FabSwingers.com forum: Club or private meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering what people's thought are.... do you prefer a club or a private meet?

Personally we just do clubs mainly cjs. We prefer to have a choice and love the social interaction with lots of people and then play with the right ones for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Of course that might change as time goes on

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By *ude bhoy 300Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Never visited, CJ"S

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By *mmsiebeeCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Clubs for us too for the very same reason. No pressure, no obligation, meet a variety of people, and if not playing there's at least the social aspect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never visited, CJ"S"

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowd

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs for us too for the very same reason. No pressure, no obligation, meet a variety of people, and if not playing there's at least the social aspect. "

Yep definitely I just feel with a private meet there would be awkwardness and what if you don't click with the hosts

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By *mmsiebeeCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Clubs for us too for the very same reason. No pressure, no obligation, meet a variety of people, and if not playing there's at least the social aspect.

Yep definitely I just feel with a private meet there would be awkwardness and what if you don't click with the hosts"

It's happened to us, been to a private home and it was an awkward disaster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think private meets would work once you had met fun peeps in a club!!! we have had two private social meets which were kind of awkward and led no where, but have been to a club now on four occasions (2 x CJ's, 1 x a machester club and 1 x JayDees) and had a good time, we didn't really get spoken to much so will have to put ourselves out there I think!!!... but although we were nervous it was still a fun experience, better than the private meets for sure less pressure... we are hoping to get way more sociable this Saturday at CJ's xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs for us too for the very same reason. No pressure, no obligation, meet a variety of people, and if not playing there's at least the social aspect.

Yep definitely I just feel with a private meet there would be awkwardness and what if you don't click with the hosts

It's happened to us, been to a private home and it was an awkward disaster! "

That's our fear haha and feel it would put you off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think private meets would work once you had met fun peeps in a club!!! we have had two private social meets which were kind of awkward and led no where, but have been to a club now on four occasions (2 x CJ's, 1 x a machester club and 1 x JayDees) and had a good time, we didn't really get spoken to much so will have to put ourselves out there I think!!!... but although we were nervous it was still a fun experience, better than the private meets for sure less pressure... we are hoping to get way more sociable this Saturday at CJ's xxxx"

Tbh I wouldn't mind a private meet with people we have met and built up a friendship with at clubs that would be different... we tend to stay around the bar area at the club's as that way you get to speak to lots more people and have much more fun

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Cjs for good night out socially and maybe a play if lucky but for a meet.. private ..im a 1 on 1 type of guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cjs for good night out socially and maybe a play if lucky but for a meet.. private ..im a 1 on 1 type of guy

Would that be a meet with someone you have met before or a pot luck and then would it not be awkward if you didn't click

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I enjoy them all!

, private, parties & club (cj's). I never arrange to meet privately unless a non playing social meet has taken place first though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy them all!

, private, parties & club (cj's). I never arrange to meet privately unless a non playing social meet has taken place first though.

That sounds like a sensible way of organising private meets

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I enjoy them all!

, private, parties & club (cj's). I never arrange to meet privately unless a non playing social meet has taken place first though.

That sounds like a sensible way of organising private meets"

I don't think you can ever be too cautious

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By *ude bhoy 300Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowd"
nervous about going,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going, "

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy them all!

, private, parties & club (cj's). I never arrange to meet privately unless a non playing social meet has taken place first though.

That sounds like a sensible way of organising private meets

I don't think you can ever be too cautious "

Exactly and that's why we've never done a private meet we feel much more comfortable (at the moment) with the clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private for a social and a club for more

I have very seldom wanted to play with meets I have met socially tbh although I have enjoyed their company to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the club thing years ago,

Presently chatting to people on here and meeting for a coffee that way no pressure. If you don't click then you've had a day out.

If you hit it off then that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private meets for us...I find clubs seedy and sleazy as fuck so can't relax in them.

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By *oney4uCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We do both but not private parties.

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By *lasgowpair76Couple
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

Private for us, too shy for clubs

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Private for us ...don’t feel relaxed in a club and so e clubs can be have a lot of sleeve factor .

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"Clubs for us too for the very same reason. No pressure, no obligation, meet a variety of people, and if not playing there's at least the social aspect. "

Agree with this, however a lot of private parties are the same as long as there is a good mix of people.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Cjs for good night out socially and maybe a play if lucky but for a meet.. private ..im a 1 on 1 type of guy

Would that be a meet with someone you have met before or a pot luck and then would it not be awkward if you didn't click"

Never pot luck on a private fun meet ...ground work would have been done prior lol ..but even at cjs ..would only play in private room ..never in open room

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We prefer clubs for reasons stated above, think private meets are a bit awkward but never say never. We've been to a few parties that we've felt pressured to play n more recently got carried away with socialising so for us at the moment the jury is still out on parties.

As for clubs being sleazy I think that all depends on the people who are in attendance and the type of night it is. Personally only visited 5 clubs so far, 2 of which I've had amazing nights but there have been occasional nights where I've felt the sleaze.

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going,

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night"

Doesn't everyone stare? Oh look newbie alert lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going,

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night

Doesn't everyone stare? Oh look newbie alert lol"

No not at all there's usually 3 or four new people at most nights and it's different people all the time so most don't know if your new or not and if you say it's your first time then everyone is so welcoming and friendly

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going,

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night

Doesn't everyone stare? Oh look newbie alert lol"

fresh meat fresh meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going,

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night

Doesn't everyone stare? Oh look newbie alert lol

fresh meat fresh meet

Yes exactly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to enjoy cjs when I used to meet a lovely lady a few years ago but sadly we don't see each other anymore.

I do love cjs but would not go on my own

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Never visited, CJ"S

You should make a point of it it's a great night and always a really good crowdnervous about going,

Everyone is nervous about going but once you get through the door it's so relaxed and you'll have a great night

Doesn't everyone stare? Oh look newbie alert lol

fresh meat fresh meet

Yes exactly lol"

Lol its actually very relaxed atmosphere in there ..well worth a visit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Private for us, too shy for clubs

Funny how we are all different I would be more nervous about a meet as when in the club you can play or not play and just have a great night at the bar etc but would feel obliged at a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy both but there's something very intimate about a one to one meet with someone. I love that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always considered the possibility of being too ugly for people in a club so for that reason alone, it’s been private meets for me and will continue to be so

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We prefer clubs, as there's no pressure. CJ's wouldn't be at the top of our list though, we find the dress down clubs work better for us, and a hot tub or pool is always a good alternative to standing at the bar to char. Wish CJ's would do more lingerie nights. Daytime opening would be good too, then we could drive there and back and use it more regularly. Don't get me wrong, CJ's is good at what it sets out to do, it just isn't our persona ideal at present.

Clubs can definitely work for the unconventionally attractive, since there's much more opportunity for personality to shine.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Private meets for us, although they usually start in a bar beforehand to see if we all click. Thankfully we have everytime so far.

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By *ast RolloMan
over a year ago

glasgow west

Private for social meets, good day out if nothing else,if it leads to anything else it's a bonus. Clubs are good fun been to a few south of the border. As for Cj's never been. Could someone tell me when swinging clubs in Scotland became legal

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Prefer clubs now. Had an awkward/disaster private meet recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Private meets for us...I find clubs seedy and sleazy as fuck so can't relax in them."

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By *lasgowpair76Couple
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

"Private for us, too shy for clubs

Funny how we are all different I would be more nervous about a meet as when in the club you can play or not play and just have a great night at the bar etc but would feel obliged at a meet"

As someone said previously ground work has already been done before a meet, but certainly never any pressure to play unless everyone is happy

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