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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is judging someone you dont know right or wrong?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Context op, we need context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Context op, we need context "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let's just say few things like looks size shape and what he or she look like or acts lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think most of us try not to judge and take everyone for who they are....well I'd like to hope so anyway.

However we're all human so we prob do to an extent without even realising.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well am a free agent and I get judged on looks and among other things care not to mention haha but must be me then oh well I say judging is unconditional wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah so it’s one of these posts OP

We’ve all been there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's wrong but we all do it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's wrong but we all do it x"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never judge a book by its cover and not about to start unless am judged first lol

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It's right. Evolution programs us to make decisions immediately.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

Well all make judgements at time consciously or not. People have certain types they are more attractive to more than others . You have to realise not to take it personally as there will be someone who’s boxes you tick .

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't think judging is wrong.

To be honest I think our brain makes assumptions and judgement constantly.

Put a piece of what looks like chocolate in front of me and I instantly assume/make a judgement that am gonna like it.

Put some green thingy that looks like a vegetable... well am pretty sure am not going to enjoy it

At the end of the day we are animals and we do use our instincts and senses to judge, make decisions for our best interests.

Researches have shown that we are attracted to various people simply because of how they smell. You don't realise it but you judge a person on that!

Hope this makes sense as it pretty &@£* early lol

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I never judge a book by its cover and not about to start unless am judged first lol"

As a few forumites know haha!

That's a quote that I don't like

I judge a book by its cover and the blah blah at the back!

Title good... yes/no

Design of cover... yes/no

Synopsis... yes/no

Is this book for me? Yes it gets bought.

No... back on the shelf, simple!

And you better start judging... because you have been judged by this thread... jus' sayin' lol

Have fun, we all get judged

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

As long as you keep your judgements to yourself I don't think it is x

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Surely we are all judged and making judgments constantly on here and in life? Its natural. I try not to be harsh or deliberately upset. Most of my judgments are kept to myself.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

So when exactly did she block you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So people going to judge people they don't know mentally physically and personally... even if you over the age say 30+ and let's says your parents fell ill and only way to look after them is to move back home?? How's that right to be judged by people that don't know you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I judge people and expect people to judge me. It's human nature op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do judge a book by its cover

Im here to meet and have sex with folk im physically attracted too

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"So people going to judge people they don't know mentally physically and personally... even if you over the age say 30+ and let's says your parents fell ill and only way to look after them is to move back home?? How's that right to be judged by people that don't know you???"

You judging us now....

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

I think on a dating site things might be a little different Op, but as this is a sex site the vast majority of members are going to judge primarily on looks, in a relationship you might get a bit deeper, not looking for a relationship means the rest isn’t that important

IMO of course.........

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I think on a dating site things might be a little different Op, but as this is a sex site the vast majority of members are going to judge primarily on looks, in a relationship you might get a bit deeper, not looking for a relationship means the rest isn’t that important

IMO of course........."

Totally agree Mr C. Probably every single person on here has had their fair share to deal with and most of us just want to break away from every day life and responsibilities sometimes. And that's where fab kicks in for me x

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"I think on a dating site things might be a little different Op, but as this is a sex site the vast majority of members are going to judge primarily on looks, in a relationship you might get a bit deeper, not looking for a relationship means the rest isn’t that important

IMO of course.........

Totally agree Mr C. Probably every single person on here has had their fair share to deal with and most of us just want to break away from every day life and responsibilities sometimes. And that's where fab kicks in for me x"

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Everyone judges every second of every day the diffrence is whether they will voice that opinion

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By *issT45Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If u don't find someone attractive your not judging them ... u just don't fancy them

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By *issT45Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Everyone judges every second of every day the diffrence is whether they will voice that opinion"

I don't ... forming personal opinions isn't judging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think on a dating site things might be a little different Op, but as this is a sex site the vast majority of members are going to judge primarily on looks, in a relationship you might get a bit deeper, not looking for a relationship means the rest isn’t that important

IMO of course.........

