right now!

Needing my balls drained tonight statuses does guys no favours.

Sorry but it dosnt work like that.

Put the effort in and you will get rewarded."

Oldie I will agree with you on the snap of the fingers thing. The amount of folk who I speak with who tell me this makes my head spin and all it does is make people really reluctant to meet, ruining it for everyone.

But by the same token I've taken my time and put the effort in with some ladies and had zero from it so its a double edged sword

Luckily I've only had that happen twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it all boils down to if the other person fancies you enough to want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha "

I'm sure you have your own reasons why you wouldn't meet someone, the people that won't meet you, well that's just one of their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha

I'm sure you have your own reasons why you wouldn't meet someone, the people that won't meet you, well that's just one of their reasons."

I would love to know the reasons tbh because without chatting I find it hard to believe there are many

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By *imnher65Couple
over a year ago

Morpeth

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha "

But its not just singles us couples are having the same problems. Arranged 2 meets 1 yesterday didnt turn up or read messages but was online 1 for tonight cancelled when informed i was out of action & it would definitely be a social after he had tried to change it to his place. Hard enough sorting meets as rarely get free time. So annoying, too many just after the quick result or turn out to be married or bi & lying to us. Harder to find real swingers is the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or...

That same cpl will be on here saying a cpl suddenly pulled the oh its my bad week card lets all go to the pub instead?

Diffrent stroke and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha

One thing I've never understood is the people who cancel last minute when they have had something arranged! I've had a few not turn up at all without any word from them about cancelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha

I'm sure you have your own reasons why you wouldn't meet someone, the people that won't meet you, well that's just one of their reasons.

I would love to know the reasons tbh because without chatting I find it hard to believe there are many

But there would be some or at least 1 (i would hope?). My point is, if someone decides they dont want to meet for whatever reason then thats their prerogative, same as it would be yours. I wouldn't expect you to change your way of meeting.

Maybe socials might be the way foward for you and I know theres people out there that enjoy hotel meets, mention hotel in your first message.

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By *imnher65Couple
over a year ago

Morpeth

"Or...

That same cpl will be on here saying a cpl suddenly pulled the oh its my bad week card lets all go to the pub instead?

Diffrent stroke and all that"

This couple wouldnt as was a social anyway with no pressure or promises given

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha

I'm sure you have your own reasons why you wouldn't meet someone, the people that won't meet you, well that's just one of their reasons.

I would love to know the reasons tbh because without chatting I find it hard to believe there are many

Maybe socials might be the way foward for you and I know theres people out there that enjoy hotel meets, mention hotel in your first message."

I have absolutely no problem with having social meets etc to get to know someone a little better, thinking going to cj's might be the only way forward!

I agree with what you mean about you might see something such as not being able to accommodate putting you off someone but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt before I write them off completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sure so why cancel when you confirmed you were out of action?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, Mrs, am one of those guilty of assuming that single guys who can't accommodate are lying about being single.

I'll hold my hands up and say that while there are some out there, that it definitely isn't the case with all guys.

I've had social meets with guys, most haven't went any further than being just that, but if we got on and wanted to take it further, then I'd have no problems with booking a room somewhere.

We can't accommodate because of kids, and even when they're not meant to be here they can just appear back, so sometimes that is the only option available as long as everyone is happy.

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find it strange that couples having kids at home is a realistic acceptable reason to not accomodate (for obvious reasons) yet a single guy / girl living with parents/ flatmate/ just not comfortable with letting strangers in their home must all be cover ups for lying / cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it's a sign of the society we live in now.

I learnt quickly that not everything is as it seems, so am learning to not jump to conclusions before finding out facts. But sometimes you just can't help it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone that dosnt want to meet in their own home shouldnt be judged

Everyone has their own reasons.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Anyone that dosnt want to meet in their own home shouldnt be judged

Everyone has their own reasons.

