FabSwingers.com forum: bad manners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is it just me or does.any one else get anoyed when you take te time to send a messag to.someone and they dont have the descentsy to reply even i its just to.say thank bu no thanks they read it and do not reply it only take a minute of there time ahhhhh rant over tky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is it just me or does.any one else get anoyed when you take te time to send a messag to.someone and they dont have the descentsy to reply even i its just to.say thank bu no thanks they read it and do not reply it only take a minute of there time ahhhhh rant over tky."

Would you if you had 200+ to reply to daily?

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

Taken from FAQ page - http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i understand people get lots o mail i get my share of mail and i.always make it a priority to reply if.some has taken the time to.send you a message its only polite to reply doesnt take alot of time to.deal.with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand people get lots o mail i get my share of mail and i.always make it a priority to reply if.some has taken the time to.send you a message its only polite to reply doesnt take alot of time to.deal.with."

Cool, well i get next to nowt mail, so maybe look on the positive side at just knowing that?

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

we do answer messages on here

APART from messages from people that have not read our profile properly

as in our profile says we both smoke

and you get text from wont meet smokers etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i see where use are cumi.g from aj understandyou do get some ignorant people.on this site who are just after one thing pic pic collectors really anoy me to hate them with a vengance ruins for.the genuine people like my sel who are after real meets and to make good friends.

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

ohhhhhh yes loads off asswipes around

as in peeps who want on your friends list then they never contact you again

hence we will add no one to our list as friends list till we have actualy met them

as in some peeps who block you and you have never been in contact with them

the list goes on and on

but why worry be happy life goes on

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"i see where use are cumi.g from aj understandyou do get some ignorant people.on this site who are just after one thing pic pic collectors really anoy me to hate them with a vengance ruins for.the genuine people like my sel who are after real meets and to make good friends."

Why would people need to pic collect? there are pics all over the web they can look at.

Accept that some people answer mails, some people don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only takes a minute of their time ? by my calculations that would be a couple of hours to answer the 120 odd messages they may have received that day just to say a polite no thanks. not great time management

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your saying that if a fem or couple get 200+ mails to answer they should spend their time reading all the mails, checking out each individual profile and then to write a reply to each one saying why they don't want to meet?

At what point are they supposed to have a life? They would spend half a week on here just answering mails. Plus, while they are online they will get even more mail from the 'are you looking for fun now?' brigade so even more to answer.

If you don't get a reply, move on to the next and take it as a no thanks.

Steve.

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

My view is you reap what you sow, given time and patience the rewards will follow.

Rule number one is to accept rejection on occasion.

Rule number 2 is not moan about it

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

one of my femme fb's joined fab and got 200 emails within 4 hours - she just had to block guys from messaging her it got so bad.

its a fact of life that single guys have a "rough ride" on swinging sites - accept that or move on. one thing i have found is that whinging is a quick way to alienate you from the site users.

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

This is a hard one when i was sinlge female on here, you could get 200+ mail a day some saying 'fancy a shag' some writing a Long long email but from London i tried for about 4days to keep up with it and i had to give up it was nearly impossible. As you were replying even more was coming through so as a newbie it was very overwhleming.

I can understand from a single man's POV too though.

As a couple we always reply with a no thank you as generally they havent read our profile.

I suggest you smile and carry on being a gent and remember there are some single guy's who do really well in terms of meets. So dont give up just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many people with their heads up their own arse in here!!! They shud think back to when they 1st came on here if it wasn't for someone "replying" back to them they wudnt be 1) still on here and 2) prob getting a meet or similar that got them "verified" !!!

Too many ppl forget themselves and take the high road and before anyone takes a pop at me I'm an existing member who had pics was verified and a member fir over a year so be careful I knw where most I you live

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Hopefully that last comment was tongue in cheek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone takes the time to make their message relevant to us then they'll always get a reply even if it's a no thanks. One liners that have made no effort are easy to delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, I agree re the manners thing ... we do get alot of mail but i try to answer each and every one (other than the ones that say hi! and nothing else).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not see the smiley faces?? Or is it coz ur heed is up somewhere like it states in my comments? Point made exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just like to say thx to ery one who posted in the forum and o can see there is a great divide on this issue i no there is alot of people who just post fancy a shag and im sad that theae certain people just ruin it for genuine pepole like my sel an many othere feom ken to cpls and women who.are just looking for genuine meets and to make new friends. so tky to all te genuine people on fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh I think one liners shud be deleted but the ppl that take time to read profiles and then send a message shud get a reply after all they have done exactly what had been asked "read profile" and profile states "always reply" ( never happens) but at end of day these ppl might be nervous newbies hopeing to dip their toes and enjoy a night or two (lol) of fun and dnt even get an acknowledgement very off putting dnt you think? Anyho I've said my point pmsl

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Do you not see the smiley faces?? Or is it coz ur heed is up somewhere like it states in my comments? Point made exactly

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i use to answer all messages. but consitently my "no thanks " was met by dummy spitting and abuse or asking for an exsplaination for my no.so is it little surprise people take the path of least resistence ?? id rather spend my time talking to people i actually may wish to meet rather than ping pong mails justifying having the perferences i have .....bang goes the it just takes a minute to replie . i dont feel i have to justify my descions on here and certainly dont think that just because a person has messaged (as nice as message may be) that is no garentee of a replie .no where on site does it state you are oblidged to replie to every message and how person filters which messages they will replie to is up to them . if that makes me rude or having my head up my arse then so be it lol !! i personally think its rude of people to EXSPECT a replie to every message they send lol.

yes in ideal world people could and would replie to every message .in an ideal world those repliling wouldnt be abused or hounded for reason for saying no ...unfortunatly worlds not ideal! we just have to be adult about it and accept if a persons interested theyd get back t us ..if not they arent .

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