Totally agree Mr C. Probably every single person on here has had their fair share to deal with and most of us just want to break away from every day life and responsibilities sometimes. And that's where fab kicks in for me x"

x

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I think on a dating site things might be a little different Op, but as this is a sex site the vast majority of members are going to judge primarily on looks, in a relationship you might get a bit deeper, not looking for a relationship means the rest isn’t that important

IMO of course.........

Totally agree Mr C. Probably every single person on here has had their fair share to deal with and most of us just want to break away from every day life and responsibilities sometimes. And that's where fab kicks in for me x"

Agreed. This is where I come for me. Not to please other people but to get what I want. If being choosy is judging, then I judge!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Everyone judges every second of every day the diffrence is whether they will voice that opinion

I don't ... forming personal opinions isn't judging "
lol you have judged that personal opinion isnt judgeing..... to many see judging as a negative.

so many look to describe this action as something else.

I judge all day every day ( yup that includes interactions with people).

I dont share my judgements unless I feel the need too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In day to day life I am not at all judgemental, people come in all shapes and sizes, with funny wee personality traits that make them unique.

If I'm considering letting you penetrate me, then yes, you will be judged. Same way the select few before you were judged.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

How can you judge someone you don't know.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"How can you judge someone you don't know. "
with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction. "

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction. "

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?"
of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough"

Fair enough wouldnt disagree with that

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough"

I agree Kola.

That judgment/assumption whatever one wants to call it has allowed me to stay safe and/or anticipate situations, allowed me to read situations etc...

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough

I agree Kola.

That judgment/assumption whatever one wants to call it has allowed me to stay safe and/or anticipate situations, allowed me to read situations etc...

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careful agreeing with moi you may be moving on dangerous territory

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough

I agree Kola.

That judgment/assumption whatever one wants to call it has allowed me to stay safe and/or anticipate situations, allowed me to read situations etc...

careful agreeing with moi you may be moving on dangerous territory "

Haha!

The situation has been assessed,

all assumptions have been made,

the judgment was passed, the decision is that I will enter on dangerous territory. Helmet and full body armour on

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough

I agree Kola.

That judgment/assumption whatever one wants to call it has allowed me to stay safe and/or anticipate situations, allowed me to read situations etc...

careful agreeing with moi you may be moving on dangerous territory

Haha!

The situation has been assessed,

all assumptions have been made,

the judgment was passed, the decision is that I will enter on dangerous territory. Helmet and full body armour on "
the mind works in mysterious ways my mind went gi blues......blue hawaii ......heartbreak hotel. Then the classic pin up 50s image with only the helmet and boots and a fat cigar in your mouth

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By *issT45Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Some posts on fab take things deeper than the current blue planet

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"How can you judge someone you don't know. with ease....... how they interact with the world demeanor mannerisms then interaction.

But you don't know them. So your judgements based on a snapshot of their personality. From the above are you not making assumptions and judging from your assumptions?of course im making anassumption based on what I see and hear then I make a judgement on that

I see d*unken loats walking down the street being obnoxious with anyone who walks past them I assume they are being twats I judge that they are unworthy of my time so I move away from that situation as I want no part of it.

a snapshot is almost always more than enough

I agree Kola.

That judgment/assumption whatever one wants to call it has allowed me to stay safe and/or anticipate situations, allowed me to read situations etc...

careful agreeing with moi you may be moving on dangerous territory

Haha!

The situation has been assessed,

all assumptions have been made,

the judgment was passed, the decision is that I will enter on dangerous territory. Helmet and full body armour on the mind works in mysterious ways my mind went gi blues......blue hawaii ......heartbreak hotel. Then the classic pin up 50s image with only the helmet and boots and a fat cigar in your mouth "