... we don’t meet in our own home so no idea why guys should be judged for it.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I always find it strange that couples having kids at home is a realistic acceptable reason to not accomodate (for obvious reasons) yet a single guy / girl living with parents/ flatmate/ just not comfortable with letting strangers in their home must all be cover ups for lying / cheating "
This is so true and some need to give people the them a chance to prove they aint cheating because so many get accused of it when its simply not the case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This!!!

You have no idea how many seem to assume not being able to accommodate means your cheating, it's actually ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prime example today. I’m chatting away to a lady, who’s obviously replied because she liked the photo of myself I’d sent her, the conversation goes back & forth until I asked her to reciprocate with a photo of herself so I can see myself who I am talking to but then no reply, conversation stops.

Next!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Unfortunately OP you are too young for me but your pics are great.

We are hosting a singles night on 16 Feb. Check out the Scotland forum.

Just because your paid membership runs out doesn’t mean you need to leave Fab. You can still be here for free.

It is worth the effort to meet people and have some great meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unfortunately OP you are too young for me but your pics are great.

We are hosting a singles night on 16 Feb. Check out the Scotland forum.

Just because your paid membership runs out doesn’t mean you need to leave Fab. You can still be here for free.

It is worth the effort to meet people and have some great meets. "

I wasn't thinking of leaving because the site supporter ran out, tbh it was having the site supporter was what was keeping me on here, felt like I might aswell try and make the most of it while I had it

Yeah I think getting along to these group socials seems like the only way to have a good chance x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Unfortunately OP you are too young for me but your pics are great.

We are hosting a singles night on 16 Feb. Check out the Scotland forum.

Just because your paid membership runs out doesn’t mean you need to leave Fab. You can still be here for free.

It is worth the effort to meet people and have some great meets.

Yeah I think getting along to these group socials seems like the only way to have a good chance x"
socials are a great way to make new friends .

But you got to make the effore and mix with those attending if you just sit at a table your not going to get to know people.

Pinupgirl has a social mid jan .

I have one end of jan then there is the singles social in Feb .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo recomend a social

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By *hirlpoolguy37Man
over a year ago

anywhere

Not a fan of socials myself ,but don’t give up OP.

Just be yourself have faith and don’t rush.

Not everything is a sprint, and if it is what might you be missing if you jump in with the first thing!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Not a fan of socials myself ,but don’t give up OP.

Just be yourself have faith and don’t rush.

Not everything is a sprint, and if it is what might you be missing if you jump in with the first thing!! "
socials aint for everyone but they are a great way to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To put faces to names

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By *hirlpoolguy37Man
over a year ago

anywhere

"To put faces to names

Thought that was between us?? Haha

The know socials ain’t for everyone

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Echo the OP. I was thinking of leaving too.

I get a couple meets per year, but personally not big fan of events/socials. Despite putting in the effort, finding a decent woman on here is getting more and more difficult. Have chat to loads this year, but when I ask about meeting up, suddenly goes quiet or I'm thrown with excuses.

Heck, even if its a 1on1 socials/drinks, buddying up to go places. If chemistry is there, then bonus! lol

Either that, or I've become undesirable since being in the 30s age band

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To put faces to names

Thought that was between us?? Haha

The know socials ain’t for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More action on the fishy site but fabs ok for perving

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Don't kidd yourself..."for once" .

Your right the ladies always hold all the power, any guy who thinks otherwise is kidding himself

As long as we live in the patriarchal, misogynist society that currently prevails anyone who thinks women have the power they deserve in life is kidding themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe put on your profile "am willing to pay for malmaison or boutique hotel" and you will do better as some single females and couples actually request those hotels on theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone that dosnt want to meet in their own home shouldnt be judged

Everyone has their own reasons.

Thats true but it's easier to assume they're cheating and move onto the next profile than to listen to any bullshit excuses

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D "

90 percent true but fab still has its market for us singles also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D "
surely that goes for single girls to tho? Not all fems from cpls are bi?

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D surely that goes for single girls to tho? Not all fems from cpls are bi? "

No. because single ladies are in a huge minority on here.

