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What advice would you give a newbie single female?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So a very good friend of mine has just joined fabswingers and I wondered what advice people would give her about profiles, meets a general do’s n don’ts.

She is new to swinging and newly single but We’ve took her to Cjs twice now (before she joined the site) so isn’t altogether a deer in the headlights lol

Musicmaid x

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By *j60Man
over a year ago

leeds

Hi tell her to enjoy every minute while single

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would say don’t believe that all single guys are bad, they are not, avoid the countless amounts of pushy couples, there are many.

And if it looks like bullshit and smells like bullshit, then it’s probably bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't meet guys who are pushy, sending the same copy and paste message every two or three days, big turn off. Tell her to be safe but most importantly, have fun by herself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would say don’t believe that all single guys are bad, they are not, avoid the countless amounts of pushy couples, there are many.

And if it looks like bullshit and smells like bullshit, then it’s probably bullshit."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would say don’t believe that all single guys are bad, they are not, avoid the countless amounts of pushy couples, there are many.

And if it looks like bullshit and smells like bullshit, then it’s probably bullshit."

Good advice

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

The Block button is your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes "

Agreed Bunkie

n tell her not to put pictures on public display until she knows how fab works as there will be people on fab whom know her through another capacity, work, family etc... that she might not want to be known.

Wish her all the best and have a fantastic, hassle free time on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take everything everyone tells her with a huge pinch of salt

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I would say to find out what she is looking for and what she is hoping to get out of the site.

To trust her gut feelings/instincts.

To do a social in a public place first.

to do her own things! People will have an opinion either way.

And finally to have fun, she's on here for her own experience

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

Tell her to put on her profile 'not looking for guys' then delete all messages without reading. She'll fit right in.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Take things at her own pace.

Get to know people before meeting.

Join in with socials as they are a great way to get to know people with no expectations.

Enjoy your time here when It gets too much hide your profile rather than delering and take a break so much easier than having to start again.

Enjoy

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Deleting*

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Always trust your instinct!

Use your block button.

Chat before meeting, establish if there’s a connection.

Have loads of fun!x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

When the amount of messages gets too much, go in hiding for a while.

Use the block button aplenty.

If in doubt, don't meet them x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Oh and maybe a good idea would be in the privacy settings, switch off "who's looked at me", so you can snoop about as much as you like without people assuming you fancy them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would say don’t believe that all single guys are bad, they are not, avoid the countless amounts of pushy couples, there are many.

And if it looks like bullshit and smells like bullshit, then it’s probably bullshit.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes "

This! Otherwise she’ll be going for the delete button pretty quickly

K x

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By *uilty_pleasuresCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Don't feel you need to reply to every message you will be exhausted

Use your gut

Don't settle. ..if he don't float your boat that is ok.

Socials are great fun.

Also couples can be a safer option and lovely wives like me loan out their husbands to spread the love...lol

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

For a new f it would be join up then hide your profile and take time to find feet, so not harassed straight of the bat. Do things including profile in own time and when ready open it up and do things your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social meet first. If someone is not prepared to send a face pics move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be too cynical or defensive with folk is always good advice - sometimes the written word can be misinterpreted. Also I personally would seek out folk with a few verifications. It has always been a deal breaker for me - from day one, due to the excessive number of fakes and timewasters in fab.

And don't take it too seriously!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Tell her how to do a reverse image search, it's come in handy for me quite a few times

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Always social meet first. If someone is not prepared to send a face pics move on."

This

R

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Always social meet first. If someone is not prepared to send a face pics move on."

And costa comes highly recommended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Become acquainted with reverse image searching!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her to give me a message, I'd be willing to show here the ropes

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Become acquainted with reverse image searching!"

And this is what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes "

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Become acquainted with reverse image searching!

And this is what? "
shows you if pic appears elsewhere on the net......unfortunatly it dosnt tell you anything more than that contrary to popular belief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Become acquainted with reverse image searching!

And this is what? shows you if pic appears elsewhere on the net......unfortunatly it dosnt tell you anything more than that contrary to popular belief"

Which can and has come in very handy for those numpties using stolen photos. Handy to know if that guy you're considering arranging a meet with is using photos of Tom Hardy's body, or the woman you're speaking to has stolen some Americans Instagram pictures

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife

Join a forum clique

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes "

^^^ This! And then filters! I only lasted a week when I first joined, couldn't hit the delete button quick enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block EVERYONE from messaging first to give her time to peruse site in peace and find her feet then lift blocks as she goes "

funny I suggested this to be standard for newbies in the site suggestions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell her how to do a reverse image search, it's come in handy for me quite a few times "

I should learn this!

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

Ignore every single message she receives in the first few days. They are the dregs of fab who no one will meet. They prey on fresh meat cos they are so desperate. Use fab mainly for keeping in touch with people from clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore every single message she receives in the first few days. They are the dregs of fab who no one will meet. They prey on fresh meat cos they are so desperate. Use fab mainly for keeping in touch with people from clubs."

exactly, if the good ones on fab are anything like myself i see a newbie and keep scrolling as i know there isnt going to be any point as she's either going to be scared off or ignore all the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rename the site to 'if you don't go to cjs' you won't fit in

Then again do what you want. Everyone else does

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Become acquainted with reverse image searching!

And this is what? shows you if pic appears elsewhere on the net......unfortunatly it dosnt tell you anything more than that contrary to popular belief"

Thanks Kola

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say be very choosy who you chat and play with.... not everyone is as they seam.... but when you do choose enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a very good friend of mine has just joined fabswingers and I wondered what advice people would give her about profiles, meets a general do’s n don’ts.

She is new to swinging and newly single but We’ve took her to Cjs twice now (before she joined the site) so isn’t altogether a deer in the headlights lol

Musicmaid x"

Three bits of advice

1. good bend at the knees and bad girls bend at the waist

2. She should message me

3. All single men are the worst, and she should ingore all the shite they spout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a very good friend of mine has just joined fabswingers and I wondered what advice people would give her about profiles, meets a general do’s n don’ts.

She is new to swinging and newly single but We’ve took her to Cjs twice now (before she joined the site) so isn’t altogether a deer in the headlights lol

Musicmaid x

Three bits of advice

1. good bend at the knees and bad girls bend at the waist

2. She should message me

3. All single men are the worst, and she should ingore all the shite they spout "

Jeez!! Including yours lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her to message me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her to get a strap on and send me a message.

I MAY reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a very good friend of mine has just joined fabswingers and I wondered what advice people would give her about profiles, meets a general do’s n don’ts.

She is new to swinging and newly single but We’ve took her to Cjs twice now (before she joined the site) so isn’t altogether a deer in the headlights lol

Musicmaid x

Three bits of advice

1. good bend at the knees and bad girls bend at the waist

2. She should message me

3. All single men are the worst, and she should ingore all the shite they spout

Jeez!! Including yours lol x"

Haha I would call mine exhibit A!

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