Mysterious ways indeed

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

Maybe my view won’t be shared by many but myself and my wife are very happily married with a wide circle of vanilla friends and family. We both have social media accounts and then we have FAB!!!!!. We don’t care if you are 40 and live with your mother, we don’t care if you are secretly married and pretending to be single. We are here for 1 reason and we use this site as a means to get what we want. If you fit our criteria and there is a spark then we are onto a winner. If you are not our type then there’s no chance. It’s black or white yes or no. This site seems to be turning very much into social media with status updates such as what will I have for lunch etc. Human nature is to judge and be judged and if we say no to any particular person or don’t reply to your message it’s because there is a conflict of interest with what we have seen on your profile or we do not physically find you attractive and it is nothing to do with if you live with parents or are married. We once had a guy over after 2 months of chatting and a social who started telling us his mum recently died and started crying, This may be harsh but he was soon asked to leave. As I said before we are not here for social media or to be councillors for people’s personal problems. This is purely fun for us on our very limited spare time. I understand people may not agree with my views just as I may not agree with theirs but no point moaning about it just make the most of it, if someone says or does something you don’t like shrug it off and go find something or someone who you like and not moan about it

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By *issT45Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Maybe my view won’t be shared by many but myself and my wife are very happily married with a wide circle of vanilla friends and family. We both have social media accounts and then we have FAB!!!!!. We don’t care if you are 40 and live with your mother, we don’t care if you are secretly married and pretending to be single. We are here for 1 reason and we use this site as a means to get what we want. If you fit our criteria and there is a spark then we are onto a winner. If you are not our type then there’s no chance. It’s black or white yes or no. This site seems to be turning very much into social media with status updates such as what will I have for lunch etc. Human nature is to judge and be judged and if we say no to any particular person or don’t reply to your message it’s because there is a conflict of interest with what we have seen on your profile or we do not physically find you attractive and it is nothing to do with if you live with parents or are married. We once had a guy over after 2 months of chatting and a social who started telling us his mum recently died and started crying, This may be harsh but he was soon asked to leave. As I said before we are not here for social media or to be councillors for people’s personal problems. This is purely fun for us on our very limited spare time. I understand people may not agree with my views just as I may not agree with theirs but no point moaning about it just make the most of it, if someone says or does something you don’t like shrug it off and go find something or someone who you like and not moan about it"

At least ur using it to get out of it exaclty what u want ... it works the same for balanced happy singles ... any kind of social media or fab can become a crutch for people who arent comfortable in their real life ... sad but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use fab for there own personal reasons or gain,we all wish folks would not judge ,but hey thats life .so we all have to bite the bullet and get on .its a case if your face doesn't fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A person will be judged through time as well, seeing certain things about how that person behaves towards others, their attitude etc and will almost always raise alarm bells. We will question as to why this person is like this. Over time I would say that the best form of defense is getting the full story about that person we are judging whether or not we like it and knowing that we are the better person for it too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe my view won’t be shared by many but myself and my wife are very happily married with a wide circle of vanilla friends and family. We both have social media accounts and then we have FAB!!!!!. We don’t care if you are 40 and live with your mother, we don’t care if you are secretly married and pretending to be single. We are here for 1 reason and we use this site as a means to get what we want. If you fit our criteria and there is a spark then we are onto a winner. If you are not our type then there’s no chance. It’s black or white yes or no. This site seems to be turning very much into social media with status updates such as what will I have for lunch etc. Human nature is to judge and be judged and if we say no to any particular person or don’t reply to your message it’s because there is a conflict of interest with what we have seen on your profile or we do not physically find you attractive and it is nothing to do with if you live with parents or are married. We once had a guy over after 2 months of chatting and a social who started telling us his mum recently died and started crying, This may be harsh but he was soon asked to leave. As I said before we are not here for social media or to be councillors for people’s personal problems. This is purely fun for us on our very limited spare time. I understand people may not agree with my views just as I may not agree with theirs but no point moaning about it just make the most of it, if someone says or does something you don’t like shrug it off and go find something or someone who you like and not moan about it"

You're very direct and honest about what you're wanting. No one should be under any illusions when they contact you as to what's on offer so I don't think anyone would disagree with what you've said

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

First impressions are so important, even if that's not actually meeting them. Could be messages or a pic or something they have said. I like to try take everyone as I find them but do find iv made up my mind at times before actually meeting them. Rightly or wrongly it just way I am. G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I judge people and expect people to judge me. It's human nature op "

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