Also from what I see, most of them are looking for fun with other single ladies or couples so that further reduces the chances of a single bloke having a meet on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im part of a cpl with my husband...we dont look for single fems?

I agree swinging is thought of as a cpls thing but over the yrs i think fab has become a singles market.

Its difficult fir vs to actually meet on here so most cpls meet single guys

.you just have to look at the amount of cpls profiles that state in big bold letters...no single guys!!

Scroll down to their veris...guess what you see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Cpls to actually meet'*

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"Im part of a cpl with my husband...we dont look for single fems?

I agree swinging is thought of as a cpls thing but over the yrs i think fab has become a singles market.

Its difficult fir vs to actually meet on here so most cpls meet single guys

.you just have to look at the amount of cpls profiles that state in big bold letters...no single guys!!

Scroll down to their veris...guess what you see

You might not but loads of couples are looking for single females, granted not many couples actually meet single females but that's purely because there aren't many on here.

I don't agree that it's become a singles market.

I agree that there are now lots of single male profiles on here but only a small fraction of them are actually managing to meet.

The vast majority of the SWINGING that's happening on this SWINGERS site happens between couples.

Plenty of couples have veri's from single guys but aren't looking for guys at that particular time. That actually proves my point about guys being a bit part on here, they'll get a meet with a couple when they fancy it but that's purely at the whim of the couple.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D surely that goes for single girls to tho? Not all fems from cpls are bi? "
nopw the old double standard applys here having viewed lots of cpls profiles you find most are looking for single fems so obviously they are swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to know the actual percentage of cpls that are on here as apposed to singke fems and single guys...think it would suorise alot of folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs cant type today

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Would love to know the actual percentage of cpls that are on here as apposed to singke fems and single guys...think it would suorise alot of folk"
and also what percentage are actual cpls and not fbs looking to enhance their chances

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"Would love to know the actual percentage of cpls that are on here as apposed to singke fems and single guys...think it would suorise alot of folk"

But the interesting statistic would be who is actually meeting don't you think?

Just being a member of a website means nothing.

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D surely that goes for single girls to tho? Not all fems from cpls are bi? nopw the old double standard applys here having viewed lots of cpls profiles you find most are looking for single fems so obviously they are swingers

Note the word "primarily". I didn't say that single people can't be swingers. But without a couple being involved it's not really swinging is it?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

Note the word "primarily". I didn't say that single people can't be swingers. But without a couple being involved it's not really swinging is it? "
depends on how you view the word swinger if as commonly accepted now then yes singles are swingers if as the word was first used then no would also apply to many cpls as they simply aint cpls just tag team buddys

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

Note the word "primarily". I didn't say that single people can't be swingers. But without a couple being involved it's not really swinging is it? depends on how you view the word swinger if as commonly accepted now then yes singles are swingers if as the word was first used then no would also apply to many cpls as they simply aint cpls just tag team buddys

I agree, everyone has their own definitions and that's up to them.

I'd say it would be difficult to define two single people having sex as swinging though.

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over a year ago

"I am starting to think this site is impossible for a guy who cannot accommodate!

Can't remember last time I actually managed to get a meet from this site, whereas the likes of tinder, which isn't even meant for those purposes is a million times

easier

After membership is up I think this account may go after being here for years, site just seems to have gotten worse over the years, who knows maybe it will miraculously get good again in 2018

Last wee rant of 2017 haha if your happy to share hotel costs then not being able to accomodate shouldnt matter just add a paragraph to your profile and that should be enough .

happy to sure hotel costs for the right meet. man who cant accom does put me off, i question in my head why.

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

D "

Been on and off site 8 plus years ,I have no idea what site was primarily designed for as a single male my primary aim is to meet a couple for a sexual encounter ,my meets with single females are just a very happy outcome of being on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prime example today. I’m chatting away to a lady, who’s obviously replied because she liked the photo of myself I’d sent her, the conversation goes back & forth until I asked her to reciprocate with a photo of herself so I can see myself who I am talking to but then no reply, conversation stops.

Next!

