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Is flirting being killed off?

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By *illnat OP   Man
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

With all the news reports about harassment etc on the telly..... is the likes of office flirting being killed off.... discuss!

Personally I hope not but with the fear of being reported for harassment or inappropriate behaviour it sure seems like it.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

I’d suggest not, flirting and sexual harassment can be very different, as long as it is acceptable from both parties, oddly enough though someone who is not involved can claim harassment if they feel uncomfortable with it, let’s just hope it doesn’t, most people enjoy a little flirting as there is a ‘high’ from feeling liked in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define flirting?

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"Define flirting? "

Fancy a bit of chicken ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define flirting?

Fancy a bit of chicken ? "

It’s TOT shouldn’t that be breast

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"Define flirting?

Fancy a bit of chicken ?

It’s TOT shouldn’t that be breast "

I knew you wouldn’t see it till after midnight

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

I like that I am being pressured to discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like that I am being pressured to discuss "

...and yet not discussing...

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Have always been very careful about this at work so will maintain that level of awareness.

Out of work however!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's best to play it safe in a working environment. Outside 9-5, flirting is all good. Gives you a wee spring in your step to know someone fancies you.

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By *rs T and HubbyCouple
over a year ago

somewhere north of the border..

It's taking being PC to far...we all need to lighten up..if your offended and you say so and it continues then it's harassment. If you accept a compliment and giggle/ joke it's banter.

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By *lasgowman101Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Flirting, dating Is being killed off. Everything is too much now and can't do nothing for fear of causing offence to some oversensitised leftie somewhere. At an old workplace I was asked If I'd refrain from eating my ham sandwiches, in a communal lunch area, in case it offended any Muslims in the building, and recently in the same place a guy got a verbal warning for winking at a nice looking girl in the department.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It's taking being PC to far...we all need to lighten up..if your offended and you say so and it continues then it's harassment. If you accept a compliment and giggle/ joke it's banter. "

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

1960s actions are being judged in the 21st century. Remember Love Thy Neighbour on the tv? The famous Hollywood casting couches? You cannot suddenly be affronted by actions that were acceptable back then.

What's next, you get arrested because your great grandfather used to own a slave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a leftist and so are many of my friends. We don't even think this is acceptable.

What I have noticed is a lot of lawyers are rubbing their wee hands when laws like this come in.

Maybe it's just me but flirting is dying. A guy at our work place reported us for sexual harassment. Turns out he didn't like us talking about our husbands and sex lives on our breaks. IN ANOTHER ROOM.

He thought he would get a nice wee payout and our managers job. Poor sod was ostracised and left. No one wanted to talk to him after that.

But yes Flirting, winking, having a laugh seems to be banned now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's taking being PC to far...we all need to lighten up..if your offended and you say so and it continues then it's harassment. If you accept a compliment and giggle/ joke it's banter. "

And yet I'd still be very careful as a guy today. What's the guarantee that a smile/giggle at the flirting today won't become a law suit tomorrow. After all, a guy was recently convicted of indecent assault for grabbing a lover's boobs too hard during sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting debate...a few months ago I was at Infusions in the hot tub with two males, one of them was flirting like mad with me. However he then decided to play footsie under the bubbles and I thought..right let's see if this progresses. Then his hand started to stroke my leg at which point I promptly left the hot tub making it clear I was having to go. He looked surprised but obviously assumed that as I was in a club in hot tub it was the green light for him to take liberties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love an office flirt. I'm pretty good at figuring out how comfortable people are. I can tell who won't mind if my dress rides up a bit. :P

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"Interesting debate...a few months ago I was at Infusions in the hot tub with two males, one of them was flirting like mad with me. However he then decided to play footsie under the bubbles and I thought..right let's see if this progresses. Then his hand started to stroke my leg at which point I promptly left the hot tub making it clear I was having to go. He looked surprised but obviously assumed that as I was in a club in hot tub it was the green light for him to take liberties.

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Why didn’t you stop him at the footsie part and let it progress?

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By *illnat OP   Man
over a year ago

wherever i need to be


"It's taking being PC to far...we all need to lighten up..if your offended and you say so and it continues then it's harassment. If you accept a compliment and giggle/ joke it's banter. "

Kinda my thoughts exactly. Getting so difficult to know what Banter actually is these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting debate...a few months ago I was at Infusions in the hot tub with two males, one of them was flirting like mad with me. However he then decided to play footsie under the bubbles and I thought..right let's see if this progresses. Then his hand started to stroke my leg at which point I promptly left the hot tub making it clear I was having to go. He looked surprised but obviously assumed that as I was in a club in hot tub it was the green light for him to take liberties.

Why didn’t you stop him at the footsie part and let it progress?"

Nah it was only footsie in the sense of brushing his feet next to mine and in fact could have been accidental as he was a fairly tall guy and I was half lying in the tub anyway. It was only when his hands were involved I beat a hasty retreat.

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Flirting is mutual - harassment is one sided, persistent and unwanted. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flirting is mutual - harassment is one sided, persistent and unwanted. Simple."

Very well put.

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