You chose to send her the pic she didnt ask for it. Then you ask her to reciprocate. Hmm does she not have the right to choose when she decides this?

As usaul a pushy guy who decides the pace of conversation..oh she replied she wants sex lol...no might just want to see what your like.

get a grip

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

That's exactly what the site was designed for.

You're not moaning because you're not getting an instashag so I don't have a problem.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

D "

That’s harsh. As a single female I look for single guys to play with and also from my couples profile. I only have a couples profile as I meet with another single guy from here.

Neither of us can accommodate as we both have kids at home. We aren’t cheating and are both single.

Swinging isn’t just for couples. Without all us single men and women you’d never get your threesums!

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

I pretty much accept that a meet for a single man is difficult and try to enjoy the banter and hope one day my train will cum in

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"I was a single guy on here once and I agree it's very difficult for blokes.

However, single guys need to realise that this is a SWINGERS site. SWINGING is something that primarily happens between couples.

Although there is a place for a small amount of single guys on the scene you need to realise you will only ever play a bit part.

If you're looking for casual sex with single ladies stick to tinder.

That’s harsh. As a single female I look for single guys to play with and also from my couples profile. I only have a couples profile as I meet with another single guy from here.

Neither of us can accommodate as we both have kids at home. We aren’t cheating and are both single.

Swinging isn’t just for couples. Without all us single men and women you’d never get your threesums! "

I think you should read what I said again. I didn't say it was just for couples. I said swinging is something that primarily happens between couples.

I don't know why you're talking about accommodation either, I didn't mention that.

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"I pretty much accept that a meet for a single man is difficult and try to enjoy the banter and hope one day my train will cum in

Amen!

That's what it's all about.

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over a year ago

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

That's exactly what the site was designed for.

You're not moaning because you're not getting an instashag so I don't have a problem.

D "
so you said you were a single guy on here before cpling up? Do why were you on hete as a single guy?

Age old way...guy joins...cpls up then slates single guys that he once was??

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

That's exactly what the site was designed for.

You're not moaning because you're not getting an instashag so I don't have a problem.

D so you said you were a single guy on here before cpling up? Do why were you on hete as a single guy?

Age old way...guy joins...cpls up then slates single guys that he once was??"

I was here to meet couples and attend swinging parties, which I did quite a bit of. I was on tinder to meet single ladies.

Not slating single guys, slating particular single guys that post in here on a daily basis moaning that they can't get their hole.

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over a year ago

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

That's exactly what the site was designed for.

You're not moaning because you're not getting an instashag so I don't have a problem.

D so you said you were a single guy on here before cpling up? Do why were you on hete as a single guy?

Age old way...guy joins...cpls up then slates single guys that he once was??

I was here to meet couples and attend swinging parties, which I did quite a bit of. I was on tinder to meet single ladies.

Not slating single guys, slating particular single guys that post in here on a daily basis moaning that they can't get their hole.

Having read through the thread I totally agree with your view

And I'm the fem of the couple! Having been on here since the beginnings of Fab as a single bi lass and in a loving relationship, I agree there is a difference in how some single guys see it. Actually, how some people see it. Some use it as a stop gap between relationships. Males and females. It is easier for females to fill that gap shall we say. Not so easy for the single guys. I agree that they come on here with the assumption they will get a single lass just like that! Or even any lass just like that! Not what swinging is all about. It is a lifestyle choice xxx

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

"As a side note, I don't want people to misunderstand what I'm saying and think I'm against single people on here.

Single males and females are definitely an important part of the scene. We have met them in the past and will do again in the future.

I just take issue with single males constantly moaning on here because they're not managing to have casual sex with women on here. That's not what the site was designed for.

That's exactly what the site was designed for.

You're not moaning because you're not getting an instashag so I don't have a problem.

D so you said you were a single guy on here before cpling up? Do why were you on hete as a single guy?

Age old way...guy joins...cpls up then slates single guys that he once was??

I was here to meet couples and attend swinging parties, which I did quite a bit of. I was on tinder to meet single ladies.

Not slating single guys, slating particular single guys that post in here on a daily basis moaning that they can't get their hole.

Having read through the thread I totally agree with your view

Glad someone can see where I'm coming from.

D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about the dynamics. People assume that the reason they are here is the same reason others are here. Not the case now. It may have been that way at the beginning of this site but not so much now with the way the online world has evolved xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would just like to point out I'm not saying you should be able to just come on here and just like that your getting a shag! All I was meaning is it's almost impossible to even get a conversation with anyone on here. I am more than happy to chat and get to know each other a little before anything happens, I am under no illusions as to how this site works, just think it doesn't even fufill it's purpose that well.

My opinion and your I'm in a couple and therefore deserve to be here more than you mentality is just absolutely ridiculous

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour

"Would just like to point out I'm not saying you should be able to just come on here and just like that your getting a shag! All I was meaning is it's almost impossible to even get a conversation with anyone on here. I am more than happy to chat and get to know each other a little before anything happens, I am under no illusions as to how this site works, just think it doesn't even fufill it's purpose that well.

My opinion and your I'm in a couple and therefore deserve to be here more than you mentality is just absolutely ridiculous

Gets my popcorn ready

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over a year ago

It doesn't serve its purpose very well because people use it in a variety of different ways now. Some use it for the attention. Some use it for the chat. Some use it for the social side. Some use it for casual sex. Some use it for long term relationships. Some use it for swinging. It is all about finding people who use it the same way as you. Then there is finding people who use it the same way as yourself who has the same kinks! It can take a military operation at times lol. Honestly? It is more difficult as a couple than being single as there are a lot more variables that come into the equation xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My opinion and your I'm in a couple and therefore deserve to be here more than you mentality is just absolutely ridiculous

Gets my popcorn ready

Love a bit of controversy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember looking for experiences / sex frills on another naughty site !! ... I found a couple or they found me lol and was introduced to fab to meet more couples, in the beginning fab was a swinging site and so was I for a few years but Iv come back after a short failed relationship I made on fab and it’s like the other naughty site I started on so I’m thinking I wasn’t the only person who found fab... I agree with a previous comment that people use it in between relationships as that’s what Iv done as my partners never seem to be swingers but in saying that I’m loyal in an new n swinging relationship x

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over a year ago

It’s difficult for everyone . The main difficulty for single guys is the sheer volume of men on here. If 80% cannot accommodate but 20% can then that 20% go straight to the top of the list for many people.

In our situation we are both straight so meeting couples is difficult as we are bottom of the list. Everyone is disadvantaged in some way. We feel for genuine single guys. It’s tough but not impossible. We’ve met a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why you're talking about accommodation either, I didn't mention that.

Probably because the OP was about guys that cant accomodate

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over a year ago

happy to sure hotel costs for the right meet. man who cant accom does put me off, i question in my head why. "

The irony being your profile states you also dont accomodate ... so you presumably expect people to trust you at your word for your reason but dont offer others the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't accommodate.

That's the catch.

Yes I have it on mine too.

Hotel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is near impossible even if you can accommodate dude, I have no luck whatsoever...actually thats coming from an ugly fat bastard, take no notice

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over a year ago

The get involved with the socials is definently the best tip. As well as going to the clubs. Basically getting involved in the swinging lifestyle.

Not all single guys get swinging, just our opinion. So we tend to stick to experienced guys, who have stuck around a while. Other couples we have met say the same. Think of Meet The Parents and trying to get into the circle of trust lol

To be honest as well, we have been shocked number of ‘single’ guys on here who we have found out have girlfriends. So this makes us cautious when it comes to single guys too.

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over a year ago

"The get involved with the socials is definently the best tip. As well as going to the clubs. Basically getting involved in the swinging lifestyle.

To be honest as well, we have been shocked number of ‘single’ guys on here who we have found out have girlfriends. So this makes us cautious when it comes to single guys too. "

Must admit although your point about getting into the "circle of trust" is actually a good point, it did make me laugh a little

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